struggling between being a sub and a little - help

[Guest]

looking for answers from littles/daddies/subs/doms/everyone

 

so i am a submissive little girl... but, im having a hard time recently...

 

my online DD craves me to be completely submissive and obedient... and i absolutely love that.

BUT the little girl in me wants answers and asks "why" instead of just doing what im told... and it doesnt please him very much when i do that. 

 

do i need to separate the 2 sides of me? be submissive when needed... then be a little girl at other times? 

 

 

someone help me, im feeling a little lost <3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest Kitteny kitten]

In my opinion he needs to be understanding of all of you. Your sub side and your little side. Being little is part of who you are and if he is not pleased with that he needs to stop being selfish (not sure if that's the right word)

[Halloweenbrat19]

Hello there! I suggest talking it over with your DD and explaining to him that being a little is who you are and that it makes you happy! You should never have to feel that you can't fully be yourself. My DD and I actually had almost the exact same issue and after lots of talking he is very accepting of me and we are very happy! So i just suggest talking to him, and seeing if he will accept that side of you.. I hope this helps! Feel free to message me and we can discuss this more if you want! Good luck lovely! <3

[Guest AngelicKitten]

Even though your his submissive everyone goes into that role differently.

As I say all the time just talk to each other about the situation and try to work it out. I don't understand why he gets upset honestly... if it's something that helps you get into that head space and makes you enjoy it more he should be happy enough to let you indulge in it. Even if it's just you asking questions. How I am taking it is he is putting you down and I don't personally like that because daddy's job is to make you just as happy as you make him!

Edited August 11, 2016 by AngelicKitten

[FitPapaBear]

He's frenzied a little. Which isn't a bad thing, enthusiasm and yearnin. But like I always say to my little, a Dom's self control is his most important attribute. He needs to cool down and understand that you're not a robot but a person with your own needs, wants and a biological clock. If he can't respect that, he's not a good Daddy Dom and maybe he should try a gorean Master/slave thing..

 

It's normal for littles to be curious and a good Daddy should adore that, he might be slightly agitated cause he thinks you're second guessing him or making him justify his actions. Give things time to develop and he'll get a hang on properly responding to your "why?".

Edited August 11, 2016 by FitPapaBear

[DollDirector]

Hello !

Just to say that I fully agree with FitPapaBear. " It's  normal for littles to be curious"; "a Dom's self-control is his most important attribute". Yeeess !

[Guest]

ah, thank you everyone... i really appreciate the comments and different points of view.

 

but everything is perfect now

 

i had not yet shown him the little side of me, he knew i was a little... but i hadnt been little with him yet... 

he explained that he was establishing the submissive side of me 1st *melts*

and said that he knew that when i was ready to fully let my little out, i would - and it happened last night.

[Guest MissNMTX]

I'm so pleased it worked out well for you.  I have to have a conversation soon myself. Hoping it works out just as well for me.

[ConstantMouth951]

I have had this issue also. I would get into a place where I needed reassurance and explination as I didn't understand. Rather than answer my questions daddy would shut me down completely... Telling me not to worry, or my that my little brain was working overtime and change the subject, if I pushed the issue he would tell me goodnight and end the evenings interaction all together (we we long distance).

 

One evening I had finally had enough of it. He knew I was in a venerable state and when he sent me off to bed early after I expressed some confusion, i took the opportunity to write a long drawn out explication of my frustrations and concerns. It had to get out of my little space and speak to him as big me which he hated. But it turned out that when I questioned him in that manner he felt I was disappointed in him and he didn't know how to handle that. I ended up doing the reassuring that day.

 

Everyone needs different things from their ddlg relationship and the way roles are portrayed can change. Talk to him about it, when you are not deep in ur little space. He might feel like he is failing as much as you do right now.

Edited August 14, 2016 by ConstantMouth951