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We would like to welcome everyone that reads this to our home and family. We know there are other places you can go and groups you can join so we do appreciate you choosing us. It is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to share this journey with you. We understand how important the people you surround yourself with and the environment you hang out in is to your development and growth as a person. These things help to shape you and can either be a blessing or a mistake, we wish to be the former. So we are happy you are with us. You will see us refer to this place as our home, our village, and the members as our family quite often. That is because that is what this place and these people mean to us. This is not just a site we log into to kill time and escape for a few minutes. And by us I do not mean the staff, I mean each and every one of us that shares a love for our community and our extended family. This is our home and we care about it and those that are with us. So to all of you we say hello and welcome and enjoy your time with us, you are home.

You are valid just the way you are. You are little, with or without a romantic partner or platonic caregiver. You are uniquely you. No one can ever take your place. It might not always feel like it, but love surrounds you. In the direction you're looking in, and within yourself. You deserve to feel it. You deserve to overcome childhood trauma, if you have it. You deserve happiness. You deserve to dream, wildly. You deserve to feel better. You deserve having peace of mind in a safe space. You deserve to make littlespace, yourspace. You are allowed to speak up and say no. Your safety is important. You are a beautiful soul, so don't let anyone- including yourself, tell you otherwise~ Have a wonderful timezone. ♡

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space. Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs. A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong. So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart. You are a light in the darkness. You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion. You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments. You provide assurances that letting go is safe. You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated. You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it. You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong. You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment. You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver. To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy. To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you. Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person. To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

I'm new and awkward, but I thought id share something My favourite animal is a crocodile and I got a crocodile stuffie for my birthday. I wrote a journal page about him. I feel vulnerable Sharing parts of my little side but im trying to get more confidence with everything Thanks for reading 🐊 💕

Happy 10th Anniversary to all of us ! Its hard to believe its been 10 years. I wish I had been here from the beginning but am so happy I found my home and my family here when I did. A huge heartfelt thank you to those that envisioned and started this forum because if it weren't for you none of us would be here now. To all the staff, former and present, that helped make this a safe place over the years, thank you. Y'all rock ! To the members that offer help, guidance, wisdom, and suggestions on how to make our home an even better place, y'all are awesome and each of you deserve a round of applause and a cookie or three. To the club owners, thank you. You go above and beyond by giving your time and energy to create warm, inviting, and interesting clubs to make sure everyone has a place to feel accepted and share what they enjoy. Instead of the usual share-a-thon where people donate money for a cause. I thought we could donate thoughts and stories. You can drop a meme or gif that shares how you feel about the forum or just say happy anniversary. Or tell the story of how you found us and yourself. Whatever you want to share about your journey is ok. Thank you to each of you for the part you play in keeping our community safe and growing in spirit.

Just a post to get some thoughts out. Some mix of a rant and reminder. As much as I love the idea of this relationship dynamic as a little, I don't want to be seen as a little without being seen as my own person. I don't want the role to consume my identity, and I am not looking for someone just to fit into a role for me either. I want to know you as a person, the real you. Made a personal ad a little over a month ago and have chatted with some interesting people, but some of the experience has made me a bit frustrated. Reading things like "Have you found a daddy yet? I can help you babygirl" is starting to annoy me. As if I'm waiting for some magical daddy is going to come and sweep me off my feet. It's really not that simple. Yes I want a daddy but I'm not going to jump into the arms of just any guy that calls himself a daddy and open myself to getting hurt in the process. Likewise, I'd like to hope caregivers don't start babying every other little they see. Being a little or submissive doesn't mean that I am easy or should be looked down on. Yes it is a power exchange, but it is from my own choice to give that control to someone I truly love and trust first. So don't feel bad for me that I haven't found a daddy yet or pretend to pity me. It's a decision I made. I would gladly spend months of lonely nights alone than lower myself to please the likes of someone who is undeserving. Even if it takes time to find a good relationship within the dynamic, I'm fine with waiting for the right person who sees me for who I am outside of the labels or kinks. Hopefully it'll be worth the wait.

Rant incoming. Those easily offended should stop reading now. This has nothing to do with any status updates or posts I've seen but the amount of come and go members I've dealt with lately. All with the same problem, "I can't find anyone". There would be no single people left if finding your soulmate were as easy as joining a forum and 1 week later poof, there ya go. Your perfect mate all wrapped up and delivered like a present on your birthday. Honestly makes me wonder if some people's lives have been so easy or blessed that they never had to wait or work and struggle for anything they wanted. Things just magically appeared as soon as you wanted them. If so I'm happy for you but let's be realistic for a moment because that hasn't been the case for most of us. Some of y'all wait longer for an amazon or temu package to be delivered than you are willing to wait for a partner, and don't complain once about UPS or the post. But for an actual human with something in common with you and a desire to be yours and you theirs you can't wait more than a week ? C'mon now. As wonderful as this place is you can't expect us to keep mr or miss perfect on the shelf waiting for you to just pop in and scoop them up like a new toy. It's hard enough to find someone you are semi compatible with out there in the world where there are billions of people. Now you are dividing that number into a small section of like minded people scattered all over the globe that happened to realize what they are interested in and that managed to find our community. Add to that those who are worried about the stigmas or have to hide who they are because of their jobs and it narrows it down even further. And lets not forget location is important to most. I'd compare that to fishing an entire ocean knowing there are only 1000 fish in it and only 1 of those is attracted to the bait you have. Pretty sure you won't be successful immediately, but you don't give up. If you give up your search and delete after a week or two because "you can't find anyone", that tells me you aren't the kind of person that is emotionally ready for a relationship. Relationships are amazing but they are also hard work. No one wants to hear that nowadays but I think we sugar coat and water down the truth too much any more. If you want a 3 day to 1 month fling then by all means have 1. Grab the first person in your inbox and be happy, until you are not. Then try it all over again. Just be sure to accept some of the blame for that failure as your own and don't place it all on the other person. You cannot expect a true "ride or die", "love at all costs", "here for you no matter what comes" relationship to just fall in your lap and be easy peasey from day one till death do you part. That is not realistic and doesn't happen overnight. Too many people mistake lust with love and that leads to nothing but problems. We have been fooled by tv and movies to believe we can just bump into someone at a coffee shop or the bread aisle and fall deeply in love in that moment and happily ever after follows. That's not reality. Love at first sight does not exist, what you feel are emotions like lust and desire. Love is something you have to develop over time and takes work. There's that word again, work. At least the disney movies show there is struggle and work involved before they all run off to their palace for lifelong happiness. But most of us will face things that last longer than the short lived bad guy chases they face. They always defeat the bad and move on rather quickly. Real life has struggles that aren't so easily defeated. Once you move past that initial dopamine rush and "honeymoon" phase is when you really get to know someone. That is when most decide to cut and run because it seems "hard". Life is hard and everything has a cost. A relationship worth having is worth way more than any amount of work you put into it. If love were just about the warm fuzzy times there would be no old couples out there. Because as you grow together life presents new problems. But if you have put in the work and have a strong foundation there is nothing you can't face and overcome. TLDR Stop chasing fairy tale romance and do the research and work to create something real. Rant over. If anyone wants to chime in with some real world stories of struggles or how to work through them that is always appreciated. This is not a section to bash anyone or air dirty laundry, just so we are on the same page. Stay safe and be the best person you can in life.

Communication is important for all relationships to succeed. What are boundaries? Boundaries are the lines and limits you create between yourself and other people. They allow you to define what is acceptable and healthy for you in your relationships. The boundaries you communicate and maintain can protect you both physically and psychologically. They can also safeguard your time and material possessions. Why are boundaries important? If you don’t set reasonable boundaries, some people will walk all over you. They’ll make demands on your time, energy, and other resources, leaving you depleted and overwhelmed. Some people will disregard and dismiss you emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually—often without even realizing they’re doing it. After all, they may have no idea their actions are distressing you if you’ve never told them! Boundary types & Examples Time boundaries: are limits we set around how we spend our time. This is a big one, and something that's especially difficult for many of us. “This is my time for therapy, so please don't message me or schedule anything.” “It's OK if you visit, but you'll need to leave before dinner so I can have time with my family.” Physical boundaries: refer to personal space and physical touch. Healthy physical boundaries include an awareness of what's appropriate, and what's not, in various settings and types of relationships (hug, shake hands, or kiss?). Intellectual boundaries: are your thoughts, ideas, and opinions. These boundaries have two aspects. One is being free to express a point of view about anything and being respected. The other is to know which topics are appropriate or not in a specific situation and/or with certain people. Financial boundaries: are limitations around your income, bank account, credit cards, and other areas surrounding money. Setting Boundaries: Step 1. Be as clear and as straightforward as possible. Do not raise your voice. Step 2. State your need or request directly in terms of what you’d like, rather than what you don’t want or like. Step 3. Accept any discomfort that arises as a result, whether it’s guilt, shame, or remorse. The third step is common for people with poor boundaries, codependency issues, or are people pleasers. Why are boundaries in relationships important? Healthy relationship boundaries are essential because they promote balance, respect, and physical and emotional well-being. When we set and maintain boundaries in a relationship, the other person has a clear understanding of how they should interact with us. This helps us feel safe, respected, and cared for—because of this, we show up better for that relationship. What to do if boundaries are broken? • Stay calm: Reacting emotionally can escalate the situation. • Avoid blaming: Focus on how the behavior impacted you, not on attacking the person's character. • Be assertive: Clearly state your needs without being aggressive or passive. • Self-reflect: Examine if your boundaries were clearly communicated and if you need to adjust them based on the situation. Original op, for the sake of ongoing discussion: Sources for updated version:

I'm going to agree and disagree with everyone just because I believe in looking at all sides of an issue. To me delusion in this case would be more based off of where and how this person was raised. If they are in Los Angeles, Boston, Dallas, then that 850K euro, $950k US, house may not seem that extreme. Where I live I can buy 20 acres of land and build a 3 bed/3 bath house with a playroom, pool, garage, and barn for under $950k. If you told someone in Hollywood you were building a million dollar house they would ask how poverty feels. If you told someone in a small rural area you were building a million dollar house they would think you were nuts or won the lottery and are wasting your money. Most people actually have no idea what the cost of houses in their area are unless they have been actively looking. And let's be real, most people nowadays rent because they can't afford to buy a house, the market is stupid expensive. Personally I'd rather buy land and build a home that is comfortable and spend the rest of that money on things that make my partner and I happy. Like adding a small hobbit house or cottage in the woods for playtime or just relaxing. Buy some animals to enjoy as company, maybe goats, sheep, highland cows, and have a small farm/petting zoo of my own. Take trips and make memories that we can cherish when we are old and can no longer travel. But to each their own. I also don't understand why someone needs to set a numerical value on a possession in order for it to be what they want. It would make much more sense to say I want a house that has all these things, and list the amenities you want. Cost is irrelevant if it has everything you want. $150k or $2.5m doesn't matter if it is your dream and you can afford it. That's like saying I won't eat at a restaurant that doesn't cost at least $500 for a meal. Then you are missing out on some of the best food you could ever get by thinking that way. To me any time you put cost over worth you are missing the point. I won't go into the ads because I don't feel the need to step on the toes of those with dreams. I love those who still dare to dream, if they work towards turning a dream into a goal and then a reality. I will say that maybe, just maybe, give that person with drive and ambition a chance and maybe you can build that dream life together. To me that would be more satisfying than finding someone that already has a dream life and just hopping into it, but that's just my opinion.

Too often so many posts are about relationship problems, people struggling to find their partner, "fake" people and just all around negativity. That's why I like to share positive experiences and feelings, to try and combat the negativity. Last night I shared a fairly simple intimate fantasy I've been having of late with my Daddy. It was nothing complicated and knowing my Daddy I knew He would be more than happy to fulfill the fantasy. What I didn't expect were the extra steps that He would take to make it special. He lit candles, put on the Carebears and took plenty of time for slow extra touches, gentle putting and time to make sure I was in the perfect headspace. After He took more time to slowly let me come back from what was a very intense experience. When I tried to say thank you His reply was simple, "You don't need to say thank you sweetie, I do this because I love you, I love this and it makes me feel complete". There are Caregivers that do it to make their partners happy and then there are Caregivers that do it because it's who they are as a person. I count myself lucky to have the former in my life as my partner. What to some is "the extra mile" to Him is just a pleasure that we get to share. To all the Caregivers out there who are Caregivers at the core and who embrace a little, know that you are special and those of us with you in our lives count ourselves as incredibly blessed to share your lives as your littles. Thank you to the Caregivers who in the eyes of littles, "go the extra mile" but to you it's just a positive perk of being a Caregiver to a little.

A real CG/Daddy would take time to get to know you and make you feel safe and cared for. Rules cannot be established until you've formed a bond. You didn't ghost him, you dodged a bullet.

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It's funny how people seek refuge in an alternative lifestyle when not fitting in with "normal" society and feeling alienated but then turn around to alienate others who don't fit in with their idea of an alternative lifestyle. People will always judge whether for being too normal or not normal enough. So remember just being yourself is more than enough. 😊

We all know each individual is their own person and you can't shoehorn everyone into a small box/label. But it was brought up that having a list of different types of DD/MD/Cg might be useful. Though the term Daddy is used below Mommy or Caregiver/Babysitter is freely interchangeable. I just did not want to edit their contributions since we can insert the correct term as we read. Thanks to @คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ and @Dangerously_Well for their work on this. Soft Daddy - Bends to the whimsy of their partner's demands. Situationally submissive. (Hard) Daddy Dom - Takes the lead in the relationship. Understands BDSM, follows SSC, and provides aftercare. Kink Daddy - Interested in kinks. Platonic Daddy - A non-kinker who's emotionally invested in his relationship. Might be asexual. (Toxic) Daddy Dom - A manchild whose got a fragile ego. Easily confused with (Hard) Daddy Doms by newbies/young men of BDSM. Sugar Daddy - Offers money/gifts in exchange for attention. Based on Personality/Dynamic: The Classic Daddy: A traditional, authoritative figure. Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. Often has a paternalistic or protector role. The Playful Daddy: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder and enjoys engaging in playful activities together. May be less strict with rules but still provides guidance. The Nurturing Daddy: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Focuses on creating a safe and comforting environment for their little. May be particularly attuned to their little's emotional needs and provides lots of cuddles and reassurance. The Gentle Daddy: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. Prefers a softer approach to discipline and focuses on building a strong emotional connection. The Strict Daddy: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. Provides a sense of security through firm guidance and may enjoy a more dominant role. The Dom Daddy: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements and focuses on power dynamics. May be strict or gentle depending on their personal style. (Note: Dominance is not inherently abusive, but it's crucial that it's consensual and safe.) Based on Focus: The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support for their little. May be less focused on sexual aspects of the dynamic and more on nurturing and emotional well-being. The Daddy Dom: Combines the paternalistic role with a dominant sexual presence. Enjoys taking control in both a caregiving and sexual context. The Friend/Companion Daddy: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. May be less strict with rules and more focused on mutual enjoyment. Important Considerations: Age Play vs. Age Regression: Some Daddies focus specifically on age play (roleplaying as a parent), while others cater to littles who experience age regression (mentally reverting to a younger age). Personal Preferences: Every Daddy/Caregiver has their unique preferences and style. Communication is key to finding a good match. Consent and Safety: All D/lg relationships should be built on consent, respect, and open communication. Safety is paramount.

Hello all just your resident Pigtail again. Sooo this topic is a day early but I wanted all of us to dream together soooo... What is it you are hoping for 2025? Only posativeity here please!!! Feel free to touch on the bad but this is to feel good and hopeful and look forward. This can be anything and please feel free to be detailed or vague as you like. I will start. I have super high hopes for 2025. No it goes beyond that. I am speaking into existence it will be amazing. Here is what I am wishing for myself. 1. Make some progress in trauma therapy. Things are going so well and I love my therapist so I am hoping this is a year of healing. Where I can take deep breaths and feel good. 2. I want to find my chosen family. I have Daddy but besides that my life is pretty empty of folks as my family has some issues. This year I am hoping I grow enough as a person and am lucky enough to find and keep some close friends and maybe even the caregiver in DDLG I have been looking for so long for. I feel it would really help me heal and enjoy life but I also realize there are things I can do to help it happen and be better for my future people. 3. Enjoy my hobbies. 2024 was a year of stagnation for me and this year I fully plan on reading, hiking, gardening, cooking, crafting, and all the other things I love. I don't wanna regret another moment of my life. 4. Be kinder. I am a kind person but lately I know I havnt been my best. I have been judgey and harsh and even if it is just in my head it is toxic and I am going to love harder this year and work through my feelings 5. Celebrate my faith more. I have already started on this but I wanna lift up myself in worship this year and really hope in on the good feelings I get from that. I could go on and on but that is enough. This year will be amazing. Let's help lift eachother up and make this happen. I can't wait to hear the amazing things that are going to happen to all of yall. So get sharing!!!

Here's my story! I wrote quite a bit as I posted this as a story elsewhere. There's no sexual content, but there is some intense sweetness between a caregiver and his diaper-wearing little girl. CW: Diapers (skip if it's not your thing!) ----- She and I wake up already in each other’s arms. There’s no alarm, nowhere important to be today. Still sleepy, we instinctively switch to a new cuddle position. I feel her holding her stuffie against her chest, and it makes me smile to think of the bond they share. I sense her easy breaths become slower as she falls back asleep. A wave of calm rushes over me knowing she’s happy, safe, comfy, and warm. I end up drifting back to sleep too. Once we wake up again, we know without saying a word that it’s time to get up. But nothing gets in the way of our cuddles. We spoon for a bit longer and ease into consciousness before I finally summon the energy to get up first. I unbutton her onesie, take off her overnight diaper, and guide her into the shower. Mornings have never been our strong suit. While she cleans up, I finish preparing the food and drinks for our picnic lunch—all the classics plus a few surprise foods that’ll make her little heart happy. I pack our picnic basket with the food, utensils, plates, and glasses. All set for a charming meal! After we both finish our morning routines, I lead her to our changing mat in the nursery and put her into a fresh diaper for the day. She wiggles a bit as she enjoys that familiar comfy embrace. Then I have her raise up her arms as high as possible and slide on a cute dress. Subtle enough for being in public, but I know how it still makes her feel smol. She’s so beautiful. I pack up her changing bag, and we head out the door. I drive everywhere when we’re together, so she knows to head straight to the passenger door. I open the door for her, buckle her seatbelt, and give her a loving kiss on the forehead. That always makes her giggle, and it’s one of my favorite things ever too. Off we go! It’s the first cool day heading into fall, and the leaves are just starting to show signs of change after a hot summer. The journey up into the mountains is scenic and peaceful, one of our favorite drives together. She loves animals, so she can’t help but point out every horse, cow, and bird along the way. She teaches me new fun facts about each, and we try to identify the birds together. We’re getting pretty good thanks to the birdfeeders in our backyard. We arrive at a completely empty ridge far up in the mountains and away from civilization. No one will be bothering us here, and I set up our picnic blanket in a spot with a beautiful view. I ask her teasingly if she needs a bib, pull out her a sippy cup from the picnic basket, and we share a delicious meal as the sounds of nature and a distant train horn fill our senses. Her eyes light up when she sees the sweet treats I snuck into the basket. The occasional breeze ruffles the leaves and gives me goosebumps. The weather is amazing today, and I’m so thankful to be sharing it with her. After our meal, we put everything back in the car and I casually check her diaper. It’s wet, but there’s still enough capacity to last the afternoon. I help her change into clothes more fitting for a hike and apply some anti-chaffing balm to her diaper area. She thanks me for protecting her, and I light up. We set off into the nearby forest to go on one of our characteristic adventures. Along the way, I direct her to find five signs of fall as a scavenger hunt. After all, we’re both so excited for the cozier days of autumn ahead. After the fifth one, I pull out a gold star sticker and put one on her hand. She swoons as I call her “my good girl” and we continue down the path holding hands. She spots a mushroom and gets excited. In the task app that we share, she gets Good Girl Points for each day she points out a mushroom, squirrel, or bunny. It takes her a while, but she finds the others too and I give her some praising pats on the head and an encouraging hug. I’m so proud of her. I start wondering what reward she’ll end up redeeming these Points for. Awhile later, we stop on a bench for a quick rest. One minute turns into an hour as we start talking about anything and everything. Her head rests on my lap and she’s looking up at me with those dough eyes that constantly melt my heart. I run my fingers through her hair over and over as we keep sharing our innermost thoughts. In that moment, I feel another surge of gratitude for her and this beautiful life connection that we share. Our dynamic is just the icing on top. The end of the hike leads us to a stunning overlook on a ridge facing out to the west. It’s a hidden gem, and we question how no one else knows about it. But for now, it’s our little secret, just like our CG/l roles and what she wears most of the time. We’re miles from anyone at this point, and we revel in the ability to just be our full selves together. It’s approaching sunset now, so I set up my tripod to capture a timelapse. Maybe we can inspire others to have their own adventures! We hold hands and sit there together in silence just taking it all in. Eventually the last gimmer of sun disappears below the horizon and the clouds light up in a dizzying array of color that fills us with awe and wonder. She grabs my arm and I pull her close, then I let out a content sigh as she rests her head against my shoulder. This is magical. We get back to the car with the aid of a flashlight and headlamp. To her delight, some late-season lightning bugs also help light our way. We joke about how I call them lightning bugs and she calls them fireflies. Before we drive off, I lay her down in the back on the changing mat and give her the diaper change she’s needed for a while. All clean now! Diaper changes are one of our most intimate moments, and we share our usual embrace after. We head home and she plays passenger princess by choosing our playlist and feeding me snacks. I catch her looking out the car window up at the stars a few times. My little stargazer. It’s getting late once we’re home, but we’re hungry. We decide to make our best quick recipe and help each other out in the kitchen. Cooking together always makes the meal taste even better. We take turns playing music from our playlists at dinner. She then asks to make a dessert to satisfy her sweet tooth, but I tell her it’s too late. She pulls out her task app and redeems the Good Girl Points she earned today for a homemade dessert reward. I knew this would come back to bite me. We get baking and I feed her the cookies she decided on. This time she gets that bib. I can’t trust her with crumbs. It’s getting close to bedtime now, and it’s time to start our routine. The thinner diaper I put her in before leaving the park is pretty wet now, so I strip her of that and draw a bath. She likes extra bubbles, so I pour in more than any rational person should accept. I locate some bath toys, including our cute turtle and whale friends, plus some water-soluble markers and bath foam. We like taking baths together, so I sit down in the back with my legs around her. She starts playing with her toys and draws some cute hearts and butterflies on the wall. I tell her she’s such a good drawer, then put my arms around her and hold her tight. She’s the sweetest thing ever. I can tell she’s getting tired now. After drying off, I lead her to our nursery and help her onto the changing table. I put a stuffie into her arms, which she instinctively hugs. Now she has a fresh diaper for bed, and an adorable onesie to make her feel extra safe. She smiles up at me again with those same dough eyes. I revel in the shared admiration we have for each other in moments like this. I pop a paci in her mouth and clip it to her onesie, then head to the kitchen to make her a bottle of choco moo, our silly name for chocolate milk. I return to the nursery and see her holding her stuffie, clearly trying to hold off sleep. The way she rhythmically sucks on her paci is so calming to me too. I put the bottle down in our nursery’s cozy corner and pick her up from the changing table. She instinctively attaches herself to me like a koala. Picking her up and carrying her around is one of my favorite things as a caregiver. I gently put her down and pull a soft blankie over her and her stuffie. I pick out a bedtime story that we recently got from the library and settle in behind her. She nestles her head into the crook of my arm and I can’t help but kiss her head. She giggles, then yawns. We both laugh as her paci falls out. Time for her bottle, I guess! I hold that up to her mouth in one hand as I start reading our story about adventures and kindness. The voices are her favorite part, and I lean into it for dramatic effect. By the time I’m done reading, she’s finished her bottle and obviously ready for bed. I reach down around her onesie and feel that her diaper is already a tiny bit wet. She’s told me that’s her favorite way to fall sleep. So cute. She loves having a bottle before bed, but it means she has one last responsibility. She always protests, but we head to the bathroom for Toothbrush Buddies! It’s our fun name to make brushing our teeth less of a chore. We make our customary silly faces and noises at each other. I love how light-hearted and fun we both make each other feel. Once we both finish up, I carry her into our bedroom and tuck her in with a forehead kiss, placing her paci back in her mouth. She grabs her bed stuffie before I can even get it and holds it close. I lock the door, turn out the lights, and hop into bed myself. She knows to roll on her side at this point, and I settle up behind her and make her my little spoon. It feels like the most natural thing in the world. I give her a few reassuring diaper pats, hear a few last giggles, then I put my arm around her and her stuffie. We sleep like this every night, whether we’re in our CG/little spaces or not. Within minutes, I feel her body’s sleepy twitches, meaning she’s drifted peacefully off to sleep. A blissful smile comes to my face, and I feel an immense sense of calm. Like everything is right in the world. I used to have horrible insomnia, but holding her makes me feel at ease and clears my mind like nothing else. Right before I fall asleep, I reflect back on our incredible day and how special our connection is. Her curiosity of the world, compassion, calmness, generosity, innocence, and appreciation of small things all make my heart light up. The vulnerability we share as both adult partners and CG/l is so beautiful. And while not every day can be as magical as this one, I feel excited for the lifetime of memories ahead of us.

That is absolutely not a normal interaction and I am sorry you experienced that! He sounds like a creep that tries to take advantage of littles for his own sexual pleasure which is disgusting. Daddies have to earn the right to be called that, and asking you to call him daddy immediately is a big red flag. Please please be careful with sending any pictures that might be viewed inappropriately (including feet pics since that may be a fetish for some too). If you don't feel comfortable sending them then do not feel pressured to send them. Saying no does not mean you are not a good little. Saying no is important and essential to protect yourself. Anyone who resepects littles, especially someone who does not have a proper established relationship with you yet, should understand that. I hope you do not feel guilty or feel obliged to keep talking to this scumbag fake daddy. Take care and be safe ok!

WHEN SHOULD SHE CALL YOU DADDY? I have been ready a fair amount of posts lately about the term Daddy and when it should be used. (I originally posted this on another side - but after my other post about “What Dominance Means to Me” I thought this was a fitting addition or follow up). I am frequently reading posts about potential Dominants starting conversations as “Daddy” or instructing the submissive to address them as “Daddy” in the first few messages. They begin conversations with orders and requests, feeling they a level of entitlement because they have given themselves the name “ Daddy” and feel fully confident in that role. As someone who takes pride in the title of “Daddy”, who takes pride in the community - I have issue with this. Imagine this scenario. You are sitting in Starbucks (one of my favourite places to hang out - judge me if you must) and you see a women walk in, that you are attracted to. You watch her order a coffee and sit down, she’s attractive and exhibits submissive tendencies. (Now, if your next question is “what are submissive tendencies” then I think you need to do some homework before becoming fully immersed in this site). Now walk over to her, take her by the hand and say “hello little girl nice to meet you, I am your Daddy, I will tell you what to do ! How do you think you will fair? Probably not so well. This is the approach that many are taking and though some may have the best intentions, it’s truly inappropriate. Let’s try to imagine the world for a moment from a little girls point of view. I am going to share a beautiful example someone shared with me many years ago. I have changed it somewhat … (poet license allows that) It’s a metaphorical story on how a little girl sees the grown up world - how she (my good friend) saw it. A little girl is all alone standing on the edge of a path, looking into a dark foreboding forest, it’s late at night, it’s cold, dark, rainy and wet. She is frightened, lost and unsure of what to do. Deep into the forest she sees a faint light flickering inside the window of a keep. She calls out “Hello” directing her voice towards that light, asking the keeper of the light for help. Off in the distance she hears a comforting voice that says “how may I help”? She calls back, “it’s dark and I am scared”. The figure off in the darkness moves his hands and pushes the clouds away and says “let me be your light ”. As the clouds are move away and the darkness dissipates, she feels less afraid. The path ahead of her is less foreboding but still unclear. “But, I am still cold and alone” she cries back. He moves his hands again and storm subsides slowly the rain eventually stops. “Then let me be your warmth” he says showing her the sun. She smiles and feels his warmth. “Is that better” he asks? “Yes” she responds He waits and a few minutes later he hears her voice again. “I am confused and lost” she says, “I can’t see where I am going - everything is overwhelming” He moves his hands and the dark trees and obstacles become a green and open field, with a winding path leading to a small brick and mortar keep. She giggles and says “thank you, now I feel better and I can see the way”. “My pleasure” he says and again patiently waits. “Who are you” she says, “I can’t see you behind that wall. I don’t know who you are”. He takes his hands and meticulously removes each brick stacking them in a pile, giving each one a name “fear, doubt, insecurity, anxiety…. so eventually, she can see who he is. “Thank you” she says, “now I can see you”. He smiles at her and waits. “I am still unsure” she says, “I am still a bit frightened”. He takes this as his cue and walks slowly forward, meeting her in the open field. He lays a blanket out for her. He sits on the on the blanket and offers her a place to sit. He opens a large basket and offers to share the contacts inside. Over the next few hours, he feeds her, talks to her and comforts her. After a period of time, she builds up her confidence and speaks. “This is nice” she says, “where are we”? “This is my world, this is the big world”, he responds, “would you like me to show you around”? She nods and agrees, curios to see what his world is all about. He waits but she sits on the blanket looking at him. He waits and finally she speaks. “I am still hesitant” she says, “I still do not feel safe”. He stands and offers his hand and tells her the following. “While you hold my hand, I will look after you, I will protect and cherish you, I will guide you and will give you my word that nothing will cause you are harm”. She takes his hand and says, “your a nice man what shall I call you”? “My name is Sir - but you can me whatever you like. You can call whatever makes you feel comfortable little girl”. She thinks for a moment about what he’s said, how he’s made her feel and what he’s done for her. She thinks about what he’s promised to do and how that makes her feel safe. She smiles and says “thank you sir, if it’s okay, I would like to call you Daddy” ? He smiles back and squeezes her little hand. “I would like that ‘little girl’, I would like that very much” he replies, “here, let me show you my world”. Now, yes it’s a bit of a corny and romantic tale, but remember who the reader is. Remember who you are addressing and how they may see the world. It may not be perfect but it’s a far deal better than full on “Dominance with sexual intentions”. So in a nutshell and go back to my original question, “When should she call me Daddy” the decision should be hers. Be that amazing man and she won’t want to call you anything else but her Daddy. I hope you have enjoyed my words and hope in some way they have resonated with you. As always positive feedback is always welcome and I encourage all of you to write and post on the site. Education is vital to understanding what this dynamic is truly about. “Thank you LG for the stories you shared and how you helped me see the world through different eyes”. As always, thanks for the read. Drew.

Hello and I hope everyone is having a good day so far. I have recently noticed a trend in the dynamic that has increased. It has always been there over the past twenty years or so that I have been a Daddy/Dom. However it seems to have increased dramatically and I would just like to bring this up as I feel it can help all of those that may have an opportunity for a relationship. I ask all littles to please understand that any potential Daddy you may be talking with often has responsibilities and work that may delay a response and to give the opportunity for us to respond to a message prior to think you are being ghosted. I bring this up because I began speaking to a little recently and we had been talking for several hours. I was called into work for the fires in my area and worked a twelve hour shift getting home around 2am. Unable to message as I needed to do my job, however the little who I was speaking to assumed I ghosted her and that is very far from the truth. I enjoyed the time talking despite it was only a day or so. Not venting not mad, a bit frustrated is all. just please understand while there would be nothing better then to be a Daddy to a little again, we Daddys also need to be understood. Just felt this needed to be said and understood. Hope everyone has a wonderful day today!

I'm so tired of online dating. I have been trying for a long time and keep finding and talking to new people because, either we're not attracted to each other, she's AI, she's a catfish, she's a camgirl or OF girl, or some combination of those. Or the worst of all, we click beautifully, like each other's looks, have long conversations every night for a week, then she disappears spontaneously only to reappear ten days later, say "let's go out tomorrow" and never open another message again(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!). But those aren't what I'm ranting about today. Today the rant is about why it seems so hard for someone to respond to me with more than a SHORT sentence. Even catfish and AI should be good enough to answer "How long have you been into this kind of relationship?" with more flair than "6 years." And "What got you into it?" shouldn't be followed up by "My boyfriend." Do better! I don't want to talk to AI and Catfish, but the least it could do is feign interest beyond, "I just want a Daddy. I miss having one." I wish there would be questions and conversations. So far almost all the people I end up talking to aren't real, and even most of the real ones have been uninteresting and failed to have more than a sentence response to important questions like, "Is there an experience you really loved in the past? One that made you reconsider how sex could be?" -- btw, the response to that was, "I really prefer making new memories instead of reliving past scenes." Last, I want to be asked questions. I want the person I am pouring my heart into to make it look like she's giving even the smallest piece of hers. I get that it's hard to come up with them, especially when you're a catfish or AI, but how hard is it to ask the basics, "I've not done X, have you? what do you like about it? can you tell me about your first/favorite time?" Surprisingly, OF girls are okay at this one. I have had more OF girls ask me questions and feign interest really well, only to have them tell me that we can connect more, and more personally, if I pay for her sub. But the worst part is that their barely passable show of interest feels so good after having so little. Thanks for letting me vent. (edited for spelling)

New revelations: I want a Daddy but I don't need a Daddy. Got interested in DDlg when I was in a bad mental headspace and thought having a caregiver Daddy might solve all my problems. Someone who would take care of me, make all the decisions for me, and let me live as a happy little princess forever. It sounds lovely, right? The real world is not so sweet of course. I think I've started to become disenchanted by the fantasy. The more I connect with potential "daddies" out there, the more I realize these are just men with their own problems they're trying to deal with/run away from. Some want a little girl to have a sense of control in their life, some want one for pleasure, and others maybe to fill a void. Taking care of my mental health, learning to love myself, and accomplishing things on my own as an independent adult made me discover that I don't really need a Daddy after all. I'm pretty happy! Even though I am still a little, I am a little because I like it! I think I'm learning to parent my little self on my own in a way. Having a Daddy in the future would be nice, but it's not a necessity. I might even be okay with a vanilla guy who is accepting of my little side. Or no guy at all for that matter! Maybe I'm just getting tired of the desperate "daddies" out there, or I haven't met the right Daddy yet, but eh. I wanted to let out these thoughts somewhere. Remember that you have everything you need. Don't let anyone confuse your wants and needs. Thanks for reading!

To start, Content Warning for mentions of weight loss. Hello everyone! Many, many moons ago, I came across a DDLG Youtuber (who has long since deleted her channel) discuss her weight loss journey/fitness journey and how she was coinciding it with her DDLG/Littlespace lifestyle. I thought it was the neatest thing, and kick myself for not remembering much about what she said. I was reminded of it as there is an ongoing discussion in another thread regarding exercising and making it littlespace-themed. So, I was thinking others might be interested in a thread regarding it! I know myself personally am trying to lose weight and be more active, and if it were little-themed, it would be so much more fun!! SO, here's a few ideas of what a DDLG style fitness journey could look like: - find a fun kids' exercise program or activity. You could do Disney Dance routines, hula hoop, pole dance, workout to Little music, or (like the girl in the video mentioned) you could jumprope! - make sure to have plenty of fruits and veggies, but make the food cute in a bento box style - put your daily water goal in a sippy or adult bottle - keep track of your goals on a sticker chart - try to switch out pop/soda with flavored water, sugar free Koolaid, light juice, or milk - another thing the video mentioned that I'm not sure I would do myself was eat a kid's portion from the kid's menu when you eat out. sometimes that fills me up but you also wanna make sure you eat enough, you know? - watch cartoons while you workout - get Little-ified treats for hitting goals (new stuffie?) These are just some things I had rolling around in my noggin. If anyone wants to share more ideas I would love it!

It's only delusional until it actually works out. There's nothing wrong with people having high standards. What seems impossible to you might be completely possible to them, and them being clear from the beginning about what they want is actually saving you time than wasting it I think. Attraction is pretty subjective too. (Healthy lifestyle, selfcare, how one presents themselves etc taken into account) As a little myself with standards that may seem unrealistic or unfair to others, I'll say all power to them. It's a relationship, not a charity case. Rather be a happy little on my own than lower myself for anyone or settle for something less than I feel I deserve. If that makes me seem entitled, so be it. I'm a princess after all. 👸✨️ Delulu aside for a sec, I know this probably wasn't the response you were looking for, but wish you all the best in finding a little that is right for you and wants you for who you are! No need to feel discouraged from that interaction, but also don't put others down if you're not what they're looking for and vise versa.

Hi everyone! I just wanna say I got the job I really wanted! I was so super anxious about the interview and not getting the job, but I did it!! *Happy dances all over*

I'm so pleased to see a topic about this! As CGs, many of us are used to talking about and encouraging littlespace within littles. I've done platonic babysitting with little friends, so I'm familiar with negotiating with them about what energy their little side enjoys, what accessories (bottles, pacis, stuffies) speak to them, what activities help them get into headspace, how to naturally have an adult check-in conversation without it being jarring, the type of aftercare needed, etc. Then I had an epiphany that aligns with "Daddyspace" when talking to someone a few weeks ago. I can't believe it took me so long! Now I come across this post, and it's a perfect chance to discuss. In my own experience, Daddyspace feels very light and floaty. I already see the world through rose-colored glasses and care deeply about the people and critters in it. I find there's beauty to be found everywhere. Getting into Daddyspace amplifies that, heightens what's already there. I feel this surge of energy and my worries fade away. I become single-focused on being in the present and anticipating her upcoming needs. Every time she giggles, I feel a rush. Every time she holds onto my arm, I can't help but smile. Watching her rhythmically suck on her paci is equally calming to me too. I feel this surge of connection to her and to myself. It's like feeling grounded in my body, to the Earth, and my surroundings. It's a feeling I haven't been able to fully replicate outside of CG/l, except perhaps when I saw the total solar eclipse or the northern lights. The satisfaction in knowing that I'm bringing her that safe space is so powerful. I've also thought about the personality characteristics, accessories, energies, and aftercare that help foster my Daddyspace, but that's a discussion for another time. But in general, I think the more we can talk about Daddyspace and have words to explain this to our littles, the more they'll feel comfortable opening up. I've talked to many who feel guilt over being vulnerable because littlespace feels so one-sided. But now that I'm expanding my vocabulary, these pre-CG/l negotiations can be a two-way street. That means I'll get my needs met because I can communicate what works for me, and she can feel more assured that I'm getting just as much out of the experience as she might.

I'm happy to share my experiences, if they can be at all helpful! I've always been a naturally nurturing person, but I was also not encouraged to share my feelings much when I was younger. Over the years, caregiving has actually been very therapeutic for me, as it gives me the opportunity to express myself in creative ways. There are few things more satisfying than having these expressions accepted. It's so, so important for my mental health. I often feel that I have so much to give, but if my caregiving is not accepted, it leaves me feeling a bit hollow. As a long time caregiver of someone with a lot of trauma, I know that are many reasons why a little may not be able to receive certain kinds of caregiving at certain moments. Being a CG has taught me a lot of patience and empathy. Honestly, it's not a stretch to say that's it's boosted my "emotional IQ" considerably. Further, being a Daddy brings a lot of resolution and solidarity to my life. Knowing that others are counting on me and looking to me for support helps me be more organized. I am only speaking for myself, of course, but it's much easier for me to focus on things when my success can contribute to the success of my little in some way. Echoing some of what has been said here, growing and developing with someone on such an intimate level is deeply satisfying. It takes a lot of trust and vulnerability to make these types of relationships thrive. There are always challenges, but when it works it's SO lovely! 😌 For all parties involved. Seeing a little overcome issues they thought were insurmountable makes me feel so proud and happy. If I can contribute to such success in even a small way, it's always worth whatever challenges come up in the relationship.

This person was not trying to be a daddy, or a dom, or anything short of an absolute creep. You did the absolutely right thing with putting your foot down and respecting yourself and your boundaries. This man sounds like a living red flag. Often these type of people start off with small orders like this to test what you'll listen to, and when you didn't he went to scolding you to see if that would work instead... If you had complied, it likely would have quickly escalated to a much more dangerous situation. You trusted your instincts and as @NR_Daddy said, dodged a bullet. I also wanted to touch on the fact that you learned about DDLG from books, which are a fun fantasy, but often very far from reality and can depict very codependent and unhealthy power dynamics through a rose colored lens. Doesn't mean those type of stories can't be fun to read or give you some ideas into what you might like, but it is important to remember they are fantasies and not necessarily how most dynamics end up looking. At least, that's not how they will be all the time. We're lucky to have a wealth of information here on the forum from many different people, where no two dynamics are the same. Little space is different for everyone and everyone's relationship with their partners will be different too, but they should always involve clear open communication, safety, healthy boundaries and enthusiastic consent. You did amazing communicating with him, several times, that you were uncomfortable and things were going too fast and in the wrong direction, he did not make you feel safe, he did not attempt to communicate, he did not respect your boundaries, and he did not have your consent before trying to initiate these things. Daddies do not act like that. Creeps and abusers do. Always trust your gut ❤️

My Daddy and I will be together 7 years this November and we are planning to get engaged next year. It is definitely possible. What I've found is people who jump right into a DDlg dynamic within a couple weeks of meeting rarely stand the test of time. Those who spend time getting to know one another as people first and who then add DDlg seems far more likely to have long term stable relationships.

So I used to go to Little Scouts back when that was a thing (gosh that makes me feel older) and there were some littles who would talk about work and bills while we were doing stuff like making a sculpture using candy and toothpicks. It got so bad that our leader had to clamp down on it. With that said, please understand that there is no "right way" to be a little. It's going to be different for each of us. Some of us have a precocious vocabulary and others revert to more simple words. It's all still littlespace because it's deeply personal. I'd say, coming from personal experience, when anyone is in a safespace designed for littles, try to keep your conduct at a PG level. This ideally includes swearing even as I can be pretty bad at swearing around other littles (and sometimes kids too. It's bad). This is just because it can unintentionally take other's headspace out of littlespace, which is kinda rude. But otherwise, this princess believes you're little and no one can take that away from you. Remember that way you little is valid! It's just also important to make sure you don't unintentionally take someone else out of their littlespace. So try to save the adult talk for later and instead talk about your favorite cartoon or something you saw yesterday that made you happy I hope this helps!

So I did a thing. I lurked. I saw. I sipped some tea. And because I saw what I saw, I'd like to state an additional opinion about the overall situation. *Ahem* There seems to be two kinds of users here on this site. User Type 1) Only wants to search for a dynamic partner. Has zero interest in any level of finding friendship by utilizing our community. And may or may not be looking for instant gratification. User Type 2) Is an active member of the community that enjoys socializing outside of just the personal/friend zone sections. I, obviously, fall under UT2. However, it seems to me that the user you interacted with is a UT1. Not saying that there's technically anything wrong with being a UT1, but they're definitely a specific type of *special* in non dynamic social settings. Basically, I'm telling you to not feel bad about this interaction, because it's literally a them problem. The gods forbid if someone reaches out in a non-sexual/partner-seeking way. *eye roll*

Someone doesn’t want to be called sunshine, their prerogative. However, hurt people hurt people, so it sounds as if they were just lashing out. Kindness in any fashion, especially on a site like this, can dredge up all kinds of repressed feelings of self-loathing and hurt. In my opinion, which you can take with a grain of salt obviously as this is the internet, but fuck that noise. It should have stopped simply with “I prefer not to be called sunshine, thank you.” Any further insults or additional venom and drivel spewed following said polite asking to refrain from pet names is garbage. Perhaps THEY don’t feel this is a family or community because they don’t recognize the healthy dynamics we all have with each other. I have a Daddy and he’s on here, but I also have friends I consider family here. Like I’ve mentioned previously on a post, family dynamics can be hard for people and when they see it modeled here through our kind interactions that border on familial familiarity, they may not be receptive of that level of attention. Again, just my opinion, but if you’re comfortable with yourself and how you communicate with people, then do not change. Respect someone asking politely to refrain, but in situations like this, the reaction was excessive and unnecessary. You’re part of this FAMILY here. Do what you feel you must, but just know we are all here for you whenever and however we can be. You are loved and worthy of being loved. 💜

Hi littles, I just wanted to share my bracelet I made yesterday, Daddy will often encourage me with things like colouring time, game time or something crafty, as he knows I love anything crafty or arty. I’ll upload my rainbow loom bands soon. please share your pictures and ideas with me, I’d love to see them 😁 I hope you like it😊 lily.

It's so easy to get caught up in this life, so easy to forget that you are important and that you matter. When daily struggles start coming against you and and even just small little inconveniences can make you feel like you don't matter. All the noisiness inside of our heads, we forget who we are. We forget how to smile, how to laugh, how to even get up and walk outside. And during it all we can't see anything, but it's all a lie. We do matter, you do matter. Someone out there cares for you, you are not alone, and you are so worthy of being loved. Don't let the noises in your head make you doubt yourself. Don't let the distractions of your life outweigh your beauty. Don't ever let someone steal your sunshine. You are so strong, so brave, and so beautiful. I know it seems hard at times, but none of you are really alone. I know you don't know me, but I will be there for you. You will never be a burden, you will never be an inconvenience, your thoughts and feelings are valid. You matter and you matter to me. So please if you feel alone, if you need a friend, if you just need someone to listen my door is always open. It doesn't matter if you're a mommy, a daddy, a master, sub, little or whatever you might be, my door is always open. To me that's what it means to be a mommy, to help others, to show love, show kindness, to show compassion and to show you that you matter and I see you. You're perfect just the way you are and you are so beautiful inside and out. Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worth your being loved 💞💝💖💓

I'm not sure what kind of advice you're looking for. I'm just gonna go through the things that concern me and make me want to suggest ending this relationship immediately. "I barely know this woman" "I need to dominate her and that means that she has to feel like she doesn't want to do it and she's being forced. " "She keeps responding, saying that she doesn't like this and this isn't what she wanted and everything and I keep telling her that it's not her choice because she has sworn to me as her daddy and master." "at this point I feel like I am owed" "I'm so inexperienced in all of this and I barely know her" "when we see each other next she is going to be disciplined for all of her infractions, so I feel like that's a huge part of it too that she's not going to go into that willingly." "Manipulation is inherently part of this dynamic and it's harder to understand what is real and what isn't." To highlight every concerning thing I read would require a full reposting. These things don't just look bad out of context. They look just as bad in context. Again, I would strongly advise leaving this relationship immediately and take a some time to do some reflection. This can be an extremely difficult relationship dynamic to navigate. It can get anyone confused real quick. No one can really say definitively what a relationship should look like, but the warning signs for a toxic/abusive one are pretty universal. "I am not one that wants to be abusive, but" There should not be a "but" after that statement. It sounds like there is a serious failure in communication for the two of you and it would be too easy for you to fail in recognizing a legitimate withdrawal of consent. "She has no safe word". You have no experience. It's all bad. This is bad. I don't want to come off as being harsh or judgmental and we can talk more privately if you would like. I'm not trying to put you on the defensive. I'm just really concerned. I'm here if you need help, but my advice stands. Let her go without making this harder for the both of you. After all,you "barely know this woman.".

It’s been nine years on this forum, and in that time, I’ve witnessed so many changes. From the “Tumblr girlies” to the rebellion against Fetlife, the rise of clubs, and the evolution of DDLG into CGL—I’ve seen it all. I’ve watched the questions "Am I little", "Is this a red flag" and “Are we even still kink?” rise and fall, felt the highs and lows of chat being lost and restored, and seen countless faces and usernames come and go. Through it all, honestly, I’ve loved every single moment. I’ve met people in real life, watched lives transform, and seen souls grow. I’ve grown so much myself, and I often wonder where I’d be without this little corner of the internet. Every time I step away and return, it feels like coming home. Whether I’ve been incredibly active or completely off the grid, coming back always feels like finding my way back to something familiar, something that’s always there for me. Thank you, admins, for your tireless outpouring. I’ve watched the progress, the updates, and the genuine care and effort you've all poured into this place. You’ve created a small haven for littles, middles, caregivers, and everyone else to truly be themselves. For that, I am deeply, deeply grateful. And to all the users, thank you as well. For the conversations, the shared experiences, the support, and the warmth you bring to this space. You’ve helped shape this place into something more than just a forum—into a community. I’m incredibly thankful to be a part of this journey with all of you.

Me and my little girl have been together for three and a half years and fall more in love every day! Not only do we have a healthy relationship, but we are both growing as people as we learn from each other. I don't want this to sound like bragging but it definitely is possible!

The people telling you that are gatekeeping and trying to make themselves feel better or special. Quite simply they're just wrong. There is no right or wrong way to be little. Ignore them.

Her name is cj and she loves her bed and falling asleep with her head in your hand

Let me preface this all by saying, most of this post is from personal experience. I am a middle but I believe Little's as well as Caregivers caring for Little's of any age can learn from this and the general outline. This is just a starting point. Rules Every set of rules is going to be different, simply because every Little and CG is different. There are a few important things to keep in mind when making your own set of rules. #1 Rules are not meant to control and restrict. #2 Rules are meant to guide and enrich. #3 Rules can and should be modified as seen necessary. We know everyone is different which means what I need to help myself grow and enrich is going to be different from anyone else. This is why communication during the making of rules is so important. The following are rules that I personally use, below each rule is a short reason for why this rule is used. Most rules are meant to help me personally cope and be the best that I can be, with the help and encouragement of my CG. We both sat down and made these rules together. No television until I have read for at least 30 minutes. Reading is something I LOVE DOING. But when you are facing depression, it is difficult to keep doing the things that you love. Daily Chores must be completed before going out This one is a lenient one, if I am working that morning, obviously this isn't feasible. Wake up by 9am on Weekdays & 10am on Weekends. To us, waking up early means a longer, more fruitful and productive day Must be showered & dressed by 11am Once again depression factors into this rule. If I had my way I would be in my pajamas, in bed all day most days. May only be on the computer or phone for 30mins after bedtime (reading is okay) This is also a lenient rule we have, due to my position on this site. It is a rule because I do struggle with sleeping, taking away screens helps calm me down before a night of rest. Must eat something before 5pm Was originally "eat before 3pm" I am sorry to say that proved difficult to implement so it was modified to make it easier for me to accomplish. No coffee after 8pm Too much caffeine = bad night of sleep for me. Another modified rule, originally "No coffee after 5pm" psh yeah right No energy drinks without permission As you can probably tell, I have a caffeine problem. Honestly got so tired of waiting for the okay, that I have not had an energy drink in ages. Monitored drinking (alcohol) & smoking Both of these are mentally and physically related. For my health across the board. Negative self thoughts & feelings should be directed to my CG. I understand that many have rules stating "no negative talk/thoughts" and ideally this would be good enough. Realistically, one cannot hope to completely stop such thoughts and ignoring them is not effective. So my CG prefers that I talk to him about these things, so he can converse with me, soothe my feelings, help me think positively and help me change these things I dislike. No online shopping without permission hehe No art projects requiring paint and/or glue without permission/supervision hehehheehehehehehe No phone or computer out during meals Just a common courtesy thing. Note that a few rules were amended. This is because rules are not meant to be broken however, those rules were broken an incredible amount of times. Rather than continue senseless punishment, amendment of those rules was made to help me. Modify rules as much as needed and go over rules every now and again, some rules may be taken out and some may need to be added. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow a rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following your CG's rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. Rewards Rewards are the best thing that comes with having rules! Depending on if you are LDR or close, your form of Rewards or Reward System may differ. Rewarding your Little & your CG is very important, that is right, you should reward your CG for taking care of you! It is not an easy job! Rewards Systems Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Easy to use Reward System, good for LDR and near by. Create daily & weekly tasks for rewards! Doing ‘x’ amount of chores or tasks unlocks ‘x’ reward! Time Bank ~ For doing various chores and tasks your Little can collect “time”. The time can be used to stay up late, play games or watch television instead of doing chores! Chore planner ~ Everyday is a new day with new tasks, have your Little write out goals and things to accomplish that day, reward at the end of the week or monthly! (I personally use this concept, helps me keep track of what needs to be done) Sticker chart ~ You can take a calendar and everyday chores or tasks are completed add a cute sticker!! Then make a reward bank, x amount of stickers gets you x reward! You can cash in the stickers for smaller rewards or bank them for awhile for a super cool reward! Rewards for Littles! Special rabb.it movei night ~ Your Little had such a good week, let her/him pick out a movie for the two of you to watch together! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your little make their very own wishlist, books, stuffies, movies, clothes, collars and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Special game night ~ If you have the same gaming console or maybe a fun game on your phone a night spent gaming together will be a good reward! Send a Little Care Package ~ New stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne, coloring books/pencils, stickers, glitter, bath bombs, ALL ABOUT LITTLE DAY ~ this is a HUGE reward. Plan a day the two of you have off and let your Little GO WILD. A few hours at the beach/zoo/toy store/build a bear, maybe a movie night out, or a movie night in the cool blanket fort you guys made! Maybe a tea party! The possibilities are endless and you are both sure to have TONS OF FUN! Rewards for Cgs! Send a CG Care Package ~ A bunch of drawings and colourings you made, pictures of you and your favorite stuffies, a stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne so they have something to cuddle! Gaming Console Gift Cards! (Xbox, PlayStation, Steam, etc) Buy your CG a subscription to something like Hulu, Netflix or Spotify, something you know they would enjoy! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your Cg make their very own wishlist, books, video games, movies, clothes and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Make/Send your CG a homemade craft! CG’s Movie Night ~ Let you CG pick out their favorite movie and enjoy it together! Special Snacks ~ Make your CG their favourite snack to enjoy when they get home! Brownies! Cheesecake! Rice Krispie Treats! ALL ABOUT CG DAY!! ~ this is your CG’s very own special day! Let your CG drag you all around town doing the things they want to do! Make you CG food! Tuck them in for a nap! Buy them the candy from the store! Punishments The worst part of having rules and the most difficult part of being a CG. Once again, communicating during the creation of Punishments is vital. Inform your Little why are you punishing them before starting any punishment. Lack of communication can cause serious psychological damage. Make sure you have a safety word if any punishment is going too far or getting uncomfortable. Abide by the safety word. Note that not every broken rule is worthy of a punishment. Some broken rules simply need a stern, loving and guided conversation. You wouldn't punish someone for not eating, not taking medication or things of that nature. In certain cases like those, punishment may just make your Little afraid to talk you about things like that. Examples of positive reinforcement. Drinking coffee after the allowed time = No coffee tomorrow. Using phone or computer during meal = No more phone or computer for the night Not doing daily reading before television = No television for the night and/or next day Doing "x" without permission = Loss of doing "x" for the week or month Talking back (excessively) = Writing lines Not doing daily chores (with the exception of certain unavoidable circumstances) = More chores tomorrow Loss of an earned reward for excessive bad behaviour Examples of negative reinforcement Cut off communication Not communicating with your significant other for no apparent reason is psychologically damaging. Even if you are beside yourself, unsure what to do, generally angry. You owe it to your significant other to send, at the very least "I am upset and would like to talk about this tomorrow" Degradation, belittlement & name calling Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Slapping, hitting, punching, spanking anything considered physical abuse Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Taking away anything that violates consent. Such as; taking away bathroom rights, eating or socializing. Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Manipulation. Such as; taking away collars or physical affection. Sentences that start with "You don't deserve ‘me’ ‘my love’ ‘any love’ etc….” These are psychologically damaging, cruel and not okay unless specifically given the okay for punishment. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults.

My wish is that this poem gives hope to the hopeless and is a ray of light for those still in the dark. 💜 Little inside, living life with innocent eyes, With a terrible childhood, it’s no surprise. Cute, small, tiny, scared, Fighting for life, gasping for air. Why am I like this, this is so unfair, Splintered inside, pain beyond compare. Alone in the dark, I’m right on the verge, When out of the veil, a hand has emerged. You are safe now, a voice calls loud, Grab hold of my hand, I’ll lead you on out. A beacon of hope, in a suit made of flesh, Daddy has come, and now I may rest.

You are doing nothing wrong. I would not have joined the forum if I hadn’t seen one of your posts, & I wouldn’t have stuck around when I was made to feel uncomfortable that time. My grandparents taught me kindness above all else, “kindness is free to give out, but to the person reserving your kindness it’s value is immeasurable” that’s a motto they lived by, and to be honest the math on that is inarguable. I don’t know who this person is, but, in my experience people often find it hard & scary to accept words offered in kindness and care, if they are only used to words loaded with hurt and hate. I don’t say that to defend or because I think it should change anything, because it does not & I am not. What they did & how they responded was incredibly wrong & hurtful & that bit is on them because we are 100% in charge & responsible for our reactions to things. Don’t let this change you, or bring you down. Don’t let someone bring you into the dark, stay in the light.

For all those interested in the planets and stars, tonight will see an amazing sight in our skies, but only for some of us .... A Lunar Eclipse will happen on the night of 13th/14th March. A Lunar Eclipse happens when the Moon is cast in the Earth's shadow. The result is what is known as a Blood Moon, where the light that hits the Earth's atmosphere is split. Blue light is dispersed by the atmosphere, and red light is refracted through the atmosphere and reaches the Moon. This results in the Moon appearing to glow a red/orange/brown colour at the moment of total eclipse. Unfortunately not everywhere will see a total eclipse. Only the majority of North and South America will see the total eclipse. Europe will see only a partial eclipse, where some of the Moon is in the shadow of the Earth. For those who want to see a total eclipse in Europe, you won't have much longer to wait, as the phenomenon will happen on September 7th this year. Also, you will have to be up late in continental America to see the eclipse. Total eclipse is predicted at 2:26am EDT and will last just over an hour, so there are plenty of opportunities to see it and photograph it. If you want to see the partial eclipse in the UK, you will have to be up early, as it begins to eclipse at 3:57am and maximum of the eclipse in London will be at 6:19am Guide to watching the Lunar eclipse in America .... https://science.nasa.gov/solar-system/moon/what-you-need-to-know-about-the-march-2025-total-lunar-eclipse/ Guide to watching the Lunar Eclipse in the UK .... https://www.rmg.co.uk/stories/topics/lunar-eclipse-guide If you take any photos of it or watch it, I'd love to see and hear your account of it. Below is a photo I took of the lunar eclipse back in 2015 in Europe. Apologies for the quality, I had to shrink it to post here.

To your most excellent point, I have been thinking about how to make this list more inclusive for various caregiver roles within the D/lg community! Here's how we can adapt it for Mommies and Caregivers/Babysitters: For Mommies: Mostly, a simple swap: In most cases, you can simply replace "Daddy" with "Mommy" in the descriptions. The core dynamics and personality types often apply similarly. Highlight nurturing aspects: While all caregivers can be nurturing, you might want to emphasize this even more for Mommies, as that's often a strong association with the role. Consider additional archetypes: Think about Mommy-specific archetypes, like the "Playful Mommy" who loves silly games and dress-up, or the "Wise Mommy" who offers guidance and advice. For Caregivers/Babysitters: Focus on non-romantic care: Emphasize the caregiving aspects without the romantic or explicitly parental elements. Highlight flexibility: Caregivers/babysitters might be more flexible in terms of age play, activities, and the level of structure they provide. Consider specific needs: Some littles might prefer a caregiver who focuses on specific needs, like helping with schoolwork, managing emotions, or providing a safe space for regression. Here's how the adapted list might look (combining all roles): Based on Personality/Dynamic: The Classic: A traditional, authoritative figure (Mommy/Daddy). Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. The Playful: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder. (Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver) The Nurturing: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Creates a safe and comforting environment. (Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver) The Gentle: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. (Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver) The Strict: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. (Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver) The Dom: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements. (Mommy/Daddy) Based on Focus: The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support. May be less focused on sexual aspects and more on nurturing and emotional well-being. (This can encompass both Mommy and non-romantic Caregiver/Babysitter roles) The Dom: Combines the parental/caregiving role with a dominant sexual presence. (Mommy/Daddy) The Friend/Companion: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. (Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver) Important Considerations: Age Play vs. Age Regression: Applies to all roles. Personal Preferences: Communication is key to finding a good match, regardless of the specific roles involved. Consent and Safety: Paramount in all D/lg dynamics. Remember, this is just a starting point, and there can be many variations and combinations of these styles. The most important thing is for individuals to find a dynamic that feels safe, fulfilling, and consensual for everyone involved.

Firstly I want to recognise how hard and scary it can be to take steps to learn and educate yourself and grow as part of that. So well done for that. Now if you’ve been looking into kink/BDSM and DDLG you might have come across the acronyms RACK (Risk aware consensual kink) or SSC (safe sane consensual). One of the key things as part of both of these and any form of kink/BDSM is it being consensual. I’m sure you’re already aware of this but as part of that consent can be withdrawn at anytime. Consequently, safe words even simple ones as ‘no’ or ‘stop’ should be used as this makes it clear for all parties that consent is being withdrawn. Now like you said some people like CNC (consensual non-consent) or forced role play hence why using non-related words are often used as a safe word instead. This can be the traffic light system (I think this is a really great system for safe words but that’s just my perspective), it can also be a completely random word like avocado, I’m sure you get the picture. My point is safe words should be a non-negotiable in all dynamics. Particularly 24/7 or/and TPE dynamics. Dynamics should also be discussed and agreed to prior to starting a dynamic and for a dynamic to be health, it requires open, ongoing discussions and agreements. Bratting, like any behaviour in a dynamic, should be discussed and agreed upon beforehand. Some brats seek punishment; others don’t. If expectations around behaviour and discipline weren’t clearly defined from the start, it can create confusion and harm. Going back to CNC and forced role-play, these dynamics require even more communication and trust, with agreed-upon safe words to protect both partners. If she’s saying she wants out, pushing harder isn’t the solution; as previously mentioned consent can be withdrawn at anytime. The risk of confusion like you’ve pointed at here is why, like I’ve previously mentioned safe words are there to protect both parties and make sure everyone is on the same page. Furthermore, manipulation should never be an assumed part of a dynamic. Dynamics involving elements like CNC or resistance play can use manipulation. However, these dynamics should be agreed to and built on a foundation of trust, communication and clear consent. If someone expressed discomfort or withdraws consent that must be respected. If I were you I’d assume her cancelling plans and expressing uncertainty is her setting boundaries and trying to protect herself. Especially considering she has responsibilities outside the dynamic, I would take those things to mean she’s withdrawn consent and I’d consider trying to have a new open conversation outside of any dynamic. DDLG and TPE but also any dynamic requires high levels of trust and communication, which take time and careful negotiation - especially when you’re still new to this. If someone indicates they want out or aren’t comfortable, the healthiest and most ethical response is to pause and listen. Pushing harder when someone is expressing discomfort moves into dangerous territory and violates the core principles of SSC and/or RACK. it’s also important to remember that Dominance isn’t about pushing someone until they break - it’s about creating a space for both partners to feel safe, respected, seen, heard and valued. Finally, just like in any relationship no one is owed anything in a relationship. If your needs aren’t being met, discussing this with your partner or partners or choosing to step away, are often the best options. I just want to reiterate it sounds like a complicated situation. Particularly if this is new for you and you reaching out to ask for advice and help is very impressive. I applaud you for that.

It's an important message but one that I think is too often communicated in a one sided way. Boundaries should be respected whether some is a little, bottom, sub, Daddy, Top, Dom, or anything else. Boundaries are not one sided and to be set by one person in a relationship or dynamic. It is essential that ALL parties in a relationship or dynamic communicate their boundaries and have them respected. Too often I see people reminding littles, subs and bottoms that their boundaries are important but leaving out the other side of the equation which is as important.

On the bright side if they don’t respect your boundaries you know not to waist your time

Based on Personality/Dynamic: The Classic Daddy: A traditional, authoritative figure. Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. Often has a paternalistic or protector role. The Playful Daddy: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder and enjoys engaging in playful activities together. May be less strict with rules but still provides guidance. The Nurturing Daddy: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Focuses on creating a safe and comforting environment for their little. May be particularly attuned to their little's emotional needs and provides lots of cuddles and reassurance. The Gentle Daddy: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. Prefers a softer approach to discipline and focuses on building a strong emotional connection. The Strict Daddy: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. Provides a sense of security through firm guidance and may enjoy a more dominant role. The Dom Daddy: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements and focuses on power dynamics. May be strict or gentle depending on their personal style. (Note: Dominance is not inherently abusive, but it's crucial that it's consensual and safe.) Based on Focus: The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support for their little. May be less focused on sexual aspects of the dynamic and more on nurturing and emotional well-being. The Daddy Dom: Combines the paternalistic role with a dominant sexual presence. Enjoys taking control in both a caregiving and sexual context. The Friend/Companion Daddy: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. May be less strict with rules and more focused on mutual enjoyment. Important Considerations: Age Play vs. Age Regression: Some Daddies focus specifically on age play (roleplaying as a parent), while others cater to littles who experience age regression (mentally reverting to a younger age). Personal Preferences: Every Daddy/Caregiver has their unique preferences and style. Communication is key to finding a good match. Consent and Safety: All D/lg relationships should be built on consent, respect, and open communication. Safety is paramount.

Helloooo everybaby! This weekend my Daddy and I had the bestest time. He found these things at our local Kroger, they're a premade cookie kit with special markers that are edible! You color the cookie in with the markers and eat them! There's a bunchhh of characters but he got this one to try for us! It's Paw Patrol! ^ Daddy and I coloring them and me telling him all about the Paw Patrol puppies ^ us eating them with milk! They were sooo good and don't expire for a long time, we only had 2 but the pack comes with 6 whole cookies, two of each pattern so that everyone can have one of each if you do it with your caregiver/friend! As for bragging on my Daddy... He's really new to being a Daddy and is just doing so good. He saw those cookies and got them cuz he thought I would want to do that with him. Then we sat and he tried really hard to match the colors and listened to me babytalk about the showww. Afterwards he got me milk in my Hello Kitty cup he keeps just for when I visit him T-T he reminded me as we cleaned up to make sure the special marker lids were on really tight so we could use them again, I felt SO LITTLE. Anyway I hope you all enjoy those cookies if you get them!! Byeeeee!

I'm an aspiring caregiver so I don't have the experience to say with utmost certainty. However, what drew me to cgl/ddlg is the infatuation a little has for their caregiver, a sort of unconditional love for someone who deeply cares about them. It's that nurturing aspect that's there at all times, even during the sex, and I think that's quite beautiful. Speaking from experience, I'm quite a vulnerable and insecure person which is viewed overwhelmingly as negative outside this dynamic, yet it's almost considered desirable within this community. So I think that meme is relatable to my circumstances - it would allow me control, it would make me feel loved and appreciated, and make me accept my flaws as being simply human. I've been on this forum barely a week, but I've had some enlightening and cathartic conversations already, and it's done wonders for my mental health. I have much reading to do still, but I'm confident I've finally found my people.

The following is a very general and very basic list and explanation of different types of Littles! ADULT BABY ~ An Adult Baby is a little with the youngest age regression. Think diapers, pacis and sippy bottles/cups, cribs and tons of stuffies! BABYGIRL ~ A Babygirl doesn't necessarily identity with a certain age. They are emotionally sensitive and child-like in life. Tend to be submissive. BRATS ~ A brat can be either submissive or a non-submissive. Some like to disobey to be tamed or just enjoy mild to extreme punishment. Whereas some just do not wish to submit or to be punished, just want their way. A brat can be in any age range! LITTLES ~ Little is just a broad term for a wide age range! A term for someone who isn't sure what their little age is, or just has a fluctuating age range! MIDDLES ~ A middle is a general term of an older little. A bit older on the age scale, anywhere from 7 to the double digits. Generally more independent and enjoy cartoons, colouring and tons and tons of stuffies! NYMPHETS ~ A middle who is generally bratty, promiscuous and sexually forward. PETS ~ This is a more broad range, including; kittens, bunnies, wolves, puppies, foxes and many, many more. Much like a kitten they can be any age range and enjoy being played with, pet and taken care of! Again, think collars, cute ears, tags, toys and tails! KITTENS ~ A kitten is a more popular pet in DDLG. Enjoy being pet, played with and taken care of. A Kitten can be any age as well. Think cute little kitten ears, collars, tags, toys and tails! IMPS~ An imp is similar to a pet, many of them enjoy being collared, played with and taken care of. What defines an imp is their mischievous ways (similar to a brat). SWITCHES ~ A switch is someone who identifies as both a Little and a Caregiver. How often one goes into Caregiver or Little mode is dependent on the individual. DOMINANT LITTLES ~ A dominant little is a little that “calls the shots” in a DD/LG relationship, they still like to be taken care of and need the same amount of nurturing and love as any other little. SUBMISSIVES~ A submissive is a broad term that can encompass and be embodied by any little at any age. They enjoy being dominated and being taken care of. Keep in mind these are all very general and very basic archetypes of different types of littles. You can be more than one type of little or maybe none of these of all! What defines you being a little is not the terminology, just the fact that you are a little. If you don't feel as though you fit into any of these terms, do not fret! If there are any missing Little Types, please feel free to message me and I will add it on! If there is anything more I should add to any definitions, message me!