Regaining a littles trust

[the_1daddy]

So I am a very new dd with an lg that has a couple of years under her belt. I have recently shown behavior of missing trust towards her emotionally and I need to know what are somethings I can do to help regain her trust and show her I am serious about our relationship

[Komorebi]

we would need to know a lot more about what is happening to answer your question. But odds are you did something and it is likely that you won't be able to regain her trust.

[Strawberry Sprinkles]

The best way to mend anything is communication. I personally love "I" statements. They are a way to state your thoughts and feelings without aggression or guilt placed on the other party.

 

"I feel _____ when ________ because ______; and I wish we could _______."

 

Example: "I feel insecure when you talk about your past partners because I feel as if I'm being compared to them; and I wish you would please not bring up your exs unless it is necessary." (In this situation, you'd explain what "necessary" means).

 

"I feel anxious and undervalued when you storm away while we have a disagreement because it makes me think you do not believe it is worth your time; and I wish we could settle our disputes as they arise instead of letting them simmer."

Edited June 18, 2016 by Strawberry Sprinkles

[WickedJax]

There isn't much to go one here, but there is no singular way to "gain a little's trust." 

 

Remember, she isn't just a little, she's a person, and your partner. Your relationship is first and foremost, before everything else, a relationship. Don't think about it as trying to get on a little's good side, think of it as trying to get on HER good side. 

 

And you know, the only way to do that is through honest, open, and no holds barred conversation and discussion. In short: Honesty.

[Guest MontBlanc]

........ But odds are you did something and it is likely that you won't be able to regain her trust.

That's a little pessimistic and unfair without knowing what happened or the context of the situation.  

 

@OP - your post is hard to follow.  Is it you that has lost trust in her or she has lost trust in you or is it a bit of both?  

 

I haven't any advice just hope you two can work it out for the better

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

If there is emotional mistrust it couple be from things you have done or she has her own issues to sort out. In this context I can't say it's either and honestly trust is something earned. As to say for any little.

 

This title can be a bit misleading because originally I thought you had meant any little and really that gives anyone the reason to think it was about tips to emotionally manipulate people.

 

Between you two this kind of has nothing to do with them being a little or you being a DD. This has to do with trust in a relationship and if your main focus is about only being in the DD/lg dynamic and not when they are being a big, you may need to reconsider the relationship and understand these bonds go a lot deeper than a BDSM relationship. You may need some growing up to do if she is looking for a serious relationship. I can understand not emotionally trusting someone, but it will always take time. If you try to rush it, things can go sour fast.