A Little Worried...

[Little Quinn]

Hi! So, I'm new to the DDLG thing, and I don't plan on posting a personal for a while, however, I feel when I do, I might run into problems. So here, I want to express my questions and concerns. 

 

So, I'm a Genderfluid pansexual who leans more towards women as a preference. It's not that I dislike guys completely, however, if they don't click with me on an emotional level, the chances of me being sexually attracted to them is slim. I realize this sounds weird...but welcome to my brain.

 

I'm also afraid because I have mental illnesses that will make me less desirable to a CG. I am on Medication and I do go to group therapy, however, even some days it doesn't always pan out. I do my best to cope and not be a burden on someone, but sometimes I need to let it out and the CG might be on the receiving end. 

 

Should I be honest on my personal? 

 

The reason I ask, is how honest SHOULD I be? How forth coming should I be about my preferences and issues amongst other things? 

 

As a Switch, should I post that I am looking for a Little Switch and or a CG Switch? 

 

This way it feeds both of our sides? 

 

I'm new if you can't tell, so I'm not sure. I posted here because it applies to BOTH sides of me. 

Edited August 6, 2016 by Little Quinn

[Guest annemarie]

in my experience, it's always best to be completely honest and upfront about the things you are worried might impact a relationship. this way potential partners know what they're in for and there aren't any surprises (there usually are anyway, but that's the way relationships go). that way you'll also only get people who are actually interested in you as a person rather than just you for the aesthetic or whatever being in a ddlg relationship. so yeah. i would say go for it. be completely honest. i really do think you'll get better results that way for when you do decide to post your personal

[Guest Mister Grey]

AnneMarie is completely right.  If you open and up front, they in the end may not be able to cope or handle your situtation but it wont be because they were not warned.  They enter at their own risk and with their eyes wide open.

[Petal]

You don't have to disclose all of your personal information right off the bat, especially if it's something you may not be comfortable discussing publicly.  But your intentions in a relationship should be clearly stated - like the switch stuff - as well as your gender identity and feelings on all that.  But therapy and mental issues are your choice.  If you want to get to know somebody before opening up about really personal information like that, I don't think that's wrong.  As long as you don't lie on your personal.  You could even say something like "I have a mental illness, but I'm not comfortable discussing it right now".

 

No relationship is a "all cards on the table right away" sort of thing.  Even if you want it to be, you'll forget stuff about you until it comes up naturally.  So don't worry about needing to be forthright, just be as forthright as you're comfortable with.  And don't lie.