Being a collared little

[Daddyslittleblaze]

I need some peoples opinions and personal experiences with this.

 

I was collared a year ago to my old daddy but it wasn't a serious collaring and he wasn't really into ddlg, I've been with my new daddy for 8 months and we've been talking about me being collared but I want to know more about it first. 

 

I know there different types of collars like training collars and ownership collars, what do you guys have?

 

Have you had to go through training with your daddy/mommy/caregiver/dom? If so, what kind of training?

 

Also where can I get a cute collar? (please don't just say etsy but actual stores!) 

 

Thank you!

 

Love,

Blazey   

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

So really in most cases collaring is similar to making a relationship established. It's a sign of ownership in the BDSM community and not really something DDlg relationships do unless they are also into pet play or D/s relationships. Some littles just wear them because they are cute.

 

There are training collars, which are meant for rough play and used during scenes and/or while you are being trained and the relationship is not yet official. Discreet collars are used to be worn in public, so the sub/pet wears it as a reminder they are owned, often times just worn because they like how it looks and even just used as an accessory. Ownership collars tend to be fancier and not necessarily made for play. More like the discreet collars they can be used for a sign of ownership, often given to the sub/pet by their dominant to wear around. You don't need to be collared to wear these, but generally they are given as a significant item in the relationship, much like a promise ring.

 

In DDlg it's not so much training like other BDSM relationships. There is always chore charts and the like for learning good habits and helping the little grow, but it's not considered sexual training. (I can't speak for all of these relationships, but this is the gist of it). Really caregivers are supposed to help littles grow and learn. Many couples mix other aspects of BDSM in their time, but there are many others that don't. Ddlg isn't something that has to be sexual.

 

Finding an actual store is nearly impossible when it comes to finding collars. I would assume many sex shops would carry them as well as any place that sells BDSM related things. I have seen some custom dog collar shops that make collars for people too and leather working shops. You can also find them at some conventions. (Personally I've gotten a couple from anime conventions, they have some vendors that sell leather cuffs and fantasy stuff too. And be sure to check Renaissance fairs. Often enough people openly carry floggers and whips) some online places unrelated to etsy for the more cute stuff would be kittensplaypen, wonderlandplaypen, and black peach shop. You can also make your own, there are tutorials online. For more frilly collars hot topic and places like it might have a few things, you just gotta look.

[Guest Lillin]

Lavender summed everything up nicely. My personal experience with collaring has been nothing but good. I find that wearing my collar gives me a tiny sense of pride and makes me a little more confident in public because I feel like I'm showing off the fact that someone loves me. Also for some reason being collared helps with my anxiety and calms me down a bit, I have no clue why it does, but I like it! ^.^

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

My Daddy bought me a collar and likes me to wear it when we have have playtime. It does also show that he owns me and I am his.

Most vanilla people in my life don't have a clue. I just tell them it's a choker.

http://m.ebay.co.uk/itm/111586183884

Same style as the bottom right one, but dark purple

[LittleAki]

I'm a collared little, and while I do have a collar for play time, I usually wear a discreet collar 24/7.

 

Mine came from an online store that handcrafts all of their collars. The site's name is Eternity Collars. I have a black stainless steel one from them that I wear in the winter time, and a titanium one that I wear during the summer. It's helps that I can't wear sterling silver or anything with nickel in it.

 

Lavender summed everything up perfectly, but I would caution that you and your Daddy discuss this a lot, negotiate, and talk some more before you do it. Talk about what the collar would mean to you, to him, and what you want the ceremony to mean to you both.

[Daddyslittleblaze]

Thank you so much for your help guys    

[KittensMeow144]

I'm a collared little. I have one for playtime with a leash and one for day wear to show ownership. Daddy got the day wear one off Etsy, it's gorgeous with a heart and lock. The play one Daddy bought from Amazon. It's pink and fuzzy ^^

 

Collaring to us meant the ultimate commitment not only to each other but to the DD/lg lifestyle.

 

It's best to have a conversation about it to see what collaring means to each of you.

Edited July 12, 2016 by KittensMeow144

[LittlePupChickpea]

If you're looking for collars and pet play stuff, I would suggest looking at the store Kittens Play Pen (https://kittensplaypen.net/), it's a really popular site for puppies and kittens, but I've seen a lot of talk about it in the ddlg community too. I'm a puppy AND a little, so I got two collars there (along with some other stuff like a tail), one that daddy officially collared me with for my birthday, and one for play time (it's a lot sturdier and has fur on the inside for comfort) 

 

Here's some images of the collars:

http://i64.tinypic.com/dzgto5.jpg

 

http://i65.tinypic.com/2dr7yiw.jpg 

 

http://i65.tinypic.com/261kvoi.jpg

[HeCallsMePrincess]

well, we both wear wedding bands and that's kind of a collar lol we're still looking for the perfect one. i think Daddy wants to surprise me though

[Guest NeedToServe]

Collaring only means so ething if both people feel the same about it. I was collared for six months, while he was busy ignoring me and cheating on me behind my back. It's not necessary.

I feel no need to wear a trinket around my neck now because I realise it actually means nothing in real terms. But I do know for some it feels important. Not trying to sound negative, but you asked for personal experience, and that is mine.

I am owned. I do not have to wear something to prove that. If he chose to do that, then great, but it wouldn't make this mean any more or less. He isn't even aware of that concept, as he isn't involved in the bdsm community, he is just a naturally dominant man that chose me as his property.

He speaks of marriage if it all works in the long term. That is official, and legal. I feel his ownership without wearing something.

But you don't need a special place to get one. The one I wore was a simple chain from a jewellers shop. He had it made with sturdy, quite thick silver. Nobody else needs to know what it means, as long as you do. To anyone else it just looked like a silver necklace.

[Missbehaved]

My Daddy put a bracelet on me, instead of a collar.  I can't take it off & it's more practical because I work out almost every day. 

As a surprise, I had his name tattooed on my butt.  I am happily owned.