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Trauma hits everyone different. You are doing the right things. You will make it through this. I believe in you.

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Thanks for being patient friends! Sleep has been in short supply this week but the show must go on. Soooooo... feel free to read chapters 37-41. The book is for sure picking up momentum. Please remember to be checking in at least once a week so I dont have to guess if you are still participating. Have an amazing week! Pigtail

Hi everyone! I've spoken with @shadowriderand he said when we earn a badge, he will add it to our profile. I'll send him a picture and he'll take that and do his stuff. So, just like in real scouts, you be able to show everyone what you've accomplished. Once again, I'd like to remind everyone, that when you so a badge on your own, offline, you will tell us and we'll take the appropriate action to get it put on your profile. But, actual badges, whether on your own or with us as a troup will be your responsibility to purchase. I'll show you ideas of some and you can either go to the place of purchase and get them or pick one that you like better. If you want to get troup numbers, we are: GLOW WORM GUILD, (TROUP) #26.

I was thinking of starting next month with the first meeting

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Its that time!!! Chapters 47-51 are officially open! So read on! Also the reading chat for halfway has been scedualed for Sunday the 15th at 7pm PST!! It was hard as we are all over the place but that is when the most people have a chance to come. Also Wednesday chat is moved to Thursdays permanently. Have an amazing week yall.

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker It was a hard pick but we will be doing Sunday the 15th at 7pm PST!!! The link to the chat is below. It will run for 1 hour ish https://www.ddlgforum.com/chatbox/room/4-pigtails-playpen-reading-chat/

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker You know what time it is!!! Qithput further teasing feel free to read chapters 42-46! Also the pole for our midway meeting is up so please go vote! Have an amazing rest of the week friends.

Trying to break patterns is not easy! I think you're showing great bravery. Sending you warms thoughts 🌟

oh sweetie I'm so sorry you're feeling the stress!! Like you said just remember deep breath! And remember I think you are way stronger than you think you are!! You're incredibly brave to come here and reach out! But even better, your self-aware of what you're doing! Which means you are in control!! And I will sit here with you and metaphorically hold your hand anytime you need me to! 🫂❤️❤️ Big hugs my friend big hugs!!

Lately, I’ve been feeling really sad. The kind of sad that drains motivation until even getting out of bed feels impossible. I tried to stay positive, to be uplifting, to push through it quietly. Then I got really sick, most likely from chemo, it hit me hard, so hard I was crawling just to get into bed. Thankfully my stomach has settled, my body no longer aches or feels like it’s vibrating, and little by little, the sadness has started to loosen its grip. I’m writing this because no one really knew how sad I was. I didn’t let anyone see it, I let the depression consume me until I didn’t even know where to begin anymore. I could barely keep a smile on my face, and I had no energy left for anything. It made me start thinking about others. How many of the people who are always cheering others on have laid in bed wondering how they were going to get up because of depression? How many of the “strong” or “happy” ones are quietly carrying more than anyone realizes? That thought broke my heart. There were moments when I wrote small pieces about my sadness, but I never went deep. I never wanted others to see my true broken pieces my true sadness, how heartbroken and emotionally exhausted I was and how I couldn’t see past my own hands. Looking back, that’s when I should have reached out. I should have let others in and allowed them to help ease the weight I was carrying. I’m not sharing this for pity, and I’m not asking for concern or attention. I feel much better now than I did then. I’m sharing this as a reminder. Please check on the ones who are always smiling. Let them know you care. Let them know you’re there to listen if they need a friend. Because sometimes the people who spend their lives making others feel happy are the ones who need it the most. Until next time, remember this: you matter, You are loved. And you are worthy of being loved. -Miss Anna-

@MissAnna Thank you for trusting us with something this tender. What you shared takes so much courage, especially after carrying it quietly for so long. I’m really sorry you went through that depth of sadness and the physical toll on top of it, no one deserves to feel that alone. Your words are such an important reminder that strength doesn’t always look like smiling or pushing through, and that even the most giving hearts can be hurting deeply. I hope you know how much your honesty matters and how many people it will help feel less unseen. I’m really glad to hear you’re feeling lighter now, even if it’s just little by little. You matter so much, and you deserve the same care and compassion you so freely give to others. Thank you for this reminder to check in, to listen, and to love more intentionally. Please continue to be strong and know that you too are special, matter and loved 💛

I want to start hosting online troop meetings. these will be fun, interactive and we will be able to earn badges at these meetings and share ones that we have worked on during our own time. I'm going to start a poll of good times to host one each month. feel free to give comments on what you feel about this

I’m not sure I’ll be able to commit to the fixed meeting times every month, but I definitely wanna participate!!! 🙂 I never got to be in Girl Scouts as a kiddo, so I’m actually really excited about this.

Google sounds good to me! I dunno if we said or not, but are we doing online meetings once a month? Also, I have pictures of badge I'll post tomorrow. I'd do it tonight but I didn't get but maybe 3 hours of sleep. I'll also have a more detailed, structured, Badge and Requirments "book" up and ready within the next couple of days. I also thought it might be easier for everyone if we make an album just for our club to put our pictures and things pertaining to the Troop. What do you think? It'll be easier also to keep track of who did what badge.

@princess_ameliadon't leave!! we have badges for everyone including ones who will not attend our meetings online!!!! we have several ways to participate this is for everyone no matter how they want to participate nothing is mandatory!!!! we just want to have fun and make friends!!!! @Lil_K47 I like zoom I use it to video chat a family member only issue with that is without paying for it you are limited on how long the meeting will be then it kicks everyone out and I can't restart for 15 mins. I do not have the extra money to pay for a subscription. but discord and Google meetings both have where you don't have to use video and voice you can just type in it just as we are now. I have used both platforms for video stuff and I like both of them and they are very easy to use. I understand not everyone has a discord that's why I would recommend google meetings because most people have google accounts or can make on just for this so our real names don't show up. I have 2 accounts 1 for my big girl stuff and one for little stuff

Hello all, I'm Lefty as most of you know. I'm an older little, almost in my 40s. Well in my late 30s as of right now. I'm into MDLB.

Yessss! Loving all these new profiles! Thank you all 💚💚💚 Was going to mention that if anyone is interested or sees a profile they connect with head over to the Reading Buddies section and fill out an application!! Also anyone is free to start a book discussion if ypu are reading something and wanna vent about it!

@BabyPoppy you are very welcome! I've wanted to do this for a very long time also! @lillizzie24Thank you so much for jumping right in there and helping! I can't tell you how much I appreciate it! And starting next month was my thoughts too. So we're on the same page. @Lil_K47 You do what you feel like doing, when you can. When you get well, you'll be able to do more. We'll still be here. We want this group to be relaxed and fun to do. We're still in the early stages but it'll smooth out and be so much fun!! Again, thank you ladies for making this all possible!!

video is not required attend however it will make u comfortable. some of the things i have come up with so far is. the first meeting is to get to know each other play some ice breaker games. other meetings i'm looking at doing is littles got talent where we can share something we are really good at, baking badge where we will come up with a snack the meeting before and then we will bake it together at the following meeting, crafts, talk about safety of stuff, basically it will be like a scout meeting but from the comfort of our own homes. we can also do game nights, coloring nights, fashion show, and I will come up with a badge for each one of these activities, I'm open to suggestions too. the other online scouting group I do don't do a lot together and usually just talk I don't want that out of this I want us to have fun, make new friends and earn badges as a group and if someone can't make the meeting they can also earn on their own too . it will be eastern time

Okay came along this little gem from book tok and it gave me such a delighted giggle thinking about all of us out there with steamy spicy kindles *giggles*

Name: Libby Age: 20 Favourite books as an adult: The Cat and Mouse Duet - H.D.Carlton, The Salacious Players Club series - Sara Cate, Daddies of the Shadows series - Kate Oliver, The Perfectly Imperfect series - Neva Altaj Favourite books as a child: The Twits - Road Dahl, Don’t let the pigeon drive the bus - Mo Willems, Snuggle up sleepy ones - Claire Freedman, Calm down boris - Sam Lloyd, Oh no George! - Chris Haughton, Oh ducky! - David Slonim Favourite genre: DDlg, dark romance, spicy books Favourite troupe: who did this to you, touch her and die, grumpy/sunshine, enemies to lovers, morally grey men, found family One book that deserved a sequel: Umm i would say Satan's Affair by H.D. Carlton because I would love to see more of Sibby Do you read physical books or digital: I tend to read the digital copy and then if I like the book then I will then buy the physical copy for my bookshelf. How much do you read a week: I try to read for about an hour before I go to sleep.

Hi everyone I love collecting crystals as well. But I tend to pull to blue shades of crystals. Since blue is my favorite color.

Name: Rosey Age: 41 I have too many favourites I can’t pick! 😆 Favourite books as an adult: Kushiel’s Dart (Phedre’s Series) - Jacqueline Carey, Outlander series - Diana Gabaldon, Fourth Wing series - Rebecca Yarros (gotta cheer a fellow Ehlers girl!), the Black Jewel series - Anne Bishop (would live in this word if I could lol), Court of Ravens duet - Liv Zander (made me cry and no book does that). And if I need to laugh out loud until I can’t breathe - the One for the Money series - Janet Evonavich. Ooo Captured and other books by Rosa Lee because I love the song lists in them! Plus forced proximity for the win! Favourite books as a child: Sing the Four Quarters - Tanya Huff, Emma and Pride & Prejudice - Jane Austen, Oryx and Crake series - Margaret Atwood, Hobbit & Lord of the Rings - Tolkien, The Lost Regiment series - William Forstchen, Friday - Robert Heinlein, Harry Potter series - by she who will not be named, The Worldwar series - Harry Turtledove, Valdemar series - Mercedes Lackey, Practical Magic books - Alice Hoffman, anything by Terry Pratchet (gotta love those funny footnotes) and who didn’t love Nancy Drew classics! Favourite genre: Fantasy / supernatural, Sci-fi, DDlg, dark romance, all the spice!!! Favourite troupe: touch her and die vibes, morally grey character, grumpy/sunshine, who did this to you, enemies to lovers, sassy banter Least favourite types of main characters: helpless heroines, characters without deep development and growth, arrogant mmc who have no reason to be One book that deserved a sequel: I can’t think of any!! I read too many series 🫣 Do you read physical books or digital: I prefer physical books (yum pages smell) but I also read kindle because my thick series books can dislocate my ehlers thumbs 🤣 How much do you read a week: As much as I can humanly squish into my schedule (plus I have a ton of work books constantly on the go)

I was just wishing for a whole playroom the other day where I could decorate it and have all my little stuff in. Then lock it up and just tell people it’s a storage room or something hehe. I don’t have an actual room for that yet, though. Might get a little she shed in the future, but make it a little shed instead. im still very shy when it comes to being a little. I want toys to play with, but still feel weird asking for them or spending money on them. I have lots of stuffies that are all over the house, and I have coloring books and crafts, but I really want my little ponies and a baby doll. I really want a baby doll to take care of. I think, like you, I am thinking maybe keeping them in a closed tote in my closet for now so people don’t see when they come over. I don’t have any small children in my home to play it off as.

I’m so sorry this is overwhelming and hard right now. It’s beautiful that you recognize the trigger, the trauma response and old coping patterns even as they happen. That is the biggest part of the battle in slowly changing them. I can hear the way you are holding yourself with compassion in it too and I am all out Pom-pom cheerleading you doing that. I know sometimes a return of old coping mechanisms can feel like a game over button that starts us over. Womp womp. But this isn’t retro Mario style gaming, it’s 2026 rpg style! When we return to the coping mechanism we are not back at the beginning, we bring with us all our xp, and gear!! I swear this metaphor works. 🤣 Even in an old behaviour YOU are a different person than each time before, with a little more awareness, a little more practice. Like you write, you are not alone. One breath at a time, one moment at a time. You are human and beautifully imperfect. Also *climbs into the hard place with you and just sits* we don’t need to fix nothin. Happy to just sit with you in it. ♥️

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Please comment here friends to let me know you are still going forward with us!!! I know some of us have been a little busy but the once a week check in helps me keep it all organized.

Healing is not a straight line, it doesn’t come with a deadline or a finish flag. It takes time, it takes facing nightmares that don’t always make sense. It takes therapy, and often more therapy than you ever thought you’d need. And that doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means the wound was deep. One thing that helped me was journaling. When thoughts loop endlessly in my mind, writing them down gives them somewhere to go. It’s called docking. Taking the pain out of your head and placing it on paper so it doesn’t keep racing, so it doesn’t keep owning every quiet moment. You won’t forget what happened. That isn’t failure. Healing isn’t about erasing the past, it’s about time. Time to breathe without bracing. Time to look in the mirror and slowly stop seeing only the broken child who spent years just trying to survive. The way I coped was therapy. I know how hard it is to take that step. I know how vulnerable it feels. But it helped me understand something vital, what happened to me was not my fault. And what happened to you is not you fault either. Surviving does not define us as damaged. It defines us as resilient. Please remember this: You are not alone. You are not broken beyond repair. And you are worthy of being loved My door is always open if you need a friend

@Snowyy I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you’re describing makes so much sense, especially after going through something that hurt you deeply. Nothing about the way you’re reacting means you’re broken or “odd”, it means your mind and body learned how to survive when things weren’t safe. That on-edge feeling and those coping habits are signs of strength, even if they feel exhausting now. Healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened, and it doesn’t require you to relive or explain it in detail if you’re not ready. It’s okay to move forward slowly. The pain coming back doesn’t mean you’ve failed or gone backwards, it just means your system is still trying to protect you. There are ways to cope without talking much about the past. Some people find grounding things helpful when memories hit, focusing on your breathing, noticing what you can see or feel around you, or doing something physical like walking or stretching to remind your body that you’re safe now. Writing things out privately, creating routines that help you feel steady, or having one small thing that brings comfort can also help take the edge off. None of this fixes everything overnight, and that’s okay. Please be gentle with yourself. What happened was not your fault, and feeling disgust or pain about it doesn’t define who you are. You’re already doing something brave by wanting to heal. You don’t have to do this perfectly, and you don’t have to do it alone, support can look many different ways, at your pace, on your terms. I’m really glad you reached out. You deserve peace, and even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, it is possible to move forward while still honoring what you’ve been through.

I know what it feels like to not have many friends in real life. That quiet loneliness can ache in places you didn’t know existed. I have people online who care, who show up, who understand me in ways that matter, but in the physical world it feels so sparse right now, and that hurts in its own quiet way. The world itself feels overwhelming. You turn on the TV or scroll your phone and there is no shelter from it. The fear follows you from room to room, like a storm that doesn’t know how to pass. It’s exhausting, and it’s heartbreaking. I wish I had a magic wand. I wish I could smooth the sharp edges and make everything feel safe again. I can’t do that. But what I can do, what we can do, is be here. We are here to listen. We are here to sit beside you, even in the silence. You don’t have to explain yourself or be strong for us. The world may feel frightening right now, but you are not facing it alone. We will walk through this together, one breath, one moment, one small act of kindness at a time. My door is always open if you need someone to talk to

I'm right here with you if you need someone to talk to. I know how much you loved your kitty cat and I can't imagine the pain you're going through. It's heartbreaking and it absolutely just sucks. They aren't just an animal they become your kids they become your family they become your best friend. They love you unconditionally and when you lose them you feel like you lose a part of yourself. I might not be right beside you but I'm sending you the biggest most warmest hug. I'm right here if you need me

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Alright friends. For those of you that enjoy these here are questions for chapters 32-36 The mystery is really killing me at this point and stopping at the chapter marks is definitely hard. Per usual make sure to spoil your answers and post in the linked topic below. Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker So sorry friends last night was a giant mess lol. But I know we all have days like that. I havnt heard from a few of you. If you are struggling please resch out and communitlcate as I 100% understand. Without further ado feel free to read chapters 37-41

Thank you for being so kind to me and thank you for your kind offer

Thank you for your kindness

When chemo had you broken, sick and dizzy. When darker times and depression took hold. When you were brought down to your very lowest... one of your first thoughts was still for other people and if they might need help... 😭like it or not, you are a truly special person. ❤️ ... and yes you are right. Those who have felt or still feel deep pain, are often the quickest to offer support, because they are the ones who know how much a kind word or gesture can mean in a moment of darkness. If you ever want to vent to a random 3rd party about how much of a struggle life can be, and how much energy it seems to want to take from you, I am here for you and I think so are a great many people on this forum.

You are a very strong person. I have known other people who have had chemo. It's never easy. Thank you for being a person who cheers others on and thank you for the reminder to reach out to others who may secretly be having a bad time. You never know when someone needs a little extra light in their life.

Hi! I’m very interested in participating in this club to the best of my abilities. I’d be very happy to help in any way I can. At the same time, I work during the weekends and I’m not sure if I could actually attend the meetings. If that's okay, I'll try my best and if it doesn’t work out, I’ll wish you all the best and say my goodbye to the club

@Juju @lillizzie24 thank you ladies so much for making this group possible! Y'all are doing an awesome job! 🫶🫶

Movie night begins in 5 hours, hope you can make it

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Here’s a fun little activity for grounding and self care! Creating your own little grounding kit. We always have fun running this in trauma group programming. The ‘why’ behind this activity is because when we are activated or triggered, it is hard for us to think and remember what things help us. So keeping a kit stocked by you in your room or a safe place means you just have to remember to open your box. And partners or loved ones can be told about it too. Plus it’s just fun and we can use glitter and sparkles! 💕 You can get creative and decorate a box, crate or chest of any kind. You could use a shoe box, or craft stores/dollar stores have all kinds of ones to choose from. You can decorate the outside and inside, with decoupage, paint, stickers, gems! Anything that speaks to you. Not feeling creative? That’s okay, there’s lots of pretty boxes out there to choose from that you can just pick up and fill. Then you put in things that are soothing to you like: - your favourite grounding tools (maybe a journal, a list of people you can reach out to, breathing visualization steps, grounding technique cards), - things for your senses (could be your favourite scent candle or essential oils, play doh or slime to squeeze or other sensory toys, a suckable candy or chocolate to put on your tongue, BUBBLES TO BLOW!) - comfort objects (could be grounding photos of loved ones or special memories/places, nostalgic items like shells from a trip, a soft stuffie, a letter you write yourself or someone else has written you) - things that focus your mind (could be a colouring or puzzle book, fidget toys, crochet or knitting, a favourite book to read) These are all just ideas, whatever works for you! This thread can be a space people can post their own kits if they already have them, or want to try making one!

I'm still here! A little behind, but I'll catch up quick. 😊

Hello Squirtle!!! No worries friend we all get busy and over whelmed! I myself have had a week. I am just happy to still have you with us as I love having you reading with the group. Reply to #3 Reply to #33

Movie Night begins in one hour! https://hyperbeam.com/i/Ng1w8EBd

@NickyMoon It starts with one good person. Unfortunately if is a very reasonable and understandable response for anyone who has been through trauma. If you have been badly hurt by people in the past, why would your trauma ever want you to let someone close when you are feeling so weak and vulnerable. You trauma puts up walls as a defence, to limit the maximum possible damage, but it comes at the terrible cost of having to go through all your problems alone when you really don't need to. I think you need to reprogram your brain by showing it that some people can be trusted and can help. When you are feeling better, find someone who you know is reliable, kind, and trustworthy. This could be a friend, family member, or loved one. You can even tell them in advance what you are going through and that you might call on them from time to time. Start trusting them and talking to them about small things, not major emergencies - you wont want to do that yet. By talking to them about small things you are teaching your brain that its ok to seek help, and that this person can be trusted. Hopefully by the time a 'big thing' comes along you will already have established a bond and you will feel more ready to talk, because it is not just a huge bombshell out of nowhere, but just something slightly worse than things you've already successfully dealt with together. Starting with small things may seem silly, but remember its not really for 'you' it's for your brain. Give it the positive memories it needs to help fix and heal the broken trust from the past. I hope this helps. No one should go through all their pain and suffering alone. 🫂

Hello!! I want to start by saying it makes complete sense that you want to move forward without having to live again every detail. Pushing yourself to "talk it out" before you’re ready can feel like being retraumatized again and again, and you don’t have to do that to find your peace. That on edge feeling you said, is your nervous system trying to protect you, it’s that your body is still operating in survival mode. I can tell you what worked for me, and what my ex therapist tolf me when i was 12, when memories or disgust hit, they aren't just thoughts, they are physical sensations, instead of trying to think your way out, try to calm the body: If you're feeling overwhelmed, splash ice cold water on your face or hold an ice cube, this resets the nervous system instantly. This worked for me and take it with care, this mnay be work for me but not for you, if the memories force themselves on you, try a to visualize it or do it physically: have a safe jar, when a memory or feeling starts to overwhelm you, put that specific "image" or "feeling" into the container and lock that. The disgust you do feel is an extreme common reaction to bad experiences, but it belongs to the event, not to you. You are the person who survived it, not the gross thing that happened. YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE VALID AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS VALID, i'm sending you hugs and lot of positive vibes, if you need to talk about it or even if you need someone, reach me. Sending you best wishes and hugs❤️❤️.

hi everyone, i just wanted to say thank you for taking time out of your days to offer me such comforting and thoughtful words. it means so much to me. i’ve had some time to arrange my emotions since this post and i do realise the sentiment offered to me the most out of everything else does come from a place of sincerity and care. it was just too raw at the time and the bitter reality of being physically separated from my cat by the veil between life and death was just such a shock to my system. it doesn’t mean that that has to be the only reality though. of course i’d love for my cat to be running around in heaven right now - in full health, without illness! and i’m pretty sure my bond with my beloved cat (who is called puppy, lol) transcends the universe itself. i’m intent on being reunited with him one way or another. i’m just honestly a complete nutjob when death happens because i have so many intrusive thoughts that take over, i won’t get into all that because it’s seriously unhinged - but i’m a little better for now. one day at a time and all that! i guess the reason it hurts so much is because he truly was so special. he was so caring. this is a cat that would find all sorts of strays and bring them to our garden because he knew i’d feed them. so many strays either ended up living in our garden or frequenting it because they had safety and food. and if he found injured strays on his adventures outside, he would come to pester me nonstop until i’d follow him back out. he never ever meowed. he just grumbled lmao. so i knew whenever he whined and pawed at my legs, something was up. he’d take me to them and walk around in circles while i’d either help or arrange for help if it was an emergency — the first cat we rescued together was a pregnant stray with a cancerous tumour on her ear. i see that day so vividly in my mind. one time he dragged a small cat to my doorstep that had its hind legs ran over and hopped into the car with me when we took her for emergency treatment at the vets. when he bonded with a much older stray that never felt safe around people enough to come inside my house, he ended up moving out into the garden for the whole winter just so that the elder cat wouldn’t be alone. eventually that cat spent time in my house but stayed near the back door for a quick exit. i had to put two beds there but they ended up sharing one, hahaha. my puppy was just so so sweet and so loving. i felt so lucky that he chose me back. he was never a lap cat though! i think in all our years together, he slept in my lap a total of seven times. but i knew he loved me. our love language was nose boops, his feeding time (he loved to have me watch him eat lol) and him sleeping between my legs for hours and hours. so many days we lazed away together, my hand idly scraping through his fur for hours, or his small head resting in my palm until my arm went dead. he would stare at me until he fell asleep. sometimes he’d wake up just to stare at me all over again lmao. when i was much younger i wanted to make an attempt on my life after the first failed. he came into my room at the very last moment and immediately knocked his head into my body over and over and crawled all over my legs and gave me a thousand kisses then stayed by my side a whole week… which was huge, because his outside time was VERY important to him. it’s like he knew exactly what i was thinking/feeling and wouldn’t leave me alone as a result. what kind of love is that? is that a love that can be captured in any words at all? even if i were to write about him for the rest of my life, still it wouldn’t even slightly encapsulate just how precious he was. i have to learn to live without him and live with just the memory of him now. my heart shatters at every turn when i think about how his paws are no longer following behind me. that we once lived so inseparably is the part that crushes me the most. well, i’ve probably rambled enough for one night. i will still stand by the idea that the best place for him is with me. but i can find hope somewhere in my heart that we’ll be together again, in some way. thank you all once more — so much. goodnight. 🌸

Legally, absolutely not. The guy didn’t have too much involvement. But, personally? I 100% back Devryk. If it were my Daddy or loved one, I’d hunt down even the fly on the wall at the time of the kidnapping. 😤

Hello all! Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire again! So my sub club The NNC is bustling but the main club here has been a little dead. Soooo I am hoping to bring a little life to it. I am going to do some more posting and such but I would love any suggestions yall would like to see! Also please comment here if you are jyst in support or interested in general! Let's make this the year of reading because I know we all have reading goals we want to make!!! Pigtail

The following is a bit about Long Distance Relationships or LDR's! A big thanks to Admin MellyBoo19912015 for tolerating and answering my questions to help make this resource possible! How to maintain a healthy LDR Any relationship takes a lot of work, communication and trust. LDR's, arguably, take even more. The following are some ways to keep your LDR healthy and long lasting! Contact ~ If you live in different time zones, this can especially prove tricky. The first thing you want to do is establish your time difference and schedules. When can you actually talk? Is messaging each other thru school, work or sleep okay? Thankfully, there are so many lovely and FREE apps and websites to help you and your significant other stay in contact. (see below). Trust ~ Establishing and keeping trust is so important. Stay honest with your partner and communicate. Even if you are afraid of the consequences, talk to your partner. A lot of people worry that infidelity in a LDR is common. Rest assured this is not the case, affairs are generally caused by people and personalities. Distance has no effect. Respect Your Partner & Their Needs ~ Everyone is different and we all have our own hectic personal lives to maintain. Communicate with your partner what you need and want and respect their needs as well. If you have a partner who requires a lot of contact, keep a steady flow of communication with them. If you are going to have a busy day, let your partner know, don't leave them worrying. Expectations Vs. Reality One of the greatest challenges of a LDR is a feeling of being disconnected from each other, missing out on the little things that happen. Below there are some apps and sites you can try to keep connected. Another idea is keeping a journal of your day and sharing it with your partner. Let them in on those tiny little things that happened to you and let them share your day with you. When you first enter a LDR there are some things you need to establish right away. Will you ever meet irl? Are yearly visits possible? How will you make and enforce rules? What are you hoping to get out of the relationship? Be clear on what the relationship is. Are you exclusive? Are you monogamous? is it okay to go on dates with other people? What is your level of commitment? Don't be afraid to talk about these things and keep talking about them if they are important to you. Remember that because of the distance date nights are not going to be conventional, you have to be creative! You can try a movie night together with rabbit, Skype or just messaging each other. Play real time games together. Make the same food and Skype to have a dinner date! FaceTime or Skype each other while you go on walks! Even if you don't have the time to do it together, you can still watch movies or read books and discuss it with each other later on! Games & Apps Avocado ~ Available on Apple, GooglePlay or desktop, free. Your all inclusive LDR app. Allows you to send messages, pictures, doodles and videos. Make and share lists & reminders! Works with Google Calendars to share each others calendars! Has private photo sharing abilities to keep albums. You can even send your partner hugs & kisses to let them know you are thinking about them! Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Mothershp is the login for the user setting the chores and rewards, Choremonster is for the user doing the chores and earning rewards! Super easy way for a Long Distance CG to set chores & rewards for their Little! Couple ~ Available on Apple, GooglePlay or desktop, free with in-app purchases. Your all inclusive LDR app. Has options for sending messages, videos, voice recordings, doodles and locations! You can Live Sketch with each other, keep track of your anniversary, birthdays and make lists! It even keeps tracks of your shared photos to keep the memories! Draw Something ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay, free. Social game where you can Draw or Guess what was drawn! Flockdraw ~ Primarily for desktop, available in Apple market, free. Allows multiple users to draw, sketch and doodle together in real time, with direct messaging. Rabbit ~ Primarily a desktop site, available on Apple or GooglePlay, free. Allows you to watch television, movies or listen to music together. Includes video chatting, mic chatting and direct messaging. Great for date night, movie night or just a group of friends binge watching their favorite show! Skype ~ Primarily a desktop app, also available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Allows people to video chat all around the world for free! Great for bedtime stories or a weekly date! Snapchat ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Most of us already use this app to interact with friends! It can be used to update each other on our days, meals or outfit choices. Can also be used as a messaging app, though it does not store messages. SNOW ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Essentially the exact same app as Snapchat but with way more and cuter filters! QuizUp ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market and desktop, free. Real time quiz games with fun topics including; Disney Movies, Disney Princesses, Cartoon Network, Name That Animal and so much more! Great for an easy Game night! Snail mail! A totally underrated way to keep in touch. Mail each other post cards, love letters and even gifts for each other now and then! Finally, if you have ideas, tips or tricks to help with LDR, please message me so I can add them! *glitter* *glitter* http://data.whicdn.com/images/174718551/large.jpg