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Well hi there everyone. Let me introduce myself to those of you who won't know me. I'm Melly and I'm an admin here and one of the resident bad asses. I'm writing today because I'm noticing a worrying trend. I'm seeing a lot of people boasting about knowing the one true way. Let me tell you right now, there is no true way. It does not exist. The wonders about life and BDSM and CG/l or whatever you call it is that we can make it whatever we want in our relationships. We can chose and chop and adapt it to fit us. I don't care if as part of your relationship rituals you rub you partners cock three times and play the Hokey Cokey before bed. What I care about here is that your over the age of 18, if you have a partner they are over 18, you follow the rules, you be yourself and that your Safe, Sane and Consensual. SSC is the only part of all BDSM practises I expect everyone to follow. Your all great, amazing people and don't let others restrict who you are. Know here we accept everyone and you will be respected. This is meant to be a safe haven for people in this lifestyle and will continue to be so.

The following is a very general and very basic list and explanation of different types of Littles! ADULT BABY ~ An Adult Baby is a little with the youngest age regression. Think diapers, pacis and sippy bottles/cups, cribs and tons of stuffies! BABYGIRL ~ A Babygirl doesn't necessarily identity with a certain age. They are emotionally sensitive and child-like in life. Tend to be submissive. BRATS ~ A brat can be either submissive or a non-submissive. Some like to disobey to be tamed or just enjoy mild to extreme punishment. Whereas some just do not wish to submit or to be punished, just want their way. A brat can be in any age range! LITTLES ~ Little is just a broad term for a wide age range! A term for someone who isn't sure what their little age is, or just has a fluctuating age range! MIDDLES ~ A middle is a general term of an older little. A bit older on the age scale, anywhere from 7 to the double digits. Generally more independent and enjoy cartoons, colouring and tons and tons of stuffies! NYMPHETS ~ A middle who is generally bratty, promiscuous and sexually forward. PETS ~ This is a more broad range, including; kittens, bunnies, wolves, puppies, foxes and many, many more. Much like a kitten they can be any age range and enjoy being played with, pet and taken care of! Again, think collars, cute ears, tags, toys and tails! KITTENS ~ A kitten is a more popular pet in DDLG. Enjoy being pet, played with and taken care of. A Kitten can be any age as well. Think cute little kitten ears, collars, tags, toys and tails! IMPS~ An imp is similar to a pet, many of them enjoy being collared, played with and taken care of. What defines an imp is their mischievous ways (similar to a brat). SWITCHES ~ A switch is someone who identifies as both a Little and a Caregiver. How often one goes into Caregiver or Little mode is dependent on the individual. DOMINANT LITTLES ~ A dominant little is a little that “calls the shots” in a DD/LG relationship, they still like to be taken care of and need the same amount of nurturing and love as any other little. SUBMISSIVES~ A submissive is a broad term that can encompass and be embodied by any little at any age. They enjoy being dominated and being taken care of. Keep in mind these are all very general and very basic archetypes of different types of littles. You can be more than one type of little or maybe none of these of all! What defines you being a little is not the terminology, just the fact that you are a little. If you don't feel as though you fit into any of these terms, do not fret! If there are any missing Little Types, please feel free to message me and I will add it on! If there is anything more I should add to any definitions, message me!

We would like to welcome everyone that reads this to our home and family. We know there are other places you can go and groups you can join so we do appreciate you choosing us. It is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to share this journey with you. We understand how important the people you surround yourself with and the environment you hang out in is to your development and growth as a person. These things help to shape you and can either be a blessing or a mistake, we wish to be the former. So we are happy you are with us. You will see us refer to this place as our home, our village, and the members as our family quite often. That is because that is what this place and these people mean to us. This is not just a site we log into to kill time and escape for a few minutes. And by us I do not mean the staff, I mean each and every one of us that shares a love for our community and our extended family. This is our home and we care about it and those that are with us. So to all of you we say hello and welcome and enjoy your time with us, you are home.

Let me preface this all by saying, most of this post is from personal experience. I am a middle but I believe Little's as well as Caregivers caring for Little's of any age can learn from this and the general outline. This is just a starting point. Rules Every set of rules is going to be different, simply because every Little and CG is different. There are a few important things to keep in mind when making your own set of rules. #1 Rules are not meant to control and restrict. #2 Rules are meant to guide and enrich. #3 Rules can and should be modified as seen necessary. We know everyone is different which means what I need to help myself grow and enrich is going to be different from anyone else. This is why communication during the making of rules is so important. The following are rules that I personally use, below each rule is a short reason for why this rule is used. Most rules are meant to help me personally cope and be the best that I can be, with the help and encouragement of my CG. We both sat down and made these rules together. No television until I have read for at least 30 minutes. Reading is something I LOVE DOING. But when you are facing depression, it is difficult to keep doing the things that you love. Daily Chores must be completed before going out This one is a lenient one, if I am working that morning, obviously this isn't feasible. Wake up by 9am on Weekdays & 10am on Weekends. To us, waking up early means a longer, more fruitful and productive day Must be showered & dressed by 11am Once again depression factors into this rule. If I had my way I would be in my pajamas, in bed all day most days. May only be on the computer or phone for 30mins after bedtime (reading is okay) This is also a lenient rule we have, due to my position on this site. It is a rule because I do struggle with sleeping, taking away screens helps calm me down before a night of rest. Must eat something before 5pm Was originally "eat before 3pm" I am sorry to say that proved difficult to implement so it was modified to make it easier for me to accomplish. No coffee after 8pm Too much caffeine = bad night of sleep for me. Another modified rule, originally "No coffee after 5pm" psh yeah right No energy drinks without permission As you can probably tell, I have a caffeine problem. Honestly got so tired of waiting for the okay, that I have not had an energy drink in ages. Monitored drinking (alcohol) & smoking Both of these are mentally and physically related. For my health across the board. Negative self thoughts & feelings should be directed to my CG. I understand that many have rules stating "no negative talk/thoughts" and ideally this would be good enough. Realistically, one cannot hope to completely stop such thoughts and ignoring them is not effective. So my CG prefers that I talk to him about these things, so he can converse with me, soothe my feelings, help me think positively and help me change these things I dislike. No online shopping without permission hehe No art projects requiring paint and/or glue without permission/supervision hehehheehehehehehe No phone or computer out during meals Just a common courtesy thing. Note that a few rules were amended. This is because rules are not meant to be broken however, those rules were broken an incredible amount of times. Rather than continue senseless punishment, amendment of those rules was made to help me. Modify rules as much as needed and go over rules every now and again, some rules may be taken out and some may need to be added. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow a rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following your CG's rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. Rewards Rewards are the best thing that comes with having rules! Depending on if you are LDR or close, your form of Rewards or Reward System may differ. Rewarding your Little & your CG is very important, that is right, you should reward your CG for taking care of you! It is not an easy job! Rewards Systems Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Easy to use Reward System, good for LDR and near by. Create daily & weekly tasks for rewards! Doing ‘x’ amount of chores or tasks unlocks ‘x’ reward! Time Bank ~ For doing various chores and tasks your Little can collect “time”. The time can be used to stay up late, play games or watch television instead of doing chores! Chore planner ~ Everyday is a new day with new tasks, have your Little write out goals and things to accomplish that day, reward at the end of the week or monthly! (I personally use this concept, helps me keep track of what needs to be done) Sticker chart ~ You can take a calendar and everyday chores or tasks are completed add a cute sticker!! Then make a reward bank, x amount of stickers gets you x reward! You can cash in the stickers for smaller rewards or bank them for awhile for a super cool reward! Rewards for Littles! Special rabb.it movei night ~ Your Little had such a good week, let her/him pick out a movie for the two of you to watch together! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your little make their very own wishlist, books, stuffies, movies, clothes, collars and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Special game night ~ If you have the same gaming console or maybe a fun game on your phone a night spent gaming together will be a good reward! Send a Little Care Package ~ New stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne, coloring books/pencils, stickers, glitter, bath bombs, ALL ABOUT LITTLE DAY ~ this is a HUGE reward. Plan a day the two of you have off and let your Little GO WILD. A few hours at the beach/zoo/toy store/build a bear, maybe a movie night out, or a movie night in the cool blanket fort you guys made! Maybe a tea party! The possibilities are endless and you are both sure to have TONS OF FUN! Rewards for Cgs! Send a CG Care Package ~ A bunch of drawings and colourings you made, pictures of you and your favorite stuffies, a stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne so they have something to cuddle! Gaming Console Gift Cards! (Xbox, PlayStation, Steam, etc) Buy your CG a subscription to something like Hulu, Netflix or Spotify, something you know they would enjoy! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your Cg make their very own wishlist, books, video games, movies, clothes and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Make/Send your CG a homemade craft! CG’s Movie Night ~ Let you CG pick out their favorite movie and enjoy it together! Special Snacks ~ Make your CG their favourite snack to enjoy when they get home! Brownies! Cheesecake! Rice Krispie Treats! ALL ABOUT CG DAY!! ~ this is your CG’s very own special day! Let your CG drag you all around town doing the things they want to do! Make you CG food! Tuck them in for a nap! Buy them the candy from the store! Punishments The worst part of having rules and the most difficult part of being a CG. Once again, communicating during the creation of Punishments is vital. Inform your Little why are you punishing them before starting any punishment. Lack of communication can cause serious psychological damage. Make sure you have a safety word if any punishment is going too far or getting uncomfortable. Abide by the safety word. Note that not every broken rule is worthy of a punishment. Some broken rules simply need a stern, loving and guided conversation. You wouldn't punish someone for not eating, not taking medication or things of that nature. In certain cases like those, punishment may just make your Little afraid to talk you about things like that. Examples of positive reinforcement. Drinking coffee after the allowed time = No coffee tomorrow. Using phone or computer during meal = No more phone or computer for the night Not doing daily reading before television = No television for the night and/or next day Doing "x" without permission = Loss of doing "x" for the week or month Talking back (excessively) = Writing lines Not doing daily chores (with the exception of certain unavoidable circumstances) = More chores tomorrow Loss of an earned reward for excessive bad behaviour Examples of negative reinforcement Cut off communication Not communicating with your significant other for no apparent reason is psychologically damaging. Even if you are beside yourself, unsure what to do, generally angry. You owe it to your significant other to send, at the very least "I am upset and would like to talk about this tomorrow" Degradation, belittlement & name calling Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Slapping, hitting, punching, spanking anything considered physical abuse Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Taking away anything that violates consent. Such as; taking away bathroom rights, eating or socializing. Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Manipulation. Such as; taking away collars or physical affection. Sentences that start with "You don't deserve ‘me’ ‘my love’ ‘any love’ etc….” These are psychologically damaging, cruel and not okay unless specifically given the okay for punishment. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults.

This started as a resource for the single pringle littles! It quickly evolved into some monsterous taking care of yourself master post. Regardless I think anyone can get something from this post! Relaxation No frill, no fluff, just good old fashioned relaxing. Meditation, for how to and techniques check out this site! Bubble baths, doesn't even have to be bubbly, just relax in some warm water! Light candles and play some music. (You can ball out and get some relaxation orientated bath salts and bubble bath too!) Lush bath bombs are all the rage right now. You can make your own bath fizzies, great for personal use or a gift! Make alone or with friends/family! Take a walk! Lavender everything! Lavender essential oil, candles, bedding spray, candles, air fresheners. The most soothing scent known to mankind, just inhale and relax. Get away from screens! Set a task for yourself that isn't screen orientated, dust off those old cooking books, do some light cleaning, take the pooch out for a walk and take some time away from the digital world. CLEAN CLEAN CLEAN!!!!!!! Cleaning can be so therapeutic for you. A clean home is a happy home. You will feel the benefits of a clean home/room immediately. Colour! Colouring books can be super cheap and super easy to do, fantastic for focusing on something and calming down, you can get more expensive and better detailed books that are relaxation orientated. Relaxing Online! Watch a guy make bread ~ Okay, I know how silly this seems but oh my gosh, it is SO soothing! Sand Art ~ Create art with sand, super duper soothing and relaxing. Available on iPhone and Android! Calm ~ A free program for daily peace and mindfulness Flow ~ Super calming game, like super chill Mental Health! Many of us suffer from a variety of mental disorders, even if you don't surely you have felt some pressures, anxiety and sadness. The following is bunch of random happy, healthy sites and apps to help you cope! Apps! Moodtrack Diary ~ For Android Phones free, offers in app purchases. Does what it says, really nice way of tracking your moods and seeing what triggers certain moods. Coach.me ~ For both iPhone and Android, free, offers in app purchases. Make a goal and record your progress towards it! Super easy to use! Booster Buddy ~ For both iPhone and Android, free! Super cute app, complete with furry friends to help you! Tracks daily moods, helps keep track of medication and appointments, even has self care routines! Websites! myNoise ~ Customized sounds for peace and tranquility, iPhone users can even get the app for it! BlahTherapy ~ Vent to or listen to vents from strangers! You can pay to talk to a therapist as well! Strangers are free! Things you can do every day! Don't forget your medication, it can often be a downer on us but medication is so important, make sure you are taking yours properly Write it out, I am such an advocate for journals. Mood journals, goal journals, health journals, JOURNAL IT ALL!!!! Writing is amazing for putting things into perspective. Even if you don't daily journal, it can be so helpful for you! It is also super fun to look back on old journals and look at how far you have grown as a person. Don't beat yourself up. Regardless of what mental disorder you are struggling with, you are guaranteed some bad days. Everyone is guaranteed some bad days. Don't let them get you down and stop you from growing, learn from your mistakes and make the most of it. Make a comfort box! Take an old box and fill it with comfort items (soft blankets, glitter jars, herbal tea, puzzles, stress balls, stickers, essential oils, notes with positive quotes, stuffies, candy, colouring books, soft sweater, pictures of loved ones and pets), get out the box whenever you are feeling overwhelmed and use it to get comfortable! Happy Light! These are super cool and super great, they help a lot in the winter to keep your energy up and revitalize you. Also great if you are up late studying/working. Exercise! Exercising is so important, not just for physical health but mental health as well. Studies have shown that exercising is beneficial for anxiety, stress, depression, improving sleeping patterns, memory and so much more! Whether it is a walk around the block or some intensive weight lifting, it all helps!! Yoga ~ Yoga with Adriene, my personal recommendation for online yoga. Free YouTube videos!! This woman is incredible, so positive and happy. Whether you are a beginner or yoga master, you will love her. Regardless of shape, size or current exercise regiment, you can do yoga! Benefits and more about yoga. SWORKIT ~ an app for iPhone or Androids, free (some costs to upgrade, in my experience not necessary). Shows you how to do individual moves, good for cardio, weight lifting and yoga! Daily reminders and so easy to use! MapMyWalk ~ an app for iPhone or Androids, free. Maps your walk! Shows you how far you have walked, time per walk and split miles! You can add friends and compare or challenge each other! Fantastic regardless of your intensity or frequency. Food! No matter what, it is important to feed yourself! The following are some yummy links you can make alone or with any friends or family members! No More Ramen ~ Cheap, easy recipes. Categorized and includes; Vegan, Vegetarian and Gluten Free. Really amazing blog with tons of options!! ` Really Nice Recipes Ever Hour ~ seriously, every hour something new and delicious, easy to follow recipes Molten Lava Cakes ~ I am secretly obsessed with these, so yummy and rich! Strawberry or Blueberry Frozen Fruit Popsicles ~ takes some time to make but so delicious and refreshing! Three Ingredient Brownies! ~ Nutella Brownies, can you say YUMMMO Cookie Dough Yogurt ~ takes less than five minutes to make your normal yogurt yummy For Vegans!! Blueberry Muffins ~ a classic muffin with a healthy, vegan twist Strawberry Cheesecake Bites ~ they look so CUTE and yummy! Can replace with any berry! Peanut Butter Cups ~ SUPER SUPER SIMPLE! takes about 15mins and only two ingredients! Chocolate Chip Banana Bread ~ super yummy! TREAT YO SELF Cheap easy ways to TREAT YO SELF!! Self manicure/pedicure. Almost everyone has some nail polish lying around and if you don't, your local pharmacy is sure to have some for cheap! Martha Stewart's Bath Fizzies, super easy, with a video to follow along with! I had molds and essential oils lying around so it was pretty cheap for me to make these but if you splurge once on the more expensive stuff, you can make them over and over again for super cheap! Did I mention they are superb gifts?! Netflix & Chill with yourself! Take a day off to unwind and binge watch your guilty pleasures! Dark Chocolate! Dark Chocolate is full of Antioxidants and full of nutrients! Get rid of some junk! Yeah it seems less fun than some of the other ideas but you will be thanking yourself when you donate all those never worn clothes and make room for some new ones Epsom Salts, super cheap and super soothing If you have a nearby Target, get yourself a 99 cent face mask and relax! Take a nap! Make some comfort food! Browse through Amazon, there are some amazing deals on there and at the very least you can make a cart for the future Drink water!!! STAY HYDRATED! If you want to get fancy with it, add some cucumbers, lemon, watermelon or any other fruit you have on hand! I will more than likely be adding things to this post over time, I hope you guys enjoy!!!

The rest of the staff and I have noticed a serious upswing in breaking a particular rule and it's worrying. The rule is about respecting people. This website is supposed to be a place to have fun, learn, make friends etc and a part of that being allowed is that we expect people to respect others. Now respect is a big thing and it can make a difference in your interactions with others. Treat someone with a little respect and you will be amazed how they respond. You don't attack people's posts etc. Yes you can have a different option but you express that respectfully. You may think a post breaks the rules, so report it instead of being rude and attacking people's posts. Respect is a basic part of human interaction and it's expected you respect everyone here, staff and members alike. You start acting up, you break the rules, you do get warning points and face the consequences, that's a given. Please be aware using phrases such as 'not to be disrespectful' or 'in my opinion' or 'no offense but' does not excuse you attacking, belittling or disrespecting one another person. They are not an excuse or a defence. Keep in mind that sometimes you may not mean to sound awful, rude, or mean but people can perceive it like that. The internet doesn't allow us to read a persons tone. It's important to read over what you wrote before you post just to check that. Remember that perception is reality and due to the fact tone can not be properly conveyed the Internet makes things that much more complicated. We have rules for a reason. So please people, read the rules and follow them. We don't expect perfection but we do expect you start acting and treating people with a little respect.

I've been searching on my own for plus sized DDlg clothing since I'm a plus sized little myself. I hope this list helps you as much as it has helped me! <3 There may be more out there, but this is what I've found so far This is not an all inclusive list, because Daddy and I are constantly searching for websites and shops that sell plus sized clothing. Feel free to leave a shop in the posts that I haven't posted yet, and I'll give you credit for it! Thank you! Key $ = $1-$25 $$ = $25-$50 $$$ = $50-$75 $$$$ = $75+ CowCow : You can design your own dresses, shirts, pants, shoes... whatever! Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $$-$$$ ChibiBunny : Adorable dresses, skirts, shirts, hoodies, and more! Sizes: Up to 5XL Price: $-$$ DDlg Playground : Onesies, shoes, little clothing, pet play, etc. Sizes: Up to 2XL Price: $-$$$ SockDreams : Cute socks! Sizes: Plus Price: $-$$$ Amazon : A few knee highs I found here and here TeePublic : Adorable shirts! Sizes: Up to 5XL Price: $ Onesies Downunder (thank you to babyjellybean!) : Onesies, bibs, and more Sizes: Up to 5XL Price: $-$$ Littles In Lace : Onesies, toys, pacifiers, bibs, and more (this site doesn't have much, but it's worth looking at) Sizes: Up to 2XL Price: $-$$ Milanoo : Lolita dresses and more! Some sellers allow tailor made dresses, too (kinda.. more than pricey) Sizes: Up to 2XL & more Price: $$-$$$$ Hot Topic : You can usually find cute dresses, shirts, leggings, skirts, etc. here. It can be a hit or miss Sizes: Up to 5XL Price: $-$$$ Torrid : Sometimes a hit or miss, but a great site to find sleep wear, dresses, lingerie, and wide toed shoes Sizes: Up to size 6 (US 6XL) Price: $-$$$$ HollyTeaTime : SO many adorable shirt, dresses, accessories, and more! <3 Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $-$$$$ TeeTurtle : Cute shirts and accessories Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $-$$ LittleGear : Shirts and hoodies for all ages! You can even create your own Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $-$$$ Etsy Shops MerbunnyBaby : Absolutely ADORABLE hoodies, sweaters, dresses, and leggings! Sizes: Up to 5XL Price: $$-$$$ KawaiiGoods : Another super cute store with shirts, pants, dresses, skirts, and hoodies Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $$-$$$ MagicCircleClothing : Shirts and jewelry Sizes: Up to 5XL Price: $-$$ JigglyPunk : Shirts, crop tops, and sweatshirts Sizes: Up to 2XL Price: $$ SugarHai : Shirts and crop tops Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $$ vfever : Shirts and jumpers Sizes: Up to 2XL Price: $$ StarChaserClothing : So many cute dresses, skirts, shirts, and hoodies! One of my favorites on this list <3 Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $$ BomJitJit : Shirts, sweatshirts, hoodies, and jackets Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $$-$$$ PNKSLVR : Sailor Moon inspired shirts! Sizes: Up to 4XL Price: $$ DaniLambDesigns : Adorable hoodies, dresses, skirts, leggings, and more! Sizes: Up to 3XL Price: $-$$$ Collars : Most sellers allow you to customize them to your neck size Sizes: Any size you need, usually Price: $-$$$$

The following is a rather objective piece, gathered from many forum posts of people who do not know what to do or know what their relationship has become. Nature of DD/LG The nature of DD/LG is to guide and enrich both the lives of the Dominant and the Little. This is not a one sided relationship. This is not a relationship that is meant to be used to control or manipulate someone. Many posts on here allude to a relationship that is more fitting of a Master & Slave Dynamic. This is fine, as long as the consent is there. While manipulation and abuse is often seen as a man abusing or manipulating a woman, we must accept that abuse and manipulation can happen to anyone from anyone. While a majority of Doms would love for their Little to rely on them for every mundane task, this is not feasible nor is it healthy. I very often see insulting and ridiculous comments such as: “Littles should not do x.” “You are a Little, you cannot do x.” Littles are adults, they are fully capable and functioning human beings. As a Dom, once again, your task it to help nurture and enrich your Little. Don’t encourage them to become mentally and emotionally reliant on you, this is counterproductive and at times abusive. Help them become the productive members of society you know they can be. As a Little it is also up to you to gain independence. Being a Caregiver is a very difficult and draining job. You cannot expect someone to make your every decision for you. This is equally draining and abusing what a Caregiver is. If there is some part of normal life you struggle with (making phone calls, socializing, doing school work) talk to your Caregiver about how they can HELP you with these things. Note that being a helpless damsel in distress is fun for play time and Little Space but not something that should be encouraged for daily life. Consent Consent is the most important aspect of any relationship. Consent is when both parties agree upon something, this relates to rules, punishments, daily interactions and sexy time. Just because you have consented to something it the past does not mean you have to consent now. Just because someone consented to something before does not mean they are obligated to consent now. Feelings and situations can and will change. If you find yourself uncomfortable with something you once consented to, use your Safe Word. This is a wonderful and informative video on consent, please give it a watch (NSFW) Click here. Safe words A safe word is something that needs to be created in the beginning of a relationship. Think of a safe word as your Life Raft. This word/term means it is time to pause the dynamic. This shuts down whatever play is happening and allows the two of you to discuss what is going on. If you are uncomfortable or nervous with where a situation is heading, use your Safe Word. A Safe Word must at all times be honored. If someone uses a Safe Word, it is your job to discuss that with them. Do not blame yourself or the other person, do not get angry, listen to them and respect their decision. Positive reinforcement vs control Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. I really hope that has sank into any one reading this. It is that important. Harsh rules or punishments that were not previously agreed upon. Different strokes for different folks, many may like the following punishments and that is okay as long as both parties agreed to it. Examples of controlling and abusive punishments Taking away the right to bathe or shower Taking away the right to eat Taking away communication (with partner or anyone else, this includes friends or family members) Taking away lights Taking away clothing Taking away the right to use the bathroom Taking away social interaction (ie going online, going to a friends house, visiting family members) If it takes away a basic human necessity, it is abusive. No one can foresee the future. There most likely will come a time when you see a new rule or punishment should be implemented. That is okay! But first you must talk to your partner about it. You cannot decided to enforce a new rule without your partner knowing, people can’t read minds, they can’t possibly know what they did wrong and cannot be expected to accept a punishment added for no conceivable reason. Manipulation Tactics: Threatening self harm. This is a popular trend in all forms of relationships, it a powerful and usually successful. Using a threat of self harm is not okay. It is abuse and it is a tactic for controlling someone. You should be able to talk to your partner if you are feeling upset, hurt or depressed but bringing it up as a way to keep someone around is NOT okay. “If you do x I am going to do x to myself” “If you ever leave me I am going to x” Verbal abuse. When you tell someone something enough, they will start to believe it. Never underestimate the power of your words and the effect they can and will have on others. This can work in a good or bad way. “You are ugly”, “No one will love you”, “You are stupid”, “I wish I never met you” Vs “You are beautiful”,”I love you”, “You are intelligent”, “I am happy you are in my life” Making you feel guilty over commonplace and simple, small things. Guilt is a powerful emotion and can have a person doing things they wouldn’t ordinarily do to please someone. If you find yourself no longer able to do normal things like see your friends, visit family, go out, enjoy healthy hobbies you previously had, etc without feeling overwhelming guilt from your partner, this is not okay. Gas Lighting. Gas Lighting is very common in any type of relationship. It is a gradual process with devastating effects. It essentially causes a person to question their feelings, emotions and sanity. For a more in depth look at Gas Lighting please read this article. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/power-in-relationships/200905/are-you-being-gaslighted Getting angry about small things, or things beyond your control. If you are in an abusive relationship, close proximity or LDR help is out there. National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453 National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324 Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722 Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111 Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468 Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707 Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001 Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277 Rape Abuse & Incest National Network or 800-656-HOPE (4673) Abuse Not: 0808 8005015 (UK) Women’s Aid National (UK) Domestic Violence Helpline 0345 023 468 (UK)

I might suggest for any new daddy/little relationship that the daddy make the little specifically write out what they're interested in from the relationship. Not that you have to fine-line a contract, but it can be important to make the services you and your little are interested in very apparent. I went through a lot of bad parent types and my daddy helped me realize that I had no idea what I wanted from that sort of relationship. I just "wanted a daddy/mommy" so bad. If you write out what you want, both parties can agree on what their comfortable providing to each other. Just an exercise that could be helpful, in my opinion.

I have rules! Sir said it was okay to post them here. School is very important; you must go every day and tell Sir about homework and deadlines. Don't keep secrets from Sir; tell me your worries, I can't help if I don't know the problem. No swearing; Princesses have no need for vulgar words. Sir will choose your outfits, and you must ask when changing clothes; you can help with suggestions. You must send a description of what you are wearing in the morning. Bed time is when Sir says, and you must stay in bed if a time is given. Tell Sir when you're going to eat. Permission must be given for sweets and alcohol; fed and watered littles are happy littles. You must ask to go on tumblr, and ask to post things regarding Sir; I need to make sure you're safe everywhere, including online. NSFW: You must ask to touch your princess parts, and ask again to cum. You must ask to shower/have a bath. While there, you are only allowed to touch your princess parts for washing and shaving. Clean shaven princess parts are much preferred. These are the rules I've been following for over a year now. Some of them only applied to certain days when we started our relationship, and the clothes rule still does. Writing them all out has made me think we may need to refresh a few of these! I hope it was interesting for you x

*waves* Hiya. I want to write about something that has been bothering me for a very long time. What I am writing is strictly my opinion and my observations from the forum and interacting with friends here. I am not saying I am right, but I am saying maybe this is something to think about. This is a fairly controversial topic and I do understand that what I am putting forth does not fit in every case. So I hope we can all keep an open mind with it. Thanks, guys. The Term “Fake” Within Our community “He is a fake Daddy.” “Only fake littles do that.” How do we define “fake” in regards to people? When do we have the right to call another person “fake” in regards to their exchange? To be simple - we really shouldn’t do it… at all. Just hear me out for a moment: On this forum (and many other websites) the term “fake” is thrown around so candidly that it is losing it’s true meaning. Think back in highschool when you had all of those annoying people who would hop from a 3-day relationship to another 3-day relationship over and over again, yet claimed they loved each partner. That term, “love” really lost it’s meaning when that person said it. Same goes for this community and “fake.” But the issue with throwing “fake” around is that it starts to become offensive and damaging to someone’s reputation. Why do we (as a community) label someone a “fake” in regards to this dynamic? In my opinion, it should go back to how it was originally used - or at least the way I saw it used years ago. Back in the day (heh) the term was only used for those CG/littles who were literally using the dynamic as a way to purposefully hurt their partner. In short - they were a predator searching for prey. And that went both ways, littles were predators to inexperienced or overly trusting CGs. But the point is that these people were literally (dictionary definition of literal) trying to harm the other person by taking advantage of them for sex, money, or just to hurt them. They did not have any relation to the dynamic other than the fact that this community trusts VERY easily and overall VERY quickly. They had no CG tendencies and they had no little tendencies - they just saw an opportune community to prey on. So why are there suddenly so many “fake” members of this community now? Why do we see the term “fake” thrown around so much more now than ever before? I have a theory on this and it all relies on compatibility. There are, seemingly, certain reasons why people are labeled as fake, and my goal right now is to debunk these. 1. Personal Expectations - Compatibility One of the main reasons I see people being accused of being a fake is because they don’t meet the expectations of their partner. Mainly, they don’t meet the relationship expectations of their partner. But this can be anything from CG/l to the most vanilla aspect of their lives. In this case, the partner is aggravated because the other cannot meet their personal checklist. Does he/she do A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, etc? Let’s say they do all except B and E. I have seen where a little has accused a Daddy of being fake over something so small, yet he was fulfilling her every need (her words). She accused him of being a fake because he wouldn’t buy her a stuffie whenever she wanted it. She wasn’t looking to use him for his money, but that is something she wanted, a new stuffie every week or every few days. And he put his foot down. This landed him the label “fake” because he wasn’t “taking care” of his little. “He wasn’t being fair.” Now I am sure y’all are like, Bree… that is one case. But look, I only knew that he was treating her so well because I was her friend. To everyone else she told, he was a neglectful Daddy. And everyone believed her. Now he is left with this reputation because he didn’t meet this expectation she had for Daddies. This is more common than we would like to think. What about the partner who does not like facetiming (for legitimate) reasons but will call, text, email, visit (when possible), etc. Just because this person wont visibly call their partner, I have seen them called a “fake” because they were “hiding” something. This mindset is so damaging because it shows how unfair this label really can be. If a person isn’t ticking every box on your Dream Daddy/Mommy or Dream Little check list, they are not “fake.” And claiming they are isn’t right in any sense of the word - they simply are not COMPATIBLE with you, it has nothing to do with being a “fake” CG or little. Not everyone is destined to be with everyone else. Not all preferences are the same. And just because a relationship fizzled out, that doesn’t make the ex a “fake.” It simply means they were not compatible. And there is NOTHING wrong with either partner because of it. It means they had different needs/wants and didn’t get that fulfilled from the other. No one is to blame and no one is fake. 2. Unrealistic Understanding - CG/l 24/7 Another issue that seems to cause this title to be thrown about is when a partner cannot partake in the dynamic as little/much as the other partner would like. This typically happens when one person is busy with this thing called Life and simply cannot be in the headspace of CG or little as much as they both would like to be. Whether it be due to stress, mental illness, physical illness, distance, work, children, or anything else - it seems when a partner isn’t getting enough CG/l activity from their partner, that partner is now a “fake.” For example - I have seen MANY relationships break up because the Daddy was a “fake” due to him not being able to be on call 24/7. In these cases these Daddies were depressed, working, sleeping or sick, yet their little felt neglected and ended it. Once they were over, the littles then claimed their ex-Daddy wasn’t a real Daddy. This mindset really harms the community because it shows that people aren’t ready to realize that their partner has to balance not only the relationship, but their life as well. Even lifestylers (of any dynamic) cannot be “in” 24/7 due to some reason - so to expect those who are more casually into the lifestyle, or new, or inexperienced is simply unfair and almost selfish. They aren’t a fake CG or little because they can’t be accessible or “in” at the drop of a dime. Life happens, and things become complicated or difficult - they way to work past that is communication, not being frustrated that you’re not getting your way right then. Don’t get me wrong - ghosting, catfishing, fading and such are all very real issues because of this being a forum on the internet. But those are cases I am not talking about - and if I were, doing these things don’t make that person a fake, because you truly don’t know the situation behind this happening. Maybe they had a literal personal emergency, maybe you were coming on too strongly and they didn’t know what else to do, maybe they were new and confused and scared, maybe they didn’t understand, maybe there wasn’t proper communication, etc. Even ghosters and faders shouldn’t earn the right of “fake” because we only know the one side of the story. All we know is they stopped communication. But the situations I am talking about are the ones where the other person simply isn’t -enough- for their partner. This doesn’t make them a fake. This means, yet again, they are simply not compatible. Or they could be going through a hard time and a relationship isn’t a wise decision at the moment due to the responsibilities it entails. We need to realize that CG/l (ESPECIALLY Daddies) are real people, they have real life issues and are not machines to dole out affection and attention 24/7. And when they are not compatible in the time you need in a relationship - they aren’t fake, they simply are not the one for you. And, again, there is NOTHING wrong with that person (or you) because of it. It just means you two need someone else. 3. Cookie Cutter Standards Let me preface with this - using the phrase “cookie cutter” doesn’t hold a negative connotation. I am simply using it for lack of a better phrase for the characteristics one has come to association with a CG or a little. These CGs and littles enjoy what we would expect them to due to what the internet has led us to believe is “typical.” And there is nothing wrong with that, or wrong not falling into this category. This reason is a real issue from what I have seen in this community. And it happens more than we probably realize, and not just from opposite ends (littles calling CGs fake and vice versa). There is this inherent mindset that if a CG or a little doesn’t act as “expected” from their status, then they are fake. I will give you personal examples that have happened to me on this forum alone. I have been told I was a fake because: I didn’t call him Daddy right away (from a CG) I didn’t identify as a kitten (from a little) I didn’t like pink (from littles) I didn’t like glitter (from both) I liked horror movies over MLP (from both) I prefer blue (from boy littles) I was also informed that only real littles would: Follow their CGs without question (both) Speak in little speech (from a CG) Color every night (from littles) Send their Daddy whatever they wanted - sext, pictures, erotica (from both) Have sex with their Daddy whenever the Daddy wanted it (from both) Love Daddy no matter what he did - even if it hurt me (from both) Use pacis, sippies and stuffies (from littles) Trust their Daddy and use a diaper (from CGs) And so on. Do you see how all of these things are typical behavior of what the internet has decided is a “real” little? But all of these almost directly go against who I am. Does that make me a fake little? Hell. No. That means I am simply Me and I am a little. End of discussion - and the same goes for CGs. In this category we don’t really use the word “fake,” specifically. What we use is the phrase “well a real little would...” or “a real Daddy/Mommy would…” and this is just as bad. A reall CG and a real little does exactly whatever makes them happy, comfortable and who they are. There is no mold to fit, no build-a-little or build-a-CG to which statistics are required to be met. Every person is different, which means every little and every CG is different. That is how we are able to have Mommies and little boys - because a DADDY isn’t the only caregiver and GIRLS aren’t the only littles. These differences don’t mean we aren’t real - it means we are all unique individuals who like different things. IF you need a little of CG who matches the cookie cutter form - so what?! Good for you! But that doesn’t mean those who don’t mean that checklist aren’t real. Just like if you need a little or CG who ISN’T like the cookie cutter form, that doesn’t make the others “stereotypes.” It means they simply like things that we would typically associate with that status. Again, no one is fake here. And we need to realize doing something (or not doing something) does not make you more real than any other little or CG. It just makes you, You. ---- As we can see, a lot of the issue is when two people are simply not compatible and the relationship ends. Someone’s needs are not being met and they feel their partner was not being true to their role. We need to change this mindset because we are harming the community we love so much. Imagine how a little feels when he/she is told that only fake littles can’t get into little space (I have been told this from many people from this forum). Something they want to do, desperately, now has become a weapon against them because they struggle with it. How is that helpful to our community members? How is the being supportive? It’s not. And neither is calling someone fake because they don’t live up to what you want or expected. And the biggest problem with the whole “fake” thing is to the detriment of the CGs, particularly the Daddies. Daddies are accused of being fake more than any other status in our community (across all sites and social media). And there tends to be so much support when a little is upset with their ex and everyone agrees “He wasn’t a real Daddy anyways.” No matter what happens, it comes down to the ex not being a “real” Daddy. And most times, no one takes the time to even try to understand why the Daddy acted the way he did, but instead comfort the little and banish him. Yet when a Daddy claims a little wasn’t “real” (which is just as bad, but still) he is instantly scrutinized and seen as too harsh. An immunity has developed for littles, as a whole, from blame in the relationships in a lot of ways. Am I saying no one understands littles can be just as bad? No - I am saying that in a majority of the cases, people tend to sympathize with littles over Daddies as an initial reaction. I suppose it is understandable because people tend to want to protect littles in general, but that doesn’t give them the right to slander their ex-partners just because it ended badly. And, still, this goes for any CG - they have no right to slander their ex-littles. But we need to realize this massive double standard because I have seen too many Daddies leave or become depressed because of the reputation they have unduly been given. All in all we need to truly take a look at these accusations we, as a community, are allowing to be thrown around. We need to support one another and help each other because our community is already so misunderstood - we don’t need this turmoil coming from within. We need to take responsibility in our relationships that fail, in so much to admit that it simply was not a good match instead of lashing out and hurting others. We are all adults, we all have preferences and needs. And if we are going to try to act on those needs and expectations, then we need to be adult enough to understand when things don’t go our way. And it isn’t because someone is “fake” but it is because it just didn’t work out. And look, there are fake people out there and there are bad people out there - but not nearly as many as what has been accused. At the end of the day, would you want someone claiming you are a fake CG or little just because you don’t like pink or don’t want to be super strict? No. So why do we allow others to accuse partners for the same, frivolous reasons? This needs to be a community wide effort (not just on the forum, but in person and with friends) to stop these slanderous accusations, but instead help each other understand why something happened the way it did. In my opinion, if you cannot own up to the fact that you didn’t work with someone because the compatibility wasn’t there or because you/they couldn’t handle the type of relationship you all were in, then you’re not ready to have a relationship of this magnitude. CG/l is such an intense dynamic, we need more understanding and less hostility. This is a dynamic of love and affection, let’s help keep it that way. [This has not been proofread - my apologies for any errors]

The following is a bit about Long Distance Relationships or LDR's! A big thanks to Admin MellyBoo19912015 for tolerating and answering my questions to help make this resource possible! How to maintain a healthy LDR Any relationship takes a lot of work, communication and trust. LDR's, arguably, take even more. The following are some ways to keep your LDR healthy and long lasting! Contact ~ If you live in different time zones, this can especially prove tricky. The first thing you want to do is establish your time difference and schedules. When can you actually talk? Is messaging each other thru school, work or sleep okay? Thankfully, there are so many lovely and FREE apps and websites to help you and your significant other stay in contact. (see below). Trust ~ Establishing and keeping trust is so important. Stay honest with your partner and communicate. Even if you are afraid of the consequences, talk to your partner. A lot of people worry that infidelity in a LDR is common. Rest assured this is not the case, affairs are generally caused by people and personalities. Distance has no effect. Respect Your Partner & Their Needs ~ Everyone is different and we all have our own hectic personal lives to maintain. Communicate with your partner what you need and want and respect their needs as well. If you have a partner who requires a lot of contact, keep a steady flow of communication with them. If you are going to have a busy day, let your partner know, don't leave them worrying. Expectations Vs. Reality One of the greatest challenges of a LDR is a feeling of being disconnected from each other, missing out on the little things that happen. Below there are some apps and sites you can try to keep connected. Another idea is keeping a journal of your day and sharing it with your partner. Let them in on those tiny little things that happened to you and let them share your day with you. When you first enter a LDR there are some things you need to establish right away. Will you ever meet irl? Are yearly visits possible? How will you make and enforce rules? What are you hoping to get out of the relationship? Be clear on what the relationship is. Are you exclusive? Are you monogamous? is it okay to go on dates with other people? What is your level of commitment? Don't be afraid to talk about these things and keep talking about them if they are important to you. Remember that because of the distance date nights are not going to be conventional, you have to be creative! You can try a movie night together with rabbit, Skype or just messaging each other. Play real time games together. Make the same food and Skype to have a dinner date! FaceTime or Skype each other while you go on walks! Even if you don't have the time to do it together, you can still watch movies or read books and discuss it with each other later on! Games & Apps Avocado ~ Available on Apple, GooglePlay or desktop, free. Your all inclusive LDR app. Allows you to send messages, pictures, doodles and videos. Make and share lists & reminders! Works with Google Calendars to share each others calendars! Has private photo sharing abilities to keep albums. You can even send your partner hugs & kisses to let them know you are thinking about them! Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Mothershp is the login for the user setting the chores and rewards, Choremonster is for the user doing the chores and earning rewards! Super easy way for a Long Distance CG to set chores & rewards for their Little! Couple ~ Available on Apple, GooglePlay or desktop, free with in-app purchases. Your all inclusive LDR app. Has options for sending messages, videos, voice recordings, doodles and locations! You can Live Sketch with each other, keep track of your anniversary, birthdays and make lists! It even keeps tracks of your shared photos to keep the memories! Draw Something ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay, free. Social game where you can Draw or Guess what was drawn! Flockdraw ~ Primarily for desktop, available in Apple market, free. Allows multiple users to draw, sketch and doodle together in real time, with direct messaging. Rabbit ~ Primarily a desktop site, available on Apple or GooglePlay, free. Allows you to watch television, movies or listen to music together. Includes video chatting, mic chatting and direct messaging. Great for date night, movie night or just a group of friends binge watching their favorite show! Skype ~ Primarily a desktop app, also available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Allows people to video chat all around the world for free! Great for bedtime stories or a weekly date! Snapchat ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Most of us already use this app to interact with friends! It can be used to update each other on our days, meals or outfit choices. Can also be used as a messaging app, though it does not store messages. SNOW ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Essentially the exact same app as Snapchat but with way more and cuter filters! QuizUp ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market and desktop, free. Real time quiz games with fun topics including; Disney Movies, Disney Princesses, Cartoon Network, Name That Animal and so much more! Great for an easy Game night! Snail mail! A totally underrated way to keep in touch. Mail each other post cards, love letters and even gifts for each other now and then! Finally, if you have ideas, tips or tricks to help with LDR, please message me so I can add them! *glitter* *glitter* http://data.whicdn.com/images/174718551/large.jpg

Hi all! By way of a first post to these forums, I hope it's OK to use this space to share my experience of being big - what I love about it and why. I hope this might provide some insight into why this daddy loves to be one, and what he is getting out of his side of the relationship. So here goes I love to teach you things. I've devoted so much of my life to learning and it makes that effort feel extra worthwhile when I can pass it on to you, in love. Knowledge hoarded is stale. In teaching you, the things I have learned take on fresh meaning and new life. I love to show you an experience for the first time. I've seen so much in life, but you let me experience the newness of things again. In experiencing them together with you, I get to experience them for the first time again too. Plus now I'm experiencing them *with you*. I love being silly with you. I spend so much of my life in a very grown up job surrounded by very grown up and serious people and you are a gateway into a very light hearted kingdom. You're the gatekeeper of so much joy for me like that. I love protecting you. It makes me feel capable. It reminds me how secure I am in the world. And to give you, you who are so innocent and small, some measure of my power in your service makes that power feel sanctified and pure. I love to make love with you. I've been some very exciting places and done some very exciting things, but this is emotionally as bright and burning as anything I've ever experienced. You are with me, and so little, and you are wanting to please. Your littleness, and the innocence and vulnerability and openness of that makes me feel ravenous. It brings out this fierce fierce yearning to consume you that is raw and aggressive. I want to overwhelm you. To take you far our beyond yourself. In your experience of that, I get to taste it vicariously through you. The surrender and freedom and honesty of it. And at the very same time I am awed and humbled by your openness and vulnerability. Your littleness makes me feel big. That's how it goes. And I want to wrap my arms around you and not just possess but protect, to celebrate that you are one of the very very rare ones that is capable of going there, in trust. I want to use you, and to celebrate you. Look at this gift you have. Look at how wanted and how pleasing you can be. The pleasure you allow yourself and in that, the pleasure you can give! There is a doorway in you that most people cannot walk through, but in you it is wide open. There is the element of the divine to this. I feel big. I feel indescribable gratitude that you complete an energetic circuit I cannot make on my own, for this is a place it takes two to reach. You are so, so special to me. A jewel far beyond price. I love it when our souls celebrate together. In so many mystic traditions it requires a masculine and a feminine energy to come together into a oneness that contains yet transcends them both. Like many polar energies, the masculine and feminine call each other out, call each other into greater being, as they spiral-dance together. And yes, masculine and feminine are powerful energies to bring together like this - but daddy and girl, there is some extra mystery to this, some greater power again. I love your trust in me. It makes me want to be the very best man I can be. Do you know that? You want to be my good girl. And because you are I want to be the very best person I can be too. I love how affectionate you are. I need affection as much as you do. I may be big, and in many ways I may be strong, but without love it all feels so empty. I love it when you climb all over me, laughing. When you grab and wont let go. When you make me little gifts. And you are so open to love where so many bigs have closed that down in themselves. You are so good at loving! I love that you teach me too. You are capable of things I am not. I learn them just by being around you. You change me for the better. You help me be more fully who I am. Here's the thing: Your ability to be little makes a space for me to be big. That's how our gifts balance. Thank you. From the bottom of my soul, thank you for giving me the gift of this experience.

We don't really have written down our rules, but we have an ark of paper with the following rules that Daddy wrote down after a very tiring week (in my defense, I was sick and full with antibiotics... and bored). Princess is always to ask for permission before eating cookies or any other sweets. (I cleared the stash.) Princess is to obey all orders when playing with others, even those not by Daddy or take the punishment in silence. ( I didn't want a babysitter.) Princess is not to cut her stuffies hair alone and without supervision. (My Barbies needed a fresh style and I cut my finger) Princess is not to maneuver the stove or oven alone and without supervision. ( I wanted cookies and I burnt my hand) Princess is not to climb the furniture alone and without supervision. ( I wanted to reach the cookies Daddy bought after I failed baking my own) Princess is not to leave Daddy's sight without clearing it with him first. (I walked off to find a place to sit when Daddy was buying said cookies) Princess is not to take out the batteries out of Daddy's alarm because she doesn't want him to go to his job. ( I was feeling lonely.) Princess is not to refer to her Daddy's job as stupid. (He asked why I did it.)

I'm no Daddy but please, please, if you're a new Daddy, don't pretend you know it all just because you read up on it... I've seen too many of those

Us mods and admin do our very best to try and make this forum a safe and fun environment for all of our lovely members. However there is only so much we can do! That is why I am making this, to tell you all what you can do to help us make this forum the best it can be! SCREENSHOTS, SCREENSHOTS, SCREENSHOTS! If a member of this site is making you uncomfortable, or showing even slight predator behavior SCREENSHOT. You may not think it is much but chances are, you are not the first person to have felt that way! The same goes with an underage member. If someone tells you that they are underage, it is your responsibility to speak up, the easiest way to prove it is by SCREENSHOTS! Now if a member tells you they are underage verbally (via skype, facetime, etc) MAKE THE REPORT ANYWAYS! We will keep a look out and try our best to get the proof we need! Too often we have members speak up about underage users or predatory behavior second hand, another member told them about it. If someone tells you about such things, the best advice you can give them is to SCREENSHOT AND REPORT! If you are ever doubting if something is "report worthy" REPORT ANYWAYS! Or send one of us lovely admin or mods a message! Even the slightest thing can mean more than you know! And don't forget, SCREENSHOT SCREENSHOT SCREEN SHOT! http://pa1.narvii.com/5866/0cb793ff5596895aac0708fdefccc46dd7cc0f92_hq.gif

•Wearing onesies and my booties •Being called little one/daddy telling me I'm his little girl/daddy acknowledging my littleness •Sippy cups •My stuffy always •Coloring •Talking little •Being around other littles online and IRL •Pacifier/talking through pacifier/sucking my thumb •Being fed too •Having my hair played with/braided •Baths/having my hair washed •Seeing hello kitty things I don't have •Forts •Playdates •Using my little dish sets •Disney station on pandora

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space. Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs. A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong. So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart. You are a light in the darkness. You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion. You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments. You provide assurances that letting go is safe. You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated. You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it. You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong. You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment. You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver. To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy. To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you. Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person. To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

So like for some reason i've always wanted to come up with a huuuuge alphabetical list of activities to do as a little, and I'd figure I'd share what I have so far. Feel free to add to it if there's something missing! baking (esp. cookies or brownies) bedtime stories and being tucked in being a princess being told you're too little to do ____ blanket forts blankies blowing bubbles braided hair & pigtails bubble baths candy & cookies candyland the board game cartoons chocolate chocolate milk cute clothes coloring (esp. with crayons) cotton candy crafting in general if relevant.... diaper checks & changing helping make dinner dressing up firework sparklers forehead/cheek kisses giggling glittery things of all forms glow in the dark anything cute hair accessories hair brushing head patting holding hands hugs & cuddling ice cream cones with rainbow sprinkles juice boxes jump rope letters to caregiver lolipops macaroni and cheese (esp. the shaped kraft kind) milkshakes having caregiver / daddy / mommy open jars and cans for you cute names for you or your caregiver naps nightlights pacifiers playgrounds reward charts & calendars having shoes tied sidewalk chalk sippy cups skip it slip 'n slide cute snacks smiling stuffed animals talking cutesy & using your little voice tea parties tiaras tickling walking in the park water gun fights water sprinklers That's all I can think of for now, but I figure I'll add more too as I think of things.

Right people it's rare I make official posts but it seems we have a situation that has gotten out of hand. I'm talking about this Fake Daddy nonsense. Now there are without a doubt some people who misrepresent themselves as fake, little and caregiver alike. Now everyone has different hopes and wishes to do with what they want their future partner in this dynamic to be like or how we expect people to behave. Now obviously there are some general things everyone hopes for: respect, care, decency and honesty being a few of them. Then we have individual wishes and hopes. For example I don't like receiving lots of gifts so one of mine and Daddy's thing is we restrict those to special occasions and holidays. Does that make him fake because he doesn't randomly spoil me? No because it's what we want. Now if people think that a member of any type of position in this is fake or predatory you can report them. This won't be anonymous as staff will know who reported and we will expect evidence to look at but that's because we give everyone here a fair crack at the whip and the lack of anonymous reporting means we can stop people maliciously reporting people and can deal with that. We are here to protect this community so if there is something bad happening report it! Just think before you say just because someone does or doesn't do something you like that they are fake. Everyone has different expectations in this dynamic as everyone is different. We all like and want different things. Just enjoy your time here, chat, relax and have fun. Think before you call someone fake.

What is Ghosting or Slow Fade? Ghosting or Slow Fade is a very common occurrence with online dating. If you haven't personally dealt with this, I am sure you have heard of it from someone. "We were talking for days/weeks/months EVERY DAY, ALL DAY, then all of a sudden they vanished!" Some go as far as to delete the account where they met the person, delete the messaging app, block the number, etc. In one case a person deleted all of their social media, with no explanation. It isn't always a sudden ending, sometimes it is a "slow fade". The person slowly shows less and less interest, responds less, eventually just stops altogether. Understand that Ghosting has been going on for a very long time, long before the technology era. With the boom of dating sites, apps and overall internet-born relationships, it has become more popular and easier than ever. Why would someone do this? There are endless reasons why someone would resort to this. They may not know how to "let someone down easy". Vanishing may seem easier than talking it out. Found someone else. Once again, vanishing may seem easier than doing the right thing and talking it out. Commitment Phobia, when things get too serious, they back out to keep from repeating a previous heartache. Personal life problems. Recent life/job stresses, loss in the family, it goes on and on. If you have been Ghosted Know that it is NOT your fault. There is nothing you could have done to deserve this. Whatever the reason behind it, it is the other persons fault, not yours. If someone Ghosts you and later tries to get back with you, move on, let it go. Chances are they will do it again, don't let yourself go back through it. If you have ever Ghosted Please understand the pain and psychological damage you may have caused. The wondering of "what did I do wrong?" Regardless of why you wish to quit speaking to someone, the very least you can do is give them even the most simple of explanation, rather than leave them wondering if you will return and why you left. Without actually ending the relationship, you are letting the person hold on to a shred of hope that maybe, just maybe it isn't really over http://i.huffpost.com/gen/2226158/thumbs/o-GHOST-570.jpg?6

As a team the staff on this site have noticed a very worrying trend (and no it's not a retro clothing return lol). We have noticed people joining up in mobs and attacking other users for things they don't approve of. That my good people is bullying, plain and simple. Those of you who know me know I don't get mad about too many things, bullying however is one of them. Victims of bullying are 7-9% more likely to consider suicide than in general according to a Yale university study. Suicide itself has a devastating impact on those left behind. Bullying is also seen as a cause of self harm which in some cases can come before suicide. Imagine if a friend or loved one was being bullied. It's not nice to think about is it? People here are bound to have different opinions and arguments etc. That's normal in a community. However bullying isn't and shouldn't be. If you have issues with a user then message a mod or admin or use the report button. If you have differing opinions keep an open mind and be respectful of others. This community should be a relatively safe place for others so think before you type, keep an open mind and mind your manners.

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I'm probably the one you saw posting the ruleset I have. But for the sake of adding it to a place where everyone can share theirs in one thread, here they are again: What I will do for Daddy: 1. I will get excited when daddy gets home or wakes up. 2. I will wake Daddy up nicely and in a good mood. And more than likely excited. Sometimes with sexy time. 3. I will make Daddy tea and food if I feel up to it. (Please don't get mad at me if I don't feel up to it.) 4. I will listen to Daddy's rules. Please make them reasonable. 5. I will help Daddy with chores and bathies and showers. I just can't do it all though. 6. I will spend time apart from Daddy. 7. I will always call you Daddy when I am alone with you. 8. I will respect and trust you whole heartedly. 9. I will give Daddy wonderful sexy time. I love giving making him feel very good. 10. I will love Daddy and give him gifts. 11. I will dress up pretty for you, if you want. Also, this is what Daddy is to do for me:

I just posted this on my Tumblr blog a few days ago from an anonymous person asking. It got hundreds of notes, so since so many liked it I thought I would share it here. Anyone (Daddies, Mommies, and littles) is welcome to add more suggestions too. As this is a question I get asked a lot by not only new Daddies, but also by littles that are trying to get their partner to be a Daddy for them. So they know what suggestions to give them. - Pat her bottom - Pat her head - Sit her on your lap - Get her dressed - Get her undressed - Diaper her, check her diaper, change her diaper - Kiss her forehead - Call her pet names like sweetie, honey, sweet heart, baby doll, princess, kitten, and others like that - Cuddle her - Hold her hand (especially crossing street) - Pick her up - Tickle her - Give her raspberries on her tummy - Feed her with with a spoon or fork - Cut up her food for her - Wipe her mouth when messy - Give her a bath and wash her - Brush her hair - Tell her she’s your baby - Buckle her seat belt - Hold her bottle or sippy while she drinks - Tell her bed time stories

You are valid just the way you are. You are little, with or without a romantic partner or platonic caregiver. You are uniquely you. No one can ever take your place. It might not always feel like it, but love surrounds you. In the direction you're looking in, and within yourself. You deserve to feel it. You deserve to overcome childhood trauma, if you have it. You deserve happiness. You deserve to dream, wildly. You deserve to feel better. You deserve having peace of mind in a safe space. You deserve to make littlespace, yourspace. You are allowed to speak up and say no. Your safety is important. You are a beautiful soul, so don't let anyone- including yourself, tell you otherwise~ Have a wonderful timezone. ♡

It seems like every time I turn around lately I'm hearing or seeing someone shaming themselves because they do not fit today's idealistic image of airbrushed perfection. First of all, that image has more flaws below the surface than most of us have total. Yet we still listen to the hype and garbage that these companies try to tell us about what WE should look like or how WE should dress or even act. The fact that we let someone else decide what makes us feel good is total bullsh#@ in my eyes and I am tired of it. I say we because I too fall into the category of not being satisfied or happy with my current self. I however do not need other people that do not know me saying that I am not beautiful because I don't look like Magic Mike. I am working on myself day by day to get in better shape and better over all health. But the damage has already been done to my psyche that exercise and eating right cannot heal. I used to be ok with myself until social media came along. I mean I wasn't a ripped abs model type but I at least didn't hate myself. Now I don't like mirrors, or taking pictures, or going swimming. Because I know I will be judged not for who I am but for how I look in swim trunks, or by how much bigger I may be than the people in the pic next to me. These things slowly eat at you until you are no longer the person you were meant to be. It is a shame that we cannot look at one another and see the amazing beauty inside each other and openly say something about it. I have seen and felt more love here than any where else I have been online and I thank each of you for that. I know I am not the only one here that needs to hear a positive word of praise every now and then. Just someone saying "Hey you look good today" is all it takes to change a person's day and perhaps their life. So I am posting this to tell everyone here that reads this. I think you are beautiful. I think the person you are is amazing and you should let that light inside you shine as brightly as I know it can. If you want to change yourself for the sake of yourself, then do so. But to hell with hollywood and the superficial arse monkeys that have personal trainers and starve themselves to be a size 0. Their opinion of us does not matter. Strive daily to be the best you that you can possibly be and let the world take it's opinion and shove it. I live through music so I am going to post the lyrics to a song and a link so you can listen to it. I ask that anyone of you that has a song that is an inspiration to you and may touch someone else. Please post the lyrics so we can all see that we are all beautiful in our own way. Thank you for reading and sharing, with love, honor and respect Rob ALESSIA CARA "Scars To Your Beautiful" She just wants to be beautiful She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits, She craves attention, she praises an image, She prays to be sculpted by the sculptor Oh she don't see the light that's shining Deeper than the eyes can find it Maybe we have made her blind So she tries to cover up her pain, and cut her woes away 'Cause covergirls don't cry after their face is made But there's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark You should know you're beautiful just the way you are And you don't have to change a thing The world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh And you don't have to change a thing The world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful She has dreams to be an envy, so she's starving You know, "Covergirls eat nothing." She says, "Beauty is pain and there's beauty in everything." "What's a little bit of hunger?" "I could go a little while longer," she fades away She don't see her perfect, she don't understand she's worth it Or that beauty goes deeper than the surface Ah oh, ah ah oh, So to all the girls that's hurting Let me be your mirror, help you see a little bit clearer The light that shines within There's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark You should know you're beautiful just the way you are And you don't have to change a thing The world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful Oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh And you don't have to change a thing The world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful No better you than the you that you are (no better you than the you that you are) No better life than the life we're living (no better life than the life we're living) No better time for your shine, you're a star (no better time for your shine, you're a star) Oh, you're beautiful, oh, you're beautiful There's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark You should know you're beautiful just the way you are And you don't have to change a thing The world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful Whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh And you don't have to change a thing The world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

WHEN SHOULD SHE CALL YOU DADDY? I have been ready a fair amount of posts lately about the term Daddy and when it should be used. (I originally posted this on another side - but after my other post about “What Dominance Means to Me” I thought this was a fitting addition or follow up). I am frequently reading posts about potential Dominants starting conversations as “Daddy” or instructing the submissive to address them as “Daddy” in the first few messages. They begin conversations with orders and requests, feeling they a level of entitlement because they have given themselves the name “ Daddy” and feel fully confident in that role. As someone who takes pride in the title of “Daddy”, who takes pride in the community - I have issue with this. Imagine this scenario. You are sitting in Starbucks (one of my favourite places to hang out - judge me if you must) and you see a women walk in, that you are attracted to. You watch her order a coffee and sit down, she’s attractive and exhibits submissive tendencies. (Now, if your next question is “what are submissive tendencies” then I think you need to do some homework before becoming fully immersed in this site). Now walk over to her, take her by the hand and say “hello little girl nice to meet you, I am your Daddy, I will tell you what to do ! How do you think you will fair? Probably not so well. This is the approach that many are taking and though some may have the best intentions, it’s truly inappropriate. Let’s try to imagine the world for a moment from a little girls point of view. I am going to share a beautiful example someone shared with me many years ago. I have changed it somewhat … (poet license allows that) It’s a metaphorical story on how a little girl sees the grown up world - how she (my good friend) saw it. A little girl is all alone standing on the edge of a path, looking into a dark foreboding forest, it’s late at night, it’s cold, dark, rainy and wet. She is frightened, lost and unsure of what to do. Deep into the forest she sees a faint light flickering inside the window of a keep. She calls out “Hello” directing her voice towards that light, asking the keeper of the light for help. Off in the distance she hears a comforting voice that says “how may I help”? She calls back, “it’s dark and I am scared”. The figure off in the darkness moves his hands and pushes the clouds away and says “let me be your light ”. As the clouds are move away and the darkness dissipates, she feels less afraid. The path ahead of her is less foreboding but still unclear. “But, I am still cold and alone” she cries back. He moves his hands again and storm subsides slowly the rain eventually stops. “Then let me be your warmth” he says showing her the sun. She smiles and feels his warmth. “Is that better” he asks? “Yes” she responds He waits and a few minutes later he hears her voice again. “I am confused and lost” she says, “I can’t see where I am going - everything is overwhelming” He moves his hands and the dark trees and obstacles become a green and open field, with a winding path leading to a small brick and mortar keep. She giggles and says “thank you, now I feel better and I can see the way”. “My pleasure” he says and again patiently waits. “Who are you” she says, “I can’t see you behind that wall. I don’t know who you are”. He takes his hands and meticulously removes each brick stacking them in a pile, giving each one a name “fear, doubt, insecurity, anxiety…. so eventually, she can see who he is. “Thank you” she says, “now I can see you”. He smiles at her and waits. “I am still unsure” she says, “I am still a bit frightened”. He takes this as his cue and walks slowly forward, meeting her in the open field. He lays a blanket out for her. He sits on the on the blanket and offers her a place to sit. He opens a large basket and offers to share the contacts inside. Over the next few hours, he feeds her, talks to her and comforts her. After a period of time, she builds up her confidence and speaks. “This is nice” she says, “where are we”? “This is my world, this is the big world”, he responds, “would you like me to show you around”? She nods and agrees, curios to see what his world is all about. He waits but she sits on the blanket looking at him. He waits and finally she speaks. “I am still hesitant” she says, “I still do not feel safe”. He stands and offers his hand and tells her the following. “While you hold my hand, I will look after you, I will protect and cherish you, I will guide you and will give you my word that nothing will cause you are harm”. She takes his hand and says, “your a nice man what shall I call you”? “My name is Sir - but you can me whatever you like. You can call whatever makes you feel comfortable little girl”. She thinks for a moment about what he’s said, how he’s made her feel and what he’s done for her. She thinks about what he’s promised to do and how that makes her feel safe. She smiles and says “thank you sir, if it’s okay, I would like to call you Daddy” ? He smiles back and squeezes her little hand. “I would like that ‘little girl’, I would like that very much” he replies, “here, let me show you my world”. Now, yes it’s a bit of a corny and romantic tale, but remember who the reader is. Remember who you are addressing and how they may see the world. It may not be perfect but it’s a far deal better than full on “Dominance with sexual intentions”. So in a nutshell and go back to my original question, “When should she call me Daddy” the decision should be hers. Be that amazing man and she won’t want to call you anything else but her Daddy. I hope you have enjoyed my words and hope in some way they have resonated with you. As always positive feedback is always welcome and I encourage all of you to write and post on the site. Education is vital to understanding what this dynamic is truly about. “Thank you LG for the stories you shared and how you helped me see the world through different eyes”. As always, thanks for the read. Drew.

I've been thinking lately about whether to continue allowing NSFW / highly suggestive content in the gallery (partly because of this topic). Currently we don't allow outright nudity, but we do tolerate some NSFW content and highly suggestive content, and by continuing to allow this, a certain percentage of our users feel like going on the gallery can at times make them uncomfortable. Furthermore, it's often the case that uploading pictures to the gallery is likely to increase instances of predatory behaviour, especially if the pictures are suggestive. Sometimes I click on the gallery, and see some cute girl half naked with her tits bursting out or something, so naturally I click on to her profile (curiosity...?), and notice that a whole bunch of other daddies visited her profile before me, and you know for sure they've all sent friend requests. Maybe they're all friendly and nice, but I can see how that sort of stuff might bring bad attention and make drama more likely. When I look at other places that people in the DD/lg community hang out, it's like almost all of them are highly sexualized in one way or another, and full of NSFW content (Fetlife, Tumblr, subreddits on Reddit, etc), so I think there's already enough places one can go to express themselves in that way. I want this place to feel "different" from other DD/lg/BDSM communities. I think too many communities are so caught up in the sexual side of this, when that's only such a small part of DD/lg. For example, go on Tumblr right now, and type in "ddlg" into the search box; instead of getting useful knowledge and a variety of posts, all you will see are a whole bunch of NSFW gifs and pictures. It's fine to express that, but surely it shouldn't be such a huge focus? Therefore from now on, I've decided that any NSFW or suggestive content is banned from the gallery, and from the entire site. Linking to NSFW or suggestive content is OK, however you have to put a "NSFW" notice on it before you link to it. It's up to the moderators to define what constitutes suggestive content, but probably it'll be limited to content that seems deliberately designed to turn people on. Ultimately if it seems like you're only on here to post half naked pictures of yourself, and to just turn people on, then you'll quickly get yourself banned. This is a forum and community, so please take that elsewhere. If you have any advice or feedback about this, feel free to send me a PM. I'm all ears.

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I've seen many littles unsure of what their little age actually is or are still exploring their little side or are unexperienced when it comes to age regression during playtime and since I haven't noticed any topics such as this, I've decided to map out little space because I'm bored and I can't sleep... (instagram and tumblr mostly used as resources). If anyone sees some errors, feel free to comment. 0 - 6 months old ageplay age. We're deep inside baby territory, the little is in the "pre-linguistic stage" of learning language which means that the little can understand only simple words and can not speak back. Communication: The little regressed to this age only uses primitive body language and incoherent noises (cooing, crying, giggling, etc...) to communicate. This is specific to the 0-3 month age play. At the 4-6 month old stage, incoherent noises turn into the very base words such as gugu, gaga, ima, ida, etc... Diet: The little's diet consists of baby milk or milk from various animals, cows for instance. Movement: The little can barely move and is completely reliant on their caregiver to move them around. The little mostly just spends time on the floor, either flopped or sitting up, crawling ability is minimal. Activities: Activities are very limited. Playing with basic toys such as rattles and stuffies (caregiver needs to be careful of the little eating toys and choking), The basic toys shall not be named as the little is too young to comprehend that. Other activities are too complex for the little in this stage, the little will mostly just be sleeping a lot and will be pretty calm and docile and won't misbehave. 6 - 12 months old ageplay age. Still inside baby range so diapers are involved. The little can now understand words and begins to be able to communicate with simple words. Communication: The little can now communicate through "babbling". Simple sound repetition such as dadadadadadada, papapapapa, bababababa, gugugugugu, lalalalalalala, etc. The little sticks to the easy sounds and can not produce sounds such as fafafa, thathathat, zazaza, sasasasa, etc. Towards the later of the stage (10-12 months) the little may produce on occasion words such as daddy, ducky, doggy, mommy, mama, dada and other extremely simple words. Diet: The little is old enough to be able to eat and digest baby food and simple meshes. Milk is still on the menu. Movement: The little starts crawling around and will attempt walking but fail so the caregiver should be alert. Activities: The little can not yet comprehend puzzles and complex activities. Fun still consists of playing with simple toys (which can be named now), peek-a-boo and reading stories to the little. 1-2 years old ageplay age. Still baby mode, some begin potty training at this stage. Movement and communication slightly more advanced. Communication: The little can use simple words well now but sentences can not be formed yet and vocabulary is limited to mainly nouns, communication is based on "holophrases" (single word that conveys meaning. Example: The little saying "juice" over and over combined with grabby hands could mean "I want juice". The tone of voice and inotation of the holophrase helps the caregiver understand the little. Example: "juice?" means "can I have juice?" while "juice!" means "I want juice!". The little has a tendency to shorten hard words such as "nana" instead of "banana", substitute hard letters such as r (twee instead of tree), expelling consonant clusters (ky instead of sky) and the little still uses babbling as a way of communication. Diet: Baby food, small pieces of fruit, meshes, juices... No more baby food towards the end of the stage. Movement: The little becomes more able to walk towards the end of the ageplay age. At 1 year old will be very unstable, at 1.5 year old will use hands if struggling, at 2 year old the little gets pretty good at walking for short amounts of time. Activities: Naming games (pointing at things and naming them), peek-a-boo, playing with clay and squishy stuff, pulling silly faces. 2-3 years old ageplay age. Slowly exiting baby mode, diapers are rare, potty training isn't. They LOVE to get naughty at this stage, they say "no" a lot and get punished a lot. They also love to learn and will ask "why" a lot as well as "no". Communication: The little can now form sentences from up to 2 words (me juice, I hungry, love mommy, love daddy). The little still struggles with certain pronunciation but they get good at saying harder words. "th", "f" still can't be pronounced and sentences often miss words like "a", "the". Diet: No more baby food (cause the little is bid now ), fruit, vegetables, porriges, soups, dairy, sweets (but not a lot :/ ). Movement: The little can walk around very well but will still stumble once in a while so don't let your guard down just yet, loves to try to run around and is very playful. Activities: The little is very active and playful and will want to start playing with balls and ride scooters and solve puzzles and sing and dressup. Neediness and independance switch on the hour so it can be quite fun to watch. Side-notes: The caregivers will have their hands full with all the boo boos the little will be getting at this stage. The littles tend to have random fears at this stage. Fear of dark or monsters under the bed are common. The caregivers will need to reassure that they are safe. The caregivers will also need to be stern to deal with the little being naughty (which is a lot). 3-4 years old ageplay age. The little is an adult now... The little is the boss now.. Edit: Some still use diapers and some are still potty training, forgot to mention.. Communication: The little is in the "telegraphic" stage of talking. They can form sentences up to 5 words which often miss out many grammatical functions like determiners (a, the, an..) and prepositions (in, on, under...). Example: "We go park now", "me go nap nap"... They can apply concepts lie the past tense to their sentences by using the past tense inflection "ed" and they will apply it everywhere (I swimmed, we goed, I doed). They can now understand more complex concepts like grandure. Ther pronoun use improves but they still might make the odd error like saying "me wants" instead of "I want". They can and will use more question words than "why" now and can link sentences together with "and". Diet: The littles are adult now, they can have all the sweets they wants.... vegetables are banned of course. Movement: Walking, running, jumping, falling... Activities: They will enjoy being read longer stories as they can understand more words now. Colouring, playing games, performing more complex movements as they are more confident now. Side-note: The little can be very awkward to deal with and will test the caregivers patience extensively. As a result, discipline and routine is absolutely important. The punishments have to be consistent and properly executed or the little will get confused. The little is very prone to temper tantrums at this stage of age regression so consistency is key when it comes to routines, keep their bedtime, meal times and hygiene in check and consistent and they won't misbehave as much. That's it for this topic, I hope you've had an interesting read and have learned something, I know I did for sure. Click here for Age Play 101 4-10 y.o.

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You know you're a Daddy Dom when a 36 year old tattoo covered coworker tells you to hand him a tool he needs and without missing a beat you say "How do we ask for things we want?" and after a long pause he says "I guess I say please"

So it has come to my realization in the last week that I am very dependent on other people to make me feel small, even though I can initiate the regression by myself, I still feel the need that my peers and my Daddy are to help me maintain my littlespace. I need to make my littlespace MY space so I can regress without the assistance of others, perhaps other littles are going through the same issues and can follow this topic for ideas themselves. I have a few ideas to try and keep my littlespace to be independent but I'd like to discuss here what other littles do to keep their littlespace independent. My ideas are: Onesies (I just bought a onesie) Fuzzy knee high socks Colouring books (got LOTS of these) Doing my hair in pigtails or little alien buns. Watching shows on the kids account on Netflix. Perfume or any kind of scent that reminds you of childish things (my perfume is cotton candy) Stuffies (I have a Stitch plush that Daddy got me but I ordered another stuffie from Build A Bear online which is taking forever lol.) Binkies Painting my nails bright colours Bubble baths or just bubbles bought from a store to blow around Baby blankets just to hold or put over your pillow J-pop or K-pop songs. I started a little journal to write things that make me feel little and happy. I have little 'agendas' in there like brush my teeth twice a day and I get a sticker for that day, since I am guilty of not brushing twice a day due to forgetting about it. That's about all I have for ideas... Does anyone do anything else that makes them feel little while also being independent ?

Wearing big snuggly jumpers, watching powerpuff girls, pixar movies, princess movies, winnie the pooh, cuddling and messing around (playfighting, pretending to bite and eat, num num) with Boss, having cute hair clips and stuff in, thumb sucking

A big, huge one for me is play with her! Nothing helps me feel smaller than when Daddy actually plays with me. Offer to play a video game that they like. Color with them. Start talking in that voice you use to make them smile, even though they aren't smiling. Act like a Little! (Watch how fast that makes them burst out laughing and tell you to stop it. I dare you.) Tease them about how you are going to /have/ to use their stuffies and sippy cups because they /clearly/ aren't interested. Suggest a Little movie or show when choosing what to watch. Grab a nerf gun and just start firing at the wall. Start a food fight. Start a water fight. Roll up your shirt, and play your tummy like a drum until they squeal with laughter. Be as outrageous as possible. Once, when Daddy had picked me up from work and I was feeling really low and the exact opposite of Little, He asked me where Little Belle had gone. "She's on vacation. In Florida." "Oh. Well. May I call her? Maybe ask her to come home?" "You can try. You might get a voicemail. She's very busy." So He did. He called right there next to me in the car, and left me a voicemail begging me dramatically to come home and eat macaroni and cheese with Him. Fake sobbing and all. Spoiler alert: I totally did.

*Waves* So. I am going to play devil's advocate again. This time on something I feel passionately about. I just ask we all keep the peace and are able to have a mature discussion. Thanks everyone. Here lately I have found myself talking to people, one on one, about the plague that has swept through generations. The one named Instant Gratification. We all know that need, the desire to get what we want and get it NOW. To put forth little effort and have things just fall into place. We are all guilty of it, at least sometimes, and we will always be guilty of it in some aspects. This is seen especially true when it comes to things like electronics and personal gains. In this day and age we are able to get so much instantly that we are conditioning ourselves into thinking this is the norm. Well. Let me make one thing clear. Instant gratification in relationships will always lead to failure. Wait... Just once more... Instant gratification in relationships will always lead to failure. I will use this forum as an example, but know this whole post can easily be applied to any other means of relationships. I have seen a behavior here of people (and I will never name names) joining the site, or starts becoming active, or expresses their needs to just get what they seek and want it all to happen within that moment. To narrow the scope, lets turn just to the personals and chat. All too much a person will become increasingly impatient when their add does not get the responses they desire, or the attention they want in chat. And, from a third person perspective, this is so mentally damaging of a mindset. When people seek instant relationships, nine times out of ten they will fail. And if they don't fail, it will not be an ideal situation. These people who want their CG or their little NOW are those who are not educated enough in this dynamic. Let me explain: I am not saying those who are ready for a relationship are uneducated. It is the people who just expect to get a CG or a little simply because they are here or they want attention or that they are apart of the community AND they don't want to take time in getting to know anyone. These people are the ones who need to step back and start doing more research. These people are going to be the ones who are continually hurt or who will hurt (unintentionally) others because of their lack of understanding of social dynamics. You cannot expect instant gratification with relationships because it is harmful for those involved. This is psychological fact. But what I have noticed as an issue in this community are those who are expecting a relationship to just *happen* without even making an attempt at... anything. To me (as MY OPINION) these people are no where near ready to even be in a relationship. If you are not willing to be a part of a community (using this forum as an example) and get to know anyone, then that speaks to how much effort you are willing to put into a significant other. If you just expect someone to come to you and fulfill your needs, again, that just shows how lazy you are in relationships. And that is not something anyone needs. Moving away from my opinion - Psychology shows us that to form any kind of connection a basis of understanding and mutual knowledge is needed of one another. And this cannot be done in mere hours or days. A person does not experience the spectrum of emotions and triggers needed to fully show the real You in days. Am I saying you need to know your possible CG or little 100% before forming a relationship? No, not at all. I am saying you need to know more than the basics, just like any relationship. What are their theologies, professional goals, academic goals, future living plans, family goals, what are their pet peeves, fears, passions, etc? How can you even begin to make an informed decision if you don't know anything about a person? What happens when you get caught up in finding your new "Daddy" and you two are together and then only find out that he never wants to have kids, he doesn't believe in God and he is racist? But wait... you "loved" him? Remember? Or what happens when you get with your new "little" and find out she never wants to work, expects a high lifestyle and has a track record? Of course everyone has flaws and those can be worked on if you love someone - but you cannot love someone within hours because you don't even know that person. You know what they want you to know. There are exceptions of course - maybe you two talked for 10 hours a day for weeks. Or you form such a deep level of connection over a like passion that it drives the need to know more. But what I am saying is - you cannot expect this instant, serious, relationship after just meeting someone. You cannot expect to find your forever CG or Little the moment you post an add. You cannot expect to find a TRUE Daddy when you say in chat "I need a Daddy so badly" or vice versa (Daddy for a little). These things take time. And that is a good thing! We, society in general, need to learn to take time for those things that truly matter. We need to savor the process of getting to know someone, to learning those little details that drive us wild with wonder and amazement. We need to understand that instant gratification should be saved for fast food and Netflix, and not people and relationships.

I've seen many littles unsure of what their little age actually is or are still exploring their little side or are unexperienced when it comes to age regression during playtime and since I haven't noticed any topics such as this, I've decided to map out little space because I'm bored and I can't sleep... (instagram and tumblr mostly used as resources). If anyone sees some errors, feel free to comment. Click here for Age Play 101: 0-4 y.o. 4-5 years old ageplay age. The little hit an increased development phase both physically and mentally. They crave a lot more carbs. They also become very self aware and shy when it matters. Anxiety is high in this area of regression, thus a lot of energy and time is being put into trust building with the caregiver. Communication: The littles talk well, only Rs and such give them issues. Diet: sandwiches (pbj), cookies, cereal, veggie bits, fruits, cheeses, pastas and pastry, sweets... Movement: Walking is mostly fine at this point but some littles still walk slowly and carefully, using hands for stability. Activities: Telling stories, singing, practicing talking, drawing, colouring, watching cartoons / Disney movies, nibbling stuff, hide and seek, running around, catch, read childrens books, legos, bubble baths, playing with stuffies. 5-7 years old ageplay age. The trust building phase is still going. Communication: The littles talk well now, only some advanced sentences and words give them issues. Diet: Pastas and pastries, sandwiches, cookies, cereals, lots of sweets... Movement: Movement is a little bit more advanced than the previous year but still an ocassional stumble here and there. Activities: Hide and seek, running around, catch, board games, colouring, watching cartoons, Disney movies, drawing, telling stories, read childrens books, more cuddling and mingling, dancing, bubble baths, playing with stuffies. Advice for Caregivers: You have to be very consistent during the trust building phase. The more you insist on a healthy routine, safe habits, proper diet with lots of veggies, enforce rules, the more you're showing the little that you care and trust will build up easier. Be consistent. The brats act bratty during this time to test you, part of trust building is proving yourself to your little. 7-10 years old ageplay age. Trust between the little and Caregiver is very rooted now and the little sees the Caregiver as a safe place, a protector, a guide.. More advanced development may begin now under the Caregivers watchful eye. The little is on the path to becoming a middle. She likes to go on adventures, explore, learn about adult life.. Communication: Communication is advanced at this point, not words are misspoken and sentences well made. Diet: The littles like to focus on the junk foods at this point (The cool foods) like pizzas, burgers, french fries, etc... Also sweets... Movement: Movement is very advanced, the little is able to walk, run, jump, swim without any issues. Activities: Card games, board games, trivia and such. Competitive games. More adult movies, series, anime and books. Outside activities like walking or exercising with the Caregiver. Experimenting with cooking. Arts and crafts. ADVENTURES! Advice for Caregivers: Be supportive to your little's curiosity, they'll be very curious and happy / hyper around you because they trust you completely. Your little one is growing . Brats act bratty during this time because they want to feel like they're maturing and because they're not "babies anymore!" That's it for this topic, I hope you've had an interesting read and have learned something, I know I did for sure and I would like to thank everyone who assisted me in the making of this one, you've been a lot of help since research materials were very limited. THANK YOU!

I have a notebook that is covered in fur and it is so soft! It is going to be my new little space journal. I am so obsessed with all of my pens, markers, stickers and glitter washi tape. I am going to make a page with my sticker collection, a few different pages with stuff about the video games I play, Daddy's rules. I get most of my journaling stuff from the store Michael's.. or online. I like wish.com, they have a lot of cute kawaii stickers from China, and if you don't mind waiting like a month to get them, they are super cheap too. I will post some pictures later on when I get to work on my journal some more! PS. I LOVE the banner for this Journal thread. The bubble letters are so cute.. did you make it yourself? Edit: Here are the photos of the beginnings of my little space journal! It's soo fluffy and soft I could cuddle it!! The start of my sticker collection... & A page for my washi tape collection! That's all I have so far, I still have a lot of pages to make. But I would love to work on it when I have time

Exactly Mrboneswildride, a princess is not going to give you any attention if you don't treat them like a princess! Very few littles will appreciate a message such as "get on your knees for me" because frankly, submission is to be earnt, not expected. ALWAYS treat littles with respect, and you shall receive the same basic respect back. There is a time and a place to act like the mean daddy, and that's not right away!

Many littles, myself included need their little space to cope with stress and bad things in life. For every caregiver, enjoy their little space with them. Don’t get frustrated with them .Here’s just a few things to keep them safe in their little space when they’re having a bad day: 1. If they’re busy coloring or watching cartoons, bring them some chocolate milk and cookies. 2. If your little is having a really bad day and doesn’t want to get out of bed, then get in bed with them. Some compliments may get her to peek her head over the covers. Let them cling to you as much as they want. 3. Never resort to punishment when a little is suffering from depression. Ask if they’re ready to talk, don’t push the issue. They should know you’re there for them when the time finally does come. 4. Make sure you use their “nicknames” if they want to stay in little space. Only address them as kitten, princess, little boy etc. 5. Try to get your little outside. Pack a picnic, bring some bubbles, and an outdoors game if they feel up to it. Going outside and getting fresh air can work wonders. 6. Wrap them up in a blanket and carry them around the house. Being taken care of to that extent makes them feel super loved, and reminds them you are always there for support.

This thread is perfect for me! I just got myself a bunch of new stationery, and started a new journal! This was my first entry (I drew the cakes myself, hehe): Sorry about the poor lighting, it's pretty late here (past my bedtime actually, woops). I can't wait to share more pictures of my stationery and my adventures with journaling! And I'm so excited to see what everyone else has to share as well!!

*Waves* As ever, I will be playing the devil's advocate. Lets keep it nice and mature. I want to discuss the topic of relationships and mental growth. I feel this is something everyone needs multiple times in their life and I fear is happening less and less as time goes on. Over the past two weeks I have talked to a lot of people one on one (via PMs) about this very topic that I figured I would write it all out. I will never name names, but I will be using examples from those I have spoken with. And even then I will only say the same things I told to them. And for the sake of this post I will be using the DDlg dynamic as the example of the type of relationship since we can all relate to this. I did a whole post on Instant Gratification (https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12827-instant-gratification/?do=findComment&comment=69810) in regards to these issues, so I will not be touching on that subject. But instead I will be focusing on the factors at play when you do jump around from partner to partner or dive head first into something you are not ready for. Most of this article will be based in psychological fact unless I specifically state it is my opinion. A lot of it may be hard for some to swallow because they may see themselves in what I am writing - my point is NOT to make you feel bad. It is to help people realize that there are consequences that can hurt you if not taken into consideration. ***As always! There are exceptions to each and every category! No one person is pigeonholed into a category and just because you may meet some categorical elements, that doesn't mean you will do these things. I am not saying everyone fits these groups! I am not saying that those that fits these groups are bad in any way! These are generalized statements, please understand this!*** The Issue - Too many people have this desire to hop from one relationship to another, without a second thought on how this may be effecting the one they are with or themselves. Or they seem to want to jump into a relationship without even knowing what they need or are needed of by their partner. Age Yes, I am starting out with an issue no one in this category is going to want to hear. Age has such a huge impact (in general) when it comes to the mindset of when a person is ready to start a serious, in depth, relationship. And more importantly, how they deal in between these relationships. Why is age such a vital element? Because the younger you are, the less likely you are to have had any real life experience as well as not have done the proper research on things you may need to know. Am I saying there are no late teens and early twenty-years-old who are not well rounded and informed? Absolutely not. Of course there are! But in general this is an age when a person is truly figuring out the Real World for the first time and trying to get a grip on this thing called Life. Which is how it is supposed to be. And while doing so it is increasingly difficult to withstand the pressure and commitment a DDlg relationship requires. In my opinion - The DDlg relationship is one of the most intimate and deep relationship a person can have. And it is a relationship that requires a lot of maturity because of the very nature it stands in. Example - I have seen multiple people in chat who will say publicly that they cannot sleep without a Daddy. They cannot be happy without a Mommy. They cannot be without a caregiver. I will openly admit; when I see this in chat my first reaction is to go to their profile and check their age. And literally every single time I have done this, said little has been 18-19 years old. The forum is a little biased (in my opinion) and Mommies and Daddies are asked to stop solicitation when they start asking for littles, but those that make these radical of statements tend to be the same age range. And the worst part is, predators know that when they are this young and trying to be in this type of relationship it is easy to prey on these individuals. Why? Because it is true. For the most part littles and caregivers of this age do not fully understand what it takes to be in this dynamic and so it is so much easier to be manipulated. When you are 18, 19, 20 years old you haven't really settled into adulthood. You haven't really gotten into the swing of things to truly know how things work (again! in the vast majority!). You have done from you original caregiver's home (parents, grandparents, family, etc) and now are looking for a relationship with another caregiver. This stunts your growth as an independent adult. Not to mention that it will make you that much more vulnerable if/when the relationship ends. We need to be able to struggle and flourish on our own to learn how to cope with the real events of your life. And most importantly, learning how to survive on your own and love yourself should take top priority. Otherwise you will never be happy. And to stunt yourself at such a young age can easily warp your entire adulthood. Experience We have all seen it, "I am a new Daddy and am looking for his princess." "Hai hai, I am a new wittle looking for her Daddy!" You know what? That is great! We are all so happy that you are ready to start your first DDlg relationship! ...that is to say if you are ready. Inexperience is not a bad thing by any stretch of the imagination, not at all. We all start out at 0 and it is up to us to figure things out and explore. This is great! However. When a person is inexperienced they need to take extra care of who they get involved with and exactly how they deal during and after break ups. Example 1 - I am going to use myself as my first example here. I am currently 24 and officially acknowledged that I was a little when I was 20, but I had little like needs since I was 17. When I came to accept I was a little at 20 I started looking for forums similar to this. My rationale (like most), the best way to get to know myself is to jump head first into the community. Right? Yes and no. I found another forum with another chat system and will openly admit I was clueless about this dynamic at 20. And I cannot tell you how many older men swamped my inbox and my PMs (in this chat, ANYONE could PM you) wanting to be my Daddy. I thank my background in psychology that I was able to profile these men accurately because 99% of them were looking to take advantage of the fact that I had no idea what I was doing. This is when I backed off and took time (4 years to be exact) to do as much research to find out what I need. Now, because of my understanding, I can easily spot the manipulators, those who are not mature and those who would not be a good fit. This alone has saved me from so many issues that I cannot express enough how important research is. I know what it is like to want your Daddy to show you the ropes because you are basically at vanilla standing with no experience under your belt. But that is NOT justification to put yourself at risk. Example 2 - Here recently I have spotted a new "Daddy" and a new "little" come together after only being in the dynamic for a few months or so. Why did I use quotes? Am I saying they are not a real Daddy or little? Not at all. But their lack of experience (mixed with their age) leads me to believe (my opinion) they are not READY to be in these roles. Could they prove me wrong? Certainly! Is it likely? No. I know that one of them has just gotten out of his/her first DDlg relationship only a month-ish ago and now he/she wants to just get into a relationship to take care of someone or be taken care of. ***Vagueness used for confidentiality*** This person has not allowed enough time to even begin to recover from his/her very first relationship where the ex "ripped my heart out." This is SO dangerous! Without allowing time to deal with heartbreak you are putting not only yourself at risk but also your new partner. And this happens with inexperience because people want to experience so badly they do not take the proper precautions. Experience shouldn't be a collection. We shouldn't hold relationships like trophies. What we need to focus on is UNDERSTANDING and realistic expectations. I have not had a Daddy, but I can honestly say that when I find one, it will be a quality relationship with a lower risk of technical issues. Why? Because I supplemented my inexperience with research. Am I saying everyone needs to do 4 years of research? Hell no. But a significant amount is needed, enough to let the person know of not only the wonderful aspects of this dynamics but the very real dangers. Mental Health This is a monumental issue within our community. There have been so many issues of those with mental illness or mental unease that have jumped head first into a relationship when it is obvious that it will only harm them further. Let me make something very clear: Mental illness does not mean you cannot be a Caregiver or a little. Oh yeah, you know I am going to repeat myself because this is so important: Mental illness does not mean you cannot be a Caregiver or little. But what it does mean is you have an added responsibility (as the one with a mental illness) to acknowledge that not everyone can be put in the a relationship like this. And it is not because you are bad or gross or unlovable in any way shape or form! But all mental illness comes with added responsibilities and needs. And some people are not able to deal with those. This is just a fact of life. Example 1 - I was talking to an individual who lost his little because she didn't understand his depression. She claimed he didn't love her nor did he care about her because he couldn't be energetic and fun-loving whenever she wanted him to be. Talking further with this individual, he then revealed to me that he never told her that he was suffering from depression. See how quickly that went from "Geeze, she should understand that is how depression works," to "Wow, I can see how she misunderstood his symptoms." That is because when it comes to mental illness you need to be ready to disclose this about yourself to your new partner. If you cant (maybe you're afraid they wont be with you) then it is time to reevaluate if they are even good for you as it is. Example 2 - Another individual I talked with is recovering from a particularly vicious break up. This break up has left him feeling lonely and unwanted. He wants to get into a relationship because he cannot stand the loneliness because it reminds him of his ex. When I talked to him I mentioned he should work through these issues and work on being okay before jumping into something new. He then explained that he wanted to "be with someone until I am fixed so I wont be lonely." In other words, he wants to be with someone as a way to avoid his mental trauma. This is so damaging for both people involved! A person needs time to hurt, to grieve and time to realize who they are after a break up, it is essential to being mentally healthy. And most importantly: It is NOT FAIR to expect someone to be with you when you are still suffering from a past relationship in this magnitude! When the wounds are still THIS fresh and THIS painful, another relationship WILL NOT HELP. And it will only hurt you AND your new partner even worse. What these examples are showing is that we have an obligation to any future relationships to know our needs and our mental abilities before starting anything. A person NEEDS to be in a place that is safe for both them and anyone new otherwise the risk is too great. If this means being single for however long, then that is what it takes! Utilize friends during these times, but do not jump into a new relationship when you cannot handle it. If you have a mental illness (depression, anxiety, bi-polar, etc) then you have an added responsibility to know your limits and the limits of those you may be with. Again - this does NOT make you any less of a wonderful person! Not at all!! But the symptoms and their needs cannot be ignored, it is not fair to those involved (including yourself). And if you are at a point that you are not healed from whatever may have happened, then don't back someone into a corner because you didn't want to be lonely. In my blunt opinion? This is HIGHLY selfish - you are basically saying another person has to deal with your wounds because you don't want to. Again - does this mindset mean you are unlovable and unwanted? HELL NO! It means you need to heal to be able to move on. We have ALL been there. It is just now your turn and it needs to be done so responsibly. My whole point that I am trying to make is this: Everyone needs to understand that this jumping from person to person is not health, it does not allow time for a person to grow or learn to understand their own self. AND rushing into another relationship after some heartache or mental trauma is not only unwise but is DANGEROUS to all involved. Every single person has a responsibility to care for themselves, even if they don't want to. And even more importantly, they have an even larger obligation to be considerate of the person they want to be with. Even if that means admitting they are not ready! We need to take steps to be safe and happy, otherwise all we are doing is hurting our community as a whole. [Author's note - this was not proofread so please excuse any typos and errors.]

One of the most common perils of dating, both online and in person is moving too fast. This is after all, an age of instant gratification, we want what we want and we want it now! I am just going to go over online relationships in this post. To make this post I asked friends and members online some questions. This is a group effort, I just typed it up. Building Blocks & Foundation Take the DD/LG aspect out of the relationship and you are left with same core and building blocks of any relationship. When asked "what are the cores of a healthy relationship? This is what people told me: Attraction Attraction is more than seeing a beautiful person. While physical attraction is important, do not forget emotional and mental attraction. Does the person stimulate your mind? Make you laugh? Make you feel better when you are upset? Attention​ The amount of attention needed varies by person. Often on the forum a post along of the lines of "Daddy isn't giving me enough attention" will pop up. This is why the beginning of a relationship is so important. This is when you learn if the person can and/or will give you the attention you desire. If you feel you are not getting the attention you crave, communicate that, if your needs are still not met, move on. Communication Communication is important in every step of a relationship. Communicate with potentials what you need, crave and desire. This can make finding the "right one" so much easier. Once you are in a relationship, never stop communicating. Nothing can be solved if the other person doesn't even know there is an issue. Trust Trust is not a given, it is earned. Trust can only be built with time, communication and positive actions. How much time it may take varies person to person. If someone violates your trust early on, you need to move on. Time "Only time will tell." Too often we will see a relationship begin and end within a span of just a few hours. Why does this happen? Usually too much too fast. In the excitement of some new prospective love, we forget ourselves entirely and forget to pace ourselves to slowly let someone in. Time is the most important aspect of a new relationship. When you rush into a new relationship you are not giving yourself enough time to get to know someone, truly know someone. Know their needs, wants and desires. There is no magic time frame of when a relationship should start but you will know when it is time. If you are being pressured to start a relationship or don anything that you are not comfortable with, communicate those feelings. If the pressure is still there, leave. Big thanks to those who tolerated and answered my never ending questions http://i.imgur.com/8XE5ny3.jpg

Upbeat music like jpop and openings to my favorites shows. Also my dollies help lots too

I'm new and awkward, but I thought id share something My favourite animal is a crocodile and I got a crocodile stuffie for my birthday. I wrote a journal page about him. I feel vulnerable Sharing parts of my little side but im trying to get more confidence with everything Thanks for reading 🐊 💕

The following are some easy & brief ways to add more information to your About Me, Profile and Personals!! Big thanks to users Praetorian & 8-bit chan~ for answering my questions and helping me! General Tips for Profiles, About Me & Personals Figure out what your audience is, are you looking for friends, significant others or both? Cater to your audience, what do you want/need them to know? Musical interests: favorite bands, songs, albums, or genres. Do you play an instrument, sing or dance? TV/Movies: what shows, movies, actors, genres or directors do you like? Literature: favorite authors, books, animes or series. Video games: types of video games, game series or game counsels. Do you play for fun, professionally or maybe design games? Hobbies: what cool things do you like to do for fun? Crafts, fishing, hiking, etc. Art: art lover, art creator, crafty, writer, photographer? Share some of your best work! Collections: from coins to stamps! Maybe add a picture or two of your collection to your gallery! Dietary: are you vegan, vegetarian or gluten free? Do you cook/bake? Share some of your best recipes or pictures of your creations! Test results: Bdsm test, Meyer-Briggs, Hogwarts House, etc. Kinks: what are your kinks, turn ons, turn offs and limits? Favorites: seasons, colours, animals, weather, etc Link your tumblr if you have one! Use a background, gifs/pictures and fun fonts to dress up your page or personal! Personal Specific Figure out what your audience is, are you looking for friends, significant others or both? Cater to your audience, what do you want/need them to know? LDR or nearby? Web cam necessary? *insert texting/messaging app* necessary? Do you drink/smoke? Would you like your partner(s) to drink/smoke? Is drinking/smoking a deal breaker? Ideal date: are you more of a picnic, stay at home or go out on the town kind of person? What is your schedule like: going to school, average work hours/week, volunteer? Are you a self motivated, driven person? Would you like your partner(s) to be self motivated and driven? Are you monogamous, polyamorous, open to either? Introverted or extroverted, does it vary? Your body type/Ideal body type Pets: what type of pets do you have? Any allergies? Be clear on what you do or do not want. (Saves time and energy on both ends) You do not have to include all of these but hopefully they can give you some inspiration if you are looking to add more information about yourself!

First and foremost, I would like to give a huge shout out and hug to member cuddlebug. Thank you so much for your help and patience, it was a great experience to learn and work with you. Here is some information to help others here in the community better understand our transgender members. By no means is this fully inclusive of everything there is to know however, it should provide a good starting point to helping understand the matter. What does transgender mean? Let's start with the basics. Transgender is a term for someone who identifies as a different gender than assigned at birth. Generally speaking there are three different ways to look at it A (transgender) woman who was thought to be a man at birth but identifies and lives as a woman. Male to female or MTF. A (transgender) man who was thought to be a woman at birth but identifies and lives as a man. Female to male or FTM. The third category is more of a gender spectrum than an actual gender; non-binary, gender queer or gender fluid. Note: not all gender fluid, non-binary or gender queer people are trans, many do not identify as one gender or just float on the gender spectrum. Misconceptions Understand that trans people are not different than anyone else. This is very important. Forget what the media has "taught you" about the trans community. It is likely that you have walked by, interacted with or conversed with someone who is trans while at work, on the subway or in the bathroom without even realizing. Despite media's too typical picture of a drag queen or some caricature of a woman with too much make-up, trans people are just looking to live their lives. Not everyone undergoes surgery or hormones. It is a personal decision. Emphasis on personal, it is totally inappropriate to ask someone if they have had surgery, if they are going to and what they have between their legs. If someone chooses to tell you that, it is their personal decision. Being trans does not mean nor make someone mentally ill, this is a silly, outdated and quite ignorant belief. While some in the community are mentally ill or have mental disorders, that is simply because mental illnesses and disorders have no boundaries and can affect anyone. Sex, Sexuality & Gender Sex ~ A person's sex refers to a person's anatomy. Hormones, organs and chromosomes fall under this category. Sexuality ~ Sexuality or Sexual Orientation is who you are attracted to. Gender ~ A person's gender is more related to behavior and the way one views their outward physical appearance. Gender and Sexuality are completely different entities. Just because someone lives and identifies as different gender from birth, does not define their sexuality. Gender does not define Sexuality. Pronouns If you meet someone who is trans, regardless of where on the spectrum of change they may be, be respectful of both their name and preferred pronoun. If you are unsure of what name or pronoun to use, ask them, off to the side. Bare in mind that the English language does not reflect the gender spectrum. Our understanding of language has been on a model that only recognizes Male or Female pronouns. Please be aware that if you know someone who is transitioning, this is a huge adjustment period for everyone. Please be kind, understanding, and most importantly patient and keep an open mind and heart. They can use and deserve all the support in the world. More Resources Trans Lifeline ~ Primairly for crisis but for anyone struggling, hotline for America and Canada The Treovor Project ~ Offers both hotline and online chat for anyone in crisis More ways to be an ally ~ Ways to be ally

Mine are: 1. I am beautiful, and I will not say otherwise 2. Daddy Pete is Baby Girl's only Daddy 3. 10PM is bedtime, 11PM on weekends. Unless Daddy says otherwise. 4. Baby Girl is to respect her Daddy at all times 5. When colouring and doing art activities, she must always ask Daddy to do her cutting, sharpen pencils etc ALWAYS 6. When Baby Girl wants to stop being "big" in the real world, she can ask her Daddy for "Little Time" 7. Baby Girl is free to speak her mind and offer suggestions to her Daddy any time without fear of punishments. BUT NO WHINING OR USING PESTER POWER WILL BE ALLOWED EVER. 8. Follow your daily guide every day 9. If you want something, ask politely. If Daddy says no, don't pout or contest it. 10. Baby Girl must always say good morning and goodnight to Daddy 11. Daddy will punish for any rule breaking 12. Daddy will reward Baby Girl for following her rules. 13. Treats are extra, do not assume 14. Give Daddy lots and lots of kisses, hugs and cuddles. 15. Always try to dress nice for Daddy 16. Always tell Daddy the truth

Friends first! That's what I always say.