Should I just leave..?

[kittenxlittle]

I've been in an on and off relationship with daddy for two years now. Just recently we decided to bring ddlg into our relationship. We aren't a couple, but he still said that he would only be my daddy. I know he is probably sleeping with other women. I was talking to him today about it and he said he just doesn't feel the same about relationships now as he did two years ago. I really love my daddy and want to be in an exclusive relationship with him, but how can I make him want to be with only me? Should I keep trying or should I just leave? 

[Guest Mad.Max.1080]

well if this is hurting you, you should leave. I mean you can try to talk to him first, as communication is the key in every relationship, but as I first said, if this is hurting you, it is better to step away.

[Princess-P]

Unfortunately if you've ready expressed your feelings and talked to him about it and he just doesn't feel the same way that's all you can do. You can't get him to change his mind. The best thing to do is leave if your unhappy with his choice. Staying in a one sided relationship or whatever you call it will only bring resentment.

[atxDD]

Communicating is important.  You could tell him that if he's not monogamous you're going to leave him.  

[Guest QueenJellybean]

You can't make anyone be anything, as unfortunate as it is. It sounds to me like you need to discuss what you both want out of this relationship that you're in, and communicate with each other much better as was suggested above. Either he doesn't know what you want, or he knows what you want but doesn't want the same thing. Perhaps you both define your relationship with each other differently, as well. 

 

It's time to sit down and have a real conversation about where you see yourselves going, and what you both want out of your relationship together. If those things don't line up, then a different decision might need to be made. Good luck!

[stargirl]

you should run

[Guest buddhagirl]

You can not make him want to be with only you. Move on and find someone that also wants an exclusive relationship. There are many fish in the human sea.

[lilsnoopy]

I understand loving someone who just can't commit, they have one foot in and one out. They give you enough attention to stay or do things to make you feel special. I was unfortunately in a relationship like that. Granted, he didn't actually cheat but he refused to be the type of daddy I needed and was cold and always wanting a girl I reminded him of. I still have feelings for him on some level but it's not really him i was in love with. I was in love with the guy I wanted to be my daddy who would collar me, hang all of my colored pictures on the wall, tell me to go to bed when it's late, go see little kids movies with me and love me as much as i did him. It sounds a little like we both are in love with the person we wanted the guy to be. You want him to be exclusive and he won't. Changes are you're like a safety net. Like you're a choice he can have while he also has all of the other choices. It's awful and i am so so sorry you're going through this. You deserve a man who can grow up and keep it in his pants, a real daddy dom who can put all of his time and attention into you. I would leave him, It won't be easy and it'll take time and you might never fully move on just remind yourself you could be someones whole world, not just a portion of it... 

[Guest Youngoldsoul]

My advice is take emotion out of the equation....if he is not loyal to you it could cause any number of issues;std's, unwanted pregnancy with another partner.....if logically you cannot condone this behavior, then the choice however hard it may be, should be clear.

[kittenxlittle]

Thank you everyone so much for the advice! I talked to him and told him how I felt and he said he wouldn't/isn't having sexual relations with other woman. He just said he has friendly talks with his ex's. I guess they must be ex's for a reason? I'm the only person he's been in a BDSM (ddlg and kittenplay) relationship with. I just need to figure out if he's willing to try to have a relationship with me. In the past one of his ex's really hurt him, but that was 2 years ago. I feel as though he should be ready to move on. I guess I'll just have to talk to him again in a few days about it. If you constantly push certain things on him, he gets upset. 

[Guest]

there would be lots of good and kind daddy waiting for you out there that willing to love you better,that wont leave no matter what until you think you dont deserve his love XD 

i promise you'll be fine ^^ 

[Welorf]

if your being hurt and he is not giving you 100% then leave.  it would be emotionaly hard for you to get into true little space if he isnt making it easy to trust him.  A real daddys job is to make you feel safe, cared for, loved, and protected.

 

Could be make you feel this way? Do you trust him do take care of your little self?

 

From what you have said i am guessing no, and i think you should break up with him, there are TONS of guys that would love to be a daddy. 

[ConstantMouth951]

It sounds like he has been clear that he doesn't want an exclusive romantic relationship with you. You aren't going to change that. And if ur hurting then it isn't a good situation...

 

I'm sry honey, but it's time to walk away.

[Guest Officedad]

Communication is key and listening to what he says is really important, if it's not something he wants or you would like more without receiving it then it's time to walk away.

[littlelili]

You can not make him want to be with only you. Move on and find someone that also wants an exclusive relationship. There are many fish in the human sea.

I agree. It might sound like the most difficult decision but in the end you'll have the chance to meet someone new.

[Deimos420]

I agree with guest itcha if you want a daddy that would be all u want and only want u they are out there I myself am dealing with losing my little cuz we didn't agree on key aspects and it's hard but better to find right one and not settle

[littlelili]

I agree with guest itcha if you want a daddy that would be all u want and only want u they are out there I myself am dealing with losing my little cuz we didn't agree on key aspects and it's hard but better to find right one and not settle

I'm sorry this happened but you're totally right! It is better to wait a bit for someone that agrees with you in key things, because trying to change basic stuff like that is painful and doesn't work often.

[Guest Mygirlyspace]

leave. you cant make someone want to be in a relationship. it sounds like he wants out, i say let him go. 

[TheGambler]

Wiser people than me talked before.

 

Leave. Now. Pretty please. 

[nico.chou]

Thank you everyone so much for the advice! I talked to him and told him how I felt and he said he wouldn't/isn't having sexual relations with other woman. He just said he has friendly talks with his ex's. I guess they must be ex's for a reason? I'm the only person he's been in a BDSM (ddlg and kittenplay) relationship with. I just need to figure out if he's willing to try to have a relationship with me. In the past one of his ex's really hurt him, but that was 2 years ago. I feel as though he should be ready to move on. I guess I'll just have to talk to him again in a few days about it. If you constantly push certain things on him, he gets upset. 

My opinion on relationships is that when you really have to question someone about their actions and you suspect something is wrong, then something is wrong. If it's not wrong now, it'll come up in the future. A lot of members gave great advice here. Talking to him and telling you how you feel (which you have done) is a great way to see what's going on. In a relationship, we all carry baggage from our past but it's when we let go of the past to be with someone truly meaningful in the present that makes it worthwhile. When you feel like you have to be the one dragging the relationship forward, you know it's time to let go.

[WalrusBoxer]

I've been in an on and off relationship with daddy for two years now. Just recently we decided to bring ddlg into our relationship. We aren't a couple, but he still said that he would only be my daddy. I know he is probably sleeping with other women. I was talking to him today about it and he said he just doesn't feel the same about relationships now as he did two years ago. I really love my daddy and want to be in an exclusive relationship with him, but how can I make him want to be with only me? Should I keep trying or should I just leave? 

You can't make him. Women always make this mistake and I'm not scolding you, just pointing it out. 

Find yourself a man that can give you what you need. Don't date a project. He doesn't want to change and he told you in his own way.

You'll be fine.

People have to want to change and relationships take work.

[Guest Zephy]

Honestly I think it's about time to move on. If you need to go out of your way to make someone love you that alone is already a sign you're in an unhealthy relationship and no matter what you do it's usually still going to leave you unhappy. You can't change people that easily and you both have a different mindset on having/wanting a relationship. An one-sided relationship where just one person is trying all the time will never end up in something good. :/

Edited August 22, 2016 by Zephy