I'm a little with genophobia/fear of sex.

[Guest alwaysthelittleprincess]

I've been a little since I was 16, before I really knew what it was, and was just being myself. I've called myself a little since about a year ago, when I did search, and started to understand myself more. I'm 19 now, and happy with being a little for the most part. I'm female by the way, and bisexual. 

However, I have Genophobia, which is the fear of sex. I have had it as long as I can remember. Therefore, I don't have sex. 
It's not an option, I just don't have sex. I can't put myself in sexual situations, if I'm in one, it terrifies me. So, I've chosen to not put myself through the trauma of "trying to get over it.". Which is what a lot of people say I should do, is "get over it.". 

Well, not having sex has kept me from ever having a dom. I've never had one, and it's very lonely. Most DD and MD's want to have sex, sex is a part of their lives, I respect that, and understand. However, sex is not a part of my life... 

 

So, I'm all alone, and it hurts, and it sucks! I want to be cuddled, given stuffed animals, jammies, tea, read bedtime stories, told when to take a bath, someone to make sure I eat, and make sure I'm getting enough sleep. Someone to comfort me when I am upset, dealing with my depression. I also have chronic pain, and it helps when there's someone to take care of me on my low spoon days. I want a mommy or daddy, but no mommys or daddys want me. 

It's very saddening... I'm not sure if I should just let go of the idea of having a mommy or daddy or not. Maybe I should just accept the fact I'm a little that's just gotta be by myself? 

 

I don't know! Sigh!

[TallNerd]

I've been a little since I was 16, before I really knew what it was, and was just being myself. I've called myself a little since about a year ago, when I did search, and started to understand myself more. I'm 19 now, and happy with being a little for the most part. I'm female by the way, and bisexual. 

 

However, I have Genophobia, which is the fear of sex. I have had it as long as I can remember. Therefore, I don't have sex. 

It's not an option, I just don't have sex. I can't put myself in sexual situations, if I'm in one, it terrifies me. So, I've chosen to not put myself through the trauma of "trying to get over it.". Which is what a lot of people say I should do, is "get over it.". 

 

Well, not having sex has kept me from ever having a dom. I've never had one, and it's very lonely. Most DD and MD's want to have sex, sex is a part of their lives, I respect that, and understand. However, sex is not a part of my life... 

 

So, I'm all alone, and it hurts, and it sucks! I want to be cuddled, given stuffed animals, jammies, tea, read bedtime stories, told when to take a bath, someone to make sure I eat, and make sure I'm getting enough sleep. Someone to comfort me when I am upset, dealing with my depression. I also have chronic pain, and it helps when there's someone to take care of me on my low spoon days. I want a mommy or daddy, but no mommys or daddys want me. 

 

It's very saddening... I'm not sure if I should just let go of the idea of having a mommy or daddy or not. Maybe I should just accept the fact I'm a little that's just gotta be by myself? 

 

I don't know! Sigh!

I just added you and I'd love to chat. But I'll respond here. Go see your primary physician and see what he/she says and you'll most likely get a referral to a specialist and they will work on your phobia.

 

Meanwhile you can find an understanding dom. I'm sure we exist

oh wait I exist and just chat.

[Guest alwaysthelittleprincess]

I just added you and I'd love to chat. But I'll respond here. Go see your primary physician and see what he/she says and you'll most likely get a referral to a specialist and they will work on your phobia.

 

Meanwhile you can find an understanding dom. I'm sure we exist

oh wait I exist and just chat.

I have talked to people about it, therapists, and doctors, for the last six years. I decided to make the personal decision to not have sex, put myself in sexual situations. Maybe one day my phobia will no longer be there, and I will be able to have sex, but as of now, that's not the case.I'm not looking to find someone who will wait for my phobia to be gone, I'm looking for someone who is okay with me the way I am. 

 

Thanks for your input though. I appreciate it.

[TallNerd]

I have talked to people about it, therapists, and doctors, for the last six years. I decided to make the personal decision to not have sex, put myself in sexual situations. Maybe one day my phobia will no longer be there, and I will be able to have sex, but as of now, that's not the case.I'm not looking to find someone who will wait for my phobia to be gone, I'm looking for someone who is okay with me the way I am. 

 

Thanks for your input though. I appreciate it.

I'm glad you're comfortable in your own skin but you are cutting an important part of the human bonding experience. I like that you feel like you may be over it someday.

Just remind yourself that you will get over your phobia someday, even if you don't know when.

 

Be extra positive

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I think that since asexuality is a thing, and there are many people, little and otherwise, that might not be afraid of sex the way that you are but don't have it, you should absolutely be able to find someone who loves you for you, regardless of sexual interaction. I know a lot of people who don't have sex in their relationships and are very fulfilled. Please don't feel like because you don't engage in sexual situations of any kind that you won't ever have a successful relationship.

[Littleharleyq]

I would say this to anyone little or not. Don't be with anyone who isnt ok with u being u. It will get lonely and it will suck but it will be worst to be with someone who disrespects the way u r. It will all be worth it when u do find that person that can respect the way u r and love u for every part of u. For now focus on u and how to make u even more amazing and full of sparkle awesomeness that u r!

[LoocPac]

Yes, a non sexual relationship is fine, I am a new daddy, trying to be, i have been joining groups and reading non stop. I am in an open relationship, and looking for a little, I am not looking for sex, but rather the connection, the feeling of having daddys little girl, someone to protect and be goofy with. So yes, non sexual is perfectly fine.

[PandaPrincess96]

Greetings from an asexual little! To be honest, although I've heard people talk about a non sexual DDlg relationship, I've never actually seen one. Not to say I think it's never happened, but you'll have to work harder to find the right person for you! (which means when you find that person, they'll probably be the best one you could find!) I think the big thing is if you want to get over your genophobia. Think really hard, not about how it affects you or your relationships, just about your feelings. If you could wave a magic wand and make it go away, would you want to? If yes, don't give up! No matter how long it may take, I believe you can do anything! Even overcome your phobia! If you don't want to though, don't. Simple as that. You seem to be at peace with it, so if your happy, why put yourself through the stress? No matter what, don't push yourself too hard, and don't let anyone push you at all! No one has that right! Your number one goal should be to make yourself happy, and if a caregiver you find doesn't want that for you too, who needs them? It will be harder, but if you keep looking you'll find the most perfect caregiver for you ever! I promise! Even if it takes a loooong time to find a caregiver, you don't have to be by yourself! It may not be exactly what you're looking for, but you can make little friends who can help and encourage you when you need it! Good luck!

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Cg/l at base is actually not about sex. It is about having a protector or caregiver. There's lot of people who have daddies or mommies and don't have sex. Long distance ddlg pairs don't have the chance to have sex (outside of fiddling with their parts on Skype or something). Their connection so much deeper than just the physical - which I think any stable relationship should be. Be patient, know what you want and be honest with any potential cgs so that everyone knows what the situation and expectations are from the gate!