So I told my caregiver that i like diapers

[Daddy's Kitty]

I told my caregiver that i like diapers (not in a sexual way at all), just wearing them, not using them. I already knew he doesn't overly like them. I told him in hopes he wouldn't mind, which i guess he didn't but he basically told me that it would make him uncomfortable if i ever wore one infront of him, which probably upset me more than it should have bc i only really go into deep enough little space to want to wear them when im with him

[MadameButterfly]

That seems rough for both of you. You like diapers and he doesn't feel comfortable around them. Maybe he'll warm up to them and will be alright with you wearing them, but I wouldn't force them on him, because just think if he was doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable, I'm sure you wouldn't like it. Everyone has their limits but I really hope it works out for you both.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Unfortunately, unless he changes his mind on his own, that's really where this conversation should end. He expressed a hard limit, something he isn't comfortable with, and you've got to respect it. It can be hard to remember sometimes that our Caregivers are people just like us at the end of the day, and they aren't always comfortable with stuff just like we aren't. The best you can do is respect his wishes, and hope that he's open to exploring in the future, but it's got to come from him. Just like you wouldn't like it if he tried to pressure you into doing something you specifically said you weren't comfortable with simply because it was something he was interested in exploring. (Not at all saying that's what you're doing, just to clarify.)

 

My advice to you is to tell him that you've heard his concerns, and respect his wishes. Tell him that you would love to reopen the conversation at some point in the future, but only if he is comfortable with moving in that direction. Until then, you'll keep the diapers as something private, and you appreciate him being open and honest with you.

 

Good luck!

[Guest NeedToServe]

Sometimes we have to compromise. You can't just expect your partner to like everything, especially something like that. Many people struggle greatly with that kind of thing. Many would just leave. There are very strong reactions sometimes, rightly or wrongly.

If its that important to you, do it away from him. No, we shouldn't need to hide, but lets be honest, by definition that is a "fetish" and we often have to express those things away from other people.

It's the same as if I was with a guy that wanted to ....I dunno......wear women's underwear (ok, I actually wouldn't be with a guy that I knew wanted to do that, but I'm generalising). He could do what he wanted as long as he kept it away from me. That's how it works sometimes.

He's not saying he doesn't want you to do it, he's saying he doesn't want anything to do with it. I actually applaud him for compromising too.

Edited July 24, 2016 by NeedToServe

[Daddy's Kitty]

Thank you for your responses, they have helped alot! I feel much better about the whole situation