Married Daddy, Long Distance Little

[Guest SunshineUnderpants]

Well, he's married and happily at that. I didn't meet him on here. It happened more as of a coincidence, neither one of us were looking at the time but he says we have something special. The added bonus; he's 500+ miles away from me but in the same state. It's not reaaaally how I saw it going but I guess for the sake of experience we'll try it.

 

I don't mind talking and understanding him but physical needs can not and will not be met. Out of respect for his wife and obviously the distance. He says that he will visit me but there is something to be said for attachment and feelings; visits would be nice but the sexual tension would be a TREX in the room. He wouldn't threaten his relationship with his wife but he speaks of very sexual impulses when we talk. I don't see any harm in him talking about it but that may be comforted by the 500 miles between us.

 

He has two simple rules; I may never speak to his wife and I can't go for hours without responding.

 

Easy enough.

 

I'm asking for help from little ones with married daddy's or married daddy's with long term little ones.

 

How do you handle the situations you are faced with? How do you deal with distance?

How do you deal with physical needs being met? Help Please?

[Guest Bread]

ummmm I'm poly myself but does his wife know about you?  Otherwise it sounds like he's cheating on her and you should stay away from him.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

you're helping him have an affair.

 

and as a wife. this is disgusting. I can never understand why women do this to each other.

[Guest NeedToServe]

I am assuming he's cheating on her, if not, and she knows, fair enough, but if he is, shame on you. Cheats and those they are cheating with are the scum of the earth in my opinion. If they are "poly" then I guess that's different, but somehow I doubt he is.

Maybe you need to make that clear in your post.

[Guest QueenJaylen]

HeCallsMePrincess most of the post that I have read that you make(you make a lot) you are always trying to bash someone in my opinion. She did ask for your opinion as a wife, she didn't ask if you thought it was disgusting, she didn't ask if she was helping with an affair, and she most certainly did not ask for your rude opnion, she simply asked for ADVICE and HELP not judgement you're judging her. We are supposed to be supportive and that's what you should do support, if you wanted to say these things they could have been said in a nicer way period point blank. 

Edited August 2, 2016 by QueenJay

[Guest NeedToServe]

If she's with a cheating married man, she deserves no support and won't get it from decent people. No way. If his wife is fully aware and accepting of it, like I say that's different. But otherwise, just no. And I've never seen anything bad with anything HeCallsMePrincess says. Just an adult woman with adult opinions. Cos this forum is for adults.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

i'm sorry you feel that way, but so far I've never heard that from anyone else. i am supportive, but i am honest. i'm not going to tell people what they want to hear just to make them feel better. i actually try to help. lying wont do that.

[Spooky]

I can appreciate the controversy of this post 10000000%
 

I can't appreciate calling someone scum when they are looking for help and advice. There is a right and a wrong way to educate someone that what they are doing is wrong. Insulting them is certainly not going to help them take you seriously. Bullying is not tolerated here. 

Think before you post, be kind and educational, not rude and insulting. 

[Guest QueenJaylen]

I get that and you're right but I feel like everyone needs support and advice. Like my advice to her would be to leave the married man alone because like other people said his wife more than likely does not know and you don't want to be known as a "homewrecker" sorry but that's what it is I hope you make make better decions because this one is not so good and I'm not trying to make you feel bad but that is the truth. 

Edited August 2, 2016 by QueenJay

[Guest NeedToServe]

I'm not bullying. I gave my opinion on cheats and those that choose to help destroy some poor man or woman life by knowingly be involved with them either online or in person. If someone asked how to get out of something like that or to stop herself from acting on it, I would be supportive, but I will never give support to someone wanting to know how to better help someone stab their wife in the back.

If that's against rules then so be it.

[Guest SunshineUnderpants]

Easy. Ladies.

 

There are MANY men on here who are in "Open Relationships" or "Married."

 

He was a Daddy before he got married, his wife has dabbled in the Dd/Lg lifestyle. She's aware of his past and present.

 

I did clearly state nothing would happen out of respect for his wife.

 

I am not by any means encouraging cheating. The nature of talking about his sexual impulses may be considered cheating to some women. I however, don't see it that way.

 

I don't need to stay with him and it's VERY new. I can walk away at anytime. I sat here contemplating right and wrong, stay or go. The conversation is not always sexual by any means, he councils me and helps me with daily day to day. I never initiate the sexual conversation and to his defense it's not "sexting." It's the things he strives for and fantasizes about not even including me.

 

I am in more of a way his confidant.

 

He's attractive, he's not mine and I wouldn't sleep with another women's husband.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

I told her she's helping him have an affair on his wife. and she is. maybe she didn't see it that way and perhaps I helped her do so.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

okay, you can certainly be someone's daddy and nothing sexual. of course. I'm more worried for you, OP because it's clear this isn't what he's doing and that's not fair to you. his rule is you can't talk to his wife and if it's something you wouldn't say in front of your spouse it's cheating. this isn't fair for him to ask you to do that.

 

that was my concern. I think I stated it more clearly this time.

[Guest NeedToServe]

If his wife knows about all of this, it's not classed as cheating. If she doesn't know, no matter whether the talk is always sexual or not, it's cheating.

[Guest QueenJaylen]

Easy. Ladies.

 

There are MANY men on here who are in "Open Relationships" or "Married."

 

He was a Daddy before he got married, his wife has dabbled in the Dd/Lg lifestyle. She's aware of his past and present.

 

I did clearly state nothing would happen out of respect for his wife.

 

I am not by any means encouraging cheating. The nature of talking about his sexual impulses may be considered cheating to some women. I however, don't see it that way.

 

I don't need to stay with him and it's VERY new. I can walk away at anytime. I sat here contemplating right and wrong, stay or go. The conversation is not always sexual by any means, he councils me and helps me with daily day to day. I never initiate the sexual conversation and to his defense it's not "sexting." It's the things he strives for and fantasizes about not even including me.

 

I am in more of a way his confidant.

 

He's attractive, he's not mine and I wouldn't sleep with another women's husband.

You should have explained this at first it made you look like you were cheating which is never good but anyway I wish nothing but the best for you and your relationship. This is all you and YOU are capable of making these desisions you are a big girl and you're an adult you know the difference between right and wrong and you don't need anyone to help you "see" anything. YOU DO YOU BOO

Edited August 2, 2016 by QueenJay

[MellyBoo19912015]

Right so you can all agree or disagree. I really don't care. However some of you crossed the line with your behaviour and language. This community is here to help people, to educate and be educated. These are our very values. You are now way laying those values to basically bully and hurt someone. Instead of thinking before you type or asking questions you let your own prejudices through. I'm locking this thread as really instead of being constructive or helpful it is descending in to a verbal cat fight.

 

Locking the post is not because of the OP's question but because of some people's responses. Thought I would make that clear.