Punishing Daddy's?

[AngelsPapi]

I found this picture earlier today that had me wondering. Can littles you punish their Daddy's?

[Guest NeedToServe]

I find that concept utterly ridiculous. I am not a brat or sulky or pouty. He is in charge, end of story. We are all different, but not for me, nope.

If he did something bad, he would know I wasn't happy, but punishment? Lord no.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

punish? lol no, not really. I am a little bratty, I am spoiled but that's not really my fault is it? if I'm not happy, it will be very clear. he might even apologize if he did something wrong, but we're married as well so I'd expect that.  I think that picture is more of a joke than anything else.

[Missbehaved]

I may get bratty & pout sometimes, but if I carry on or go really overboard, it's just going to result in being ignored for a week.  It has happened twice & I don't want it to happen again.  That really has to be a joke.  What little would ever even think to deny her Daddy an orgasm? 

[Guest plerte]

The way I (as Daddy) see it is as following:

As Daddy I should always try my best for my little, since none is perfect even the best Daddy can do mistakes or forget something I should be aware of it or told by my little, so that what happened won't happen again. The guilt I feel for letting down the most important person in my life is enough punishment. If a Daddy keeps repeating the mistakes, not caring to do something about it or what he did was to severe, the only punishment (as hard as it sounds) should be a break up.

Relationships especially one involving Subs and Doms need trust to function, one involving a little need that trust even more since there are to many 'Daddies' out there that (knowingly or not) take advantage out of littles since they are more dom than daddies. Long story short, in my opinion the only punishment a daddy should receive is a break up if he damaged the trust beyond repair, and a little should have the courage to punish her daddy if it comes to that.

[Guest Sassy Princess]

I think it all depends on what kind of dynamic you have with your Daddy. Not all princesses are the same amount submissive and some Daddy's like bratty bossy babygirls, maybe it makes putting them in their place more interesting or something I dunno. All I do know is that everyone's relationship is unique and thats okay.

 

Also I think it's perfectly fine to deny a Daddy an orgasm. It's not like its something he's entitled to, you pleasuring him is something that he must earn. If he's done something to really hurt your feelings, then he should be more worried about talking it out with you than about receiving an orgasm from you.

[Guest plerte]

A good Daddy in a ddlg relationship will always have earned their orgasm, (again this is all just my opinion, you may disagree) but if a little has to do anything to discipline her daddy without it being part of something bigger, that daddy isn't doing his job correctly. Since the only two reason I can imagine for such an action by a little is either a daddy demanding to much (especially sexual) or not caring enough for their little, both red flags and sings that he either isn't putting all the effort into the relationship or not really interested in it.

Orgasm denial is in my eyes more of a thing a little can use to build up more desire, teasing him to playfully make him more dominant than usual (or submissive ^^). As punishment, orgasm denial is more suited for daddies to use on their little.

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

When daddy is bad he gets spankings and punishment. (We are both switches so it's just kind of funny)

[Guest CalicoKitt3n]

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Edited July 25, 2019 by Alicorn

[AncientMariner]

That is definitely appealing for me

[Daddy's Lil]

I would NEVER punish my Daddy. Thats nor my place, I tease him and tell him I'm in charge, I tease and sulk, But Daddy is the boss and thats the way it is. 

[Guest BugBug]

This has come up a few times ive noticed. Each to their own however personally I find it poor behaviour on both daddy and littles parts. If you little is acting out to that degree you clealry arent dominating her correctly. And if the little feel this is how to get attention I kind of pity them.

To me it shows a lack of connection and understanding of d/s. Maybe it works with switches but I would hope no one throws daft stuff at each other for punishments.

Sure be a brat if you want but this is just being mean for the sake of it.

[Guest NeedToServe]

I don't understand people that feel a need to "push" their partner to do particular things. Topping from the bottom isn't my thing, neither is being with someone who I feel the need to change to suit my needs. But yep, to each their own. Maybe I'm taking it too seriously lol.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Oh god no! No no no no! Daddy is.....Daddy. he's very very dominant as a person so he would never tolerate that. I can sulk and pout (truly I'm spoiled rotten) but I could never get away with any of that stuff!!

[HeCallsMePrincess]

I think some are taking this too seriously. I truly think this was meant as a joke. some littles are bratty, some are spoiled, some like to tease and some Daddies prefer a little that is a little spunky. but make no mistake, Daddy doesn't need to take anything away or even lay a hand on me to get me to behave. when he's serious, I know it! like any true Dom he needs nothing more than words or a look to get me to straighten up.

[SweetieKai]

Both my SO and I are switches, so even though most of the time he's daddy, sometimes I take a dominant role and punish him, while in my little space. I know, it sounds weird, but it's what works for us c:

 

Just because you're very submissive or very dominant doesn't mean everyone is like that.

 

Just keep us switches in mind ^-^"

[Guest buddhagirl]

If Daddy let me get away with "punishing" him in some way, it would decrease my respect for him and make me feel less secure that he can really take care of me. Some times I pretend to punish Daddy, but even that is squelched by him. Plus, Daddy doesn't need punishment. If I don't like something I can just talk to him about it--he is very reasonable and loves me so much!

[Princess Joe Joe]

Oh no no! If I ever tried to punish my Papa (seriously anyways) I think He would give me a firm swat. He is the alpha, and at the end of the day His discussion is final. Of course He always always is so good about asking about my opinion on things and taking my needs in consideration. He would never do anything to distress me or push me to the point I would think I had to punish Him! If I felt I ever had to go beyond a serious conversation with Him then He would lose most, if not all, of the respect he invokes just like Buddha Girl said! (:

[kimi]

The dynamics of the relationship between my Daddy and me would never allow for me to do anything like that. My Daddy would spank me so fast if I ever threw something at him even if it was my stuffie. Besides, why would I even think to throw my stuffie because what if he landed wrong or something and got hurt. Then, I would feel really bad and it would defeat the purpose.

Nope, my Daddy is the boss of me and if I don't like something, maybe I might get really quiet or try to be by myself but my Daddy would encourage me to use my words and then it can get fixed. One rule is to never go to sleep mad except for if I happen to fall asleep from crying because I got a spanking but that's okay because the spanking cleaned the slate and when I wake up everything is good again.

[Glitterdemon]

I would NEVER punish my Daddy. Thats nor my place, I tease him and tell him I'm in charge, I tease and sulk, But Daddy is the boss and thats the way it is.

 

Bottom line for me, too. I don't want that responsibility, that's why I'm his Baby Girl. ^__^

[daddymind]

That is definitely appealing for me

 

Me too! I love bossy brats. It doesn't necessarily mean that the daddy isn't in control as the ultimate care giver (I mean, he still has control through what he is willing to offer his princess, she still depends on him and he is physically stronger). It just means he has a lot more sassiness to deal with!

 

Personally I think this suits more of a middle/teen "little".

[kimi]

Yeah ... and if I even tried to do anything like that, my Daddy would pull down my pants and panties so fast, flip me across his lap and the the spanking would not be fast ... at all!

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

I am learning still as a dom and always will be. I had a recent situation where I hurt a persons feelings badly unintentionally and she left. That punishment was appropriate even if the intention wasn't bad.

 

I also broke a rule and trust with others after I told them what happened rather than hiding it from them.

 

A group meeting was had, 1 on 1 chats as well as group chats were had. People vented their frustrations, concerns, new firm rules were made.

 

But apart from that my submissive who was in the bdsm lifestyle much longer than me told me that the Dom does not get punished.

 

The best advice I have is, as people.do your best. Don't let being a Dom be a total power trip where you can abuse your power and that included lying to your submissive(s). But sunlight, honesty,.and holding yourself to account and striving to do better is important.

 

I am sorry for who I hurt. And I am sorry for hurting others. At least I disclosed it once I realized my mistake. And I always want to do better. My little poly family forgave me for that.

 

As one last suggestion. Consider finding or making a contract. Set out what you / they do, rules, punishments (rewards!, because if you can punish you are also obligated to reward) and so on.

 

The contract allows for a more perfect version of consent and things are explicit. And then when you or they go through it, you can both agree to something point by point, amend things ot add things or remove things. And as needed make it a living document. And make your relationship deeper. I'm sure othere could talk way more about this issue but consider it. Its helping me stay more organized and also gives both of us deeper insights into the other which is nice.

 

Best wishes.

[SpookyBat]

I have something like that as a reward, sometimes when I'm good teddy will have rewards for me (My dom doesnt like being called daddy so I call him teddy as a compromise)sometimes I get to choose between candy, a new stuffed animal, treats, or punishment. If I save up enough of my rewards I get to reverse one punishment (unless I'm being punished for something super bad). Punishments for him are rather limited, it's mostly things of a teasing nature,things that may rile him up ya know?

I havent used that option yet but I'm saving it for the right time