My Caregiver's In Pain D:

[Princess-Peach]

I was really looking forward to some little time but sir came home with a horrible toothache(irreparable tooth problems) so now I don't want to even ask or direct attention towards me.

 

Littles, how do you "take care" of your caregivers when they're not doing well?

[Princess-Peach]

Edit: I've given up tbh.

We're together and ddlg isn't as important

[Vince]

not that i have all the answers, but sometimes your CG will need you to be a big girl, and take care of yourself or even them from time to time. daddy's and mommies are people too and they have bad days, but random suggestion, make something for him as a little, weither it is a picture of hi with a fairy making the pain go away or a fabric cover for an ice pack that looks like it was made in 2nd grade arts and crafts class, at least for me there's something special about a little trying to help their CG as best they can. 

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

If he is really in that much pain he needs to see a dentist. Pain killers and clove oil in the infected gums will numb it. There is nothing a dentist can't fix unless there are certain medical conditions that pertain to allergies and past trauma. They also have fills and caps for your teeth you can do yourself at home (I only know that because we sell them at work)

 

As for when my caregiver is in pain, anything in relation to ddlg is thrown out the window because his pain comes before my needs and until it is sated that is my priority as a significant other. Not to be confused with most people complaining about being sick, because I don't take that crap especially. As he likes to joke, I go into "Nurse Emi" mode.

[Vince]

I assumed he already was going to a dentist. this is also high priority.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi there! I'm sorry your Caregiver is hurting. Hopefully he's gotten some relief by now and is seeing a dentist, as suggested above.

 

The first thing I want to say here is ask him how you can help him. Just like when you are hurting or sad, you'd want your partner to be able to ask you how they can help you best. He might not have a great time answering since he's in pain right now, but maybe use this as an example for the future and remember to sit down and talk (when he's not in pain) about how best to help him when he's hurting. You might find that he /wants/ you to stay in Little space. Just like a child can't turn off being a child, some Littles can't turn off being Little, it's a part of their personality. I might have the unpopular opinion here, but I can see be a Little while also being an adult. I've taken care of Beast before while still in Little space, but I absolutely turn into 'Nurse Belle' like the lovely Lavander mentioned above.

 

Just talk to him, and be patient with him. Don't expect him to be able to take care of you when he's hurting himself, and be able to be aware that it's time to return some of that undying affection and attention that our Caregivers give to us. Not that him being sick should be the only time you do that, of course. But that's a good way to look at it, I think.

 

Overall, I think that something Littles need to recognize is that we are going to have to be Big sometimes. Even children realize they have to do things they don't want to sometimes, or act more 'mature' for a certain reason. It's the same with being a Little.

 

Good luck!

Edited July 18, 2016 by BabyBelugaBelle