Depressed Little, what helps you?

[AlaskanLittle]

I'm new to this forum, but I'm looking for some advice, ideas, help.

First, I'm NOT suicidal. I'm depressed. I'm just feel off, blah, not wanting to do much. I live in Alaska, so SAD (seasonal affective disorder) does affect me. I sit with my SAD light often. I've been crafting for the past few weeks and my Daddy had me start an Etsy shop to try keep me happy. I color, watch cartoons, craft... My daddy tries to help but some days he just doesn't know what to do...

What do you do when you're feeling sad or depressed?

[AngelLove]

When I'm feeling depressed I cuddle with my stuffies and just watch cartoons

[Guest annemarie]

hi! so i live in minnesota. we get weather similar to yours, so i've also got SAD (along with a whole host of other mental illnesses that make my life difficult) my best suggestion to avoid depression is to get outside as much as you can and spend not a lot of time alone. when you are depressed however, i suggest watching favorite movies, spending time with pets, cuddling stuffies, or doing anything that makes you happy

Edited August 14, 2016 by annemarie

[Guest AngelicKitten]

It's hard and sometimes you just want to lay around all day but just be productive and keep yourself really busy to avoid thinking bad thoughts. Go outside, chores, cooking, etc.

I can't really offer much help because many people deal with depression differently but just keep your chin up.

Here is a link to some suggestions. 

 

http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-Busy-when-You're-Stuck-at-Home

[CurlyBear]

I know all people are different, but some of the things I do to help me through depression is listen to cute uplifting music, watch funny cartoons and movies, drink tea, paint or draw, write, read, play cute and fun games, craft, surround myself with positive people, and the list can go on.

You could also eat or drink things that make you happy and warm like hot cocoa, or whatever you like. But I would be careful since indulging in food while depressed can be more harmful than good. Depending on who you are of course.

 

And I really agree with Anne. Try your best not to be alone. Try to be with someone when you can, suicidal or not. It might help to have someone there.

 

I hope this helps even just a tiny bit!

[AlaskanLittle]

Everyone is so helpful! I'm relatively never alone, I have daddy, work, some friends, kitties and critters! Tons of stuffies, TV and sweets (that I can have, no wheat or corn so treats are hard)

[Antoinette]

I suffer from Bipolar so I have highs and lows at different times of the year and when I'm going through my lows I often find that the only thing that helps is doing small things that make me happy like getting my favourite blankie and binkie and watching cartoons (or a scary film cx) with a hot drink. Or I do smaller things like colour things, order some materials off Amazon to create little collars/ears (easier than it sounds and relaxing). You could always read some inspirational books to keep you inspired/motivated. Another small way to feel happy is to look at things online and make a cart of things you want to buy. 

I hope some of these things were good [:
 

[stargirl]

As someone who has suffered from depression, PTSD, and PPD, my advice is to you is see a therapist you feel comfortable talking to. I say this because neither you, nor your caregiver have the resources to cope with this alone. Without a proper diagnosis there is no way to know if it's just SAD, or if SAD is a contributing factor in a deeper issue. Reading books about emotional intelligence and healthy coping techniques has helped me a lot. This isn't something that will go away by distracting yourself with activities that should be making you happy, but in reality don't fill the void. Not saying hobbies don't help, but you will find better progress in the nurturing of your feelings instead of keeping your mind off them. They are there for a reason and they are all valid.

[Guest Princessaj]

I am new, a middle, don't have a Daddy and have found myself to be the oldest female I have seen yet (depressing ) I was born with bipolar major depression, ADHD from my parents and also became CPTSD, from my parents... I am totally guilty of being by myself indoors all the time, other than full time job, that I hate.

 

I can't tell my RL about DDlg so I have been trying to make friends on the forum. I think if you make friends on the forum and SKYPE with them, online and/or on your phone-FREE, you are not alone. By being able to see each other you can show each other your art, crafts, stuffies, cute outfits that you wear for Daddy, pets, watch a movie/TV together in your jammies, eat/snack together, play games and so much more. You can even take each other window shopping on Skype on your phone. I hope to make friends on the forum and then will take my own advise. Wanna be my friend?

[TheOneWhoKnocks]

As someone who has suffered from depression, PTSD, and PPD, my advice is to you is see a therapist you feel comfortable talking to. I say this because neither you, nor your caregiver have the resources to cope with this alone. Without a proper diagnosis there is no way to know if it's just SAD, or if SAD is a contributing factor in a deeper issue. Reading books about emotional intelligence and healthy coping techniques has helped me a lot. This isn't something that will go away by distracting yourself with activities that should be making you happy, but in reality don't fill the void. Not saying hobbies don't help, but you will find better progress in the nurturing of your feelings instead of keeping your mind off them. They are there for a reason and they are all valid.

 

best thing i ever did was get therapy and meds, find one that works for you, take it for 9 months and get off. its a subtle ween if yuo choose to get off them. aderall makes it worse. seems like everyones on that shit now.

[littlelili]

I did not have idea thaf seasonal depression existed. I live in a place without seasons I truly hope that you can feel better before cold arrives!

Here some things that helps me to cope with sadness:

do repetitive chores that you don't like. I always find myself ranting about it and it helps me to vent stress.

choose a time of the day (preferably those times when no one is close bc those times are prone to be sad times) and make them special moments for yourself, try a nice and soft face treatment, paint your nails in the brightest colors you can, treat your hair, take a hot bath with nice scents and do these things listening to nice music or with your fav. Cartoon as bg sound.

talk even when you're alone, avoid silence, sing, dance.

cook something delicious or bake a cake and invite ppl over to eat and have a soft chat. Company is not indispensable but helps a lot.

choose a safe hot beverage, That you identify with wellness and happiness. Mine is (Green tea/jasmine infusion in milk) and have it in bed when you're relaxed and warm.

try penpalling, sometimes writting about yourself and your feelings is easier than talking about it.

if tou truly feel that everything fails and this is getting heavier, look for help. There's nothing wrong in seeing a professional.

 

I hope you feel better soon!! Dm me if you want to chat or something.

X hugs

Edited August 21, 2016 by littlelili

[FawnKitten]

I find that there's no way to make myself feel better, but there's lots of stuff I do to try to soothe myself.

A lot of the time I'll put on a movie or tv show that I love and try to just concentrate on reciting or thinking about what they're saying in my head, so that way I'm not thinking about sad stuff too much.

 

And if Boss is here I'll get him to snuggle and fuss me which normally makes me feel small and safe and I feel a little better.

 

The best thing that ever made me feel better was when I was feeling really really low the night before Halloween, and when it turned midnight Boss took me downstairs to carve some pumpkins together, I love Halloween so much and crafting stuff together is always really nice and lifts my spirits