24/7 DDLG Relationship....

[littlegirl57]

Hello everyone. My name is Hailee. I am new to this lifestyle and me and my boyfriend have recently started a DDLG relationship full time. Since this is a 24/7 exchange for us, there are more strict and some stricter rules in place, most for my own protection. Some of these things are about what I should do when he is not home. Since he works and I stay at home, my job is to make sure the house stays in order. A lot of people have said that this is not a littles job and should not be done. I am very confused by this. My boyfriend often takes care of me and does things for me. But I should contribute to him too. Is this not good? 

[Guest AngelicKitten]

Hello there~

My boyfriend works two jobs and I stay at home by myself basically the whole day. He works very hard to make sure we have enough food in the house and that I have everything I need. I couldn't ask for anything more. 

 

From my view point if he is working to take care of you then I think cleaning and making the house nice would make him feel good after coming home. I think a lot of people forget that daddy's need some care too and if the house is messy I can see after a long day of working it might be a bit stressful. That's personally why I choose to clean. I don't clean everyday but I try my best to keep up with everything to make sure the house is neat. Plus getting praise for a good job just melts my heart and it leaves more time for fun time!

 

So if you're home alone a lot make a chore list with your daddy!

For each day of the week pick a day when you vacuum or a day you clean the bathroom and when daddy comes home he can mark it off the list or maybe put a cute sticker to mark that you did a great job! As a reward at the end of the week of doing chores maybe you can get a little toy at the store or get ice cream. Make a reward system and have fun with it so it can still fit in with your little space.

 

Edit: I forgot to add but just talk to you daddy about how he feels! Communication is always key.

Edited August 6, 2016 by AngelicKitten

[Petal]

I think cleaning can be a little thing.  Little boys and girls still have to clean up their room and take dishes to the sink and all that.  What's so different about cleaning the house up when you're alone?

 

And if it makes you happy to be contributing, I think that's what matters most.

[Doll Babe]

There is nothing wrong with that! DD/lg is a subset of D/s after all, and Daddies do need to be taken care of in some ways too. When I clean the house or do chores for Daddy it shows him how much I appreciate all the hard work he does for us.

 

I'm positive that if I wasn't dealing with my physical health problems I would be expected to do more which would be fine with me. As it is right now I'm only expected to do chores and run errands as I feel that I can but it always makes me feel the best to have cleaned up before Daddy gets home from work. 

 

AngelicKitten has some great ideas about rewards to keep things little. I might have to ask Daddy about doing the sticker thing.

[Guest annemarie]

Hello everyone. My name is Hailee. I am new to this lifestyle and me and my boyfriend have recently started a DDLG relationship full time. Since this is a 24/7 exchange for us, there are more strict and some stricter rules in place, most for my own protection. Some of these things are about what I should do when he is not home. Since he works and I stay at home, my job is to make sure the house stays in order. A lot of people have said that this is not a littles job and should not be done. I am very confused by this. My boyfriend often takes care of me and does things for me. But I should contribute to him too. Is this not good? 

 

 

different relationships have different dynamics. i think if both of you are comfortable, then do the housework while he's gone! it's your relationship and your choice. other people's opinions don't matter. my oniichan works and takes care of the housework because i am too mentally ill to really do anything other than sit around at the moment, but that's because that's just how our relationship is. a lot of people might think it's wrong for him to go to work and do the housework, but they don't know our lives, so they really have no right to judge. and the same goes for the situation with you and your daddy: people might think it's wrong for you to do housework when he's at work, but none of us know your lives, so we really don't have a right to judge. 

[BH_Bambi]

Remember that there is no cookie cutter mould for relationships! As long as all parties are happy, then you do you. 

[Princess-P]

Its your relationship, have it however you want it. The dynamic doesn't matter. All relationships are 50/50 even in total power exchange. Someone has to give to get. If someone is working all the time and the other doesn't... Then that one takes care of the house. The list of duties or chores or whatever is up to you two.

 

Unless you are mentally or physically unable to do something why shouldn't you have responsibilities? That's being a grown up. Shitty huh? Your not doing the dynamic wrong. Your doing what works for you guys. Who ever told you its not right has a very narrow idea of roles.

[Lyralittle]

I only work part-time right now and my daddy gives me a chore list every week. I think it's normal for the person that has the most "free time" to do the most cleaning.