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@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Thanks for being patient friends! Sleep has been in short supply this week but the show must go on. Soooooo... feel free to read chapters 37-41. The book is for sure picking up momentum. Please remember to be checking in at least once a week so I dont have to guess if you are still participating. Have an amazing week! Pigtail

@RoseyLittle @MissNMTX @Zina @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny Questions and new assignments are up friends!!! Its also time for a check in again. To check in tell me wether or not you think what is happening to Devrycks prisoner is justified or not?

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker You know what time it is!!! Qithput further teasing feel free to read chapters 42-46! Also the pole for our midway meeting is up so please go vote! Have an amazing rest of the week friends.

I know what it feels like to not have many friends in real life. That quiet loneliness can ache in places you didn’t know existed. I have people online who care, who show up, who understand me in ways that matter, but in the physical world it feels so sparse right now, and that hurts in its own quiet way. The world itself feels overwhelming. You turn on the TV or scroll your phone and there is no shelter from it. The fear follows you from room to room, like a storm that doesn’t know how to pass. It’s exhausting, and it’s heartbreaking. I wish I had a magic wand. I wish I could smooth the sharp edges and make everything feel safe again. I can’t do that. But what I can do, what we can do, is be here. We are here to listen. We are here to sit beside you, even in the silence. You don’t have to explain yourself or be strong for us. The world may feel frightening right now, but you are not facing it alone. We will walk through this together, one breath, one moment, one small act of kindness at a time. My door is always open if you need someone to talk to

Lately, I’ve been feeling really sad. The kind of sad that drains motivation until even getting out of bed feels impossible. I tried to stay positive, to be uplifting, to push through it quietly. Then I got really sick, most likely from chemo, it hit me hard, so hard I was crawling just to get into bed. Thankfully my stomach has settled, my body no longer aches or feels like it’s vibrating, and little by little, the sadness has started to loosen its grip. I’m writing this because no one really knew how sad I was. I didn’t let anyone see it, I let the depression consume me until I didn’t even know where to begin anymore. I could barely keep a smile on my face, and I had no energy left for anything. It made me start thinking about others. How many of the people who are always cheering others on have laid in bed wondering how they were going to get up because of depression? How many of the “strong” or “happy” ones are quietly carrying more than anyone realizes? That thought broke my heart. There were moments when I wrote small pieces about my sadness, but I never went deep. I never wanted others to see my true broken pieces my true sadness, how heartbroken and emotionally exhausted I was and how I couldn’t see past my own hands. Looking back, that’s when I should have reached out. I should have let others in and allowed them to help ease the weight I was carrying. I’m not sharing this for pity, and I’m not asking for concern or attention. I feel much better now than I did then. I’m sharing this as a reminder. Please check on the ones who are always smiling. Let them know you care. Let them know you’re there to listen if they need a friend. Because sometimes the people who spend their lives making others feel happy are the ones who need it the most. Until next time, remember this: you matter, You are loved. And you are worthy of being loved. -Miss Anna-

@MissAnna Thank you for trusting us with something this tender. What you shared takes so much courage, especially after carrying it quietly for so long. I’m really sorry you went through that depth of sadness and the physical toll on top of it, no one deserves to feel that alone. Your words are such an important reminder that strength doesn’t always look like smiling or pushing through, and that even the most giving hearts can be hurting deeply. I hope you know how much your honesty matters and how many people it will help feel less unseen. I’m really glad to hear you’re feeling lighter now, even if it’s just little by little. You matter so much, and you deserve the same care and compassion you so freely give to others. Thank you for this reminder to check in, to listen, and to love more intentionally. Please continue to be strong and know that you too are special, matter and loved 💛

This has really helped me today

@RoseyLittle @MissNMTX @Zina @kimmybunny @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny Hello all sorry this is a few hours late!!! A nap may have tried to claim my soul 🤣 We are a good 35% into the book so be on the lookout soon for a pole for our midway discussion!!! I usually have a hard time getting folks together but I know we can do it if we set our minds to it. The being said feel free to read chapters 27-31!!! Happy reading 📚

Trauma hits everyone different. You are doing the right things. You will make it through this. I believe in you.

Here’s a fun little activity for grounding and self care! Creating your own little grounding kit. We always have fun running this in trauma group programming. The ‘why’ behind this activity is because when we are activated or triggered, it is hard for us to think and remember what things help us. So keeping a kit stocked by you in your room or a safe place means you just have to remember to open your box. And partners or loved ones can be told about it too. Plus it’s just fun and we can use glitter and sparkles! 💕 You can get creative and decorate a box, crate or chest of any kind. You could use a shoe box, or craft stores/dollar stores have all kinds of ones to choose from. You can decorate the outside and inside, with decoupage, paint, stickers, gems! Anything that speaks to you. Not feeling creative? That’s okay, there’s lots of pretty boxes out there to choose from that you can just pick up and fill. Then you put in things that are soothing to you like: - your favourite grounding tools (maybe a journal, a list of people you can reach out to, breathing visualization steps, grounding technique cards), - things for your senses (could be your favourite scent candle or essential oils, play doh or slime to squeeze or other sensory toys, a suckable candy or chocolate to put on your tongue, BUBBLES TO BLOW!) - comfort objects (could be grounding photos of loved ones or special memories/places, nostalgic items like shells from a trip, a soft stuffie, a letter you write yourself or someone else has written you) - things that focus your mind (could be a colouring or puzzle book, fidget toys, crochet or knitting, a favourite book to read) These are all just ideas, whatever works for you! This thread can be a space people can post their own kits if they already have them, or want to try making one!

Trying to break patterns is not easy! I think you're showing great bravery. Sending you warms thoughts 🌟

oh sweetie I'm so sorry you're feeling the stress!! Like you said just remember deep breath! And remember I think you are way stronger than you think you are!! You're incredibly brave to come here and reach out! But even better, your self-aware of what you're doing! Which means you are in control!! And I will sit here with you and metaphorically hold your hand anytime you need me to! 🫂❤️❤️ Big hugs my friend big hugs!!

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Please comment here friends to let me know you are still going forward with us!!! I know some of us have been a little busy but the once a week check in helps me keep it all organized.

Healing is not a straight line, it doesn’t come with a deadline or a finish flag. It takes time, it takes facing nightmares that don’t always make sense. It takes therapy, and often more therapy than you ever thought you’d need. And that doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means the wound was deep. One thing that helped me was journaling. When thoughts loop endlessly in my mind, writing them down gives them somewhere to go. It’s called docking. Taking the pain out of your head and placing it on paper so it doesn’t keep racing, so it doesn’t keep owning every quiet moment. You won’t forget what happened. That isn’t failure. Healing isn’t about erasing the past, it’s about time. Time to breathe without bracing. Time to look in the mirror and slowly stop seeing only the broken child who spent years just trying to survive. The way I coped was therapy. I know how hard it is to take that step. I know how vulnerable it feels. But it helped me understand something vital, what happened to me was not my fault. And what happened to you is not you fault either. Surviving does not define us as damaged. It defines us as resilient. Please remember this: You are not alone. You are not broken beyond repair. And you are worthy of being loved My door is always open if you need a friend

@Snowyy I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you’re describing makes so much sense, especially after going through something that hurt you deeply. Nothing about the way you’re reacting means you’re broken or “odd”, it means your mind and body learned how to survive when things weren’t safe. That on-edge feeling and those coping habits are signs of strength, even if they feel exhausting now. Healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened, and it doesn’t require you to relive or explain it in detail if you’re not ready. It’s okay to move forward slowly. The pain coming back doesn’t mean you’ve failed or gone backwards, it just means your system is still trying to protect you. There are ways to cope without talking much about the past. Some people find grounding things helpful when memories hit, focusing on your breathing, noticing what you can see or feel around you, or doing something physical like walking or stretching to remind your body that you’re safe now. Writing things out privately, creating routines that help you feel steady, or having one small thing that brings comfort can also help take the edge off. None of this fixes everything overnight, and that’s okay. Please be gentle with yourself. What happened was not your fault, and feeling disgust or pain about it doesn’t define who you are. You’re already doing something brave by wanting to heal. You don’t have to do this perfectly, and you don’t have to do it alone, support can look many different ways, at your pace, on your terms. I’m really glad you reached out. You deserve peace, and even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, it is possible to move forward while still honoring what you’ve been through.

@LittleAmbi Thank you for sharing this. I’m really glad you wrote, even if you’re not sure why you did. Feeling that lonely can be incredibly heavy, and it makes a lot of sense that being home so much has stirred things back up again. I want you to know your feelings are valid, and for sure you’re not weak or failing for feeling this way. It actually says a lot about you that you’re still trying: working out, doing chores, looking for ways to care for yourself even when it’s hard. That takes real strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it’s helping right now. Loneliness is a tough one, it’s not something you can “productivity” your way out of, and that’s not your fault. (And for what it’s worth, you spelled loneliness just fine. I’m really sorry you’re carrying so much, especially with everything going on in the world. When dark thoughts start to feel overwhelming, reaching out like this is a meaningful step. You’re not invisible here, and you’re not alone in this moment, even if it feels that way inside. I’m here to listen, truly. If you want to talk more about what’s been weighing on you, you don’t have to hold it all by yourself. 💛Feel free to follow and reach out to me anytime, even if you want to just say hello!

I'm right here with you if you need someone to talk to. I know how much you loved your kitty cat and I can't imagine the pain you're going through. It's heartbreaking and it absolutely just sucks. They aren't just an animal they become your kids they become your family they become your best friend. They love you unconditionally and when you lose them you feel like you lose a part of yourself. I might not be right beside you but I'm sending you the biggest most warmest hug. I'm right here if you need me

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Alright friends. For those of you that enjoy these here are questions for chapters 32-36 The mystery is really killing me at this point and stopping at the chapter marks is definitely hard. Per usual make sure to spoil your answers and post in the linked topic below. Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker So sorry friends last night was a giant mess lol. But I know we all have days like that. I havnt heard from a few of you. If you are struggling please resch out and communitlcate as I 100% understand. Without further ado feel free to read chapters 37-41

Thank you for being so kind to me and thank you for your kind offer

Thank you for your kindness

When chemo had you broken, sick and dizzy. When darker times and depression took hold. When you were brought down to your very lowest... one of your first thoughts was still for other people and if they might need help... 😭like it or not, you are a truly special person. ❤️ ... and yes you are right. Those who have felt or still feel deep pain, are often the quickest to offer support, because they are the ones who know how much a kind word or gesture can mean in a moment of darkness. If you ever want to vent to a random 3rd party about how much of a struggle life can be, and how much energy it seems to want to take from you, I am here for you and I think so are a great many people on this forum.

You are a very strong person. I have known other people who have had chemo. It's never easy. Thank you for being a person who cheers others on and thank you for the reminder to reach out to others who may secretly be having a bad time. You never know when someone needs a little extra light in their life.

@RoseyLittle @MissNMTX @Zina @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright friends here are questions for chapters 26-31!!! Chapter 31 was sooooo amazing. I hope yall are enjoying this story as much as I am. Like usual remember to use spoilers and post in the area linked below. Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

Hello all! Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire again! So my sub club The NNC is bustling but the main club here has been a little dead. Soooo I am hoping to bring a little life to it. I am going to do some more posting and such but I would love any suggestions yall would like to see! Also please comment here if you are jyst in support or interested in general! Let's make this the year of reading because I know we all have reading goals we want to make!!! Pigtail

I’ve had people disappear on me too, and sometimes I wish I’d had a bit more context before getting invested. A Social Media Background Check can help spot mismatched vibes early on, like seeing someone’s interests or patterns before things get weird. It won’t stop ghosting, but it can save you from walking straight into another dead end. Sometimes a little upfront clarity makes the whole thing sting less.

Question 30: Question 31: Question 32: Question 33: Question 34:

Reader, I'm just curious, how do we feel about book series? I'm great with interconnected stand alone, duets, and even a trilogy as long as each book matters. But somewhere deep down inside of me I get agitated having to read book after book for just one story! Sometimes, all these series just annoy me. Especially, when I've read several that could be much shorter.

@RoseyLittle I'm the worst book club member! It's so hard for me to slow the pace of my reading. Sometimes I just want to keep reading at least to a different stopping point. I'm been a good girl though and not done that. The upside is I read through loads of other books and set my reading goal for 2026 in the meantime.

Ok love this question because we are all soooo different. I am almost exscluviely a series reader, the one I am on now is 6 books and like 3000 pages. Personally if the story is done well (I read alot of fantasy with world building and such) I will enjoy keeping on reading. I like a largely over arching plot and to me a book or even three isnt always enough. That being said I have read books where I just wanted it over and the occasionall stand alone or duet is a nice pallet cleanser

Question 22: Question 23: Question 24: Question 25: Question 26: Question 27: Question 28: Question 29:

@RoseyLittle @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny Hello friends!!! As prommis3d here is your questions from chapters 22-26! The book is getting very very good and even I am having a hard time stopping from reading ahead 🤣. As usual make sure to post in the correct topic posted below! Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

Hi 👋 I made this bracelet I think its really cute and wanted to show someone its got a bunny bead, a tiara bead, a happy cloud bead, a flower bead, a m bead and a letter p bead which stands for princess! I made it with pink/white/red beads and I tried to make it little themed

WOW! This is such a beautiful, thoughtful activity, thank you for sharing it so warmly. I love how you highlight the why behind it, because it’s so true: when we’re activated or overwhelmed, even the simplest grounding tools can slip right out of our minds. Having a kit ready, created by our calmer selves, is such a compassionate gift to our future selves. And the way you describe it makes the whole process feel joyful and empowering, glitter, sparkles, soothing textures, comforting memories, all woven together into something that’s both practical and deeply personal. 💕 Your ideas are wonderfully accessible too. Whether someone wants to go all-out decorating a treasure box or just pick up something simple and fill it with care, there’s no wrong way to do it. I especially love the mix of sensory items, comfort objects, and mind-focusing tool, it’s such a gentle reminder that grounding can come from so many places. Thank you for sharing this in a way that feels safe, creative, and motivating. It’s the kind of post that makes people feel seen, supported, and inspired to try something nurturing for themselves. Keep up the good work!🌿✨ This is such a beautiful, thoughtful activity, thank you for sharing it so warmly. I love how you highlight the why behind it, because it’s so true: when we’re activated or overwhelmed, even the simplest grounding tools can slip right out of our minds. Having a kit ready, created by our calmer selves, is such a compassionate gift to our future selves. And the way you describe it makes the whole process feel joyful and empowering - glitter, sparkles, soothing textures, comforting memories, all woven together into something that’s both practical and deeply personal. 💕 Your ideas are wonderfully accessible too. Whether someone wants to go all-out decorating a treasure box or just pick up something simple and fill it with care, there’s no wrong way to do it. I especially love the mix of sensory items, comfort objects, and mind-focusing tool, it’s such a gentle reminder that grounding can come from so many places. Thank you for sharing this in a way that feels safe, creative, and motivating. It’s the kind of post that makes people feel seen, supported, and inspired to try something nurturing for themselves. Keep up the good work!🌿✨

For the week Feb 11th - 17th, yes that is correct.

Still here. On track.

Andy Carrol was banging them in for fun at Newcastle, but only because he had the supply from the balls getting banged into him in the box by the wingers from wide positions. Liverpool doesn't play like that. They play more through the middle with quick one-twos and always have done

@dollreverie I’m so, so sorry. Reading this, you can feel just how deep your love for your dad runs, and how much care you poured into every part of his life and his goodbye. There’s nothing messy about this kind of grief - it’s the sound of a heart that loved fully and is now shattered by the absence of someone irreplaceable. Twelve years of being each other’s constant leaves a space that feels impossible to comprehend when it’s suddenly empty. He wasn’t “just an animal.” He was your companion, your responsibility, your comfort, your heart outside your body. Of course this hurts the way it does. Of course it feels unreal. The bond you describe is profound, and the loss of it is profound too. The way you speak about caring for him - managing his illnesses for years, protecting him from suffering, holding him gently even after he was gone - is filled with tenderness and devotion. He knew love and safety because of you. That matters more than words can hold. Carrying grief for your dad and then losing your soul cat on top of that… it makes sense that it feels like too much. Grief doesn’t measure or compare losses; it just responds to love. And you loved deeply, in both cases. There’s no wrong or shameful way for this pain to show up. I’m holding so much compassion for you as you sit with these memories - even the ones that feel unbearable right now. What you shared is raw and heartbreaking, and it’s okay that you needed somewhere to lay it down for a moment. You’re not weak for hurting like this. You’re human, and you loved fiercely. Please take care💔

I recently watched 'Marie Antoinette' (2006) on netflix and it was soooo good! I want to watch more historical movies and I was thinking we could make a list in chronological order. Like we could have movies about the middle ages, then movies about the 1800s, all the way to movies about the '50s! What do you think?

Thank you friend for the compliment. These were for sure some deeper questions with the social aspect. So 32 and 34:

Name: Juju Age: 62 Favorite book as an adult: Sense and Sensibility, Emma, True Blood Series, and The Fever Series by Karen Marie Moning Favorite book as a child: A Tale of Two Cities, Joan Of Ark, Wuthering Heights, Ivanhoe ... I read a lot of smut as a teenager, allowed to because my mom decide i needed to learn if somewhere. 🙄 Favorite genre: Supernatural, fantasy, mysteries, historical, (Basically, if it sounds good, and peeks my interest, I'll read anything.) Favorite troupe: rough, take charge (male character), a little pushy, dominate/sub characters (blushes) you get the idea! lol Least Favorite types of main characters: Manipulative , sneaky, and greedy characters, especially when it's a female or one that doesn't know what she wants and whines about it instead of figuring it out. (Sorry, they really get my ire up! lol) One book that deserved a sequel: I really can't think of one right now. Do you read physical books or digital: Physical! The only time i read digital is when I'm going on a trip or something catches my interest and it's only on digital. I don't do Audible. My brain does it's own voices and imagery. 😂 How much do you read a week: Lately, not at all. But, my challenge this year, one of them, is to get back into it. I spend to much time playing games of watching TV. *Disclaimer: I am in Noooo way saying anything against other peoples likes or dislikes. These are just my personal ones.*

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I am a 46 year little/ middle from Indiana. I've never been in a dynamic because I didn't really know what was going on with me until a few years ago and I am happily married to a man who loves and understands big me. He doesn't really get little me but, he tries. I just want to find some friends who get little me.

Name: Ricky Age: 29 Favorite book as an adult: This is hard to say over all because I have read a hole lot of great books. Favorite book as a child: I use to dislike books as a kid. Never really got in to books in tell I was older and now I wish I started reading them when I was a kid. Could really help out with my Learning Disabilty growing up. Favorite genre: Romance Favorite troupe: Enemies to Lovers/ little getting their own CGs after having a trouble past growing up. You see how much pain they was in but finally getting the one thing they always wanted at the end. Least Favorite types of main characters: When they act all creepy like and play it off as a good thing. Not over protective but the part where just reading the book, you feel the main character being all creepy and you wish they author change the main person to someone else. One book that deserved a sequel: There lots of books that I wish there was more to it. So this be hard to say just one. Do you read physical books or digital: I had physical but I perfer kindle seen I can read books back to back. How much do you read a week: I am not sure becuase each week it is different.

this is one of my fav plushies!! her name is angel and she is all soft :3 i sometimes put nice perfum on her or glitter dust ✨she is an alíen *-*

While im thinking about books I'm going to finally fill this out lol Name: Sara Age:19 Favorite book as an adult: the Goldfinch (Donna tartt) Favorite book as a child: technically this is a series but I loved all of the magic tree house Favorite genre: contemporary fiction Favorite troupe: unhinged women Least Favorite types of main characters: umm boring ones? One book that deserved a sequel: I prefer a good stand alone. Do you read physical books or digital: physical with the occasional audio book How much do you read a week: depends

Here's a few more tips from me personally: - if you want to use a pacifier and not a substitute (lollipop, ring pop, chew jewelry), you can wear a face mask and have it hidden! Some people on etsy sell custom masks designed to hold the paci for you! - if Disney music is too obvious or childlike, try piano covers, kalimba covers, or lofi! Or "kawaii lofi", which is my fave, feel free to ask more about it! - put stickers on things that are otherwise adulty and boring, like notebooks, folders, waterbottles, etc (so long as you won't get in trouble) - if you want to color custom printed coloring sheets or just don't want to carry a kid coloring book, hole-punch the pages and put them in a binder. Much more discreet! - fun socks are a really easy way to be little without anyone caring. You can wear them underneath, and they are gender-neutral! I like to wear fuzzy socks personally - if you want your lunches to be more fun, try bento boxes! Adults use bento boxes all the time, and it's fun because it's sectioned like kiddie plates! - a few years ago a post went viral, where you draw a crown on your hand to signify to other littles that you are one too! I do this sometimes when I have to be professional because it reminds me that I'm just a baby pretending to be big! - this helps especially if you are in school or work an office job. Try decorating your supplies to fit you! You can get fun stationary, carry your belonging in a cute backpack or tote bag, change screensavers to something with a cute character, get a calender with cartoons on it, your imagination is the limit! - this one is my biggest tip because I do it the most often. Use your break time (lunch, downtime between classes, etc) to find someplace secluded and let yourself regress for a few minutes! If you are a much younger little or have a harder time coming out of it, maybe be careful with this one, but I know that when I go to my car and read stories online and listen to music, I feel much better!

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Do this in private. Try to avoid excessive PDA and role playing, it makes other members uncomfortable and can make it hard for others to join in. Be respectful and civil of all members in chat regardless of your personal feelings towards them. Keep your “hands” to yourself unless you have permission to sit on, hug, poke, or in any way touch another member. Tag links as SFW (Safe For Work) or NSFW (Not Safe For Work). If a staff member asks you to give more detail about the link, please give more detail. NSFW content includes violence, lingerie, sex toys, excessive swearing. No photos or media depicting minors in a sexual manner is permitted for any reason. Sharing content of this nature will result in an automatic ban If a member of the moderation team asks you to stop doing something, please stop. Feel free to message them privately for more information if you are confused. If a mod asks you to stop, but you continue, you will be kicked from the room. If a mod is not there and there is screen shot proof that you continue after members ask you to stop discussion of a topic that is highly offensive or triggering, you may risk receiving a warning point. Chat room kicks are based on behavior. If you are kicked twice within a short period of time, you risk your chat privileges being revoked for a period of suitable time or harsher consequences, depending on the severity of the act. No "mini-modding". This is defined as a normal member acting like a staff member while a staff member is present. Leave warnings and enforcing rules to the forum staff. It’s likely you will just escalate the situation otherwise. It is acceptable to direct new members to forum section or to our rules and guidelines if a staff member is not present. PHOTOS Do not upload photos or videos of anyone under the age of 18. Infractions of this nature will be handled on a case by case basis Do not upload or share pornographic or suggestive content. This includes sexual organs, nude buttocks, or nipples--regardless of sex or gender. PERSONALS Follow the personals format. Failure to do this will result in your personal ad being deleted and you having to start again. The format is provided to you when creating one, and is as follows: Age (Your Age Required): Little Age: Name: Role: Location: Sexual Orientation: Looking for: Relationship preference (Polyamory , Monogamous , or other): Number of partners I have: Personal responses addressed to anyone other than the original poster will be deleted. Multiple personal ads are not allowed; if changes are needed you can edit or bump your original ad. New ads will be considered duplicates and will be deleted. Personal ads should be in the personals section only. Personal ads are not permitted outside of the personals section for any reason. We do not allow the creation of personal ads for anyone other than yourself. FRIEND ZONE Follow the Friend Zone format. Failure to do this will result in your friend ad being deleted and you having to start again The format is provided to you when creating one, and is as follows: Age: Required Little Age: Name: Role: Location: Looking for: Multiple friend ads are not allowed; if changes are needed you can edit or bump your original ad. New ads will be considered duplicates and will be deleted. Friend ads should be in the Friend Zone section only. Friend ads are not permitted outside of the Friend Zone section for any reason. We do not allow the creation of friend ads for anyone other than yourself. SOCIAL MEDIA Groups must be 18+. Posting a group allowing members under 18 will result in a ban. Do not post groups or stores where monetary gain is the goal. Do not include anything that makes your group sound official. It could be confused for having an affiliation with this site. We do not allow posting an individual's social media that is not your own. Do not link to another forum. Do not post about your group in any section other than the Social Media section, this includes commenting to others about your group. Do no make multiple posts about your group or the same group. Multiple will be seen as spam and will be removed. For your safety we only allow members to post their social media on their profiles, in ads, or in the social media section. These sections are only visible by members. If we see social media contacts in status updates we will remove them. Let's all be safe out there. Staff reserve the right to: Terminate a user’s account at their discretion. If you violate a concern not explicitly outlined in the Community Rules & Guidelines, staff may terminate, suspend or post restrict your account provided a majority of the staff agree that action must be taken. Update and/or modify the rules. We cannot always foresee future problems. If a situation does arise that is not clearly written in the rules, we will alter the rules and act upon the situation. GUIDELINES The staff is here to help. Remember that you can contact us for any of the following reasons: (always screenshot suspicious behavior or rule breaking) If someone breaks the rules. If you have a question about a warning or message you’ve received. If someone shows predatory behavior. If you have evidence or hints that someone is underage. If you are not sure where to post something, or if it is allowed at all. Contact us for other questions you may have. Report minors found on the site. If you wish to have a thread or post deleted, contact a member of the Moderating Team. You are allowed to bump any of your threads once every 24 hours. No off-topic replies to threads. Try to put things in the appropriate sections. If you're not sure where to put something, ask forum staff. You can make as many topics, status updates, comments on others' pages, and threads as you please, as long as you aren’t spamming the forum. Check first to see if the topic has already been discussed (use the search feature). You can find the mods and admins on this page. https://www.ddlgforum.com/staff/