My Daddy calls me ''daughter'' ... i dont like it

[Saghira]

Me and my Daddy are French but sometimes we speak English too ! He started to call me ''my daughter'' and it disturbs me a lot. .. i'm a little ... but it too awkward to be called his daughter ... (it makes le feel like i have a dad's issue ... but i dont) is it just me ?? How about u ? Do u find it weird too ?? Or it s normal in a dd/lg relationship ship ?

[Guest Purple_Panda]

Hey there, communication is important... if your daddy does something to make you uncomfortable, tell him.

I'm pretty sure normal isn't a factor in a ddlg relationship, you both just kind of do as you wish within the relationship, then that is what becomes normal for you in a way haha.

 

Good luck and have an amazing day^^ 

[Trixie]

It might be normal for Some, but not others. For me personally though I would feel uncomfortable. Just like I never call my biological father"daddy" it would get to weird for me.

[littlexkittenx]

Lol tell your daddy to not call you his daughter if it makes you uncomfortable. My daddy calls me his "lil girl" and his "little baby". I personally don't find it weird, but then again my boyfriend hasn't called me "daughter". I see how it could be a little too weird though

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I think a lot of people in the community would find this particular name uncomfortable, especially because of how hard we fight as a community to shut down the lies spread about us being into pedophilia, and incest. By using that particular name, it would probably make a lot of people incredibly uncomfortable, myself included, because of how close to the traditional "father-daughter" relationships they symbolize. 

 

I think "normal" is a relative word, but regardless of if others do this in their relationships or not, if it makes you uncomfortable, you need to immediately tell him and then he should stop using the term. 

[Harley_Quinn]

I would hate that! I'd tell him to please stop because it makes me uncomfortable. My daddy only calls me princess and little one and little girl

[Gregisthedaddy]

Me and my Daddy are French but sometimes we speak English too ! He started to call me ''my daughter'' and it disturbs me a lot. .. i'm a little ... but it too awkward to be called his daughter ... (it makes le feel like i have a dad's issue ... but i dont) is it just me ?? How about u ? Do u find it weird too ?? Or it s normal in a dd/lg relationship ship ?

I think it's sweet. If you know you don't have a dad issue, I don't see the problem. It's between you and him, he knows you don't have issues and you don't. What's the problem?

[Daddy's Lil]

I would not be comfortable with this. My Daddy dose have his own, daughter and Son and I would NO WAY step on their toes. I have children of my own too.

 

Communication is the key to this. Dynamics change and evolve with in relationships and any thing you are not happy with or comfy with you should speak up. Daddy will respect you for standing your ground. Maybe he has  another way of thinking about this than you and can explain it in another way. But making your feelings known and bringing it out and resolving this is the way forward.    

[MadameButterfly]

I definitely would not like it. I feel like using the term "daughter" is more of an incest kink than ddlg. But maybe he doesn't see it that way and thinks of it as a pet name. Just tell him, it makes you uncomfortable.

[Saghira]

I tried to tell him ... but he seems sooooo happy and loving and caring ... i cant do it at the moment ... And i dont know how to bring it up other times ! He usually asks me if I m okay with everything we do ... i'm not used to be the one bringing up the topics ...

[Guest MontBlanc]

[Saghira]

Loooooooool ! Well that was funny ... should i send him the song ????

[Meggles]

I think it's sweet. If you know you don't have a dad issue, I don't see the problem. It's between you and him, he knows you don't have issues and you don't. What's the problem?

 

Agreed. No problem

[TheMatador]

Could just be lost in translation, the French language directly into English does have some problems.

[Guest algernon]

Pet names for people mean whatever you want them to mean. It takes some impressive mental gymnastics to try and explain why "daughter" is on an inherently different level of incest-iness than "daddy" without it quite quickly coming down to "because my arbitrary personal preference". Nevertheless, do what works for you, everyone is allowed their own preference, and as the above posters have said, simple, honest, open, and direct communication is a key part of the solution to the plurality of life's interpersonal problems.

 

It sounds like it has meaning to him, but if that makes you uncomfortable, let him know - everyone is different about everything. There are a few pet names I'll never call another girl, ones I call my actual daughter, but I don't care as much how people address me - even "Daddy" means something very different to me coming from different people, as it means something very different to the people saying it.

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

Things could have been taken out of translation. If you are uncomfortable with it let him know. Personally I think the name is more for incest stuff and would kill anyone that tried to call me that. (My mom doesn't even call me that, she calls her children demons spawns)

[Saghira]

Well it bothers me ... Everyone agreed to say i should tell him ... And thats the problem ... How break it to him ! I dont want to make him feel that he did something wrong or that he made me feel unconfortable all this time ! How to tell him the smoothest way ???

[LoralieHaze]

For me personally, I would say "It makes me uncomfortable when you refer to me as your daughter. Could you please only refer to me as <insert name here>?" I prefer directness but I know that's difficult for some people.

 

Perhaps when you two are talking, preferably in a non-sexual and non-romantic setting, say something like "How about instead of daughter, you call me _______?" Then fill in the blank with your preferred pet name. If post #10 is anything to go by, he will understand and agree. He might even be proud of you for speaking up for yourself.

[Sixtytwofifty]

I'd crawl into his lap, tell him how much you love him, then just be honest and tell him why you feel that way.

 

I think most of us that have, or have had children, prefer other terms than those used by our kids, or for any other reason, if it don feel right, its not.

 

Preference is ok, and if it's expressed and communicated properly, it's outstanding.

I honestly believe you may be worried over nothing, as big and heavy as it may feel to you now.

 

I understand your concern.... I feel a twinge of guilt when I call my dogs "babygirl" lIke i always have. .. even though it don't bother my little at all when I mentioned it.

 

Never be afraid to speak your mind, just do it with thought and pride.

He'll understand, whether he agrees or not, I'm sure.