give up or keep trying?

[Guest lullabydollface]

is there ever a time when you should give up being a little? i ask because I have been doing this for a little while now with no success. the people ive met have only been mean and very scary apart from maybe one or two but it never seems to work out. ive never been anyone but myself but maybe that isn't enough? maybe i am not what other people like in a person? i am just really lost and confused and scared that as much as being a little is who i am, no one wants me. what should i do?

 

 

 

update: deleting account due to bullying on site. never coming back here.

Edited August 11, 2016 by lullabydollface

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Oh, honey.

 

Your worth as a Little, and a human being, isn't defined by who "wants" you. You don't need someone else to tell you that being a Little is right for you. You don't need a Caregiver to make you feel like you are "allowed" to be what you feel you are. There are no hard and fast rules to being a Little; it's how you feel, not if you have a Caregiver or not.

 

I understand the frustration behind feeling like you aren't good enough, but don't let that be the thing that dictates if you are small or not. It took me a long time to find the people who were right for me, and I'm still going through some duds.

 

When I stopped looking for my missing pieces in other people, I found them in my back pocket.

 

Start loving yourself. Give the Little inside of you a reason to be something you are proud of, not something you want to do away with. That part of you can be fulfilling without a Caregiver with a little nurturing. Make some Littlle friends and foster that side of you together. You don't need a partner to tell you that part of you is special, because it is. You matter. You have worth.

 

If being a Little makes you unhappy, then by all means. Don't do something that makes you unhappy. But if you feel like you should give up because you haven't found the one to love your Little, maybe that person should be you first. <3

[Guest PetitPrincess]

Inthink that you probably havent found right person! And dont give up! Even thought you won't find a daddy/mommy you can still have little friends

[Guest Nikoś]

If you really feel like you are a little, then you should try it. Every person is different, you must figure out your own way of being little

Edited July 26, 2016 by Nikoś

[Guest lullabydollface]

being a little is who i am. I just...im lost. and this is a lot scarier than i thought at first. meeting new people hasnt been so nice and i know i feel really deeply really quickly which could be why it hurts so badly but i am a little im just worried im not doing it right.

[Guest Don Pablo]

try finding friends instead of a partner. encounters are usually more easy going and relaxed if there's no pressure and you don't overthink them. go with the flow let things come naturally and you might get surprised.

 

also, people are generally mean and scary. dont be discouraged 

[Guest annemarie]

fake it till you make it! cheesy and old fashioned, but it's true. fake being happy and loving yourself until it becomes a reality. i know a lot of people have this ridiculous moral obligation to not fake anything, but honestly, sometimes you need to for your own wellbeing. ESPECIALLY when you're depressed and mentally ill. otherwise you never get anything done because you don't believe you can do it. if things aren't working out in your life right now, maybe try faking being happy and confident and functional until you believe it yourself. i mean you can choose NOT to do that, but you'll only be hurting yourself, especially if you have such deep seeded problems believing in or loving yourself to begin with. anyway, i wish you all the best and i hope you feel better soon!! <3

[Guest papabearuk]

Keep trying would be my advice.  If being little is part of who you are then you shouldn't hide it away.

 

Finding a daddy will take time, just as finding a little does.  We all have different personalities and we each have our own flavour of the dd/lg dynamic. 

 

As Don Pablo said - make friends and you may meet someone who you click with, in time.

 

There's nothing wrong with being shy, or wary, when someone makes contact. In fact that's the best and safest thing to do.  And, imo, a "good" daddy will understand and accept that.