Secretly a switch and can't tell my parents

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So yeah im close with my parents and i cant tell because i feel they would hate me, i KNOW theres nothing wrong with it but im worried they might think different. I cant live with myself keeping secrets like this. Would it b best to tell them, or not?...

Thnx for reading xD :3

[MeowShy]

I don't personally know your parents, so I wouldn't be able to give the best advice I think. However, your parents are always going to love you no matter what. 

For myself, I told my mother and two sisters. I think my dad knows, but I never told him, so I am unsure. I feel like telling my dad would be a little weird. 

[littlebylittle]

I'm not sure why you would need to tell them. While coming out about your sexual orientation makes sense (as you have to present your partner, discuss about love, life project, and coming out avoid telling lies etc.), I have the impression that ddlg is either a lifetsyle and/or a BDSM practice that you don't need to share, the same way you don't have to share the intricacies of your sexual practices, your love of bondage, or the fact that your lover calls you 'honey'. I also think your parents may be shocked (not the same as hating you, fortunately) and in any case I would advise you to avoid family related terms such as "daddy" when explaining them - it will raise a red flag. Of course, I understand that if you have a close relationship you may want to share something that is important in your life, but I'm not sure it's a great gift for them. Ultimately, it is a question only you can answer, but as your asked for my opinion, I would refrain from telling anything, and if telling something, I would not refer to ddlg (you can just refer to 'inner child', etc.).

[LittleKittenChub]

What ewer the choice, best of luck to you!

[Guest Coyote420]

Ummm, well my family dinamics is really weird so it's hard to give advice based on that haha

 

But I'd have to agree with the littlebylittle person. I understand that you are really close with ur parents so you want to tell them, but ur fear about them hating you is meaningless I think. The most it will do in my opinion is make things really awkward. Like when u call ur father daddy he may be getting weird immages in his head xD. So on this part I have to agree with the ShyLittle.

[Petal]

My mom probably knows I'm a little, but we've never talked about it.  We probably never will.  Honestly, I keep a lot of that stuff from my parents/siblings because it doesn't make sense to me why they need to know.  It's sort of an intimate detail I share with a partner (or apparently an entire website!) 

 

Then again, if you and your parents are the kind of people who are just really open about everything, maybe you should tell them?  I'm not sure.  But don't feel like you have to if you're uncomfortable with it.

[Guest annemarie]

to be honest, you know the situation better than we do and can gauge your parents' reactions better than we can, so if you think it's a bad idea to tell them, then don't. parents don't need to know absolutely everything about their children's lives (despite arguments to the contrary) and if this isn't hurting you in any way, then they definitely don't need to know about it. it isn't like there aren't things you don't know about them. 

 

if you really need to get it out, i would suggest an online journal or just a regular one. that way you can feel like you're telling your parents without actually telling them. i know it's not the same thing, but if you really think that this would ruin your relationship with them that badly, then maybe you should keep it to yourself and figure out another way to deal with having to keep a secret from them.

[DeepSpaceDaddy]

You can also test the waters a bit. Don't tell them anything about you, but if the topic can come up in conversation or something related to the topic. Keep it about other people. Maybe something on the news, or a scene from a TV show or movie or something. It might be hard to make it come up, but keep your eyes open for the opportunity. It might let you find out how open minded they are, accepting of different things. You might be very surprised to find out they like something you never knew they did. :-)