Stubborn Little

[AngelsPapi]

My little refuses to accept non-physical punishments. Such as:

 

Writing lines

 

Writing an apology letter

 

Punishment diary

 

I don't wanna force her to write but she is very sudden on writing punishments and I dony know what to do.

 

Can someone give me some advice?

[Spooky]

If she is uncomfortable with something, or doesn't  want that to be an aspect of the relationship, that is her right. 

As you said, you can't make her or force her do anything. You can try talking to her, maybe try to find out why she doesn't like those forms of punishment.

 

There is always compromise and maybe the two of you can talk it out and find something that works for both of you!

 

Best of luck!

[Guest weeniehutjr]

Best thing I could think of would be to talk to her about what kind of punishments she "likes" or doesn't mind doing. If she is really against it, it would be wrong to ask of her. So just figure out what kind of punishments she's okay and comfortable with. No need for it to be so traditional!

[Guest NeedToServe]

You can't force her to do anything. This is a relationship, not a parent/child situation. You talk to her, simple as that. Punishment should be unpleasant, to discourage further negative behaviour (unless its for fun, which makes it nothing like actual punishment), but it still has to be within what she sees as her limits.

[Princess-P]

Ask her why she wants physical punishments. If she says something like she wants spankings because she likes them remind her that if she likes it then its not a punishment. And if she doesn't want punishments to be real then there's no point in having rules.

 

You can't force her to do what you want. And rules are not nessacary to a CG/l dynamic.I have no rules, I personally think they are ridiculous. It doesn't change the power exchange in my relationship.

 

If rules are however something she wants to better something about herself then she needs consequences that she doesn't enjoy but must still agree too. If writing isn't something she will agree too try other things like limited Tv or internet. The point is for her not to enjoy that to help curb her behavior that she wants to work on. If she's asking for physical because she enjoys it its not punishment and makes your rules pointless.