@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @littlegala @browneyedgirl Hello all its that time!!! We are going to start with 3 chapters but I will check in and we may up it if everyone wants. So for this week read the prologue and chapter 1 and 2. Normally assignments will go out on Wednesday and I usually have questions up by Sunday. Let me know if yall have any questions. @DaddysCosmicBunny @BabyGirlEmber I havnt heard from yall so we got started. Please let me know if you are still planning on reading with us.

🌿 ADHD - Some Coping Strategies Disclaimer: Please note that I am not a professional. The following information is based solely on my own research and publicly available sources on the internet. Anyone dealing with ADHD, please know that you’re also not alone. There are many young adults figuring out how to manage ADHD while also discovering who they are. It’s okay to take up space as yourself - in whatever clothes, coping strategies, and personality traits help you feel steady, authentic, and grounded. Sadly a lot of people don’t realize that ADHD isn’t just about attention - it also affects emotional regulation, sensory processing, and how someone stabilizes themselves day-to-day. Behaviors like regression, dressing in certain comforting or expressive ways, or being naturally friendly aren’t immaturity; they’re actually very common self-regulation and identity tools for neurodivergent people. For many with ADHD, leaning into playfulness, softness, color, or certain styles can reduce overwhelm, help with executive function, and make social interaction feel safer. Being warm or enthusiastic is also a normal way ADHD brains connect with others - not a flaw. When people shame these things, it’s usually because they don’t understand how ADHD works or they’ve been taught that only one type of behavior is ‘adult’ or ‘acceptable.’ But neurodivergent adults often thrive by embracing what works for their brain, not by forcing themselves into someone else’s mold. Based on my research on Internet, adult ADHD coping strategies include creating routines, using planners and lists, breaking down large tasks, and establishing a dedicated "home" for items like keys. Regular exercise, good sleep hygiene, and practicing relaxation techniques like meditation can also significantly help manage symptoms. Additionally, focusing on strengths, managing emotional responses through techniques like the STOP method, and seeking professional support or a strong support network are crucial. Structure and organization Establish a routine: Create consistent daily schedules to minimize stress and distractions. Use planners and lists: Make daily to-do lists, breaking them into smaller, manageable steps and using a planner or calendar to schedule tasks and appointments. Prioritize tasks: Decide what needs to be done first and order other priorities accordingly. Create "homes" for items: Designate specific spots for items like keys, wallet, and sunglasses to avoid losing them. Use reminders: Utilize sticky notes, phone reminders, or a designated "24-hour hot spot" for important items and deadlines. Physical and mental well-being Exercise regularly: Physical activity can improve mood, reduce stress, and help with hyperactivity. Choose a vigorous activity you enjoy and try to exercise outdoors when possible. Prioritize sleep: Maintain a consistent sleep schedule and create a relaxing bedtime routine to improve focus and reduce impulsivity. Practice relaxation: Incorporate relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing to calm the nervous system and improve attention. Focus on strengths: Acknowledge and build on your strengths to develop a more positive self-image and increase resilience. Emotional and social support Use the STOP method: When feeling emotional, use the "S-T-O-P" acronym: Stop, Take a breath, Observe, and Proceed mindfully. This helps avoid impulsive reactions. Pause before decisions: For big decisions, implement a waiting period (like 24 hours) to avoid impulsive choices. Build a support system: Connect with friends, family, or a support group to gain a sense of security and help with difficult emotions. Seek professional help: Stay on track with medication (if applicable) and continue with psychotherapy, as these can significantly improve coping and functioning. Other helpful tips Try "body doubling": Work on tasks in the presence of another person. Their presence can provide motivation and accountability. Eat a balanced diet: A healthy diet rich in lean proteins, vegetables, and whole grains can improve energy and cognitive function. Again, please remember . . . you're loved, you're enough, you're special, you don't need to please anyone but yourself, you're strong and matter, just as you're!

Thank you for trusting us enough to share all of this. Truly. The amount of courage it takes to open up while you’re in the struggle, while everything feels heavy and dark, is enormous, even if it doesn’t feel that way to you right now. What you wrote is honest, brave, and incredibly human. I want you to know that you’re not alone in this pattern. So many people, far more than you’d ever guess, feel exactly what you’re describing: needing support the most right when it feels hardest to reach for it… worrying about being “too much”… fearing that showing the darker moments will push people away. That doesn’t make you broken; it makes you human and sensitive. And those qualities, even when they feel like burdens, are actually signs of how deeply you care. It also makes complete sense that past experiences have taught you to hide your pain. When you’ve been celebrated only for being the “happy, bubbly” version of yourself, it trains you to think that your darker moments are unwelcome. But the people who truly care about you, the ones who deserve a place in your support system, want all of you, not just the polished parts. You don’t have to present a guidebook or have the perfect words. Reaching out can be as simple as: “Hey, I’m having a rough day. Can you check in with me?” or “I don’t need solutions, I just don’t want to feel alone right now.” It’s okay if your voice shakes when you ask. It’s okay if you cry. It’s okay if you don’t know exactly what you need. Support doesn’t require perfection, it just requires connection. And you are not “too much.” You are someone who is trying their best while carrying something heavy. People who care about you don’t want the edited version of your life; they want the real one, even when it’s shadowed. Learning to stop pushing people away is a process, not a switch you flip. You can start very small: Send a single message to someone you trust. Practice saying one honest sentence about how you feel. Let yourself receive something without apologizing for it. Little steps count. They build the muscle. You deserve support. You deserve softness. You deserve people who stay, even in the dark. And the fact that you’re here, reaching out, tells me you’re already moving toward that. One day, you’ll look back at this version of you with so much compassion and pride for how hard you fought to show up for yourself. You’re not doing this alone, even right now. You’re doing better than you think. Keep going. 💛

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright all we are chugging along! Feel free to now read chapters 6-8!!! Questions will be up sometime this week not sure what day specifically because of the holiday. Enjoy! Also make sure to check in on the Chat page. I will be making a check in post later today.

I want to quote several of the points mentioned but STOP😂😂 one at a time (takes a breath)lol 1. Thank you so much for writing this article MP ☺️ 2. Can confirm the STOP works...I also use it when dealing with having to respond to difficult conversations with upper management / talks with my parents 3. Im technically taking meds for Borderline Depression...because the doctor said it'll help with mood regulation (because when im off my meds the fun neeever stops and I never need sleep just occasional crash sessions because im considered 'high functioning'. It also helps with my anxiety because yeah in the past people were shitty and said i was 'too much' and people also got annoyed that wed be having a conversation and id be like oooh look at that cute butterfly lol 4. With a proper support system (good freaking friends), forced structure, ACCOUNTABILITY, and accountability frends, Acceptance and self love....which all takes time to build/create...things can be wonderful

Here’s a fun little activity for grounding and self care! Creating your own little grounding kit. We always have fun running this in trauma group programming. The ‘why’ behind this activity is because when we are activated or triggered, it is hard for us to think and remember what things help us. So keeping a kit stocked by you in your room or a safe place means you just have to remember to open your box. And partners or loved ones can be told about it too. Plus it’s just fun and we can use glitter and sparkles! 💕 You can get creative and decorate a box, crate or chest of any kind. You could use a shoe box, or craft stores/dollar stores have all kinds of ones to choose from. You can decorate the outside and inside, with decoupage, paint, stickers, gems! Anything that speaks to you. Not feeling creative? That’s okay, there’s lots of pretty boxes out there to choose from that you can just pick up and fill. Then you put in things that are soothing to you like: - your favourite grounding tools (maybe a journal, a list of people you can reach out to, breathing visualization steps, grounding technique cards), - things for your senses (could be your favourite scent candle or essential oils, play doh or slime to squeeze or other sensory toys, a suckable candy or chocolate to put on your tongue, BUBBLES TO BLOW!) - comfort objects (could be grounding photos of loved ones or special memories/places, nostalgic items like shells from a trip, a soft stuffie, a letter you write yourself or someone else has written you) - things that focus your mind (could be a colouring or puzzle book, fidget toys, crochet or knitting, a favourite book to read) These are all just ideas, whatever works for you! This thread can be a space people can post their own kits if they already have them, or want to try making one!

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @browneyedgirl @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright freinds its that time!! Go ahead and read chapters 3-5. Questions will be up on Sunday per usual. Happy reading. P.S. A few of ypu havnt been checking in the recommended twice a week or required once a week, you will want to do this to avoid being removed from the participation list. Thank you.

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @browneyedgirl @littlegala Hello all!!! The first chapters are officially up!!!

Here is where yall can post your favorite quotes. Be sure and put the page number and then spoil it!

Meditation helps but nothing has been better than getting medication and letting go of trying to do things the neurotypical way and doing whatever works. Chatgpt has been pretty good at helping me organize things and acting as my executive function sometimes. Running a lot of what I plan on doing through it often helps me feel like I have permission to do enough and not overburden myself. It also helps with choices paralysis. Thank you for this post.

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright friends it is Wednesday so that means new assignments!!! Feel free to now read chapters 9-11!!! I will be throwing up a pole tonight so be on the lookout for that. Things are getting good!!!

@SleepyLynn I'm sorry you're feeling like you're the one to blame for everything that didn't work out. But after taking a closer look, and as @Lil_K47 has suggested, it's clear that even though you were involved in all three situations, the responsibility doesn't fall on you whatsoever. Going forward, clearer communication and paying attention to the subtle cues in conversations may help you avoid similar situations. For now, try to focus not on blaming yourself, but on understanding what happened so you can learn from it and move confidently into the future.

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @DaddysCosmicBunny This weeks questions! Sorry I am a few days late, holiday weeks are hectic! But we are still on schedule. Remember to spoil your answers and post in the topic linked below. Questions: And post answers here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/#comment-369005

Thank you for writing what you did, and having the courage to risk for yourself. My heart constricted reading the pain you went through at the hands of others. And it soared reading how you have honoured that wound by taking care of yourself and resourcing yourself, and how safely it seems your daddy is holding you in it too. You are so welcome and wanted here. ♥️ you deserve to take up space and voice. And you deserve to let your little fly free! I’ve only been here a little while but, but I’m constantly amazed by the care of others in this space. As shown in the beautiful replies of @Lil_K47 and @MasterPhotog Im going to take a threat response approach and just normalize the way our system can go into a freeze response when it feels triggered or activated by the feeling of threat/stress. It’s really normal to have things we just can’t say yet. Certain words or even just getting a little none verbal as a whole. That happens to me sometimes and it’s absolutely like all the words are in your head, but you can’t push them out your throat. And sometimes no matter what we try to do from our head, it’s the body that is storing the trauma response and is holding on tight. Something I’ve learned that can help, in my own process and when working with the trauma of others is to help ground and soothe the trauma response down. And work with tiny little tips and tricks. So here’s a few I know: 1. We can just be compassionate and patient to the process, knowing it will come when ready. We don’t need to push it or force it. Not saying it doesn’t make it not true. He’s your daddy. 2. We can embrace the nonverbal and do thinks that speak it in other ways. Most connection is felt through non verbal any way! 😜 I’ve had clients who text the words or write them down. Who pick a code word they can say that means the word they can’t. Who choose a touch that means what they want to say but can’t. Even one who could sing it when they couldn’t say it! We can get creative. 3. We can put ourselves in as much as a soothing grounded state before we try. When I have to say vulnerable things, I can’t make eye contact. I need my daddy to squish me close to his body and burrow my face in. And then sometimes I can whisper it. And sometimes not. And it’s okay. 4. We can do a somatic exercise to wake up the throat and help shift out of the freeze response. Moving our body can help move the state. Dance party! Silly wiggles. Or my absolute favourite, I get the client and myself to both start a low hum together and then slowly build up and up in sound til we are yelling a big strong loud note! One time I did this exercise in a day program trauma group I was running at a shelter I worked at, with like 40 guys in the room. I didn’t think about how loud that would actually get and shelter security came bursting in the door. 🤣 Oops! The point is that literally singing, or humming or having a good roar can help unfreeze our voice. But no matter what, it’s already in your heart. It’s in your eyes the way you look and him and thoughts. The way you are with him. It’s okay to let your body find the trust and healing to happen in its time. And it’s also okay to practice. There’s no right or wrong. Just what feels good to you. ♥️

@marshmalloww First, thank you for being so strong and for sharing this with us. Congratulations on removing yourself from a negative situation that caused you so much pain, shame, and grief. And congratulations as well for taking care of your anxiety and allowing yourself to grow into the new person you feel you’re becoming. Your daddy sounds like an amazing, supportive, and loving individual, which I know you're proud of having in your life. Sometimes we don’t have a choice but to be extremely busy. What matters most is that you continue to make time to care for yourself, rest well, and spend meaningful moments with your daddy. That’s what truly counts. It’s unfortunate that some people in our society still choose judgment and negativity. Please remember that their behavior says everything about them and nothing about you. Their discomfort is not yours to carry. Their comments do not define your future. Their judgment will never outweigh the truth of who you are or the beauty of what you’ve built. In addition to following great advice that @Lil_K47 has offered you, here's a motivational letter you want to write and read on difficult days: Dear Me, I know today feels heavy. I know the world can be loud, unkind, and confusing when others project their fears and insecurities onto your relationship. But before you absorb even a fraction of that negativity, take a breath and come back to what is real: your love, your integrity, and your courage. You and your Daddy did not choose each other by accident. You chose each other because your hearts connect in a way that is genuine, meaningful, and grounded in real care. That choice is an act of strength, not something to be doubted or diminished. Remember this: people's negative behavior says everything about them and nothing about you or your daddy. Their discomfort is not your burden. Their comments do not define your future. Their judgment will never outweigh the truth of who you are or the beauty of what you’ve built. You have already survived so much more than anyone can see on the surface. Every moment you stand in your love — openly, honestly, proudly, you are choosing courage over fear and authenticity over pressure. You deserve to be treated with dignity. You deserve safety. You deserve joy. And you deserve a relationship that reflects your heart, not other people’s limitations. When the world feels harsh, hold on to what’s yours: Your compassion. Your resilience. Your place beside someone who loves you deeply. Your right to walk in public without apology. Let today’s heaviness fall away, piece by piece. You are not alone. You are not fragile. You are not wrong for loving boldly. You are growing into the strongest version of yourself — the one who knows their worth, stands tall in their truth, and refuses to shrink for anyone’s comfort. And on every tough day to come, remember this: You are bigger than the shadows cast by small, negative minds. You are deserving of love in its fullest, freest form. And your story is one of courage, connection, and unshakeable strength. With pride in your journey, Your future and proud self - - - Please take care of yourself, and feel free to reach out to me directly anytime without worrying about being judged. Wishing you happiness — now and always!

i'm so very sorry you went through such a difficult time, I'm so very sorry people made you feel uncomfortable with who you want to be. And let me just say there is absolutely nothing wrong with you that you are perfect exactly the way you are! This community here is incredibly welcoming and we accept everybody for who they are! So I hope you will find lots of great friends and great support here within these "walls" Mental health is definitely no joke I am so glad you were able to find a good provider and get started on some medicines that are helping you that's a very big step! One I've had to take as well! It sounds like your daddy is wonderfully supportive of you. Id say take things slow. talk with him and let him know how you're feeling and then together come up with a plan to maybe ease yourself back into that little set of mine with him. In a real life almost like you're having to rebuild the trust even though I'm sure it's still there, once you've had a bad experience and you've been hurt it's hard to start over again. And it sounds like he understands that and that's a wonderful thing! I'm sure some others will chime in here eventually with some great advice! Sending you some big hugs and if you ever need to have a chat feel free to reach out anytime! Also the lighthouse circle is a great club here and it's a great space for getting advice letting loose your feelings. The moderators of that club are absolutely fabulous and always available for personal messages!

hey sweetie I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. You know I think most of us have that reaction when we get into that dark place. We want to crawl away in our Heidi hole and hide from the world while desperately, secretly hoping someone will reach out and ask if we're OK, and see through the front that we're putting on! Admitting that you're struggling and reaching out is a huge step! It's not easy to do, it's not easy to admit that you're struggling even to people that you're comfortable with. Sometimes our inner self can be our own worst enemy! So good job for reaching out and staying connected! You've been given some great advice here and I truly hope it helps! Feel free to reach out anytime if you need to have a chat. Sending big hugs!

I echo everything already said here. You are absolutely not alone. These are the processes that happen over tons of little baby steps woven together. Our adaptive survival based responses have often been around for years and years, honoring them for how they helped us, and then changing them into new ones takes lots of messy practice along the journey. And I just wanted to offer…you’re actually already doing it. You’re already in the steps doing something so vulnerable and hard and it’s freakin beautiful. ♥️ You sent a message to someone (or a space) you trusted, you said an honest sentence about how you feel, and then you let yourself receive something from it without apology or minimizing it. You did that! It’s an act of radical rebellion from what you grew up in. I grew up in a lot of trauma, and I learned it was never safe to have needs/feelings of my own. It took me a long time to unpack and shift that, and it’s still a daily practice sometimes. One thing that helped me was beginning to realize that vulnerabilities create intimacy. That when I let people around me know the truth of my struggling it doesn’t create burden at all (with safe others/spaces), it creates permission for them to show their vulnerabilities too. It creates connection and depth. So thank you for being brave and vulnerable here. It’s meaningful.

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @browneyedgirl @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright folks its time to check in! Let me know how the first few chapters are going for ypu please since new assignments come out tomorrow!!! Remember if I dont hear from folks weekly I remove them from pings.

I like having only a few chapters to worry about that way I don't get overwhelmed and feel bad because i'm a terrible procrastinator lol. The 2-3 chapter reads are also so nice since I do most of my reading at work so being able to knock out the chapters in the few hours of "down time" I have at work are so nice too!

I have it!! It was on my TBR too so I just had to return some kindle unlimited books to get it 🤭

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @BabyGirlEmber @mecwmello @browneyedgirl @littlegala @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright friends we have enough votes in that even the few who havnt voted wouldnt change the outcome, so our book this time is Nocticadia by Keri Lake! Feel free to purchase and over the next couple days I will be setting up the topics so yall will want to familiarize yourself with them especially if you havnt done a group read with us before. Please check in here when you have the book and are ready to go.

💬 What Is Ghosting? Ghosting means suddenly cutting off all communication with someone—no replies, no explanation, just silence. It often happens through DMs, dating apps, or social media. ⚪ Why People Ghost (3 Common Reasons) 1. Avoiding Conflict: They fear awkwardness or hurting someone’s feelings. 2. Loss of Interest: They no longer feel connected or engaged. 3. Feeling Overwhelmed: Stress or emotional burnout makes them withdraw. 💔 How Ghosting Affects the Person Ghosted Confusion and self-doubt 😕 Feelings of rejection 💭 No closure, lingering questions ❓ Anxiety about future relationships 💬 🌱 Coping with Being Ghosted Acknowledge your feelings — it’s okay to feel hurt. Don’t overanalyze — their silence reflects *them*, not your worth. Lean on friends or support — talk it out. Refocus on self-care — do what makes you feel grounded. Set healthy online boundaries — protect your emotional space. How to End Things Respectfully (Instead of Ghosting) ✨ Be kind, clear, and honest: “I’ve enjoyed chatting, but I don’t feel this is the right connection for me.” ✨ Use “I” statements: “I need some time for myself right now.” ✨ Keep it short, gentle, and respectful. ✨ Remember: clarity is kinder than silence. 💡Final Thought Ghosting may feel like the easy option—but honest communication builds empathy, trust, and maturity online. 💛

We would like to welcome everyone that reads this to our home and family. We know there are other places you can go and groups you can join so we do appreciate you choosing us. It is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to share this journey with you. We understand how important the people you surround yourself with and the environment you hang out in is to your development and growth as a person. These things help to shape you and can either be a blessing or a mistake, we wish to be the former. So we are happy you are with us. You will see us refer to this place as our home, our village, and the members as our family quite often. That is because that is what this place and these people mean to us. This is not just a site we log into to kill time and escape for a few minutes. And by us I do not mean the staff, I mean each and every one of us that shares a love for our community and our extended family. This is our home and we care about it and those that are with us. So to all of you we say hello and welcome and enjoy your time with us, you are home.

Wow, good topic. There's so many, but one came right to mind. Call me strange, but I love crystal Black Tourmaline! Not only is it usually black and earthy, solid for grounding and banishment, but it has curved sides!! Wow! It fits in the hand like a rod, and if it's long enough, can easily be used to project too. It can be found in the mountains of Montana and Idaho, or at Gem shows. It's unique!

Thank You for sharing this, and for Everyone that has contributed! It’s been very helpful to read and learn and take some of these techniques to try for myself! ^.^

@MasterPhotog Thank you for this list of support strategies! I use most of them and can honestly say they work! My body is going through some long term functioning problems with my pituitary gland and I'm on conflicting mental health meds... my new best friend is the endocrinologist.... and regular check ins with a medical team are so important if you have ADHD. Always make sure your body doesn't have other problems before starting mental health medication. ADHD symptoms are also symptoms of a lot of other illnesses, too, and if you can manage them with these strategies, start there, and keep your team informed. Simple is better, but meds are a blessing if you do need them.

Alright folks this is where most of the day to day chat will go on! I will post important stuff here as well as the Important posts topic so yall dont miss it. You may discuss anything in the book here the week after it is assigned just make sure to use spoilers that state what page number it is from. Happy chatting!

@MissAnna Thank you for your kind words. You're not only an absolutely loving and caring individual but also an inspiration to many here. Please take care and keep up the good work. As you often say, you're loved, you're enough, you're special, you don't need to please anyone but yourself, you're strong and matter, just as you're!

How to ADHD has some good strategies And I really enjoyed this short

So I have extreme ADHD but I can't be medicated for it because of the chemo. So I have to say these strategies these coping mechanisms I could have hugged you because I have been searching everywhere trying to find a way to calm myself down. I talk a lot an extremely amount and then I find myself just visiting and I can't sit still because I'm like a crackhead squirrel looking for Christmas berries in the 4th of July. So thank you for this, it warms my heart to see so many people speaking up for adults with ADHD because most people don't find out they have ADHD until later in life. Thank you for this from the bottom of my heart thank you.

I will start. Chapter 8 page 80

@RoseyLittle @NickyMoon @MissNMTX @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @mecwmello @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright friends I know we arnt doing sprints today because I am much busy today but it is check in time! If you are still with us and want to continue to be included please comment below telling me and also tell me how you feel the pace we are reading at is going. Thank you!!!

@MasterPhotog @RoseyLittle I was really hoping you both would chime in here!! I don't know why I didn't think to tag you guys! lol as always you guys give fabulous, comforting, and encouraging advice! Insights which are useful to all of us! Thank you both for being here to guide us! ❤️❤️

I really can't top the great advice above, but I was wondering, is it just the word "Daddy" or all titles of that kind? Like could you call him an alternate and maybe ease into "Daddy"? When I first started admitting to myself that I was little, saying "Daddy" felt really weird because of the stigmas but I was raised Southern so saying "Sir" was easy so that is how I referred to my first Daddy. I never once called him "Daddy" our whole relationship. I'm comfortable with it now but it definitely took time and having an alternate title helped.

the first few chapter really reminded me of the 1976 horror movie called 'Squirm' haha. A little bit of a weird connection but I just couldn't stop thinking about that movie as I was reading

I just have to say that I am really enjoying being a part of this! I read a lot but reading with yall makes it more fun

New assignments are up!!!

I have this same problem, when I find my depression getting the best of me I push everyone and everything away as well. I am a very bubbly person as well, when I get sad, its a drastic change for those around me, some can't handle me being sad and they left (I've had a few people in my life leave when I was diagnosed and I had a friend for over 20 years tell me she couldn't handle my illness). Those who leave were never truly meant to stay in our lives, and those who stay will always be in our corner no matter what life may bring our way. When I was first diagnosed my depression hit me hard, it hit worse when my doctors told me i had to have treatments, I remember closing off. My cheerful disposition was nowhere to be found, I was sinking with no life boat to be found. I remember making a post and blog about how sad I truly was. You all rallied around me, you lifted me up when I felt as if I would never feel the sun again. As you can see, so many people are here to rally around you. You are seen, you are valued, you are needed and you are loved. Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 🫶

I agree!!! The last two were good but my tastes lie much darker 🤣🤣🤣 so this is REALLY GOOD. But thats is a good sign it means we are getting good variety between books which is perfect. Also the Alex meme was PERFECT 🤣🤣🤣

Loving it so far!! It captured me right away, finding this one much harder to put down at the chapter limits than the last one. Oh the willpower!!

It honestly is nice to see people being able to relate and reading bout the experiences. Brings me a lot of comfort 💛

Hi, I skimmed through the resources for professional support and I didnt see this one! https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ Kink Aware Professionals I knew they had therapist but they have all types of doctors and fields for support. Both my therapist and psych are on there and hsve been very kind and supportive. Of course therwpy isnt one size fit all but this made getting into therapy much easier. I would really rec it!! You aren't alone, some of the are praticing so really understand some of the things you are sharing. Love ya!!!

Yay so glad you liked it friend!!! Thank you so much I appreciate it and know its hard. I just really want us all to stick tpgether and exsperience it as a group. Its hard for me too so I do at least two books at once! I make the non book club book a really really appealing one so I dont mind stopping the book club book when I finish the chapters. Thats just my hint!

Of course I think lots of us have the same problem it’s easier to to push people away then deal with people or lash out at them at least in my experience when I am in my dark space I try to calm down before interacting with people so yes I push people away

Buhahaah love this as it is me too. Enjoy friend

Oh wow... this hit very close to home. I'm so sorry you've been through this. I can actually say that I understand because it seems we've had similar experiences with an abusive person. When I was going through therapy the idea of forgivness came up and I hope it's okay if I share my thoughts on this. The way that I understand it is that forgiving the person that did these awful things isn't about them at all, it's about you and your healing. Forgiveness is about changing your emotions and your actions regarding the person that hurt you. Forgiveness is not about "letting it go" and the abuser facing zero concequences for their actions! It's also not about reconciliation because that's not always desirable or even possible. Perhaps you need to figure out how you can forgive this person? For me, it means not giving in to strong feelings of anger and resentment (sometimes I feel so angry at what he did to me and how unfair it was that he got off with such little punishment!), not being bitter and allowing that to seep into relationships with others (my now husband doesn't deserve for me to react to him as though he were the abuser from my past) and it means not trying to create difficulty in my abusers life (boy! would I love to message his "new family" and lay it all out). Of course this is a complicated and painful topic. It's also unique to your individual circumstances. Perhaps you need to have a bigger conversation with your eldest child about forgiveness and what it means to you and to them?

Was hoping to get a physical copy of the book but of course my local book stores and libraries aren't carrying it lol but I got the book and ready to start reading!