Advice for a little?

[Guest Sweet_babygirl]

So my daddy and I are in a LDR and things are really great, we've been together for over a year and are not sexual. I've brought up the topic of rules with him several times because we don't really have established rules and punishments which is something I feel like I need/want. He recently said that the reason we don't have strict rules/punishments is because I never stick to them and I realize it's true because I usually end up giving up after a week or so, but I'm also struggling with 2 mental illnesses. So when we have these chats and I realize I'm not being the perfect little or the little I want to be it gets me in a very bad place. We're also LDR so he doesn't really give any type of punishment either because it's a bit hard to do.

 

I guess my dilemma is how can I get over this bump, of not being able to follow through, and also LDR rules/punishment tips?

[Guest Ginger-kit22]

I'm in a LDR as well at the moment. We didn't sit down to make my rules up, they're more ones that are a given but I have issues with (eating breakfast, lunch & dinner // staying hydrated // taking my vitamins. etc.).

 

Punishments are just things that I know I don't like. Like if I don't work out during the week, I can't go out to eat on the weekend. Or if I don't do a load of laundry, I can't get on the computer or play any video games until it's done. I also have anxiety and depression, so that makes things a little harder on me at times (like the eating and staying hydrated).

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi there! I'm also in a LDR relationship with one of my Caregivers. We don't have rules either, but something that was helpful with my Beast when we formulated rules was that I came up with a lot of them. We based them off of things that I wanted to improve about myself, and things that we wanted to change as a team rather than things that Beast wanted to change about me. That helped a lot, and helped me stick to the rules because I knew they were things that I wanted and needed to change for the betterment of myself. Make your rules less like "Let Daddy pick out your panties." and more like "Drink at least two glasses of water a day." The first type of rule is great, but if you're having trouble remembering or sticking to them, start with things that are actually good for you instead of just for fun. 

 

I also suggest using an app like ChoreMonster to manage your rules/chores, which can be a really fun way to remember, and has a great reward system built right in. 

 

As for punishments, I say take a page from Ginger up there. Make them things that you genuinely dislike. If you want the punishments to actually deter behavior, "funishments" (or things that you enjoy, like spanking) won't actually do you any good. Make the punishments stuff like restricting your favorite sweets, or extra mile at the gym, or not being able to buy a new video game or book. Things you don't want to happen again. 

[I-Am-Princess-Maddie]

[neko]

If you can't / don't want to follow through with rules then maybe you shouldn't have them? Rules are not a necessary part of a DD/lg relationship.

 

If you do want rules however, maybe make them things that are important?

 

Well for example, one of my rules is to brush my teeth before I go to sleep. When I wasn't able to stay with Daddy during the week he would ask me if I had brushed them or I would send him a picture of me brushing my teeth. But now that we are together all the time that's no longer necessary.

 

Another rule I have is to take my pills so I dont have any yucky health problems. before he leaves for work he tells me to take my pills r if he forgets in the morning he usually asks me in the middle of the day

 

Make rules that are important to you and your well-being.

Edited June 23, 2016 by neko

[Guest Sweet_babygirl]

Thank you all for the replies, I guess I just need to suck it up and follow the rules we set, I'll probably hold off on having another chat with my daddy about rules for a while though.