Second time abandoned in 2 days

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

So I'm just starting out as a little and have been searching for a great Daddy. Two days ago I thought I found the perfect Daddy. We talked all day about fun things to do and he helped explain to me the roles of Daddy/Little and it was just perfect. We talked about our futures and got to know each other really really well. Then all of a sudden the next time I got nothing from him. He didn't respond to any of my messages, he completely dropped me. 

 

So then this morning another Daddy messaged me. We talked for a few hours, got to know each other, it was really nice. I explained to him my situation with my current Daddy and he told me that I had been abandoned and that he would take care of me. Well now he isn't answering my messages and deleted me off of everything. 

 

Someone please help. Is there something wrong with me? I don't understand why this keeps happening. I'm just so hurt and lost.  

[princesssky3]

aww.... sweetie.... Nothings wrong with you! your beautiful! any daddy would be lucky to have you. And if they dont see that fuck them!

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

hahah aww thanks so much sweetheart! 

[princesssky3]

You know what I have a friend who I think would just be perfect for you!

[LoralieHaze]

Speaking from experience, don't let yourself get instantly attached to someone. A guy who wants to immediately be your daddy isn't the kind of guy that will stick around and be there for you long term.

 

First you need to get to know yourself, and what you want from DDlg. Then, and only then, should you be looking for a daddy. Once you do start looking, it's best to get to know the person first, the same way you would in a vanilla relationship. 

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Thank you for the advice LittleKittenLo! I definitely think I rushed into things with it all being so new and exciting. I'll definitely keep that in mind for the future  

 

And who's your friend princessky3? I love meeting new people! 

[princesssky3]

his name is elprup777 and hes really nice and I think hes just right for you!

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Thank you! I'll add him and see where it goes

[elprup777]

Hi little Miss spoiled

[UnicornBiscuit]

Wish you all the best of luck with Kitten's friend!!! You are a lovely young lady and don't be upset about things not working out. Sometimes you have to try to filter the good apples from the bad ones. You will eventually be happy, keep your chin high and a smile on that pretty face      

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Hello friend!

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Thank you so much UnicornPrincess!   

[Guest tempest]

I know the desire and need to have a daddy and not want to wait. That being said, 2 days is not enough time to make such a decision. Take your time. This relationship is founded deep in trust, and that takes time. Don't settle for someone who will say all the right things to get you to want to be with them, make sure they earn you as their little. Take care of your heart sweet girl, ultimately you are the one in charge of that. Best wishes!

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Thank you Lele! I appreciate the wisdom and kind words

[prncsscs]

Speaking from experience, don't let yourself get instantly attached to someone. A guy who wants to immediately be your daddy isn't the kind of guy that will stick around and be there for you long term.

 

First you need to get to know yourself, and what you want from DDlg. Then, and only then, should you be looking for a daddy. Once you do start looking, it's best to get to know the person first, the same way you would in a vanilla relationship.

 

PREAAACH SISTER

[nico.chou]

I'll just reciprocate some of the comments above because they are exactly right. Like in any relationship, don't rush into it. You really have to get to know someone before there is chemistry. Just think... a guy who wants to get in a relationship straight away could just as easily leave as fast. Aside from common interests, relationships take time, trust, dedication, and honesty. I'm sure you know that  but just wanted to give my opinion from a guy's perspective. Good luck!!

Edited August 1, 2016 by nico.chou

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Thank you Nico.chou, I really appreciate the feedback!

[Guest Bread]

Above all take your time, there are a lot of fake daddies that come on here and don't give the right kind of attention.  Give it a couple of days to decide if that's a person you would want to be your daddy at some point.  If someone thinks that it's okay to jump right into a dd/lg relationship then it might not be the right guy.  Personally I've had so many littles asking if I had I could be their daddy but I don't just jump right into a relationship.  I need to go slow and take my time so I find the right girl to give my heart too. 

[littlelili]

I agree with LittleKittenLo. If you get attached so quickly, there is a huge chance to end up hurt if the other person does not feel attached instantly. Treasure your beautiful feelings and dont gI've them to everyone who calls himself a daddy when they are not committed to.

Hugs

Edited August 1, 2016 by littlelili

[Osah]

You should really try taking things slower, befriend them first for awhile and really get to know them before anything

[Guest NeedToServe]

I think you need to calm down. Stop searching so hard and jumping from one to the next. If you think he was your daddy within two days, and still call him that to the next guy, who you then think is your daddy, it sounds like you're doing the whole "frenzy" thing.

And now you seem to be doing it again here.

You are putting yourself out there and showing guys you are vulnerable and easily taken advantage of.

Chill out a bit. You're going to get very hurt.

[Guest annemarie]

there is definitely nothing wrong with you. 

 

in my experience, when men leave a girl without warning, it's because they really don't know what they want. they think they want you and then they don't, so really it's their own indecision and insecurities rather than anything to do with you.

 

that also being said, it's been only two days since you messaged both of them (at least that's what it seems from how you described it), which means there's a chance they're both just busy and haven't gotten around to replying yet. when online, sometimes people take days to reply. if you're really that concerned though, i would message them both once more and ask what's going on. tell them that even if they're not interested in you, you deserve an explanation.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

as human beings, most of us have the desire to partner up. whether it's for life or for a night. the problem is, if you're looking for something real you cannot jump into it. you don't know these guys. they don't know you. and if any/all of it's online, well it's not going to be something truly meaningful. I'm sorry, I know a lot of people have online "relationships" but those aren't the forever kind unless at some point you move to where the other person is and even then you don't know if you'll really want to be with them. chatting with someone on the phone is totally different from picking up their dirty socks every day.

 

that being said, you have to know yourself before you can give any part of you to another person. it's true for all relationships, but especially DDlg or any D/S because it's such a serious thing you are giving. you have to trust them more than you trust yourself, even. I honestly couldn't imagine submitting to anyone that I haven't known for years. this doesn't mean you're a bad person, just eager. you need to slow it way down. WAY down.

[Princess-P]

Its not possible to find a Caregiver within a few hours. Really,you can call them whatever you want but it won't last and will absolutely be a disaster. CG/l is a dynamic based in trust and deep emotional commitment. Someone you met yesterday is not going to have that bond with you.

 

Also,you mention one of these men explained the roles to you... But there is not set explanation of roles. To each person the dynamic works a different way. Rather then rush into a relationship figure yourself out first. How does being a little feel to you, what interests do you have, what makes you feel little and why? Also what would you expect from a partner and what qualities are you attracted to?

 

There is a lot to consider before rushing into something. Be smart, CG/l is no different from any relationship in how its formed. You wouldn't bump into a stranger on the street by accident and then call him your boyfriend, or at least I'd hope you wouldn't.

[Guest little_miss_spoiled]

Thank you so much everyone! I really appreciate all the feedback and help. I definitely need to slow things down and stop jumping at the first chance I am given. Thank you all.