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Good evening, good morning—wherever you are in this wild, aching, beautiful world. How are you, really? Not the smile you wear for others—but the quiet truth under your skin. Have you been breathing okay? Sleeping? Eating enough to feel like you're still here? I’m writing this with a full heart and a trembling one. Because being someone with BPD and an INFJ mind is like walking through fire barefoot, while holding a candle for others. You feel everything—too much, too fast, too deeply—and then blame yourself for bleeding. I grew up in a house where love was conditional, if it existed at all. I was the wrong shape, the wrong gender, the wrong weight, the wrong kind of sensitive. I learned to shrink before I learned to speak. I learned to perform before I learned to rest. And when the world mirrored that pain back at me, I believed it. I let it define me. But here's what I'm slowly unlearning: I am not the words that broke me. I am not the silence that followed. I am not unworthy just because someone else couldn’t love me well. If you're like me—wired for empathy, haunted by abandonment, walking around with scars nobody sees—I want you to know this: You’re not too much. You’re not a burden. You’re not broken beyond repair. Sometimes the most tender souls were never taught how to hold themselves. But we can learn. We are learning. It’s okay to start over. It’s okay to take a break. It’s okay to say “This hurts” and not have a solution. You deserve soft love. You deserve safe love. You deserve to be chosen without needing to prove your worth first. And even when you can’t believe any of that, I’ll believe it for you. To anyone who needs to hear this today: You are not alone in the storm. You are not the chaos inside your chest. You are more than survival. You are art. You are wildflowers breaking through concrete. You are the story still being written. My inbox is always open if you need a friend or a reminder that you matter. Because you do. So much more than you know. With love, Someone still learning how to love herself too 🌿🖤

Hi hi 👋 I feel like there's misconceptions floating around Littlespace and wanted to bring awareness to some things. Now obviously, I'm just sharing my pov here, but the great thing to remember about cgl/bdsm is how customizable it is. So, if somebody is trying to gatekeep your Littlespace preferences, here's a friendly reminder for you. Feel free to discuss these or add other things you think are common misconceptions! Misconceptions: Rules/rewards/punishments are required. You can't be a Little past a certain age. You can't be single. Can't be independent once in a relationship. You need to know your littleage. Do what caregiver says without hesitation. Have to look the part with accessories. Only for small body types. It's just kink. Can't have kids. Only girls can be Littles. Can't be disabled. Have to have childhood trauma. Reality: Nope, not mandatory. Littlespace is a safespace for adults. *eyeroll* Only if your caregiver's ego is small. *eyeroll* *waves red flag* 🚩 *eyeroll* *eyeroll* For some of us, it's a d/s lifestyle. Yes you can. *eyeroll* *eyeroll* Lot of Littles do, but it's not mandatory.

Here is mine drawing for this month

Anyone want/have their own little cozy corner just for themselves?˙˚ʚ(´◡`)ɞ˚˙ I've been thinking for a couple of years about freeing up some space in my room and making something like the one in the photo😅. A place just for me, where I can do my usual little things more comfortably. Maybe let dad in there sometimes? But mostly just me.🌸💕 How do you guys feel about this? I want to know what others think 🎀

A creepy cutie in a swimming pool 🥰

My June submission.

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space. Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs. A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong. So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart. You are a light in the darkness. You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion. You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments. You provide assurances that letting go is safe. You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated. You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it. You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong. You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment. You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver. To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy. To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you. Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person. To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

Good luck everyone ☺️ here’s my entry for this month. pencil colouring . 😻😸🐚🌞

Here's a few I did this week.. the treehouse is my entry for this month.

Say hello to my little friends 🥰 Here is my entry!

Phew! This had been lying unfinished on my desk for weeks, but i finally got motivated! tried a bit of a spacey background! ✨🌠🪐 Everyones entries are looking great!! 😊👏

The short answer ; be up front when getting to know a potential little for dating. Just flat out say , “Having a sexual relationship is a non negotiable for me , I don’t want to get your hopes up in the chance we do get along and click. If this is something that won’t work for you , it’s best to nip any feelings in the bud so neither of us get hurt.” My monkey brain answer : I hate that wanting a sexual relationship is seen as being a creep. Guess I’m a creep then too 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think it’s more the way someone goes about it that makes them a creep or not - rather than the actual desire to have a sexual relationship. As well as how quickly you’re expecting that relationship to happen after starting to get to know someone. Wanting sex after a week and only talking about sex ? Yeah , kinda creepy. Mentioning that you do want a sexual relationship within the DDLG dynamic as casual topic conversation , discussing future possibilities , not so creepy. I am not a fan of the whole idea that wanting sex in this lifestyle makes you a creep - whatever your role or gender is. I dunno… it’s always the actions that prove that in my opinion.

Hello all you wonderful amazing people on here! So as you have known I have gotten some life-changing news recently. They found a mass in my brain and thought it was cancer. My world had been turned upside down and within a matter of seconds I went from having a normal life to having a life that might be over within months. I had to go in for more test and I spoke to a neurologist specialist who deals with what I'm going through. It is a benign tumor, guys I'm not terminal. I'm going to be okay, the weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I sat there and I cried like a baby for what seemed like forever. So thank you all for worrying about me and for checking in on me. I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that I'm going to be okay. She told me that when they looked at it, the physician at that time thought it was a cancerous mass. She said from my blood work, my MRI and from recent spinal tabs it is not cancer. I can't tell you how relieved I feel, how amazing that feels. Yes I still have MS, yes I'm still going to have hard days ahead of me. But I'm going to be okay, they're going to start me on some new treatments to help stop the spread of the MS in my brain. And I'm going to be okay, so to anyone that is going through any kind of health scare I promise it gets better. It takes time but we will overcome all of our battles. Thank you all so much for all that you've done for me. I can't thank you all enough for loving me and for being my friends. I'm just so happy that I'm going to be okay. Thank you guys for everything! Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💗

Here are this month's submissions for the coloring contest. Please cast your votes in the poll for the one you love the most. Good luck everyone. Sweet Little Lily Squirtle Squad MissAnna littlegala Little Skittles Little Nyx lillizzie24 LeftyGuitar kuuchan BabyPoppy

Hello all as promised here are the rules!!! Check back throughout the week as I will be tweaking and adding but this gives us a functioning set!!! Thpugh I know yall are good folks and dont even need them! Naughty Novel Club Rules 1. Obey all forum rules. 2. Don't make things uncomfortable. While I know we are reading smut I think we all know when to tread careful and which details to leave out. Just read your audience and move on if someone is uncomfy. 3. Along the same lines is : being here isnt consent to anything. So please dont ask personal questions. For instance if someone in the book is being tied up it is inappropriate to say "Oh do you like being tied up?". This isnt a sex club it is book club. 4. Be welcoming and friendly! We want folks to like it here. 5. Only talk about NNC with other members!!! Anyone is welcome though so invite who you like! 6. No book shaming. 7. Respect spoilers!!!!! Don't ruin it for others. 8. While we dont judge please do not advertise stealing books and I will not be posting or allowing pirating links. 9. Have fun and participate!!!

Sooo.... not a really summer, but a June picture. Just something I always wanted to color for someone and thought I would share.

Here's another picture I colored! It's summery

It's certainly something that is out there but probably on the rarer side to be honest. Most people want to find a partner that will help contribute to the relationship and/or household so finding a partner who wants someone who makes zero decisions is likely to be a challenge. My own two cents, what you're describing is a risky dynamic. What happens if your partner becomes ill, has to go away for work for an extended period of time or passes away unexpectedly. How do you care for yourself if you havent had to make any decisions? The unexpected can happen sadly and at tye end of the day we are all adults, or we wouldn't be here, so making sure you still have the life skills you need an ability to care for yourself is also a very important consideration.

They all look so cute

Flowers are so fun!

Here's my current collection! 🥰 I made the charmander and bulbasaur into fridge magnets! (clearly still missing squirtle, dunno why i haven't made it yet...!)

Slide and seesaw with children Teapot tea cup Watermelon slice Hermione from Harry Potter Turkey octopus Dolphin Album Dumbledore - Harry Potter

Back before I found my Daddy I made sure that even though we talked about DDlg in the early stages of a relationship there was ZERO interaction in that dynamic until a solid relationship foundation had been built and we were sure we meshed as people first. My Daddy, for seven years now, and I didn't even have our first Daddy/little time until 6 months into the relationship because we wanted to sure we were compatible as adults first. I know not everyone wants to wait that long but honestly I can say it was worth it because here we are still together seven plus years later. Patience is so important but no matter how often people say it or encourage it there are still folks who dive in 110% right off the bat. I'm not going to judge those who do but what I will say is there seems to be MUCH more heartbreak from incompatibility, on both sides, when that's the approach.

I'm a middle and I turn a rather scary mid 40 ish number in just 10 days! We do exist and aren't as rare as you think. I must confess, finding an age appropriate partner can be tough....I haven't. Of course, finding the right partner is nearly impossible anyway, this is just one more layer. Since you said you put up a personal....I haven't put one up in years. My only advice would be to go slowly, be careful and use the forum as a resource. Read, contribute, learn more about yourself. The great hope is that personal growth will lead us to the right person.

Sooo I needed a place to post who pur members are!!! If you do not see your name here then I have accidently not included or you havnt been active here so please let me know as I will be doing something special for members. These will be people that will be pinged in the future as well. Member List: @Aikko @SquirtleSquad @LittleNyx @littlegala @Looksee @Flower_Dragon @MissNMTX @Zina @Sicarie @Daddy Bear 77 @kryssi01 @Minilsah And that is the official list! I know a couple people have expressed interest but until I see you posting here I dont add. So if interested get involved! Thanks all for the patience and activity. This is an amazing start! Can't wait to read with yall. And please if I missed anyone reach out! It is alot to filter through and I make mistakes.

There's definitely plenty of 30+ littles out there! I'm 33 myself! :3 My best friend is mid 40s, and she also only recently joined this world! So I know there's a lot of us out there haha! I'm good friends with a lot of older daddies who don't care about littles "being older" and stuff. It's the mindset and your heart that matters! ^^ I definitely feel like going to local events or munches is the best way to connect with people irl. I know that I was surprised when I started going a few years ago, there are a lot of different people of so many different ages! Fet can definitely be annoying sometimes, but using it as a glorified calendar of local events really helped me connect! If you're looking for online interactions, there's also always different discord servers and stuff too!

Hi! I'm Manda, I'm new here~ I've been looking for a community that might vibe with the type of art Ive been making lately. Lmk your thoughts? Here's a 10 minute sketch from google images, a piece I spent a couple hours on recently, and a 10 hr piece!

Your actions speak louder than any mental illness or physical condition you might have. So never let someone tell you that you're worthless and unlovable just because you have a diagnosis. You don't need to prove anything. Be kind to yourself by taking situations day by day and live your life to the fullest to the best of your ability. Whatever your issues are; you've got this, I believe in you! ♡

As a little, please please don’t just assume or “take for granted” that because we don’t have anything in our profiles or posts that we might be non sexual that it must mean we are totally down to be sexual or talk about it straight away! Most littles don’t mention their preference for a reason! Well I can’t speak for all littles I feel it would be very rare to come across a little that wants to approach that conversation without talking first, and building some level of trust and having time to decide if there is potential or not. DDlg is so much more than just the sexual element, it’s about trust, care, nurturing, guidance, love, support, connection and so much more. Often times those elements are more important to a little than the sexual element (again I don’t speak for all littles). If its an important element for you I recommend posting a personal or putting an about me on your profile and clearly stating it in that, then littles that it doesn’t bother will be able to reach out to you.. however, I still don’t recommend jumping straight into that line of conversation when/if littles do reach out, just because the idea doesn’t bother them, doesn’t mean all those above mentioned elements stop mattering to them & they are ok talking about it straight away, I am a firm believe of before asking them about their preference, it’s a good idea to ask if they are okay with talking about the sexual side first.

@SquirtleSquad @Looksee @Flower_Dragon @Aikko @littlegala @MissNMTX @Zina @Sicarie @Daddy Bear 77 Hello all and welcome to pur group read! First off I am getting a feeel for how much a week yall will read and making sure everyone can get their hands on the book? Also I wanted to make sure everyone reads the trigger warnings for this one as it can be intense. NO worries for pur more gentle readers! Next book will be more up your alley. So all pinged please let me know how many chapters per week and when you will have the book by!

Fantastic entries as always!! Well done everyone !

@Aikko @littlegala @SquirtleSquad @Looksee @MissNMTX @hubblez_x Be on the lookout for another Lights Out topic. I am going to copy the rules and every assignment post and put them in a pinned locked thread so yall dont have to dig for the important stuff! Busy week though so give me a few days on that. Love our little club and it makes me much happy 💚

So I am currently sitting in my living room enjoying my Christmas tree that I decorated for the 4th of July! although some might find this totally weird, I decided to leave my tree up this year and redecorate it for every season. This tree makes me smile!! 😁. When I’ve had a rough day, I can sit in my living room turn off the room lights and just sit and look at the Christmas tree lights and it has a way of relaxing me. I March to the beat of my own drum, and I make no apologies! I’ve gotten to the age that I now no longer care so much about what other people think! I’m gonna do the things that keep me smiling and being me! 😊

Getting warm laundry straight out the dryer dumped on you

We do this we decorate our tree for Halloween and Christmas and Valentine’s Day and Mardi Gras I haven’t done 4th of July cause my birthday is July 8th so decorate it for that

@lillizzie24 that looks like so much fun! Wish I could jump into your picture and play in that pool! @LeftyGuitar What a wonderful Whale Welcoming summer! @MissAnna SPACE STUFFIES!!!! (Just in case you need translation.... that is me squealing and jumping up and down coz it's 2 of my favorite things... space and stuffies!!!) @Little Nyx I love the flamingo floaty (coz it's pink 🤭) and the penguin (coz she's so cute!!!!) Here ice cream cone looks super yummy, too! @Little Skittles Wow! This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing! @littlegala The creepy cutie looks like she's having fun coz that water is splashing all over! Plus I loooooove the hearts on the pool!!! They're my favorite!

@SquirtleSquad @Aikko @Daddy Bear 77 @kryssi01 @LittleNyx @Flower_Dragon @MissNMTX @Sicarie @Zina @Looksee @littlegala and ANYONE who wants to sprint. As promised I will be doing more sprints tomorrow aka Sunday! Anyone is welcome but I would love to have as many join as possible. We keep track of our pages read and I give a grand total in an announcement at the end. Essentially you just join chat and read whatever you are reading. Kinda like a buddy support read. It will start around 4 ish PST! This is an amazing opportunity to catch up on Lights Out for those reading it as well.

37 years old little here 🙌🏻 don't know how I made it this far 😅 I feel ready to be in my granny phase as I stay in more often to garden, craft, and love on my pets. Meeting people at munches are scary. I took the plunge 3 years ago and I'm so glad I did as I have made some awesome friends who are littles around my age and older!

I guess it depends on your perspective of “old”. I’m turning 32 this year but I still feel crazy young and I know several women in their 40’s and 50’s that also feel very young. When I hear the word “older” I can’t help but think of a granny for some reason 😂 I guess I consider myself mature but not old.

Made it home with the plants now to wait until the sun goes away so I can plant them

@Aikko @Looksee @SquirtleSquad @littlegala Hello to my fellow Lights Out readers. Here is your official first assignment. The first three chapters! Due by Wednesday when the next assignment comes out. Please feel free to discuss, post quotes, ect here just make sure you spoil properly and give page numbers like I mentioned. Below I am posting the first set of questions. These are 100% optional so no pressure but I like being a little extra. They do have spoilers so I would answer at the end. Happy reading 📚

Miss Anna already said it beautifully! and if I may, I just want to echo her powerful words with my own voice: You are enough. Right here, right now, as you are. No edits, no filters, no masks needed. You don't need to shrink yourself to fit someone else's mold or chase validation like it's a finish line. Your worth isn't up for debate, and it sure as hell isn't measured by anyone else's opinion. We're not just here to throw sunshine your way, we're here to remind you that you are the light. And if someone’s trying to dim it? That just means you’re shining so brightly they had to squint. Miss Anna and I want you to know we’re more than just voices on a screen! we’re your friends. Your allies. Your cheerleaders with crowns tilted slightly to the side (because confidence is key and a little sass never hurts). 👑 You’ve already survived 100% of your toughest days. That makes you a warrior in royal clothing. So, hold that head high. Adjust your crown, cape, or combat boots! (whatever your style) and keep walking forward. We see you. We value you. And we are so proud of you. You’re not alone. You never were. With all our care and friendship, —Soul

The NNC has officially chosen its first book .... Lights Out by Navessa Allen!!! Thanks all for participating I know this wasn't everyone's first choice but never fear. The next one will be a contemporary romance to keep it all fair and everyone happy. We will start reading Monday and will have assigned chapters. Also dont forget about our reading sprint tomorrow to finish current books!! Feel free to aquire said book (it is 9$ currently on Kindle for anyone who reads there) and please let me know when yall are ready to read!!!

@Little Nyx @Flower_Dragon @littlegala @SquirtleSquad @Looksee @MissNMTX @Zina If you are not on this list it means you havnt participated here in book club (or my tired brain missed it) please know this is an active club so you will need to interact here occasionally to maintain membership. Once a month or so just so i know who is active. Please put our Wednesday chat on ypur calendars!!! 7pm PST. Secondly please be on the lookout for a set of guidlines/rules for here too! I will be posting some, since we have bigs and littles and we are reading smut I thought it would be nice to have. I dont think anyone would step put but this way we are all on the same page. Thirdly please be on the lookout for a pole to choose our first book!!! I am hoping we can start next week since I am back.

I would say that trying to make that a priority is probably the wrong thing to do, and makes you look like you're after one thing above all else. From my experience, most would want to know if you have a caring, nurturing side before you even attempt to discuss such things. You could try getting to know someone and asking what they want from a relationship. If you're posting an ad in personals, make it clear you want an intimate relationship as part of the dynamic.

I always felt it was better to enter in to. What a potential partner wanted and needed. Sometimes we get caught up in proper rules and such because that’s what other people do and we should just be us