Contracts??

[Pikakidd025]

I am just curious if either you CG or LG draw up contracts. I knkw rules have been talked about, but I idnt see anything about this.

 

My Daddy and I have wrote a contract, so we each know hat to expect from each other and the weight of the promise we are making to each other is known. Especially since we integrate some heave BDSM into our dynamic. This was a very important point to me, and he was very supportive!

 

I'm curious to know if there is anyone else like us out there

[Guest Zips]

As for me personally, if I was to mix a bdsm dynamic with the ddlg dynamic I'd use a contract in much the say way you do. It all depends on what the two people want, and if there's actually enough bdsm to warrant drafting one.

 

Contracts and rulebooks have a lot in common. Sometimes contracts are better than a simple rulebook because it helps both parties put words to their own thoughts and flesh out any miscommunication by fostering a growth of clearly defined expectations of roles, limits, etc... This imporved communication can consequentially improve safety of any scenes etc. So that's a plus.  Aside from all that, it can be fun for some people.

 

I think by and large, most times people actually draft a formal contract would be when a bdsm dynamic is present, even if this is in the mix of a ddlg one. Rules really are far more common for ddlg. But that being said, everyone is different.

[Pikakidd025]

I know for me, I have a set of rules, that I go by day to day, as well as a sticker chart for good behavior. However, my DD has had a bit of experience in the bdsm community and his version of rules is a contract. We don't really have hard limits or anything yet because everything is game right now, unless otherwise communicated.

 

The contract I have is more for the clarity of what we both expect from our relationship and dynamic. For him, understanding what being a DD means, and for me what being a Sub/LGeans to him. Ibhave a habit of over communicating so this aspect was comforting to me.

 

So for us, we have both. Our rules look more like

Manners make the girl

No means no

Set amount of water per day

Set chores for the day

Etc.

 

The contract looks more like

As a Daddy Dom I promise to

Take my responsibilities seriously and understand that my Little is a person, and puts herself in a vulnerable place

 

Nurture my little i understand she is putting all of her trust in me

 

Guide my little in the best way I know how

Etc.

 

The contract more for the understanding and the structure of the relationship so no one is confused. The rules support the contract and bring structure to both of our lives to continue and grow in self improvement....