im a confused lil kitten pls help :<

[plasmakitty]

I just recently got into the world of dd/lg and im very confused right now because im not sure if im fit to be a Little. im 100% submissive in bed. I like calling my boyfriend Daddy, in bed and even casually but it makes me feel weird because I think he thinks that im doing it as a joke when im actually being serious. I know im not ageplaying or just bottoming, and being a Little feels very right to me, its just that i dont think I fit that role because Daddy doesn't see me in that way :< and now I sent him this one article I read about the dd/lg dynamic just because Im too shy to say it in my own words. what do I do if I found out he's not into it or if he's just pretending to be into it for my sake? I want him to be happy and enjoy it to but I dont know what I would do if he isnt into it :<

[Princess-P]

You don't need a Caregiver to be a little. That's it. Your a little if you feel that's who you really are. If he doesn't see you that way then too bad.its not his call. I'd he doesn't like the CG/l dynamic that's ok too. Maybe its role play for him. Maybe its nothing. It doesn't matter and it doesn't reflect who you are. You can be little and be in a vanilla relationship. You can be little and be in a Dom/sub relationship. You can be little and do/be whatever you want.

 

You can't be too shy to talk to your partner, that's how relationships work. Sure reading articles are great but its very impersonal. Articles will not tell him how YOU feel and what YOU want. And since every CG/l relationship is different an article won't cover it.

 

Sit down, as adults, tell him what you like/don't like and what you would like him to try. Tell him how you feel and why you identify as a little. Explain that's its ok if he's not interested. He doesn't have to participate in the lifestyle with you. He just has to accept you you are.

[Strawberry Sprinkles]

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Edited June 30, 2016 by Strawberry Sprinkles

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Being a Little is something YOU are. It's a part of you! There is no "cut out to be a little" - If you squee at cute stuff, sleep in a pile of Stuffies and swing your feets when you sit on something thats too tall.. You's a Little! Some of us have a Daddy/Master/Sir/Boss but even if we didn't... it wouldn't change who or what we are or how we feel on the inside! 

 

As Princess-P said - Maybe it's just an RP thing for him, Maybe He's not sure where he fits in, Maybe he's not 110% sure who he is... Some people don't discover who they really are for a long time for a wide variety of reasons! Communication is so incredibly important in any relationship and if this is how you want to live your life - You need to make sure that you are heard and understood! You also need to know where he stands on it and accept his comfort levels! 

 

I hope you guys can work it out!

 

<3 Dolly