Switch CG?

[Guest Tag you're it]

Hey, guys. I am in an odd position. Is any CG a switch, or has had submissive tendencies in the past? I have no idea of what role to take here and I would probably make a better dom than sub at this point. I keep getting urges to take care of my friends and such. I like the feeling of providing, but I also enjoy serving. I was wondering if any CG has came from a similar place at one point?

[Guest]

Hey hey! 

 

As a mommy, I can switch and be a dom, but I'm naturally more on the submissive side. When it comes to my little, I try to adapt to their needs, cause all littles are not subs either.

But I think you should not really doubt so much, go with the flow and be yourself   

[Guest Tag you're it]

Thank you so much!

[Petal]

I'm a Little first, but I love playing CG!  I actually think I'd be upset to be with a CG who didn't like being subby or little at least some of the time.

[Guest algernon]

In one way or another, everyone likes both taking care of someone and being taken care of, because love goes both ways. Don't get too hung up on labels and what you're "supposed" to do in a particular role - just do good and be happy. I have never met someone who sincerely enjoyed completely one-sided relationships.

 

Now if you're talking about a switch in the BDSM sense, that's something else, and it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the other parts of the relationship; but even then, real relationships are still based on people working together together to meet each other's needs and be accountable adults.

 

One can see how blurred the lines get when you realize that a "sub" is in charge of the game where they allow "Dom" to take on that role. And if a caregiver wasn't being emotionally fulfilled by looking after others, there would be no caregivers. The surface details are arbitrary - it's all about partnership and trust in the end anyway, in the relationship in general or in the bedroom.

 

If you were wanting examples:

I'm the stereotypical tough guy when it comes to not feeling well. You know, "man up", go to work, go to school, whatever - do what you need to do and don't complain, suffer in silence while you stoically sacrifice for others (even if you're worse off than them) and so on... But as much as I try to brush it off, I end up enjoying it when my wife wants to take care of me when I'm sick. She's a wonderful person and mother, and everyone loves the way she loves on them.

 

Things in the bedroom don't always have to have roles for me, but when they do, the smart money finds me on top. That being said, count me in the category of "probably every straight guy ever at least at some point in his life" in that sometimes the best thing is a confident woman who pushes you on to the bed and takes what she wants with a sexy smile.

 

And when I sit on the couch with a little's head in my lap, playing with her hair while we watch a show or talk about the struggles and challenges she's facing or her hopes and dreams, it would be ridiculous for me to say that I get nothing out of it or that I don't walk away better off.

 

Be good, be happy, be yourself, do what works to make that happen, and don't get too hung up on labels and roles. It's all the same anyway when you get down to it.

[Guest Tag you're it]

This is the best answer, thanks algernon.

[Guest Queen Of The Damned]

I'm really not into the whole labeling but for the sake of not going into huge spouts of babble I tend to just roughly label myself but I feel like as a human being you know it's really hard trying to feel like your in a certain box of check marks you know? 

Basically I don't feel we are all just one or another thing we all are unique so i'm not 100% Dom I could be considered a switch but it depends on the person i'm with. 

I have a very high care taker personality and dom tributes and I love "little things" I tend to feel like i'm more of a big sister then a mommy sometimes because of how much I enjoy "little" activities but were all changing constantly it's really hard to flat out say I'm more one then the other theres just me.

Blah i'm babbling.     

[Guest algernon]

This is the best answer, thanks algernon.

Well thank you very much.

 

I just think people in general get too hung up on labels sometimes. Believe me, I am all about categorization - it's hard-coded into part of my information processing - but not when it comes to self-identification. Call yourself a gamer or a Spaniard or a homosexual or an electrician, I don't care, but if categorization goes beyond self-description to self-identification, you've just set yourself up for an existential crisis. There are times to put things in boxes, and there are times to, as ImABoo put it, "go with the flow and be yourself". Unfortunately for millenials and post-millenials ("Generation Z"?), a certain popular subculture/counterculture/movement along with much of a certain website that is largely it's home have promoted an unprecedented level of obsession with labels as a source of self-definition. Meeting like-minded people is great, but a healthy self-image and meaning in life come not from a good description of yourself but being good and being yourself.

[Mycaretakerbows]

Hey there. Are there any sub daddies and dom LGs or LBs here? Ideally a submissive (pet play) caretaker or dominant pet/animal. I think it's suprisingly uncommon, after all, caretakers who are soft AND spoil their little aren't very far from the personality of non-sexual slaves/servants in my opinion.

 

They're both protective, respecting and adoring; yet still I find NO ONE to relate to. I'm into wolf play but I haven't accepted myself as a sort of pet untill a couple days ago as I am dominant, and my boyfriend is a sub, but since he's a "servant" (apart from being a fox), he ends up taking care of me by spoiling me with compliments, *roleplay* making baths, food and things for me.

Am I just a brat pet? I don't feel like that at all, as I'm very dominant with my sub when I'm in little space and out if he steps over a boundarie, tries to cuddle with me without permission or is ignorant whatsoever.

I think I've seen such as daughter dom daddy slave flash by on google but I really don't wanna dive into the graphic bdsm sites.

Someone please come discuss with me.

I'd love it.

//Wolf

[HeCallsMePrincess]

not all CG's are dominant and not all Littles are submissive. easiest way to put it, I guess.