long distance punishments

[daddy-j]

My little is very mischievous and all the punishments I can think of have gotten old and I don't think she respects them anymore.

Does anyone have anything a little creative?

[stargirl]

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[Guest Dominari]

It would be nice to know what punishments you have used. Is she into role play scenarios? Do you talk to her on the phone/Skype? Remember in gym class when a person would put their back to the wall and then act like they are sitting down against the wall. It puts a real strain on the legs. Or I make her sit in a chair and hold her legs out. I have also made her pinch the base area between your thumb and index finger.  For all of these punishments I make her count to a number I have determined. I have also made her kneel, and put her head down while we discussed her misbehavior. I also figured out what bothers her psychologically and used that as punishment.

 

Two things you must remember:

 

1. If the punishment becomes too much for her, stop immediately, regardless of what she has done.

2. Remember that after all punishment you must provide aftercare. This is vitally important.

 

I hope all of this helps.

Edited August 16, 2016 by D@ddyDom

[Guest Princessaj]

On a lighter note...Although I am a new middle, I would like to share from my favorite DDlg blog

Keeping in mind that you are not physically there to administer them, I have removed that which

would require your presence....Hope this helps.

https://www.domsub.life/ddlg/daddy-dom-struggling-with-punishments/

• Early Bedtime
• Time Out
• Writing Assignment
• Eat Dinner Alone-no Skype/Facetime
• Grounding
• Extra Chores
• Loss of Privilege
• Cold Shower/Bath
• Soap in her Mouth
• Loss of Sexual Gratification
• Loss of her Favorite Stuffie
• Loss of Favorite TV Show or Movie
• No TV at Bedtime
• Read a Book of Your choosing
• Lecture from You
• Loss of Sweets
• Loss of Furniture
• Kneel at Your Feet for Specified Time- if you Skype/Facetime, you can still do this
• Loss of Speaking
• Loss of Eye Contact with You
• Loss of Clothes at Home
• Loss of Internet
• Eat Food she Doesn’t Like
• Name Changed to Something Cruel for Specified Time
• Loss of Makeup
• Ignored by You for Specified Time
• Loss of Dresses
• Loss of her Favorite Shoes
• Eat and Drink Only Oatmeal and Water
• Not communicating with her little friends on the forum
• No pictures of You
• A sticker off her reward chart
• Loss of coloring, glitter, craft time

[Princess-P]

As I'm not one for punishments, Its just not part of my dynamic along with rules, I can't really offer any suggestions.

 

What I can say is that its important that when using a punishment you don't cut communication. If time out is one of her punishments do it through Skype. Set a timer and stay on the phone with her. She may not be allowed to speak to you but knowing your there makes a big difference.

 

Too many people deal with anxiety and abandonment issues and saying that they aren't allowed to contact you for such and such a time is a big deal.

[A Cuddly Dom]

Well, my first question would be why do you think she doesn't respect your discipline anymore? I know that in LDRs it can sometimes be difficult to know for sure whether or not your little is following instructions. I've been in the same boat before, myself.

 

Here are some punishments I've used in the same situation. 1) Writing Lines: have your little write a phrase like, " I will not do/say xyz. ..again" on a piece of paper neatly a number of times. How many lines is up to you. This works because it's not fun for your little, and you can have photo proof that it was carried out on time and to your specs. 2) Removal of Playtime. This one is more or less harsh depending on how much control you have over your little's physical pleasure. For littles who desperately desire sexual play, denial of that play for a set amount of time can be very effective. However, if your little still has outlets for that desire outside of you, this is useless. It's a matter of control and power with this one. But, you can also take away other fun activities you do together as well, such as if you frequently stream movies together or have story time. It will be up to you to stand firm once you say a privilege has been suspended, though. Crack under pressure, and you erode your authority. If you give a punishment, make it stick.

 

These are just two possible methods that I find work well in an LDR situation, from my own experience. I'm sure there's many others out there. But, remember to talk to your little before and after the punishment is given, to instruct them how you expect them to behave, and then to comfort them afterwards. Remember, after the punishment has been served, all is forgiven. Comfort and reassure your little afterwards, and remind them of your love for them.

 

Hope this helps you and any others that might read. Best wishes.

[A Cuddly Dom]

**Edit** I see others posted before I finished typing, lol. Good stuff above as well.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

First of all, make sure you explain to her that rules and punishes are for her benefit, you have them because you care about her being the best person she can be.

 

Second, make sure YOU follow through with the punish. Even if she dosent do it, dont let it go, and dont be wishy washy about it. If you tell her to write lines and she refuses, call her by her first name and treat her big for rest of the night.

 

Third of all, id say stick with the punishes you already have and just, use them fairly, you cant punish a mischievous little ALL the time. Just let her know you care, youre supportive, and you have rules and punishes for her. But be strict and stern, dont let naughty behavior go, let her know theres consequences for that stuff.

 

But as far as ideas? Make her stand in the corner with her shorts around her ankles for four minutes. Or sleep with NO bottoms for the night. I kinda like those ones.

[LoralieHaze]

Overall, I think the list Princessaj posted is full of really great ideas. (I especially like loss of dresses because I LOVE wearing dresses and that would be so hard for me.) However, there is one that I would never, ever recommend to anyone and that is "Ignored by You for Specified Time". One of the worst things a caregiver can do is purposely ignore their little, because as Princess-P mentioned, so many of us have anxiety and abandonment issues. I strongly advise against that as a punishment, even in extreme cases of rule breaking, even if it's only for a specified amount of time.

 

 

[Zilliondollarsadist]

As I'm not one for punishments, Its just not part of my dynamic along with rules, I can't really offer any suggestions.

 

What I can say is that its important that when using a punishment you don't cut communication. If time out is one of her punishments do it through Skype. Set a timer and stay on the phone with her. She may not be allowed to speak to you but knowing your there makes a big difference.

 

Too many people deal with anxiety and abandonment issues and saying that they aren't allowed to contact you for such and such a time is a big deal.

Absolutely agreed on this one. For my little this would be bordering on mental abuse if contact was denied. I couldn't do it anyway, because the contact helps me with my issues too.

 

I dare say it works for some. Even in my complete inexperience I'd say approach such a move with caution.