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First and foremost: a super special thank you and shout out to @shadowrider for helping me solve my photo resizing issue so I could even make this post possible. Thank you, so very much!🙏🏼 I really appreciate it. Monday evening, (4-7-25) I had the honor and pleasure of bringing myself and my little one large step closer together by asking for her hand in marriage.💍 The proposal took place at an extremely nice restaurant in Downtown Dallas. It was very unexpected for her, but I had everything very meticulously planned out. It couldn’t have gone smoother and I appreciate the staff for being in on my big secret and making the evening super special for us. I’ve been super excited to share this with the community. My little and I couldn’t be happier!🥰 -Axl // BigMeat

Everyone pick your favorite color!!

So I did a thing. I lurked. I saw. I sipped some tea. And because I saw what I saw, I'd like to state an additional opinion about the overall situation. *Ahem* There seems to be two kinds of users here on this site. User Type 1) Only wants to search for a dynamic partner. Has zero interest in any level of finding friendship by utilizing our community. And may or may not be looking for instant gratification. User Type 2) Is an active member of the community that enjoys socializing outside of just the personal/friend zone sections. I, obviously, fall under UT2. However, it seems to me that the user you interacted with is a UT1. Not saying that there's technically anything wrong with being a UT1, but they're definitely a specific type of *special* in non dynamic social settings. Basically, I'm telling you to not feel bad about this interaction, because it's literally a them problem. The gods forbid if someone reaches out in a non-sexual/partner-seeking way. *eye roll*

Someone doesn’t want to be called sunshine, their prerogative. However, hurt people hurt people, so it sounds as if they were just lashing out. Kindness in any fashion, especially on a site like this, can dredge up all kinds of repressed feelings of self-loathing and hurt. In my opinion, which you can take with a grain of salt obviously as this is the internet, but fuck that noise. It should have stopped simply with “I prefer not to be called sunshine, thank you.” Any further insults or additional venom and drivel spewed following said polite asking to refrain from pet names is garbage. Perhaps THEY don’t feel this is a family or community because they don’t recognize the healthy dynamics we all have with each other. I have a Daddy and he’s on here, but I also have friends I consider family here. Like I’ve mentioned previously on a post, family dynamics can be hard for people and when they see it modeled here through our kind interactions that border on familial familiarity, they may not be receptive of that level of attention. Again, just my opinion, but if you’re comfortable with yourself and how you communicate with people, then do not change. Respect someone asking politely to refrain, but in situations like this, the reaction was excessive and unnecessary. You’re part of this FAMILY here. Do what you feel you must, but just know we are all here for you whenever and however we can be. You are loved and worthy of being loved. 💜

I normally just post status updates for what I’m up to and post multiple a day - but yesterday was so busy I figured I would compile a little post instead of a status 🐒✨ I started my day on the treadmill and got all prettified for the big day. We drove out to Tacoma and we had the breaks done on my car and they had coloring pages ! I colored a guinea pig for @Andriel_Isilien hehehe … we ended up getting a loaner car since they didn’t have all the parts needed to fix my car. Then we drove all the way from Tacoma to Kirkland so Big Brother could buy his car ! He’s done so much growing in the past couple years and this was in his five year plan - I can’t express how proud I am of him ! He got one of his dream cars - a type R Honda :3 The inside is so pretty ! After going through the process of buying Brothers car - I was rewarded with going to Pop Mart since I behaved so well 😇 I’ve been getting into collecting some of their series - I’ve been on the hunt for the Monsters Labubu series (the keychains) but they have been sold out every time … including this time ! Regardless … I got some cute things ! I got a One Piece Labubu figure - three keychains from different series as well as a dolly rolly cat that won’t fall down :3 When we got to the mall the men were starving so they wanted some vegan pizza from their me of their fav spots on Bellevue , moto pizza ! After poking around the mall for a little bit we decided to get dinner before the super long drive home. We went to a place called Dough Zone - a traditional Chinese spot :3 It was so so yummy and we feasted like gluttons ! We had different types of Chinese noodles , dumplings , side dishes , all vegan ! Mmm 😋 I also love to get myself cold plum juice from Chinese / other Asian restaurants. I can’t explain the taste but it’s so yummy , nostalgic , and almost reminds me of jicama Agua Fresca. Here’s the feast : It was a very very long , eventful day but it was a nice one ! I’m posting this from the back of Brothers new car actually , as he drives us to the car wash then to go get groceries for the week. Yesterday was such a big day … I plan on being a Sunday monkey loaf all day today 🐒✨ I hope you guys have a wonderful and calm Sunday !

My entry.

Here's another picture🤭 this cute little Froggy just wants to jump in the puddles!!! 💡Hmmmm..... maybe that should go on my Spring/Summer bucket list this year! Jump in puddles!🎉

Disclaimer: This application is intended as a communication aid, not a replacement for building connection or trust. While it can help facilitate conversations around boundaries, caregiving style, and emotional needs, it is not a guarantee of safety or compatibility. Littles and caregivers are encouraged to use this form mindfully, as part of a larger journey of getting to know one another — not as a shortcut or a checklist. This form is designed to help littles find safe, emotionally mature, and genuinely caring caregivers. Whether you're looking for a serious dynamic or just need help filtering out red flags, this application encourages real connection, healthy boundaries, and kindness. Printable & Fillable Pastel-themed & cute as heck Includes emotional maturity check and red flag questions Let's make the DDLG/CGL space softer, safer, and more full of love ❤️ Download link (Please tell me if it doesn't work): https://drive.google.com/file/d/15LD6esjjGHuX_zLLVUABNk7VdlLswFHS/view?usp=sharing Feel free to use it, share it, or adapt it -- just please don't remove credit as I worked very hard on this! With fluff and love, -MissMaple P.S This is not about exclusion - it's about safety and clarity. Also, I would love to know your thoughts! I'm honestly stressing about it haha

My wish is that this poem gives hope to the hopeless and is a ray of light for those still in the dark. 💜 Little inside, living life with innocent eyes, With a terrible childhood, it’s no surprise. Cute, small, tiny, scared, Fighting for life, gasping for air. Why am I like this, this is so unfair, Splintered inside, pain beyond compare. Alone in the dark, I’m right on the verge, When out of the veil, a hand has emerged. You are safe now, a voice calls loud, Grab hold of my hand, I’ll lead you on out. A beacon of hope, in a suit made of flesh, Daddy has come, and now I may rest.

Just popping in on one of my fave threads to remind y’all that YOU ARE VALID. YOU ARE STILL LITTLE EVEN IF YOURE 105! Don’t let anyone tell you any different. 💜

As stated, everyone has the right to request not being called XYZ. And I know you would respect any such request. They do not however have the right to lash out at someone after that request has been made and honored. Just avoid them and put the incident behind you. I personally like putting things like this behind me so they can watch my bum as I happily walk away 😉 . When I joined I was quickly informed that my southern manners needed to be left at the door when logging in, something about not calling an admin ma'am when responding ooops. But I grew up calling everyone sir or ma'am and everyone calls kids babyboy or babygirl where I live. It was a hard habit to break when entering the lifestyle. But in your case of using sunshine I have received no reports nor have I ever noticed you "targeting" any specific group. You use it with everyone equally, unlike the ones I have to address which target only single littles. Which is why I have seen no reason in asking you to refrain from using the non petname version of the word. I won't bash anyone for not feeling the family aspect of our community. I do however feel sad for them that they are not open to letting themselves be a part of it for whatever reasons. As for UT1 and UT2 I will choose a single UT2 over a thousand UT1s any day. I'm not here for instant anything as I prefer a connection with anyone I associate with on any level. Take a deep breath and exhale all that negativity because it isn't a part of who you are and has no hold on you. We are all called to be a light to others and if someone wants to stay in the dark that is their choice. We move on and keep being a beacon for those that are seeking brighter days.

Miss Anna, you have been a beacon of hope for many! When the oceans are dark yours the light house showing the way home, when the oceans are choppy your the anchor keeping people from drifting away! Maybe this person was having an off day? It’s hard to say what some people think, but we here are a community yes, but to me that’s what a community is like, a small family and we look out for each other. That’s all you have ever done, looked out for people! You have everyone’s intentions before your own and you do your best to ensure that everyone is left feeling welcomed and loved! Something everyone is entitled to! (Despite what they think) l beg you not to change! Stay unapologetically you! Some people may not like it but there are more positives than negative peoples I ensure you! as always! Until we meet again!! Remember you are loved, you are cared for and you are a highly respected member of this community!

You are doing nothing wrong. I would not have joined the forum if I hadn’t seen one of your posts, & I wouldn’t have stuck around when I was made to feel uncomfortable that time. My grandparents taught me kindness above all else, “kindness is free to give out, but to the person reserving your kindness it’s value is immeasurable” that’s a motto they lived by, and to be honest the math on that is inarguable. I don’t know who this person is, but, in my experience people often find it hard & scary to accept words offered in kindness and care, if they are only used to words loaded with hurt and hate. I don’t say that to defend or because I think it should change anything, because it does not & I am not. What they did & how they responded was incredibly wrong & hurtful & that bit is on them because we are 100% in charge & responsible for our reactions to things. Don’t let this change you, or bring you down. Don’t let someone bring you into the dark, stay in the light.

After a heartwarming chat with @Warmandfuzzy, .คℓ𝐞ﾋเᏰααα .ᐟ (sorry I can’t tag you as my keyboard doesn’t recognise your name) and the radiant @MissAnna , I felt inspired to carve out a cozy little corner of the forum just for us!! a place to pour out positivity, share affirmations, and sprinkle a bit of joy around for anyone who might need it. Maybe you’re here to give? drop an uplifting thought, a kind word, or just good vibes. Fantastic! Maybe you’re here to receive? seeking a little boost, some warmth, or a smile to carry with you. Beautiful! Whatever brought you here, you belong. The world can be a heavy place sometimes, and we all deserve a pause, a breath, and a reminder that we are not alone. I'm so glad you're part of this community. I'm honored to call you friends. You are seen, you are loved, and you are wanted. Let’s keep this plaza glowing.

Good morning Sunshines the earth says hello! How have you all been? I love reading your post and stories, it's like I'm seeing a beautiful book come to life. My absolute favorite is when you all get excited over something and so passionate about it. It makes me giggle and smile, I'm so proud of all of you. Remember I'm still me, I'm still cheering for all of you. I know you are going to defeat the storms, I know you will conquer your fears and I know you will find what you need on here. I promise so don't give up on yourself. No matter where you are, you will be found, no matter what you are going through it will pass, you will be loved, you will find what you need and you will see clear skies again. i really am so proud of all of you, and remember it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to not get out of bed, it's okay to stay in bed all day eating ice cream. Don't worry I do it too 🤫 Please don't hesitate to message me or to send me friend request or write on my wall. I will respond back to you. I will still be here to cheer you on and I will still be here to send you hugs if you need it. Thank you for following me on my journey of discovery who I am in this big world. And thank you for accepting me as well as allowing me to be me. Through the good times, through the bad times we stand together as a family. To cheer each other on, to lift each other up, to support one another and to show all our love to one another. I truly am so proud of you all, thank you for being you 💕 Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved ❤️

First time joining 😁

Hello to all you wonderful amazing beautiful people on here. First how have you all been, it's been a little scary the past couple of days. I'm so glad that the rain is finally over and the waters have finally beginning to recede.. I wanted to come on here because if you all have noticed I changed my username and I changed my profile picture. I always thought that I was strictly just a mommy, I just strictly wanted to take care of someone and that was that. I never dreamed of having someone take care of me. After all I was a mommy, and Mommy's don't have anyone taking care of them. I always told myself that, I thought it was adorable when I met Daddy's or mommies that were switches. I never dreamed that I could be a switch as well. There was no way, there was no way that I could be a switch, for one thing I never had anyone that wanted to take care of me. So I never knew what it felt like. Another thing I never had anyone desire to be a caregiver for me. And when I came onto this form it opened my eyes, to see so many brave mommies and daddies being able to be true to themselves. I would read your post and hold Mr Bunny tight and whisper I really want that. I just wasn't brave enough yet. I've always been a big kid of heart, I love going to the toy section and playing with all the toys. I love to color and draw, but I never had anyone to show my drawings or colorings too. And I absolutely love stuffies but I only have Mr Bunny. And of course I have dozens of sleepers, I would always tell myself that I'm buying these for my little even though they're in my size. These are just some of the things that I would catch myself doing, but I swore to myself I was just a mommy and nothing more. On my days off I would find myself watching cartoons, getting lost in daydreams of being able to run to a caregiver and say I have a boo boo will you kiss it. But I would never admit this anyone, I couldn't because I was pretending to be solely a caregiver. Then I started to meet some amazing people, I met all of you wonderful Littles on here, amazing daddies and mommies. I started reading your posts and stories, my heart ached and desired for what you all have. I desperately wanted to be a little as well, I didn't know where to begin or how to even to start. I was never dominant to begin with, I would always do what the others wanted. I hate making rules, I don't know how to put someone in time out, honestly I have no clue how to be a dominant Mommy. I just knew how to care for someone and love someone, because that's what I wanted done to me. I wanted someone to find me and allow me to be their little but in return have all the joy of taking care of them. I love taking care of others, I love cuddles and to have a caregivers attention. My biggest fantasy was sitting on a caregiver's lap, having them pat my head and whisper it's okay Anna you're okay. I know it's not a lavishing fantasy but it's mine. And I started following Littles, and when I seen that I could take a test of what kind of little you are I was hooked. And then to see what age you are, that had me just jumping for joy. My dream for being a little was really going to happen. I'm still new to this, I'm still learning, and I'm still exploring who I am. But I'm still me, I'm still Anna, I'm still that same girl that's going to be cheering for you and wishing you nothing but love and joy. I'm still going to be reminding you of how much you matter in this world. I'm still going to be rooting for all of you, I still want each and every one of you to find whatever you're looking for on here. Thank you all for accepting me, for loving me, for worrying about me, for taking the time to check on me. Thank you for being here with me and thank you for making me feel a little less alone. So if anyone is on here, if you're a daddy, a mommy, a little, a sub or whatever you identify with and you want to try different role. Go for it, don't let the fear of what others are going to say about you stop you from doing what you want to do. I was terrified that no one would accept me but I was wrong because I had a ton of people behind me rooting for me. And I promise you they will be rooting for you as well. So from the bottom of my heart thank you for allowing me to be me. Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved, and you're worthy of being loved ❤️

Sooooo.... I colored another one too! @shadowrider they are all really cute this month and I just can't resist! I'll let you know at the end of the month which one am submitting for the contest... this is such a great problem to have!!

I haaaaaddd to color this one... It was calling me!

I had some fun with my flower box this weekend!

For fun at work... I watch kids have meltdowns and figure out the reason for the behavior, then develop a plan to teach a new behavior.... I know I'm a weird... but it totally brightens my day when a kid completely looses it in my classroom!!! I know what to do with challenging behavior, culturally diverse learners, language learners and random schedule changes... but I can't handle adults who are unable to put the needs of the students above all else during the school day... 🤔 😳 🙄 Give me flying chairs, tables shelves and escape artists running down the hallways any day of the week! Just don't give me a teacher who talks down to me professionally, yells at a child or for heavens sakes threatens a child with... if you don't...... then I'm gonna tell your Mom... Please! I'm the boss in my classroom! I don't raise my voice, I don't threaten, I don't use manipulation. But my students are allowed to have massive, horrendous, hideous, horrible, monstrous meltdowns. Because when they are calm again, I sit with them and say. Hi friend. I love you. I'm so happy you are in my class. Would you like a hug? Do you want to sit with me a minute til you're ready to move on? OK. And we never talk about it again!!😮 Wow forgiveness is so powerful! I'm not saying I've got the best strategy, but I am saying that teaching preschoolers is amazing! It's also not a career for me. It isn't even my passion. It's so much deeper than that. It's like I was born for this, then life really messed with me. You see the world tried to break me, over and over and over again. But every time I got pulverize by homelessness, poverty, abuse (every single kind you think of prolly), neglect, starvation, sickness, social injustice, religious legalism, inadequate Healthcare, poor nutrition, unsafe work standards, inappropriate expectations, and lack of services, someone was there. Maybe it was my 5th grade teacher who really saw me for who I was, not the poor kid with the drunk mother, who babysat every night to buy herself and her siblings shoes and clothes and school supplies. My teacher saw me as smart and fun and gave a beautiful nickname, that she still calls when she subs in my classroom! Or the lunch lady at school who always let me have seconds without paying for them The Grocery Store owner who gave me a job when I moved back and then when he and his wife found out I was pregnant and alone, canceled the debt on my in-store charge account that my ex used without my consent. Then, they bought me 6 months worth of diapers and tons of baby clothes to help make life a little easier, and gave me consistent hours to make childcare easier. Sister Estell who stopped by regularly. She took me to church and fed me every week. I remember her telling me so many positive things, and yelling at my parents 😆 You see when life tries to rob you of love, joy, peace, safety. Remember! Think hard about those moments you did have kindness shown to you. Remember the smiles, the extra support. The moments someone helped you because that right there is what will get you through! It's called resilience and it doesn't have to be big memories. It can be the pharmacy aide who offered to pay for my meds when I couldn't afford them last summer or the medical equipment store who never charged me for the pulse oximeter when I was super sick with Covid, but couldn't be hospitalized without putting my kids in foster care... the people who check on you every day and really do wanna know how you are. Remember them. Know that behavior is communication and how someone treats you is important. Choose good, kind people to surround yourself and build each other up! Life is so hard for each of us, we can only get through this together.

As far as I'm concerned, everybody matters in their own way. Everybody is needed to make this community strong. In this community we've always been a be yourself don't try to change for other people. With people are ut1 or ut2 we should always push people to be themselves and if we're not ourselves how can we even attempt to connect with others? Whether it's just to make friends or potential more. And I do see this as a family slightly dysfunctional at times but what family is completely functional?! With this many people and one small area of course there's going to be people that take things differently than the way the are stated. And I really enjoy being called sunshine. It always makes me smile to see your posts. Been through quite a bit some of us more than others. Sometimes we just have to let go of the pain. Or see somebody to talk about our pain and deeper rooted issues. So much is lost in text versus no more human connections. What they might see might be different than your intentions. Through text you cannot see people's facial expressions hear their tone. That is why whenever something bothers me that I have read from a text or a message I tried it take a few hours or a day to think before I speak. To try to remember to take the time to see things from both sides. I personally have never had a family member take their lives that I was old enough to remember. I have had some close friends that felt like no one was there for them that they were unloved that they had no one to reach out to, even though all of their friends tried it wasn't the right way or the right words. And sometimes it just wouldn't matter. It really depends on who else has an influence. For what the root cause for the destructive mindset. It's hard to be on either side of that fence. Please never stop being yourself that sounds so cliche but it's so true. If you have to change the way you are to make somebody happy that's just lying to yourself. And lying to yourself is detrimental to your mental health. Putting the southern aspects of your personality aside is one thing but changing your positive attitude and greeting to others just for one person. Pain is pain. Whoever this individual is I hope they get the help to properly move forward in a positive manner to get to a point of positive mental health. Luvs to everyone. Everyone here is special and very important to someone and I hope to learn so much more of getting myself to a better place mentally. And so far with a few setbacks here and there this place has helped me so much more. I can talk about things that are more vanilla and yet also not. This place is like a warm safe place in a storm of different emotions and situations in life.

Oh Sweet Mommy, please know that your positive energy and use of Sunshine in your posts, plus your Southern hospitality help get me through my days! I look forward to your thoughts daily and enjoy how you embrace everyone with grace and compassion. ❤️ Your intentions are to support everyone on their journey here, which is the very definition of a kind, nurturing mother in a family. I feel supported and encouraged to be me, by you and others here in a way my own family never has and never will, but it is making me a better person. Reading your insights and the way you care for others helps me know that I can keep growing and improving myself. Please know that when others lash out in anger, it often comes from a place of deep pain within themselves. Perhaps something triggered that person's fear response or deeply held shame messages. Seeing your kindness and genuine love for all of us is sometimes difficult for me, too. In my real life family, when my mother showed kindness or love it was to gain an advantage. We just had to "wait for the other shoe to drop", so to speak. I have worked hard for decades in therapy to accept people at their word, but I am very aware of this ongoing battle in myself. The best thing for me was people to be consistent in their compassion toward me. To continue in their unconditional acceptance, love and positive attitude. It hurt so much to be near them. I had to take breaks, but when I realized they did not change who they are, I could accept that the world was not what I knew. It was so much better! You are a light in the darkness to all of us. You help me to believe that people are good in this world. I see who you are in your messages and I know even in your pain, you are strong, beautiful inside and out, and you are a cherished member of our community, our family.

Thanks to our participants in March's coloring contest. You did a great job. To last month's winner we say Congratulations ! This month's contest will end on April 27th I will be starting a poll on or around the 28th and letting y'all pick the winner. * This month's theme will be Spring. You can also look in my gallery at my coloring pages album where you will find all the coloring pages I've posted for contests. https://www.ddlgforum.com/gallery/album/5986-coloring-pages/ * If you do not see anything you want to color feel free to find your own pic elsewhere and color it. Or draw and color your own. Guidelines 1. Must be your own handiwork. *You can add designs to blank sections and spruce it up if you feel inspired to 2. Must be submitted by the deadline. 3. Only 1 entry per member. You may color and upload all the pictures but let us know which is your entry. 4. Post your art on this thread or if you have trouble with that message a member of staff and we will be happy to assist you. Save the image(s) below. You can print it out to color it or use an app. Using a layer capable program/app Import (paste) the coloring page image. Set it as the top layer. Add a few layers under it. Set top layer (coloring page) to "Multiply" You should be able to color/erase easier, without affecting the lines. Free Apps: Sketches, Prismajoy and Sketchbook. PC: Gimp (that’s basically all I’ve used), MS Paint, Photoshop etc. Recolor is an app suggested by one of our members who was kind enough to supply this link. https://www.recolor.com/ If you have suggestions for apps to use please comment them and I will try to remember to add them to the list. Good luck and happy coloring.

Hihi all, its your resident hermit Pigtail here. So lately I have been struggling with alot of emotions and brain changes and confusion. It's a bit of a war zone in my head currently. But it isn't only heavy things sometimes it's also random happies or thoughts or whatever. The brain can be strange. Anyways alot going on up there right now, and a great majority of the time I feel I have very little folks to say any of it to. I know I am not alone in this. Ya know maybe therapy was hard, or my cucumbers are up, or my brain said a weird word that made me giggle. All the stuff that either doesn't fit into a conversation, is too random, or heavy, or the person has zero interest in the thought, those thoughts are why I made this. Let's say what we want!!! Please try to mark trigger warnings (also remember while heavy is allowed this is not The Lighthouse Club) or anything that might be controversial (let's keep politics low too friends as this isnt meant to upset). Mostly I want this to be a stream of consciousness where others can see the thoughts and comment too if they like. I do ask if you use this that you also try to respond to at least one! Let's put some effort into this and see if we can get the recognition alot of us want for pur thoughts by giving it to others too. You may post as many as you want i fully expect it could be empty or could get large. And in the spirit of the post let's only respond to when things interest ypu not to debate. I am trying to keep this nice! Which means nothing on fellow members. If you are upset with a person the is a conversation that should be had with them not us. Other than that the world is your oyster 😊 So feel free to share and interact. I am hoping that we can all get some good conversation going without heavy expectation or specific parameters. Thanks ahead to all who participate! Yours, Pigtail

For Brothers birthday I booked a special surprise - he had to wait till we got checked in for boarding on Saturday. It was a two hour cruise around Seattle and we landed right near Pikes Place so we could adventure around after. I know he likes photography and scenic views so I was really hoping this was something he would like. The only thing I would change was the group of drunks guys that were being loud and obnoxious , and kept trying to talk to us 😅 In no order - here is the cruise , going through the locks , birthday food and treats and nature we saw while out in Seattle !

Loving all the amazing pictures ❤️here’s my entry, good luck everybody 😄

redruffle41 Originally posted on my homepage but had to share: Hey Loved ones, here is a good one to consider. For the daddies who just can't find the right fit no matter what. This is a big one as far as how to have a LTR or at least positive relationship with a girl. (Caveat: humiliation, mindfuckery or degradation fits into this subject BUT I'm not talking about stuff that takes place in a scene /consented play, I'm talking about the relationship as a holistic entity that exists between two individuals). Don't treat your girl in a way that if she stayed with you despite your actions, you would lose respect for her. If you want a LTR your actions can't be in conflict with your respect for your girl. AND If you have a problem respecting women you're gonna have a hard time finding long term happiness with one. Most guys will test this at one point or another to make sure they're with a person with a strong character, to test the subs boundaries and/or just plain old human nature to slack off. It sounds a bit backwards BUT it's possible you may lose respect or interest for a girl based on YOUR unexamined actions and attitudes. Doms who do this especially put their sub in a position to choose between her ability to care for you (through virtues like patience, commitment, and emotional regulation) and her own self worth. Especially in the beginning of a new relationship a sub is generally unaware of your perspective on her or on women in general. 1. Most girls WILL chose to stay at least for a while through dismissive or slightly disrespectful behavior. Girls don't see it as a weakness to hold space for someone else's (your) bullshit behavior. It's a strength to give people a chance. She might be demonstrating some of her best character traits and the whole time you're losing respect and interest for her! Is she "letting you get away with sub par treatment", or she's "immature" or "crazy"? Double check your actions. If you have been a gentleman then you know for sure you can walk away. But if you have been unregulated emotionally AND sexually. If your leadership is sub par. If your words say one thing and your actions say another then you're jerking her around and she is most likely doing her best to keep up with you. So, if you find yourself losing girls left and right and unable to find the absolutely right fit .... Check your attitude towards women in general, your attitude towards submissives and your attitude towards virtues like forgiveness, commitment, emotional regulation and temperance. In short, check in on your leadership, your balanced masculinity, your relationship with yourself and maybe your mother 😂. Subs! Keep an eye out for the FIRST TIME a Dom will "get naughty" with you or cause you disappointment and bring it to his attention right away. Don't be afraid to lose him. He should respect you for it immediately and acknowledge. If he doesn't or if he slips up repeatedly then most likely he has big issues that you can't fix namely because he won't respect you enough to actually listen to you.

One more picture this month.... my stuffie friend helped with the picture this time!

I've said all of this before, but I'm wanting to say it again. You are valid just the way you are. You are little, with or without a romantic partner or platonic caregiver. You are uniquely you. No one can ever take your place. It might not always feel like it, but love surrounds you. In the direction you're looking in, and within yourself. You deserve to feel it. You deserve to overcome childhood trauma, if you have it. You deserve happiness. You deserve to dream, wildly. You deserve to feel better. You deserve having peace of mind in a safe space. You deserve to make littlespace, yourspace. You are allowed to speak up and say no. Your safety is important. You are a beautiful soul, so don't let anyone- including yourself, tell you otherwise~ You are not alone. You can over come your trauma. Just take baby steps day by day. Babble incoherently while hugging a stuffie, if you need to. You'll get there. In the meantime; feel the kindness, spread the kindness, be the kindness. Love yourself and everyone around you. Take the negativity that surrounds you and kill it with kindness, not fire. Because you're worth it. You got this. I believe in you. "MOON PRISM POWER, Make Up!"

This is your friendly reminder that you are enough as you are. You are enough in your whole entirety and that the person you are now is all the person you need. You don’t need to be someone else! You don’t need to be doing something different! You are you! And the people around you love you for who you are. I think it’s so easy for us to get caught up in for what we think we should be or how we should be living and the perceived perception by the people around us. But I think it’s a good opportunity to come back in, come back internal and notice the work that we embody, notice the worth that you embody. You are perfectly imperfect and that is just the way it is. Just don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of thinking that you should be doing more because you are you and people count their lucky stars because you are in their life. Remember this, Big love ❤️

Hi hi! Welcome to the lifestyle! ♡ I've got a few thoughts you might find useful. They're listed for easier reading, but not in order of importance. You may know some of this already, but I don't want to assume anything. If you're trauma-based, seek professional help. You are not alone, but don't let Littlespace become a crutch. It's totally acceptable to be/stay single. Having a dom/mommy/daddy/caregiver is not mandatory to be a Little. Your feelings and boundaries are valid. You're allowed to say no. If a situation feels like a red flag, follow your instincts. There is no right or wrong way to be Little. It's okay to just be yourself. Exploration and experimenting with other roles, beyond just being a Little, is totally fine. Honest communication with partner(s) is important in a romantic relationship. Having intimacy isn't a requirement to be a Little in a DDLG relationship. Platonic caregivers exist. Not all Littles are submissive, not all caregivers are doms. It's okay to step away from the lifestyle at any time, but equally okay to rejoin. Familiarize yourself with BDSM terminology, such as SSC (safe sane consensual). DDLG is a subcommunity of BDSM.

Thanks y'all for the support and step by steps. I'll look into the possibility/feasibility of increasing the allowed size and see where we stand on storage. Firstly don't crop your images unless you just want to remove something, that takes away background and in my humble opinion diminishes the photos impact. I do 96% of my forum stuff on pc because it makes life much easier, plus my layout has more on it to deal with and small screens suck. So I use ms paint and reduce the pic size, that way I lose none of the actual image. On mobile according to elgoog you have several options: To reduce picture size on your phone without cropping, like in MS Paint, you can use apps like Photo & Picture Resizer, Image Size app, Pixlr, or Instasize, which allow you to resize images while maintaining aspect ratio and reducing file size. The current size limit I believe is 2mb which would be close to 1600 x 1200 pixels which is pretty good size and quality. Hopefully this helps someone with their resizing.

If you hit the plus button on the top right and hit new gallery image. You can then create your own album(s) to drop things. You can then comment on posts and hit the Other Media button and hit insert existing attachment and it’ll take you to your gallleries. You can then upload all the pics you want and comment with them, too. If you need further assistance, let me know and I’ll drop screenshots for you! 🙂

I do understand the frustration. But I also urge everyone to understand that running this place is a huge responsibility on time and money and that Shadow does most of which himself. Sometimes things arnt perfect but I am so greatful he has given us this place.

Another picture!

Hi Sunshines! With so much going on in the world I thought I would ask some funny questions. Don't feel like you have to answer just giggle along with the rest of us 😀 1. What's the funniest thing you've ever been caught muttering to yourself? My answer: I'm not weird, I'm a squirrel trapped inside a woman living my best nutty life. 2. If you were a flavor, which one would you be? My answer: Peppermint because I love the taste and smell of mint 3. If animals had jobs, what would your pet’s job be? My answer: Probably criminals because they are always getting into trouble lol 4.Would you rather eat only desserts or only appetizers forever? My answer: Hmm that's a tough one probably appetizers I love fried things lol 5. If you had a warning label, what would it say? My answer: Will randomly blurt out things at the worst times. 6. What’s a chore you’d eliminate forever if you could? My answer: Hands down laundry, I would rather do dishes everyday then laundry lol 7. If you were a spice, which one would you be? My answer: Pumpkin spice because I love pumpkin pie yummy 8. If you could have a song play every time you enter a room, what would it be? My answer: Everybody dance now! 9. Would you rather speak every language in the world or be able to speak to animals? My answer: Animals, I would love to know why my dog always tilts her head when I dance around the house lol 10. If you were a fruit, what fruit would you be? My answer: Most definitely a Pineapple, because I would always get to wear a crown I hope you liked my questions and answers, remember it's okay to be silly and have fun even during the most difficult of times. Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved ❤️

The proof is in the thread You are awesome You are respected You are loved There is no other take away.

I've said it before, and I will say it again. You be you, be unapologetically you, and don't change for anyone. You are ne of the kindest and sweetest people I've met, and your posts do nothing but bring people together in this cold uncaring world. If someone doesn't like what you've said that's on them, and while they have every right to tell you if they do or don't like being called something, they have zero right to try to bring you down because of it. The fact they try to talk down about the community too, feels like they're likely someone very hurt, just looking to lash out and spread that pain around, but you do not deserve it. It's hard, but do not try to take it personally, if they really are just a hurt person anyone and everyone could have potentially been on the receiving end of their ire. But the best thing you can do for now, I think, is to understand that it's not you they were mad at, and try your best to move on and continue to be the wonderful person you are. I may not have known you for a long time, but the only thing you've done is make the world a better place by being yourself.

Good morning all you beautiful wonderful amazing sweet people on here! How is your day been? Has anyone had any adventures lately? I know there's a new game out, you will have to forgive me I don't have a gaming computer or an Xbox to be able to play the games that you all do. But I still love hearing about all the fun things you all do on your games. I'm old school I have a PS2, a PSP, Nintendo switch, and my favorite my super Nintendo. I'm more of a classical person, but what can I say I grew up in the '80s and '90s. Are you all doing anything fun today? I think I'm going to make homemade chocolate chip cookies. Anybody want any? There's so many people going through so much heartache, I wish I could honestly make all of you a batch of cookies give you a hug and tell you it's going to be okay. It's so hard when you see people you care about go through so much pain. I really wish I could be there for all of you, but I want you to know all of you to know that I'm proud of each and every one of you. I see each and every one of you, I hear each and every one of you and I support each and every one of you. It doesn't matter if you're going through something that you think isn't important, because I think it is and I still want to know about it. As I've said before and I will always say, I'm still me. I'm still the same girl that joined a few months back. I still care, I still worry, and I still adore each and everyone of you. I'm in your corner rooting for you, whether it's to find a friend, a daddy, a mommy, a little, sub, or if you just want someone to connect with, I'm going to be cheering for you the whole time. I'm so proud that you were able to get out of bed just for a few minutes, I'm so proud that you took that leap of faith, I'm so proud that you're getting help, I'm so proud that you joined the server, I'm so proud that you are reaching out to people to connect with, I'm so proud of you. So no matter where you are or who you are I'm proud of you and I know you can do whatever you set your mind to. I'm always here if you need a friend. I'll always listen in my door is always open. Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💕

Another happy picture!!! It's a really tough week at work, so coloring is perfect! But I had a horrible thought today.... I'm almost out of coloring pages!!!! I'm gonna have to start working through my workbooks, coloring books and the pictures I have from preschool next! 😆🤭

Hello! Hi! Friendly neighbourhood Soul here!! Can we just take a second to appreciate how far we’ve come as a human race? One of the most beautiful parts of this progress is the growing acceptance of who we are, how we feel, what we identify as, and yes, even the space to change our minds along the way. We are constantly evolving. Self-discovery doesn’t happen in a single moment! it’s a journey, sometimes surprising, often enlightening, and always worth embracing. And that’s especially true within kink. Every day is a school day in this world. We learn, we unlearn, we grow. I know for me, the pursuit of learning and becoming the best version of myself is something I hold very close. Maybe you’ve always identified as a Dom, but you’ve started to notice a little/little side of yourself. Or maybe you’re a sub/little who’s realising there’s a bit of a Dom in you. You might even come to discover that you’re a switch.. and guess what? That’s perfectly okay. All of it is valid. All of you is valid. You don’t owe anyone a fixed identity. You owe it to yourself to be honest about what lights your soul up, even if that changes. If you’ve discovered something new about yourself today, this week, or even right now while reading this.. Welcome!. You’re seen. You’re supported. And you are not alone. I’m Soul. I see you. I accept you. I love each and every one of you not for who someone else tells you to be, not for what society expects you to be—but for who you truly are. You are beautiful. You are smart. You are amazing. And the most incredible thing about you? You are uniquely you. Keep growing. Keep discovering. Keep being you! With love

1. What's the funniest thing you've ever been caught muttering to yourself? It was this little bit to myself as I got cake from the fridge. 🍰 I thought I was the only human around and got caught 🫢 2. If you were a flavor, which one would you be? I've been told honey 🍯 3. If animals had jobs, what would your pet’s job be? To be cute and taste testers of veggies/fruits 🐹 They take their jobs VERY seriously! 4.Would you rather eat only desserts or only appetizers forever? DESSERTS!! 🍦🍪🍩I have a sweet tooth 5. If you had a warning label, what would it say? Will snitch chocolate and sweets like a mouse 🍫🍬🐁 6. What’s a chore you’d eliminate forever if you could? Meal planning 😖 I don't like deciding what to make for dinner every night 7. If you were a spice, which one would you be? Cinnamon 😋 It's sweet and goes with my favorite holidays 8. If you could have a song play every time you enter a room, what would it be? Mrs Magic by Strawberry Guy ✨🍓 It came up as my most played song on Spotify last year. 9. Would you rather speak every language in the world or be able to speak to animals? Funny that I was just having a conversation with a friend about this! I totally believe it's possible to communicate with animals which I'm trying to figure out how. 10. If you were a fruit, what fruit would you be? Blackberry 💜 My favorite color and yummy flavor!

1. What's the funniest thing you've ever been caught muttering to yourself? My answer:🎵 I've got a lovely bunch of coconuts... why does this song always get stuck in my head? Where is this song from? Lion King! Oh crap I'm supposed to be doing something!!! I really hope no one noticed that!!🫣 2. If you were a flavor, which one would you be? My answer: cotton candy because it's my favorite kind of ice cream! 3. If animals had jobs, what would your pet’s job be? My answer: no pets, but I once had a fish... he would be a lifeguard! 4.Would you rather eat only desserts or only appetizers forever? My answer: Desserts 100% of the time! I crave sweets!! Not chocolate so much, but sugar, ice cream, fruit, carrots, sweet potatoes, beets, pumpkin, yogurt, hot cereal! 5. If you had a warning label, what would it say? My answer: Caution: she always looks calm... but you never know what's simmering under the surface! 6. What’s a chore you’d eliminate forever if you could? My answer: can I pick all chores? 😆 I guess floors are the worst... 7. If you were a spice, which one would you be? My answer: The spice ginger. A little is nice, a lot is WOW! 8. If you could have a song play every time you enter a room, what would it be? My answer: Get Back Up Again - Trolls (Poppy) 9. Would you rather speak every language in the world or be able to speak to animals? My answer: Speak every language! Think of all the people I could help! And love! And teach! 10. If you were a fruit, what fruit would you be? My answer: apples simple, elegant, lots of variety, lots of uses, lots of friends

1. What's the funniest thing you've ever been caught muttering to yourself ? I learned as a kid never mutter anything out loud because someone is always listening and you usually get yourself in trouble. 2. If you were a flavor, which one would you be ? Piñon, underrated and not everyone gets it. 3. If animals had jobs, what would your pet’s job be ? Mine are pigs so they would be in waste management or farmers, possibly competitive eaters. 4.Would you rather eat only desserts or only appetizers forever ? Appetizers for sure. 5. If you had a warning label, what would it say ? Knows how to swim so not afraid to burn bridges. 6. What’s a chore you’d eliminate forever if you could ? Vacuuming. 7. If you were a spice, which one would you be ? Tajin, I go with everything and people either love me or hate me. 8. If you could have a song play every time you enter a room, what would it be ? Country Folks - Bubba Sparxxx 9. Would you rather speak every language in the world or be able to speak to animals ? Every language. The possibilities that would open are insane. 10. If you were a fruit, what fruit would you be ? Passion fruit. Pretty plain to look at but once you get to the inside you find a sweet/tart treat that you want more of.

I am so sorry that someone made you feel like you were in the wrong. That must have been very hurtful to you since you try so hard to make people happy. I don’t live in a place where people use generic pet names or southern hospitality, but I’ve always seen you calling people sunshine as an uplifting gesture of friendship. Obviously people are entitled to their feelings. It’s perfectly okay for them to request you don’t use pet names with them. It’s not okay for that person to hurt you. Obviously I don’t know them and can’t speak on them, but I do know what it’s like to have depression. It can be very hard to hear people say positive things when your brain keeps telling you the opposite. If that person wants to be angry and keep themselves separate from the community here, that’s up to them. I hope that they can climb out of that hole and see you, and the community as a whole, as a place of love and comfort and support. I know that you will respect their wishes, but please please keep being yourself. Do not give anyone the power to dull your sparkle. You are a light to so many people. If you ever need to talk, please feel free to reach out.

When I read your initial post, @MommyDom41, I was angry for a moment on your behalf. How dare someone tell you that your amazingly positive demeanor is inappropriate! Then I took a deep breath and tried to think about this from the unknown person's perspective, and I still don't think they had the right to tell you off for being who you are. I can certainly be sympathetic to whatever wounds they may have that elicited this response on their part, and I could even find it in my heart to try to treat that person gently, there is still no reason to expect that their demands should apply to your interactions with anyone else. It's my perception that kind of behavior is a little too similar to those of the dominant persuasion who take out their perceived shortcomings on others. I have a lot more thoughts about actions and reactions, but I feel it's inappropriate for me to blather on without more direct knowledge of this person and what factors may be affecting what are, to me, overreactions to behavior that--while possibly a trigger for them--come from a place of loving innocence from you. It's one thing to ask to not be called something on an individual basis, but it's quite another to try to control one's behavior because of one's own fear. I'm sorry that happened to you, @MommyDom41, and you can rest assured that, from my perspective at least, you are like a golden ray of sunshine that bathes everyone in loving warmth. Please never stop.

Side stepping the point of this thread for a second… hope you don’t mind… but @shadowrider it’s so nice to know I’m not the only one that struggles with this! Growing up it was ingrained in me, it’s been such a hard habit to break (at least in this aspect of my life) & I still feel like I’m being insanely rude sometimes when I don’t call people it. I even check anything I’m sending or posting multiple times to make sure it hasn’t snuck in.

Plus as our dear friend @-Soul-pointed out the responses sure seem like family retorts to me . Just another reason you people make me proud

@MommyDom41 off days are okay! What isn’t okay are people trying to extinguish others flames! We YOUR FAMILY here will add logs to your flame, we will stoke your fire and we will protect you from the winds that threaten! we love you! Please never change