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Hello everyone! -gives a little wave- I’m Rosey and completely new here, and feeling a little shy, though not new to D/s dynamics. At 40, and raising two tiny humans who are 2 and 6, I’m definitely in the older Littles crowd! I’ve had to learn how to still feel my babygirl self in a body that has changed with age and being a mama. Although I will say the blessing of having two little kiddos is that it allows beautiful moments of all three of us having playful creative fun…and everything getting covered in glitter. My Daddy and I are also still in the process of learning how to still fit time for us (and keep our headspace) in the busyness of parenting. It’s hard not having friends who are in the scene, so I’m hoping to make connections here and learn and grow along the way.

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @kimmybunny @Aikko @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina @RoseyLittle It is that time again!!! Yall are now open to read chapters 21-24! Questions, per usual, will be up in a few days. I am going to go over today and respond to all you guys lovely answers. Makes me happy to see them being used. Also know you are free to answer any of the questions at any time, even if the are from past weeks. Happy Reading! Pigtail

This is Magic Kitty's Potion Palace 💗 Sorry it is sideways oopsies

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @kimmybunny @Aikko @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina @RoseyLittle @Married_Lg It is that time again!!! Yall are now open to read chapters 25-28! Questions, per usual, will be up in a few days. Also know you are free to answer any of the questions at any time, even if the are from past weeks. Lots of folks havnt been checking in or participating so I will be leaving a status for those folks tonight and removing them from the list (you can get re added if you contact me). It does take alot of work to constantly chase people to participate so please remember to check in at least once a week preferably twice. Thank you! Happy Reading! Pigtail

2 done so far. Going to have several more by the end…toooold you I couldn’t pick.

I drew and colored her a while back I thought she would do nicely here I'm not entering @shadowrider just thought it was a fun place for her 🥰

My first coloring page is done!

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @TeenyRena @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina Sorry friends it was a hectic evening last night! Feel free to start on this weeks assigned chapters 17-20!!! Questions will be up within a couple days per usual. We have also had a friend join us @Zina so make sure to welcome them. I will most likely be adding an extra sprint day next week too so lookout for that. I would love to have some of you join me for Wednesday chat as I have noticed a drop in participation but I know life gets busy. Have an amazing Thursday! Also if you havnt checked in thia week please do so! I will be messaging those who havnt and removing them from pings over the next few days if I havnt heard back. Pigtail

September had some fierce competition but y'all managed to pick a winner. Thank you to those that participated and those who voted. Without further delay, last month's winner is ... Congratulations ! This month's contest will end on October 27th I will be starting a poll on or around the 28th and letting y'all pick the winner. Time to get spoopy. * You can also look in my gallery at my coloring pages album where you will find all the coloring pages I've posted for contests. https://www.ddlgforum.com/gallery/album/5986-coloring-pages/ If you do not see anything you want to color feel free to find your own pic elsewhere and color it. Or draw and color your own. Guidelines 1. Must be your own handiwork. *You can add designs to blank sections and spruce it up if you feel inspired to 2. Must be submitted by the deadline. 3. Only 1 entry per member. You may color and upload all the pictures but let us know which is your entry. 4. Post your art on this thread or if you have trouble with that message a member of staff and we will be happy to assist you. Save the image(s) below. You can print it out to color it or use an app. Using a layer capable program/app Import (paste) the coloring page image. Set it as the top layer. Add a few layers under it. Set top layer (coloring page) to "Multiply" You should be able to color/erase easier, without affecting the lines. Free Apps: Sketches, Prismajoy and Sketchbook. Another app recommended by a member is ibis Paint X. PC: Gimp (that’s basically all I’ve used), MS Paint, Photoshop etc. Krita has also been recommended by a member. Recolor is an app suggested by one of our members who was kind enough to supply this link. https://www.recolor.com/ If you have suggestions for apps to use please comment them and I will try to remember to add them to the list. Good luck and Happy Halloween

I tend toward anxiety... eep! Music can be one way that I am soothed as my adult self and as my little self. What are some songs that help you? Here are my go-toooooooossssss.... -Melissa Ferrick, Everything I need is right here in my hands -Anything reggae, but Bob Marley, Small axe -Miles Davis, In a silent way -Snoop Dogg (Snoop Dogg's Doggyland), Affirmation song -Sesame Street (Big Bird), I'm happy to be me -(this one is for those Christians out there) Dan Schutte, Yahweh I know you are near

Mmmmyep. Did another one. 🤭😁

My Daddy is so amazing, we were doing this for awhile B4 we knew what this was 😂 been married a few months short of 15 years, he is my everything and so amazing! He has always told me he loves my funness, light personality, my love for bright colors and my ability to do me no matter what anyone thinks! He has recently started asking me how little do I want to feel and I'm here for it! I love it so much, but it has opened some doors that I want a stuffie, some Little jammies, a paci, and a special blanket to snuggle with that Daddy gets for me that is super girly and fun... But I'm so scared to ask him for some reason? I have a past, ex husband abuse issues, bio dad issues and being so small for Daddy is amazing but it has triggered some things that he has been so amazing working thru with me and loving me more for opening up to him. But why am I so scared to share with him I want some official Little stuff?

We would like to welcome everyone that reads this to our home and family. We know there are other places you can go and groups you can join so we do appreciate you choosing us. It is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to share this journey with you. We understand how important the people you surround yourself with and the environment you hang out in is to your development and growth as a person. These things help to shape you and can either be a blessing or a mistake, we wish to be the former. So we are happy you are with us. You will see us refer to this place as our home, our village, and the members as our family quite often. That is because that is what this place and these people mean to us. This is not just a site we log into to kill time and escape for a few minutes. And by us I do not mean the staff, I mean each and every one of us that shares a love for our community and our extended family. This is our home and we care about it and those that are with us. So to all of you we say hello and welcome and enjoy your time with us, you are home.

First crayon one I’ve done in a bit. 😁

I’m a coloring fooool this month.

Hallo Meine Freuende (Hello my Friends), I've seen some posts recently about the following: Feeling ashamed about being a little. Being afraid to open up to a partner about being a little. Being afraid of judgement from others. Negative self-talk about being a little. I would like to plant a flag down and make one thing absolutely clear: no one will shame you here. You are safe, and you are perfect the way you are. And, as the wonderful @MissAnna is so fond of saying: you are loved and worthy of being loved. If you have nowhere else to go, this is a place you can go. If you have no one else to talk to, I am here to talk to you, and you may message me anytime. Being a little can be challenging. All our lives, we are told to grow up, to be independent. To be a little, we are going against that very strong, potent, omnipresent social current. (And my deepest empathy for little boys and mommies, who swim even further upstream against the masculinity and femininity expectations). Going on this journey takes strength, but if you are here, you are strong. You have already sought out community, advice, counsel, and safe-harbor. Some people go their whole lives wishing, but you are here-- you are acting upon what you know is right for you. And, if nobody else has commended you for that, I will. Good job. I came to these forums arguably at my lowest point in the last 60 months. I had to have the universe strip away most of my life as I knew it in order to come here. I have a whole post on my journey with shame, and I don't want to go into that here and detract from the point of the post-- I would just like you to know that you don't have to have your whole life stripped away to accept yourself. We will all accept you here. If you're reading this and you're unsure of your journey as a little, or you're afraid to open up to your partner, or you're ashamed of yourself-- acknowledging that and processing that is the first step. That can start here. You don't have to hide anymore. Hiding who you are can create pain. It can repress parts of yourself, or create barriers between yourself and a partner. It can create mistrust, jealousy, resentment, sadness, and numbness. If you have shame, fear, or uncertainty, we are all here for you. And if nobody has extended you an invitation to talk, have a friend, or have an ear: I am. Mit Liebe und Umarmungen (With Love and Hugs), Joey

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @TeenyRena @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy Hello friends your friendly neighborhood book addict Pigtail here! Its that time again. Since everyone seemed to agree with more chapters in the pole I am assigning 4 chapters this week instead of 3! We will see how that goes and if it is still too few I can up in again. I just like to start slow so everyone can be included and not left behind. That being said please feel free to now read chapters 13-16!!! Questions will be out within a few days. Happy reading 📚

This was much needed fun to throw on music and colour today. Thank you Shadow for organizing all this, I love all the fall images. I decided to colour a pheonix from my colouring book, but in fall style. 🍁🍃

Here’s my entry this month!

To all you amazing beautiful wonderful phenomenal Mommies/Daddies/Littles/Middles/Submissives and everywhere in between. I wanted to come on here to check in on you all. Today is mental health awareness day, it's a day to reflect on you, your life and your journey in life. Mental health awareness day isn't a day to reflect on your past mistakes, on the things you should have done or on what could have been. No its a day to reflect on how amazing you are, how you actually where able to get up and get a shower, how you are surviving when you didn't think you could, how you actually slept more than an hour and how you are still moving forward. That's what this day is about, it's about knowing it's okay to feel sad, it's okay to not have your life together, it's okay to completely want to have a melt down in the middle of a store, it's okay to just stay in bed all day, and it's definitely okay to not be okay. You don't have to feel the need to get out bed, you can stay in bed all day long eating ice cream watching cartoons or reruns of friends. It's okay to just want the day to pass you bye and just sleep. And it's definitely okay to wear jammies all day and eat pizza. I'm so proud of you all, and I'm always here if anyone needs to talk. If you feel alone, message me, if you think no one loves you, well guess what Miss Anna loves you and if you think you no one cares about you guess again because I care. Your feelings are valid and are very real don't let others tell you that they arent. I see you, I value you and I love you. Everyone in this community will support you, they will rally around you and they will lift you up. Once you join this community you have joined a family for life. We are like the Brady bunch but without a really cool theme song. Remember it's okay to not be okay, it's okay to cry, it's okay to be mad and it's okay to just want to be left alone. No matter where you are in this beautiful world, don't ever think for one minute you have to walk this journey alone. We are here for you, we see you and we love you. Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved My door is always open to those who need a friend

Given how wonderful you've described your relationship with your Daddy, and the fact that he’s asked you a direct question, it makes sense to respond with honesty and openness. That said, it's completely understandable that his question has stirred up some difficult memories from past experiences with your ex-husband and biological father, so your hesitation is valid and completely human. To help you navigate your feelings and still respond authentically, here are a few gentle ways you might consider framing your answer: Gentle, Reflective Starters: "I want to be honest with you, but I need a little space to process how I’m feeling first." "This question brings up a lot for me emotionally, and I’d love to share, but I may need a bit of patience as I sort through it." "Can I share my answer in pieces? It’s not simple for me, but I want to be transparent." Emotionally Aware Responses: "I care about you deeply, and because this question touches some old wounds, I want to be sure I answer thoughtfully." "I’m feeling a bit vulnerable, but I know you’re someone I can be real with, so here goes…" "My first instinct is to shut down, but I know that’s from my past. I want to do things differently with you." Boundary-Respecting Yet Open Responses: "I'm not sure I have a full answer yet, but I'm open to talking about it if you're okay with a bit of uncertainty." "I want to be honest, but I also want to be careful not to bring old pain into our current connection. Can we take it slow?" "Would it be okay if I gave you my thoughts now, and we revisited this again later once I’ve had more time to reflect?" These kinds of responses can help you honour both your current relationship and your emotional history. Hope it helps and best of luck!

Today, we pause to reflect, to listen, and to raise our voices in support of something that touches every one of us — mental health. Mental health is just as important as physical health. It deserves understanding, care, and compassion. Whether you're navigating anxiety, depression, burnout, grief, or just trying to make it through one more hard day — your struggles are valid, and you are not alone. Let’s break the silence. Let’s check in on our friends, our family, and ourselves. Let’s remind each other that it’s okay to not be okay, and that asking for help is a sign of strength — not weakness. To those silently fighting battles: we see you. We support you. We stand with you. Today and every day, let’s be kind — to others and to ourselves. 💚

Hello all you amazing beautiful people on here! I wanted to come on here because spooky season is fastly approaching us and I am so excited! I know there are a lot of Doms, littles, submissives and middles who think they are too big to go trick or treating or even dress up. So I have a fun thought, what if we have a virtual trick or treating Halloween for everyone? You can post a picture of your costume on your page or describe what you will be wearing for Halloween. Then go to others page say knock knock and get a treat. And don't worry it doesn't matter if you are a Dom you can dress up to and go trick or treating in our community too. Halloween is a fun holiday for all, and all of you deserve to have fun. I'm so excited to hear all about your costumes and see them too! Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💞 Happy spooky season to you all 🎃👻🍭

Good morning, good afternoon or good evening to wherever you amazing beautiful people might be on this gorgeous planet we call home. I wanted to come on here and ask you all how you came into the DDLG community. If you all have read my post you will see one about my journey on becoming a Mommy Dom. I had been a Mommy Dom for over 20 years and had the opportunity to meet with some of the largest BDSM organizations in the world. I have traveled to conferences for BDSM and have also been to several BDSM clubs. I entered this world when i had to take care of my ex husband who became extremely ill. It opened my eyes to the 1950s housewife and I loved waiting on him hand and foot. Now that is still something that has stuck with me. I absolutely love waiting on people and taking care of them. Even when I was a Mommy Dom I loved the idea of waiting on someone, obeying them and doing as they asked. When I joined this site in March I was a Dom and now I sit here in front of you all as a Submissive with Dom tendencies. So I'm a mixture and I have absolutely loved meeting all of you amazing people on here. I found this community by chance and it has been something that I absolutely have loved. I can honestly say this has been a wonderful decision to join and I'm so glad I found all of you. So my question to you all is how did you come to find who you are in this crazy place? And if you are still figuring out who you are that's okay too, I would still love to learn how you stumbled upon our beautiful community. Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💕

The posts above both nailed it but here’s my two cents:- The beautiful thing about this lifestyle is that you truly can be whatever feels right for you. There’s no “one-size-fits-all” what matters most is that it makes you happy and that everything is consensual with any partner you share it with. As for finding a Daddy, that part can be a little tricky, but here’s something I’ve told others before: be active, make friends, join conversations, and just be you. The right people tend to find their way into your orbit when you’re being authentic. Not every Daddy, Mommy, or CG is looking for a young little; some connect better with middles, some prefer partners who are more submissive than small. Try not to get too caught up in fitting a label perfectly, focus instead on your own self-discovery. The rest tends to fall into place when you’re confident and comfortable in who you are.

Hello to all you amazing beautiful people on here! I hope you all are having beautiful amazing adventures. I truly do love reading about all your adventures and where life has been taking you all. So today at work I had two different doctors tell me I remind them of Doug on up. It honestly made me smile, now they could have been saying it as a bad thing but to me it made me so happy. I personally love Doug, he is always willing to help anyone around him, risking his life for his loved ones and he never gives up. So if people think I'm like Doug then I am blessed to be seen like him. So it got me thinking who do people think you remind them of? And I will only say this once, if someone says you remind them of someone bad they are wrong. Because you are perfect, beautiful and amazing just the way you are 💟 Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved ❤️

Shadow, I’ve decided you’re diabolical. This is your payback for us making it hard to vote….you give us ALLLLLL THE GOOD PICTURESSS 😻 I was like ooh that one. No! That one. Wait, no…! They’re so stinkin’ adorable this month. *insert spooky ghost noises* all da spoopies! 👻💜🎃

I can honestly relate to this topic 100%, being a previous Dom I always feel like I am in imposter mode all the time I don't feel deserving of being little nor do I feel that I am qualified to be a middle. But when I do have those calm moments it's the most sweetest experience I have ever felt. I find myself to allow my daddy to be in control more and allow him to make all the decisions. The majority of my time I'm spent in submissive mode and I catch myself still going into Mommy Dom mode as well. I find that I slip into middle role more often if I color, cuddle with Mr Bunny or even watch silly cartoons. Its a beautiful feeling and one that I hope to stay in longer one day. And how wonderful for you to have met up with your Daddy I hope you two had a beautiful time together.

Not usually, no. It can certainly be seen as a potential red flag with it becoming more worrisome the shorter the time you've been together. Considering you only posted Wednesday about looking for a Daddy I would suggest if someone is already asking you for money that is, in my view, a HUGE red flag.

Cute pumpkins!

if I've said it once I'll say it again, and again, and again and again! There is absolutely NO wrong way to be little! We are all individuals and we are all very different and that is all very OK!! I live by myself I don't have a caregiver daddy whatever, I never actually had design "little time", absolutely does not mean I'm not a little! I'm childlike most of the time except when I have to be an adult ( you know work lol) I love the color and craft and dress up, but I'm not necessarily in little headspace when I do that I'm just being me! If anyone ever says to you you're being a little wrong walk away honey walk away! You are perfect just the way you are I promise! 🥰

Work, life and health have been very stressful of late and it's been having a significant impact on my ability to sleep. I was tossing and turning pretty badly last night and my Daddy pulled me onto His chest, put a stuffie in my arms, then kissed me on the forehead and gently stroked my hair. There's something just so peaceful and relaxing listening to one's Daddy's heartbeat 💓 When you can't sleep what does your Caregiver do to settle you down?

I truly thought your post was lovely. Really the only thing to do is just answer him. Personally, I like to know why I want things. I like to know for myself before I would bring things to any D type in my life. For instance, your example of wanting your Daddy to buy you a blanket I would LOVE, BECAUSE it would mean my Daddy was A. Thinking of me. B. Knew that I love comfy, cozy, warm things and C. That he wanted to cuddle with me. It seems from your post you might like to know the why or because too and that's what you're struggling with. My advice, get what you need and figure out the because as you go. Especially since you have such an open partner and you seem to do well at both exploring and growing together.

This is a place for all in the CG/L space. Even those just looking to try it out or even just understand it better. Actual age ( over 18) doesn't really matter. Just be nice and respectful as others have said.

We all know each individual is their own person and you can't shoehorn everyone into a small box/label. But it was brought up that having a list of different types of DD/MD/Cg might be useful. Though the term Daddy is used below Mommy or Caregiver/Babysitter is freely interchangeable. I just did not want to edit their contributions since we can insert the correct term as we read. Thanks to @คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ and @Dangerously_Well for their work on this. Soft Daddy - Bends to the whimsy of their partner's demands. Situationally submissive. (Hard) Daddy Dom - Takes the lead in the relationship. Understands BDSM, follows SSC, and provides aftercare. Kink Daddy - Interested in kinks. Platonic Daddy - A non-kinker who's emotionally invested in his relationship. Might be asexual. (Toxic) Daddy Dom - A manchild whose got a fragile ego. Easily confused with (Hard) Daddy Doms by newbies/young men of BDSM. Sugar Daddy - Offers money/gifts in exchange for attention. Based on Personality/Dynamic: The Classic Daddy: A traditional, authoritative figure. Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. Often has a paternalistic or protector role. The Playful Daddy: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder and enjoys engaging in playful activities together. May be less strict with rules but still provides guidance. The Nurturing Daddy: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Focuses on creating a safe and comforting environment for their little. May be particularly attuned to their little's emotional needs and provides lots of cuddles and reassurance. The Gentle Daddy: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. Prefers a softer approach to discipline and focuses on building a strong emotional connection. The Strict Daddy: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. Provides a sense of security through firm guidance and may enjoy a more dominant role. The Dom Daddy: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements and focuses on power dynamics. May be strict or gentle depending on their personal style. (Note: Dominance is not inherently abusive, but it's crucial that it's consensual and safe.) Based on Focus: The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support for their little. May be less focused on sexual aspects of the dynamic and more on nurturing and emotional well-being. The Daddy Dom: Combines the paternalistic role with a dominant sexual presence. Enjoys taking control in both a caregiving and sexual context. The Friend/Companion Daddy: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. May be less strict with rules and more focused on mutual enjoyment. Important Considerations: Age Play vs. Age Regression: Some Daddies focus specifically on age play (roleplaying as a parent), while others cater to littles who experience age regression (mentally reverting to a younger age). Personal Preferences: Every Daddy/Caregiver has their unique preferences and style. Communication is key to finding a good match. Consent and Safety: All D/lg relationships should be built on consent, respect, and open communication. Safety is paramount.

How do you get into your little / middle space? What does it feel like- what are things that you notice about yourself when you feel like you are in little space? I ask because I met up with my Dom/Daddy the other day and he asked me how will he know when I am little and asked if my bunny doll helps me get into little space because I was showing him it. and it made me curious, because I'm new to littlespace and just started exploring it. I know I feel little when I do things like go "Bwah" or start speaking in a more baby voice/tone and feel super giggly/playful, or hyper, or on the flipside when I feel super anxious/scared/upset. I know I don't age regress because I still mentally know I'm an adult - but a more unfiltered/unhinged childish side comes out of me, either provoked or just sometimes at random - like when im overwhelmed I find myself unable to handle loud noises and want comfort/familiar things, plush things and I go nonverbal unless pushed to speak and even then, not much comes out. Or I'll just see something really cute and just get unbridled chaotic cuteness aggression and make like a monster voice going "gib - want" or make grabby hands at things I want / like or if I want attention lol I also get really freaking weird and will bite/lick if the impulse is strong enough. so, it makes me kinda curious how people know when there feeling little or are in little space - because for me personally, I've always been mature - but when i don't have to be mature and I feel safe- im a chaotic little gremlin - and I'm always described as the "baby sister / little sister" in every friend group.

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @kimmybunny @Aikko @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina @RoseyLittle Hello my NNC members!!! Here are the questions for this week (chapters 17-20)! Our book is getting very good. Make sure to post in topic linked below! And use spoilers. Also please help me welcome @RoseyLittle who is catching up and joining us in our reading adventure!

I'm a middle, so I don't know if this is much help. But I also don't age regress so here goes ... For me it's more of a relaxed state of mind. It might be the music I listen to or the foods I eat maybe I might wear a character T-shirt or more colorful makeup. For me, my middle/princess state is very indulgent.👑 Generally, it's just a more relaxed and happy state of mind. I know I'm a grown up always, but for those time-frames I get to relax and just enjoy a bit more.

I dint age regression myself as I keep my awareness of my actual age, which is important to me. What happens is when I'm with my Daddy my behaviour may change to more snuggly, playful or clingy. It's not something that happens outside of when I'm with my Daddy.

That's a good fun idea! I actually thought about it! Hahaha but alas, I don't live alone. And I would feel a bit awkward doing so around people 😂. However, I'll definitely try it as soon as I get the chance! And maybe share my costume on here ^^ . Also I'm content enough to celebrate Halloween here with you guys!🎃 What Soul mentioned here (Boujloud) is close to a rite or carnival celebrated in some regions in my country which is super cool! Where ,mostly men, dress in very scary costumes and chase people and children on the street hahaha. It gives up similar vibes to Halloween even if wildly different.

Here’s my entry!

Hia y’all! Does anyone else feel little, but don’t really have a little age or really a little space (like headspace) they go to? For me, I feel little and cute and sassy, I love my girly stuff, bows, bubbles, old cartoons, little kid songs, etc, but I don’t really.. go into a separate headspace, I just feel like it’s literally just part of me and my personality and I’ve been old because of that I’m not “a real little” by people in the past.. any advice or idk comments?

I used to feel thst way when I was much younger but as I've gotten older I've reframed it as something I want versus need. When things become needs they often can risk falling into unhealthy behaviours, e.g. staying in a bad relationship, not developing independence in caseca CG leaves, is injured or passes away, putting everything on a partner which can lead to relationship issues, codependency or even living constantly in the future versus the present. I'm not going to say wanting a CG is bad, there are tons of folks here who do but there are still healthy lines to consider and boundaries to be set to distinguish between want, need and need crossing the line into unhealthyness for one, the other, both or more.

Scarecrow!!!

You're a Little. They're gatekeeping assholes. Some people do experience separate headspaces or deliberately separate their headspaces, but it's not mandatory in order to be a Little. There are no rules or regulations towards defining what is a Little, other than simply identifying as one. Anything other than that, is purely subjective in nature and shifts from one person to the next. All forms of Littlespace are valid. These are probably the same people that say it's mandatory to be in an involuntary headspace for AgeRe. Or the same people that try in invalidate Teenspace. Or those that think we need to have an age number. Or the idiots who are convinced that I can't be dominant because I'm smol. They're all completely wrong, but pop off I guess. SoI'll just pop this here, it sounds like you could potentially benefit from it.

I’ll just quickly chime in. There is no definitive outline to your little self. I’ve known many Littles and people in general. Some can narrow themselves to a particular age range. Some are more fluid and can move through different age groups from baby, little, middle, and even teen. The thing about being a little is your own headspace and how you define it. The activities that make you feel smol and every bit of the feeling and comfort you have there. Don’t let others dictate what truly “makes” or “doesn’t make” you little. Your adult age, your little age(if you’ve come to define it or not), your role(Dom or sub, cuz littles can be either), and anything else, is defined by you. From all that I can see, you are a “real little”, if you need someone to validate it for you. Those that say you aren’t don’t truly know how big and open this community is.

hihi hi hiii ngl, I'm kinda jelly you've been to kinkcons! I've been to a few cons, but only kink-adjacent event so far was a Rocky Horror midnight showing, which was great, even if not technically BDSM-centered. Finding equal parts of time, funds, and good health makes it hard to attend stuff, but it's on my bucket list, lol At some point, I realized I needed a forever human who was okay with my thumb and so here I am! TL;DR I found ddlg long after convincing myself (due to social stigma) that I was the only adult thumb sucker on the planet. Back in the early days of the internet, you couldn't just google "adult thumb suckers" and actually get relevant topics. You'd get parental discussions on stopping it and that was it. But then enter lifestyle documentaries for "strange and unusual" behavior. Girlie pop blew my mind being so chill as she openly sucked her thumb in public. I remember being so angry with the condescending stares. She had a piece of old blanket she'd wrap around the base of it, but didn't touch things with it while shopping. And then another, less condescending lifestyle documentary showed a cgl dynamic (pre our terms used today) where she was abdl (or at least close to that age group) and he was her daddy. I don't remember if they were kink, agere, or both, but that was the first time I'd heard of the lifestyle as we're in today. It was around this time that I realized I could have a romantic partner who'd accept my thumb and stuffed animals, I just had to look around differently. It was much much later that I joined another forum similar to this (forums/discussions were finally popping up for us on google and I have no idea why or what changed socially), but she's (site owner) sadly no longer with us and so her site went down. That was were I met my wife, but I like the community aspects and so I joined here a few months after that site collapsed. I was raised in a very white christian household, so it took me way longer to realize that I was dominant, than it should have. But that's a rant about putting up with fragile egos and should be saved for another day. Anyways, I'm rambling, lol.

This truck reminds me of something my uncle had when I was a kid!

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