I need advice about DD/BF, pweeeease...

[ChibiPuppy]

So, uhm... I'm in the LDR with a guy over in the states. I've known him for years and we recently decided to hook up. He is aware of me being little, but he is not entirely into it himself and I am unsure of what to do. See, the relationship hasn't lasted more than a few months and I am not sure if I should keep it going or if I should wait it out and see what happens.

I love him a lot, and I mean a lot. He's helped me through a lot of tough times in my transition and pre-transition as a trans, and he's helped keep me on track and made sure I did stuff I had to do. He's my precious daddy. And he lets me call him that. But beyond that isn't 100% with me. Since I am fairly new to the whole DD/LG stuff myself I am not sure how to proceed and whether I should stick with him (I do have plans to move there next year), or if I should break it off and save myself some heartache later on.

Is it common for newer DD's to struggle with what they like or not, or is it more common that they know what they want from the beginning? I can't see myself having a non DD/LG relationship at this point, I need to be little and so I need a partner who accepts and embraces this to any extent necessary.

Thoughts and advices please! This was difficult for me to write >~<

Thank you!

[SugarPrincess]

I know my boyfriend wasn't really into it at first but he let me call him daddy anyway. Personally we are both very open minded so he was willing to try things and he ended up liking it. So maybe you and yours should try some things and see if he likes it or not. Not every aspect of ddlg is for everyone so maybe he might like some parts and not others. Its all trial and error.

[ChibiPuppy]

I know my boyfriend wasn't really into it at first but he let me call him daddy anyway. Personally we are both very open minded so he was willing to try things and he ended up liking it. So maybe you and yours should try some things and see if he likes it or not. Not every aspect of ddlg is for everyone so maybe he might like some parts and not others. Its all trial and error.

That's fair... I'll talk to him. Or try =w=

 

Thank you <3

[Guest DaddyKool]

Talk to him let him know that its important to you and suggest that you try it in private first so he can get comfortable

[ChibiPuppy]

Talk to him let him know that its important to you and suggest that you try it in private first so he can get comfortable

As good an advice as any, thank you. <3

[Sixtytwofifty]

Talking to him is really your only option, if you really like him enough to "fight" for him.

 

Being called Daddy is pretty common these days, even in the mainstream.

As a DD myself, who has always been Dominate, it's a jump for a man to embrace the mainstream perception of thinking its a pedophile fantasy.

It is not... it may help that he understand that.

Some people in general have conflict with being Dominate as it is... much less other stigmas.

 

Talk to him gently, don't start with how you like it, more that you simply enjoy letting him be in control and his strength as a man turns you on.

Ease him into it, and you both will learn with time.

You might be surprised, as he might be as well.

Communication is most important, vanilla or pure kink... you will be able to make a choice together.

There is more I could say that may help, but being my first post, and in respect for time and space, I'll let that stand, but I'm here if I can help.

Best of luck to you.

[ChibiPuppy]

Talking to him is really your only option, if you really like him enough to "fight" for him.

 

Being called Daddy is pretty common these days, even in the mainstream.

As a DD myself, who has always been Dominate, it's a jump for a man to embrace the mainstream perception of thinking its a pedophile fantasy.

It is not... it may help that he understand that.

Some people in general have conflict with being Dominate as it is... much less other stigmas.

 

Talk to him gently, don't start with how you like it, more that you simply enjoy letting him be in control and his strength as a man turns you on.

Ease him into it, and you both will learn with time.

You might be surprised, as he might be as well.

Communication is most important, vanilla or pure kink... you will be able to make a choice together.

There is more I could say that may help, but being my first post, and in respect for time and space, I'll let that stand, but I'm here if I can help.

Best of luck to you.

Thank you a lot, I'll try this. Hope it helps! Thanks <333

[Sixtytwofifty]

Thank you a lot, I'll try this. Hope it helps! Thanks <333

I really wish you the best.

It's tough on you I'm sure, just remember it may be as tough on him depending on his upbringing and background.

Give it the time that it deserves, for better or worse, that way you give it and him a fair chance, as well as don't waste your time fighting a losing battle.

Again, I wish you all the best!