The point of a chat room name...

[cutie_patootie]

What's the point of me having a chat room name when people keep bastardizing it??  I keep getting everything form coated potato to cootie potatoes and everything in between.  I've let it be known on several occasions that if people have difficulty typing cutie_patootie, then they are welcome to call me Carly... yet it still keeps happening.  I left the chat room today because of it and felt as though I was being disrespected.

 

I posted the link to the Community Rules & Guidelines re General Etiquette and also copied and pasted this; Please be mindful with nicknames.  Some people get uncomfortable with them so at the very least please check first.

 

We all have chat room names that we have chosen for our own reason(s), some of which may be very personal while others may be just for fun.  Some change their names periodically for various reasons.  Everyone should respect other's name choices, please respect mine.

 

cutie_patootie  aka Carly

Edited August 10, 2016 by cutie_patootie

[Guest annemarie]

i feel this so hard. 

 

i have never gone into the chatroom once without having to tell SOMEone there that my name is not "AM" or "anne" or "marie". it's annemarie or anmee. that's your two choices.

 

and then when i try to correct people they get mad at me when i'm the one being disrespected by being called something i am not okay with to begin with. 

 

so yeah i understand completely. 

 

my name is annemarie. that's it. don't call me anything else. 

[Guest Zephy]

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

I guess some people are too immature and take their jokes a little too far when you're just starting to upset or making the person feel uncomfortable.

That's certainly not fun anymore.

 

I haven't personally been on the chat, but maybe you could block/ignore them - if there's a function like that.

 

I doubt everyone are as disrespectful and not understanding when someone says it's enough then it's enough and they should stop.

[Guest rosie chan]

i don't know, i join the chat and people call me 8, bit, chan, bitch, buttchan (actually that's for lee only, but still!), whatever. personally, it doesn't bother me. i feel like if someone called you "cootie potootie" or whatever, it's all in good fun. if it really grinds your gears, just tell them "hey, i kind of only want to be called what i'm called." and they'll probably just be like "oh, my bad. i was just bein' dumb. sorry!" and then it's kind of over-with.

 

if someone say i was 8-bit-chan and called me something that was derogatory or racist or sexist or something, i think we'd all have a hard time dealing with that. when it's more in jest, i feel like it's just people in the chat goofing off and having a good time. that's it. just my two cents.

EDIT: i also called dabby "dab", littleharleyq "lil harley", and i'm sure lots others. i was completely unaware i was breaking a rule by doing this, mainly because nobody has ever told me it wasn't the right thing to do. i guess i'm sorry if i've done it to you and it's hurt your feelings? i'm sure i've called you "cutie" before since i didn't know "carly" was your name.. now i say "HiCarly" (play on iCarly) but now i'm wondering if that's also bothersome, so again, my bad.

Edited August 10, 2016 by 8-bit chan~

[cutie_patootie]

8-bit chan~

 

You're missing my point; I've let it be known on several occasions that if people have difficulty typing cutie_patootie, then they are welcome to call me Carly...

It's about respecting the rules and people's wishes within those rules... even if it doesn't bother you or doesn't grind your gears.

[Guest rosie chan]

fair enough, buddy. i can just imagine someone not knowing that about you just being a silly billy, that's all. i mean, if i didn't know how strict you were about your name, it could have been me doing those silly things! that's all. and i was just saying i don't like being called "bitch", but if someone doesn't know better, i'm not gonna' get mad over it. that's all!~

[♡ Death Grips ♡]

PM me next time. 

[Guest annemarie]

fair enough, buddy. i can just imagine someone not knowing that about you just being a silly billy, that's all. i mean, if i didn't know how strict you were about your name, it could have been me doing those silly things! that's all. and i was just saying i don't like being called "bitch", but if someone doesn't know better, i'm not gonna' get mad over it. that's all!~

 

this is why i try really hard not to get angry when people call me by something other than my display name. they probably haven't spoken to me before and probably don't know i hate being called "anne" and "marie" and "AM". however, sometimes people who know do it, and then i assume they've probably forgotten (which is usually the case). it's only when people don't do it or get angry after i've explicitly corrected them (usually in the most polite way that i'm capable of that day) that i get mad and am like "ok clearly they just wanna be a jerk". a

[cutie_patootie]

There you go again, I referred to you by your chosen name of 8-bit chan~ because I respect your name but you can't even be respectful enough to call me cuite_patootie or Carly.  My name is not buddy.

[Petal]

I think chat culture has really bred shorthand... I'm lucky to have a five letter username, but honestly, I bet I've called Annemarie "Anne" or "Marie" before.  And I /always/ drop Daddy or Little off a name when I see it.   It's sort of just second nature.  Then when you get into two or three word names, or hyphenated names, or names with numbers on the end... 

 

Names sort of become identity.  So calling someone by this really copy-pasted member name feels impersonal, especially in chat.  I don't know.  It gets complicated.  

 

But I agree with Annemarie (I seriously almost called you Anne again!  I have a problem!): just tell them you'd like to be called "this" and that "that" makes you uncomfortable.  Usually people will listen.  Sometimes people will forget, so be patient (which I know can be hard).  But like, 99% of people will respect your wishes.  That last 1%?  Tell a mod.

 

But after a couple days in chat, when people start to know you for more than just a username, people learn pretty quick what not to call you.  That's my opinion, anyway.

 

Edit:

IF I EVER MESS UP YOUR NAME PLEASE TELL ME!!  I AM SORRY!!

Edited August 10, 2016 by Petal

[Guest rosie chan]

Buddy is the way I would call someone sweetheart, hun, pal or dude. I put it in italics as a joke since you used italics in your response to me, not to emphasize purposely not calling you by your name.

[cutie_patootie]

I'm none of those to you 8-bit chan~ and you don't know me so please don't call me that.

[Guest rosie chan]

actually forget what i posted, this is dumb.

Edited August 10, 2016 by 8-bit chan~

[ConstantMouth951]

I too feel like this is an over reaction. I'm sorry that you were offended but I don't think anyone means any offense by it. In chat, especially when there are multiple conversation going on people are tryin to get their words out as quickly as possible in order to be relivant in chat.

 

Correcting them is all you can do. That being said People should be mindful of names, if you have corrected them I would hope they would try to use ur name or a suitable abbreviation.

 

Also I interpreted the above mentioned rule to mean the use of pet name with some one you don't really know ie baby, sweety, Hun. Was the a misunderstanding on my part?