A *little* discouraged

[SweetnSassy_Princess]

[LolitaDaddy]

I hear ya, it sounds the typical cyber dd/lg or kink experience

Hang in there, you'll find your daddy.. a true daddydom, not just a play or sex daddy. Start with a friendship, an adult relationship then into dd/lg.. Best wishes.

Edited July 1, 2016 by LolitaDaddy

[Princess-P]

There are lots of ways to find a partner, and it doesn't always mean looking for a Daddy.

 

While there are personals here there are also plenty of vanilla dating sites which I think are usually a better rout. A lot of people have kinks or different lifestyles but still use those sites because they are more popular.

 

Try looking for someone you connect with as an adult first. Similar interests, personalities, whatever. When you find yourself connecting with someone then tell them more about your little self. If they seem interested go deeper. There's no reason to rush any kind of relationship. You need to become friends before you become romantic. And form even more of a connection before you make a CG/l kind of commitment.

 

Don't be discouraged, everything takes Time.

[canadianguy31]

Hey if you wanna chat you can message me im new here and a single daddy

[Guest Zips]

I have to say, and I'm being brutally honest here - personals are one of the worst ways to try and find a Little / Daddy, in my honest opinion. I have several reasons for saying this:

• Personals are designed around instant gratification; -wanting to find someone who ticks all your boxes in as little time as possible. This is like throwing a ball of blue tac at a wall and expecting it to stick - it doesn't work. It's going to fall off very soon after impact, and ghost on you. Instead of randomly meeting anyone who takes your fancy, it's always better to get to know people from the ground up, slowly, and build foundations of friendship first. That blue tac needs constant, persistent pressure if it's going to stand a chance of sticking to that wall. Sure, personals work for some, but I question how well it works. I'd love to see some statistics as to how many people actually have a functioning long term relationship (6 mo+) as a result of a personals ad in the entire history of this site. I'm sorry if I sound like a cynic, but I am a cynic. This is just a critical opinion.

 

• Personals are facades; I don't mean to say that personals are truly "fake" or full of "lies" but the reality is that it's an advertisement. People always put their best foot forward in advertisements, and as a result, they show you what they consider to be their best/most important traits. It's like looking at one side of a six sided cube, you're not getting the whole picture. This can result in a mismatch between the personality people expect after reading an ad, and what they actually get when they contact the person. That ultimately leads to ghosting. On the other hand, one might have an amazing personality, but it's not going to be seen in its full glory. It's impossible to condense and summarise your entire personality/being into a simple personals ad. Therefore, the very stuff you don't mention might be the stuff that some people love about you. Again, this all comes down to meeting someone, and building a friendship from the ground up, where you can both see all of each others sides, and find out what you like about each other for yourselves.

My advice: Some of the best relationships in the ddlg world were born from vanilla relationships where the couple decided to explore something greater. Don't confine yourself to forums - sure, it's a great place to meet people, but it's easier to get to know people better in real life, face to face. Don't completely rule out vanilla relationships, they can be a good way to meet someone and really get to know them before exploring kinky stuff together. In terms of the forums, why not join the chat, it can be a great place to meet all kinds of people. Lastly, being active on the forums in general is a great thing to do. You'll meet lots of people, and you'll learn the difference between regular posters who don't ghost the community and the kink, and people who are offline most of the time.

 

I'm sorry if this was a rant, and I also hope even some of my advice is helpful to you.

Edited September 16, 2016 by Zips

[Gregisthedaddy]

Funny, you ghosted me. I guess things come full circle.

[LolitaDaddy]

Ghosted? That would make getting to know someone just about impossible.. especially if you can't even message them.

[Guest CalicoKitt3n]

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Edited July 25, 2019 by Alicorn