Long distance DD/lg relationships

[AKDADDYANTHONY]

Hello and thanks for reading and contributing if you do so. I'm an experienced Daddy Dom with almost 20 years of DD/lg type relationships under my belt. All have been 5 years or longer in length and have all ended on good terms. But I find myself in a on line long distance DD /lg relationship with an absolutely delightfully needy little princess. My trouble is that I have tried this type of relationship a couple times in the past and have found it difficult to make it work. I'd love any advise that anyone could share. I very much enjoy the Intimacy of cuddle time and enjoying my little while she is in little space. But haven't mastered the online aspect of that.

Thank you

[Komorebi]

LDRs are not for everyone, it takes a lot more love and trust than a normal one.  I can't say much other than you either have what it takes or you don't. 

[Guest Zips]

I think I have a piece I wrote that heavily applies to long distance relationships. Friendship is a fragile thing, and people often encounter stress in their lives - if any of this stress ends up being thrust toward the long distance partner it can put enormous strain on a relationship because the other person will feel absolutely helpless and distant.

 

"The real way to make friendship is not to look upon each other with expectation, but to turn side by side and look upon the horizon.

 

Basically it means don't look at each other to see if the other passes a test; don't test each other, but take each other hand in hand and look upon the tests of life. Pass them together. This is quite vague advice, I know, but that's the point of poetry, you have to interpret it in your own way and that'd be unique to you. Of course, this applies to relationships also, not just friendships. Both are forged not from seeing each others differences, but in overlooking them and tackling the world together. 

 

I hope this helps in some way at all.

[ANewDragon]

I have some Advice. I am currently in a LDR with a Wonderful needy little Princess. I am alot like you where i enjoy cuddle time and I am pretty sure I will want to always be around my princess while she is in little space.

 

We talk by KiK most of the time. We normally spend about 2 to 4 hours messaging back and forth after I finish work, just talking, also saying the actions we would do. Like she tells me she sits on my lap, I tell her I rub her back. 

I always try to tuck her in every night, either before I go to sleep or before we both go to sleep as I am the one that is farther east in the Relationship.

We try to watch TV together when the time permits, Normally it is a Netflix Movie.

 

Basically you will need to see what works for you and her both. It is not easy at all. It does take more trust and a level of commitment, Communication and respect for it to really work out well. 

[AKDADDYANTHONY]

Thanks for all the great advice. We do talk on kik all day long. And we do good mornings and good night's. It all seems to be working great so far, she is precious to me and I wish to keep her happy.

[MadameButterfly]

LDR can be very difficult sometimes, but if it's with the right person, it's worth it all. As my Daddy(ANewDragon), has said, I'm a needy little princess and want most of his time. My advice to you is to be patient with your little, if it seems like a lot sometimes. Long distance can certainly be really hard when all you want, is to be in your Daddy's arms, and I know it makes me even more needy for Daddy. So if your little ever becomes extremely needy, give her a lot of attention at one time, than you would normally do. It helps me a lot when my Daddy, does that.

 

Try a lot of different things to do together like watch movies, TV, Netflix etc. Watch while texting or talking on the phone together or even on Skype. You can even had dinner together, where you both cook or order the same thing and chat during it. Definitely always try to say good morning and good night. Like my Daddy said, saying the actions of what we are doing is really fun and comforting.

 

Communication is the biggest thing to have in LDR, especially if your little is really needy. I hope everything works out okay for you!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi there! You've got some great advice up there, hopefully I have something valuable to add to it!

 

As someone with multiple relationships, I have several partners who are long-distance, so balancing my time and managing expectations is key. If you haven't already got a system in place where you swap schedules every week so you both know your availability, I encourage you to do that! Google Calendar is a lifesaver for stuff like that. 

 

As for some apps to try other than KIK, I highly recommend apps like Avocado and Couple, specifically for LDRs. My secondary Caregiver and I have a Couple account, and it's lovely. It works as a messenger system, but also allows you to draw together, make lists, manage a calendar for visits and birthdays, and has a really cute program called ThumbKiss that allows you and your partner to "kiss" thumbs at the same time! Really helpful for bridging the app!

 

Other suggestions include:

• Care packages and handwritten letters in the mail. Everyone loves receiving mail, and its even more special if it has a piece of you in it. 
• Make regularly-scheduled date nights. Choose one night a week that you'll always keep free of plans, and stick to it. Consistency is key, but also be aware that things might come up to change plans. 
• Utilize tools like Rabbit, which is a streaming website that allows you to host audio and video, as well as watch things together on multiple platforms such as Netflix and Hulu! It's a lifesaver! 

[TheMatador]

I'm in the same boat as you are, man. I'm in a Long Distance Relationship with my little, spanning two hundred and fifty miles; I feel as though we make it work though. Just keep on doing what you're doing now, and remember that Communication is key. 

 

There's plenty of websites out there that you can use to ensure that your little knows that you're thinking of her, I've recommended it on here before but check out http://www.aliexpress.com/. A cheap website, for decent quality items, a new plushy can cost as little as $2.50. It's just dumb small things, I use it all time with my Little, to get small things that we can either make together when I'm there, or that she can enjoy on her own. 

 

It sucks that you're not together, but someday you'll be able to shorten that horizon, just remember that you're both sleeping underneath the same Moon, and find some comfort in that.

 

Here's a list of different Apps, and Extensions that I feel as though make things a lot easier:

 

• Couple - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tenthbit.juliet&hl=en_GB 
  An application designed with Long Distance Relationships at mind, giving a place to talk, and a number of different options in there, drawing together, etc. Thumb kiss is something that my little absolutely adores.
• Showgoers (Chrome) - https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/showgoers-for-netflix/pcmaninppdeakmhaonacejmfcgeempfo?hl=en
  An extension for Google Chrome that allows for users to be able to watch things together, with an added option to use Webcams, and having a chat box; it makes it easier especially when bandwidth needs to be balanced with other things, this could be helpful for  your little, if she lives in a household of heavy internet users that are always bickering at each other that the internet is too slow.
• Watch2Gether - https://www.watch2gether.com/?lang=en
  Another alternative to Showgoers, although this time it allows for you to use YouTube, Vimeo, Twitch, SoundCloud, etc. Again this offers features such as Webcams, and Text boxes all in one website, to avoid using too much bandwidth whilst simultaneously letting you enjoy some videos together. 
• Whatsapp - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.whatsapp&hl=en_GB 
  An alternative to Kik, with more features such as changeable backgrounds to make it a little more lively, and encouraging area, especially for littles. An even better feature of Whatsapp is their Encryption service on their App, making it so that no prying eyes can see into your conversations, unless you choose for them to.

I hope it helps, dude.

 

Edit: Another thing to do is share the area that you both live in, take your camera, on your phone, or whatever and just go get some Photos of your most favorite places, and tell some memories, make stories out of it. It can make another person feel as though there's something more to achieve than just a Relationship, it can make them feel as though that there's a whole new life just waiting for them, with new memories, and adventures just waiting to happen. 

 

You live in an amazing place, I would kill to live in Alaska .

Edited June 21, 2016 by PhoenixFlame

[AKDADDYANTHONY]

Thanks, you guys are awesome and I appreciate all the wisdom.

[TheMatador]

Thanks, you guys are awesome and I appreciate all the wisdom.

Not a problem man, if you ever need someone to talk to - send me a message.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

[TheMatador]

WOW! Great post Matatdor, thanks for putting in alot of effort to help those of us un a LDR. Those are some great suggestions of things to make long distance not seem as... long!

 

Cheers!

No problem man, I'm in your shoes as well .

[Ariel_Anne]

My Daddy and I are sorta long distance (100 miles about) we see each other about every two weeks and some of the things he does via long distance is

• reading me bed time stories before bed on skype 
• Tracking my food and meals (calories, sugary foods and what I eat)
• Giving me a routine so I can feel obedient (wake up at 7, eat at 8 ect ect)
• LOTS OF SKYPE
• Sending me things in the mail like stuffies, collars, new binkies and sippy cups.
• "Dirty" skype time 
• Setting rules and curfew

Love your long distance little! Its hard because we just want to cuddle and hug you, but its possible to make us still feel important. 

[BabyDddoll]

Hello. (Shy.). I only have one LD exp. it lasted six mo and ended Bc we had some diff life goals.

 

unsure as to my level of need compared to that of friends...

my comfort was to be able to hear and see ea other at least once a wk.

adored sending a little wake up note each day and looked fed to the reply.

 

It helped to have assignments:

-CHORE. dust & vacuum

-ART. complete a work of art and usmail

-CLOTHES. what to lingerie to wear and send a pic on phone

-ERRANDS. take a pic and send from ea place I go

(funny fruit pic from grocer, new book pic from library, cloud pic from pool, view fr my balcony of wind in trees)

-TASK. email a story (erotic or not) of how I'd like to lose virginity or 1st time together, etc

-DATE. go out to an animated movie w a friend, send a selfie in front of movie poster

-PERSONAL.

-LEARN. At least one hr every wk day. (He did 1hr each wkend day as time allowed.)

share what I learned, at least one question, and show that I comprehend the information. helps to give me a theme of the month.

I.e. zoo animals, roller coasters of the world, camping & survival skills, care for your bicycle, finances budgeting investing

-CLASSES. He sends me to attend at least one class that I choose each month (some last longer)

Kayaking, Photography, Painting with a twist, Ceramics, Spanish(language), Cake Decorating, Windows, Crochet, Knitting, Sewing, Jewelry Making, Crafts, Scrapbooking, Dance, Bridge, Investing, Music lessons, Tennis

-GYM. 2-3 x per wk and I tell Him the workout I did