New to DDlg, but not to Bdsm

[Guest Smitten_Kitten]

My partner and I have been together for a year and a half. He's been the best partner I could ever ask for, communication is not the problem I just don't know if he's into it like I am. We play mostly nude so dressing up isn't an issue and when I asked him if he would like to play along with this he wasn't jumping for joy or mad either, just... there. We have experienced many things together like ropes, submission, etc but I feel like he's either not into it or he is just distracted. It bothers me BC I love him, very much. He is always quick to say that BC we are switches, this could get complicated. He's never mentioned me being his caregiver, ever, even when I asked him.

Help?

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

Being a switch isn't the problem. My caregiver and I are both switches. It might just be an excuse because they may not have the feeling of being a caregiver.

[Princess-P]

Sounds to me like communication actually is the problem. Maybe he's afraid to hurt your feelings by telling you he's not into the CG/l dynamic. Maybe he doesn't feel he fits the role of CG but would rather be little?

 

Whatever the reason there's nothing anyone here can do to help you with. Only your partner has the anwser. You just need to flat out ask him what's going on and tell him how you feel.