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I am greatful for the last 19 years of my life with an amazing man. Today was my first day on this pilgrimage to celebrate our life together. I could sense his presence im so many things. Im also just greatful i had the courage to try. Traveling alone when you dont speak the language is not easy, but I am having fun.

It is not your fault! He's playing mind games. Don't let him do that to you! Just walk away and never look back cause this guy, is basically causing you emotional and mental abuse. Think how it would be if you actually got together! I don't think you'd want that. But even so, I want you to remember, you didn't do anything wrong, whatsoever! He's not Daddy material and this is something that happens more often then it should, for both sides of the coin. Hang in there! Not all Daddy's are like this. There are some really really good ones out there. You'll find the one (or he'll find you), you're suppose to be with eventually. It just takes patience. I hope you're okay. You came to the right place for help. Allot of people here have gone thru the same stuff and can help you.

Don't immediately blame yourself or think that it's somehow your fault. He sounds very inconsistent and quite unpredictable. Who would drive across states at the drop of a hat without even checking you'd be around or whether it's convenient for you? That's putting unnecessary pressure and worry on you and sounds like he's taking advantage of your feelings for him. Lies as well? Now he's ghosting you, not for the first time. Sorry, but you need to be clear with him next time you speak and tell him that this is unacceptable and, as BabyPoppy says, it's a big red flag. Please don't let this guy play you, or treat you this way. You deserve better, don't you?

I had a few affirmations tonight I wanted to share, but I need to share a little bit first. About a year ago, I was talking with my mother and she asked about what happened when I was young. She was finally able to hear some of it. She apologized and said someone had shared with her recently about him and she was so shocked! She was so busy raising us, she never thought anything could happen to me. She wanted to fix it. I listened, too. I told her I forgave her and she asked how she could forgive herself. I told her I wanted her in my life and that I loved her. I am thankful for the sacrifices she made to raise us. It's not easy single parenting 3 kids. We've talked several times over the past year and this issue always comes up in our conversation. So tonight one of my affirmations is about this issue. As I look at them, maybe all of my affirmations are about this issue. 1. Rest is healing. 2. It is healthy to work on me before I look for a partner. 3. Forgiveness is about my heart and moving on. It is not about letting bad people back into my life. My mother asked me what I would do if he would message me. I said, "he's blocked. I block a lot of people who are unsafe in my life. I need to do that to stay safe. I am unable to say no yet, so blocking them is the best choice I can make." There's no guilt or shame in that statement, only strength. Another affirmation... I will not talk to unsafe people. Affirmations are so powerful. They help change thoughts and feelings, which mold behavior and actions. Always remember how powerful your mind is and it can take you any where you want to go! Poppy 💕

Hello all Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire here! Yesss you heard me right! It is finally time to vote for our next read! Below is the official list of those involved. If you arnt on this list I am unaware that you want to read with us so please get in contact. If you are not on this list please do not vote as I only count votes from those joining us. If you are on the list and changed your mind please let me know. The list: @Daddy Bear 77 @Pink_MyMelody @RoseyLittle @Fox H @innerchildtml @SarBear55 @Baby.M So this time yall we are doing a fantasy read! It is one of my personal favorites. I try to switch it up so all can enjoy. Per usual there are 5 options. you only have one vote so choose carefully! I have given a good variety but if these arnt for you we will see you on the next one. Each book has a description below and a picture attached. if you are sensitive to triggers or material I encourage you to do a deeper dive looking into your choice but what I give should be enough for most folks to choose. I will save my vote till the end in case a tie breaker is needed. This pole will be up for one week so please make your vote ASAP so we can start immediately. After yall choose I will immedietly make the topics for the read available. These include: General Discussion/Chat, Important Posts - Questions and Announcments, Question Answers, Quotes, and several Activity topics. If you have questions or need help please reach out to me at any time. I will be making a quick How to Navigate topic for our group reads so see that as well for help. Alright here are your options: Option 1: Wild Reverance by Rebecca Ross Romantic Fantasy Slow Burn Triggers: Violence, Gore, War, Self Harm, Attempted Suicide, Loss, Grief, Abuse, Substance Use, and Opression Blurb: The story follows Matilda, a young messenger goddess of mixed divine heritage, and Vincent, a hardened mortal lord, as their dream-tethered destinies collide in a ruthless world Pages: 527 📖 📖 📖 📖 📖 Option 2: The Ever King by L.J. Andrew's Fantasy Romance - Enemues to Lovers Triggers: Violence, Gore, War, Grief, Loss, Captivity, and Abuse Blurb: The story centers on Erik, the scarred King of the Ever Kingdom, who has spent years plotting vengeance against the man who imprisoned him beneath the waves. When his enemy's daughter unwittingly breaks his chains, Erik seizes the opportunity to take his revenge by holding her captive as a pawn in his game. The story promises a tense conflict, with a vicious hero targeting an innocent girl, threatening to take what he lost, unless she steals his heart first. Pages: 480 📖📖📖📖📖 Option 3: Bride by Ali Hazelwood Fantasy/Paranormal Romance - Arranged Marriage/Forced Proximity Triggers: Violence, War, Blood, Loss, Family Trauma, and Kidnapping Blurb: A dangerous alliance between a Vampyre bride and an Alpha Werewolf becomes a love deep enough to sink your teeth into in this new paranormal romance. Pages: 416 📖📖📖📖📖 Option 4: Fairydale by Veronica Lancet Dark Gothic Fantasy/Paranormal Romance - Fated Mates Triggers: SA, War, Trauma, Murder, Infertility, Death, Blood/Gore, and SH. This is a heavier one so please check warnings if sensative. Blurb: A young woman travels to a mysterious town to claim her inheritance, only to find herself caught in a web of secrets, supernatural forces, and a dangerous love triangle with two enigmatic men. Pages: 736 📖📖📖📖📖 Option 5: The Poison Daughter by Sheila Masterson Dark Fantasy Romance -Enemies to Lovers Triggers: Child Abuse, Blood, Ritual, Death, Talk of SH, Voyeurism, and Violence Blurb: Every person Harlow Carrenwell kisses dies, and that's the way she likes it. The poison-lipped youngest daughter of Lunameade's magical founding family has used her power to annihilate their enemies. Her first husband is in the ground. Her new betrothed is next. Pages: 668

i, too, often feel like i am too traumatized. i have endured so much in my life, and i am sorry you too, have endured. i found what has helped me most, with all the skills and tools i have gained and learned over far too many years, is interpersonal neurobiology. the woman i have learned most from really helped me rethink how i view my own trauma with a very simple statement: "trauma is a normal reaction to abnormal experiences." i don't know how or why exactly, but it changed so much for me to view my trauma not solely as just "bad stuff happened to me and now my brain and body are a mess," to "things i never should have experienced happened to me, and now i respond to things that remind me of these abnormal experiences i shouldn't have had to begin with in a way that makes sense for my particular relationship with trauma." also, please feel free to message anytime if you need a shoulder, a sounding board, or just an abyss to cry into. i personally have OCD and PTSD myself, and was misdiagnosed with borderline personality disorder for several years. i'm not super well versed in CBT, but if you use DBT skills, i am always happy to participate (or learn skills you use!)

Hi friend! I have these thoughts a lot too and you put it so beautifully. I have CPTSD and as a fellow educator I'm sure you've probably heard of ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences). Out of 10 I score an 8. Science tells us so much about what these do to our bodies Anything over 4 comes with severely heightened risk of physical side effects. Without trauma my illnesses would not be as progressed as they are. I get angry about it too. Its harder for us. Those of us who have so much trauma that doing all the right things doesn’t always work even. We've missed so much. There's so much to mourn that we didn't get to have. But you're absolutely right. There's always a road to recovery. We need to meet ourselves where we're at and celebrate every step. Big. Small. Forwards. Backwards. I'll say what I always say. Trauma healing, particularly complex trauma, is not a straight line. It's more like a scribbled page one might see from a child. Not too different from the inner child we're trying to heal. Keep doing what you're doing! And remember backwards steps are still steps! You'll move forward again soon

This sounds very disconserting. Personally it seems like this is at his convenience and relationships of any kind shouldn't be about convenience. I am worried about you and these red flags. Please be safe. We are here if you need us.

I'm so sorry you're sitting in this situation. You deserve better. You deserve someone who will communicate at the very least. This is beyond the normal relationship issues of compatibility and baggage. Don't let your willingness to be a positive relational person lead you into being workable with unacceptable behaviors. I wouldn't work with this person.

Today i am grateful for lotsa stuff! - I went for a 15 minute walk today! Outside! - I went to eat at a restaurant, by myself! I had to walk there and it felt good to eat a healthy meal and be around people while I ate! - I colored outside! - I talked with the hotel staff! - I went swimming in the hot tub! - I followed my schedule! It was a good day! Poppy 💕

For this one I am doing: Popsicles- I made Popsicles or Ice pops out of the extra peaches from my fruit tree. As you can see I have a bunch. I use them for smoothies as well as just to snack on. Glass painting - I got milk bottles to paint to hold my lego flowers. Beach day - this will be on my trip coming up.

I get little/sub drops a lot after daddy leaves. Because right now I only reliably get to see him once a week. What helps me is... Before he leaves daddy picks a stuffie to look out for me for the next week We text and call when we can I try to think about when we'll see each other next. What I'll do. What I'll wear I practice self care because it helps me feel healthy and good and it makes daddy happy. I make sure I do something I enjoy every single day. Even if its just watching bluey before bed

This is sooo much! You are carrying so much! I here it in your words and it seems so overwhelming! I wish i could jump through this message and hug you tight, tell you all the beautiful words @Tendillo shared, and feed you some comfort foods. Since that's not how messaging works... I want to share with you a mindfulness activity I use sometimes. This is just a suggestion, so please take it as a gift, not as another thing you have to do. Healing light meditation. Sit somewhere warm and cozy. Close your eyes and breath deeply 3 - 5 times. Imagine a warm, golden light shining above you. The light is gently warming the air around you. As you feel the light on your head and skin, let yourself relax a bit. Imagine where the light is coming from, the source of this warm, gentle light. It's a bottomless pitcher of light energy, pouring out right onto you, the top of your head. As you feel this light enter your body, starting at your head, let the light heal your exhaustion, your emotional fatigue, your physical pain, your depression, your hurt feelings. Let the light soothe you and heal you of all these things. Let it renew your soul and bring balance to your body and mind. Slowly allow the light to spread through your body, healing every part of you as it spreads down your head, face and neck. Then to your shoulders, chest and back. Slowly out your arms, hands and fingers, relaxing you as it goes. It brings freedom to your body, rest, and restored health. Let the light keep going down your body, pausing at sore spots for extra time. Once it's through your feet, imagine how strong and healthy, yet at peace you feel with your energy returned to you. Take 3 slow deep breaths and slowly open your eyes. Notice your body and how good it feels. Sit peacefully for a few minutes if possible enjoying the feel of your renewed strength. (I sometimes use this to help me sleep at night and just allow myself to rest.) Again, this isn't a solution, only an idea... I only want to help. I am not offended if you hate the idea. I am here if you need to talk.

I am grateful for life and the opportunity to be able to live it

I am greatful for this forum I am greatful today was an alright day at work I am greatful it is the weekend I am greatful last week I got to see Daddy

I am grateful for good appointments this week and time to rest when I got home! I am grateful I made phone calls and completed applications and took care of hard stuff yesterday and today. I am thankful for my little friends here on the forum. They help me have fun.

With this badge we should be better informed about our oceans, how to help keep them clean and all the nifty critters we have in them! As usual, contact a leader to sign off when finished. Take photos. Due by the end of the month, June 30th. Complete at least 3 activities for this badge. Make sure to take photos when you are finished, of each. 💚 Choose your favourite marine animal and write a paragraph about it. *Why you is your favorite *Where it can normally be located * What are their babies called? 💚 If you could live by any ocean, which one would it be and why. 💚 (Littles) Color a picture of your favourite marine creature. 💚 Make a paper Jelly fish 🎐 💚 Make a bracelet or anklet in colors that would best represent the animal you like and the ocean waters it comes from. 💚 If you live near a beach, pick up seashells and make a craft. If you don't live by a beach and still wish to make something, Walmart, Dollar Tree, and I'm sure a few others should carry them in the craft section. 💚 If you've visited the ocean/ beach before, which one was it? Did you enjoy it? Show pictures of you want to of your visit. If not, just the short paragraph and the picture that you finished. Pinterest has many lovely craft ideas. You can also choose from there, just list the one you pick. Everyone have fun!!

Thanks @BabyPoppy, for you honest and heart felt post. What we tell ourselves is so important. Often times it's out own voice that is loudes and it's so easy to let that voice be critical or negative. Being Autistic and expirencing bipolar 2, I tend to have big emotions over seemingly small things or over nothing. Affirming to myself that I am capable of going through hard emotions is helpful as well as choosing to have a positive out look on the day a head. Here they are: ✨️Today is a good day to have a good day. ✨️ 🩷I can see the good in every situation. ✨️These are not my thoughts (for when i have dark scary thoughts).✨️ 🩷I don't have to feel good to do good. ✨️I am strong, courageous, and resilient!✨️ 🩷It's hard moment not a bad day. ✨️I've done this before and I can do it again! ✨️ Thank you again Poppy for you post. I'm so glad you and your mother were able to have such an honest and vulnerable conversation. Sounds like there has been alot of growth and healing to get you there. I am so happy for you. ~💛Pichu

Today, I have a lot to be thankful for: - Being one year older - Grown kids who love to help out and take care of me as much as I try to help them - AC as its like 90 today - the ability to see doctors when I need to.

^^ that’s a happy dance^^ I may actually be able to finish this if the take a class activity would be accepted if it were just the online portion of a course (but not the practical element). Is that ok @Juju @CoconuttyBuddy?

@babygurl397 I'm really sorry you're going through this. From what you've shared, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. If someone spends hours talking with you, tells you they're on their way, makes it seem like plans are happening, and then suddenly disappears without any explanation, it's understandable that you'd feel confused, hurt, and disappointed. The hardest part is often not having answers. Right now, your mind is probably trying to fill in the blanks and wondering if you somehow caused this, but the truth is that none of us can know why he stopped responding. His lack of communication is a reflection of his choices, not your worth as a person. Your feelings are completely understandable. Anyone would feel lonely, anxious, and upset in this situation. Be gentle with yourself while you wait for clarity. You deserve honesty, respect, and consistent communication from someone who cares about you. I hope you get answers soon, but regardless of what happens, please remember that his silence does not define your value as a person, sub or little. Sending you a big hug and hoping you're able to lean on friends, family, or others who care about you while you get through this. ❤️

@Juju @beanbean Here are the three items for this badge. - Favorite Animal Paragraph - Sea Turtles Sea Turtles are a majestic endangered animal. There are seven species: Flatback, Green, Hawksbill, Leatherback, Loggerhead, Kemp's ridley, and Olive ridley. Of the 7 species only two are not considered endangered. Turtles live in all oceans except the polar regions, but are mostly located over continental shelves. They mostly live in seaweed mats. They do travel to beaches to lay eggs. Most turtles will only lay eggs on the same beach they were born on. These eggs are called clutches and in one season a female can lay up to 8 clutches. The gender of turtles is based on the temperature of the nest. Each type of turtle eats different items. Most are omnivours, but some like the Leatherback prefer Jelly fish. The Green Turtles become herbivours as they age. The turtles help keep sea grass down and allow for the space for other animals to breed. - color picture of sea turtles - Sea Shell Craft - I had a ton of shells in a cup from years of collecting, and now they are a pretty set up. I hope this counts.

Thank you friend! Excited to read with you again 💚

Got it. I will be traveling the first two weeks so maybe a bit behind.

@beanbean @Juju For this one I did the following: - Colored a sun - Colored Flowers -Lego Flowers as my craft -Took a pic of my favorite place to read outside in the summer - my egg chair

Hi everyone! This badge will be about Summer Solstice, the longest day/ shortest night of the year and considered to be the first day of summer. Although temps before, may suggest otherwise! And yet, in the southern hemisphere them be having winter Solstice! Which is still one thing that just amazes me. Guidelines: * Contact your leader. They are: * @beanbean * @DaddyRaven * @Tendillo * @Very Proud and Happy Daddy And @shadowrider is our sub and badge lister. If you've ahead picked one for the monthly then you can have them sign off on your day badges also. * TAKE PICTURES THINGS TO DO: ( DO 3 +YOUR CRAFT) * COLOR A PICTURE OF A SUN * MAKE A SUN OUT OF PAPER PLATES * COLOR A PICTURE OF FLOWERS, TREES OR JUST NATURE IN GENERAL * COLOR A PICTURE OF YOUR AREA. * TAKE PICTURES OF ACTIVITIES YOU LIKE TO DO THIS TIME OF YEAR. * IF A CLEAR NIGHT, GO GAZE AT THE STARS AND SEE IF YOU CAN SEE THE MILKY WAY, THE BIG/SMALL DIPPERS * HAVE A GAME NIGHT WITH FAMILY. IF IT'S JUST YOU, TAKE A PICTURE OF THE GAME YOU'RE PLAYING * LOOK UP THE ANCIENT STRUCTURE OF STONEHENGE. WRITE A SHORT PARAGRAPH ABOUT IT. * EAT ICE CREAM * DECIDE AND CHOOSE A CRAFT FROM PINTEREST . * DRAW THE SUN AND MOON When finished, notify your leaderto sign off and tag me so I can record it. Have fun!

Can't wait to see what everyone does go get 'em Littles

I'm grateful for @beanbean and his jokes! He makes me smile!

We are glad you and Juju joined us. And your high praise is truly appreciated. I agree with you on fet, I left there some time back as it no longer felt like my kind of place to hang out.

Hi everyone! Just wanting to know if our leaders are still with us this month? @beanbean @DaddyRaven I know my Daddy @Very Proud and Happy Daddy will and @shadowrideris a back up. We need more so if anyone knows of one or two that might help out, please let me know! Thanks guys! Y'all are great!

For sure

@CoconuttyBuddy was our creator this month! I can't wait to begin!

Hi Everyone! Well we're into a new month and new badges! First, before all the fun stuff... I've not been able until now to get back in to the site. It actually went down while I was trying to finish stuff. With that said, I've checked into different places that we could go for meetings, badge info, questions, etc... and i would also be able to be notified when one of y'all need to contact me. It's pretty cool and I'm still working out the kinks(no pun), so as soon as I do, I'll send an invite. For privacy, security and all that stuff, it'll be invite only. So I won't be posting the invite here but to you individually. We will however still be doing the majority of our activities here, when the site is back to normal. The other place will be for when the site is down, if you need to contact me right away, etc... badges and info for them, will go here still. Onto the fun stuff!! Badges for June are up. For both monthly and both of the new Seasonal. Day badges will be up soon after I post this. Also, there will be a list of badges for y'all to do on your own, in your own time. No deadline. No pressure. 49 of them to be exact! You still need to have them signed off though. And you need to contact me too let me know when they are finished and signed off. You come up with your own activities. If you need help, let me know and I'll gladly see what i can do. Also, the personal badges can not crossover to other badges. There will be badges added occasionally so keep checking for new ones, especially as we get closer to the fall and winter months (spring and summer for our other members). I'll try and have them up by the end of today or in the next day or so. 1st of the month is a little busy for me in rl. But I'll get that list and the pictures for them up soon. I think that's all for now. I hope this all makes sense. If not, y'all know where I am. 💚 Juju🐛💚

if not the next the one after I plan on doing a zoo craft to finish the zoo badge

Poppy, everything looks so awesome!! the fairy bread has me wanting to go make sum but the food delivery didn’t have bread so I can’t 😭 well done on the activity book! I can’t wait to see the rest of your stuff!

Best problem everrrr.... No for reals. I get it. I've been long distance with my Daddy for.... 54 days....who's counting tho. And it's a lot to manage. For me, I do a little bit similar to Daddy Bear. I take care of myself cuz it's what I need/want to do to be proud of myself. Also I know Daddy is proud and happy that I'm doing well (not that he would be mad if I struggle but making him happy makes me happy). And ALSO I take all my problems and feelings to Daddy. All the time. If I can and within reason (like I make sure I journal or pray or whatever to put myself in the responsible seat but I also let daddy know if I'm just sad or need a hug. And then another hug and another). I fully expect you to feel sad and kinda listless.....I would say you must allow yourself that. But slowly start to do the things that you know might make u feel better. You gotta enjoy your life for you ya know? Maybe one thing u need is a shirt, blankie or stuffy that smells like him? But only so thoughts of him make you smile. If u notice getting super sad then u must try it best to distract yourself. The thing that works for me is watching old movies and things that I know Daddy wouldnt like but I do (like British period romance dramas 😂) And one more thing: adulting sucks!!! And it sucks a lot especially when juxtaposed with Daddy times..... You're just straight up dealing with transition. So be gentle with yourself. Wear comfy soft things and pine your heart out if needed. Just don't eat too much bad candy and food about it 😆. And go take a walk and breathe fresh air and fill your lungs. All that energy is for you and your life. You get to live and decide how you handle what happens to you. So, how would you like it to look when you face this aspect of life?

https://hyperbeam.com/app/room/CZHOp0SZSCGPBDfP0-iiLQ we'll be starting in an hour, not sure if the other person is coming.

Many of us struggle a lot in life. In fact all of us struggle with something. It's something we all have in common! We all have struggles, frustrations, pain, suffering and it is hard for everyone to face. There are so many cliché things people say to others when they want to help them feel better, but sometimes it's our own words that mean the most. Affirmations! I use affirmations daily, well most days, to help me stay focused on my growth and to stop comparing myself with others. There are several ways affirmations can be done. I'll list a few. - Goggle a list and write the ones you need. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. (The Cleveland Clinic is a great resource!) - Write your own list of 3 - 5 affirmations. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. - Write a new list daily of 3 - 5 and read them aloud to a partner, friend, or in the mirror. - (I do this one) Write a new list of 3 - 5 daily. Write each affirmation 5 - 10 times each. Send proof to a friend on days you are struggling. - (I do this one) when feeling overwhelmed, anxious, uncomfortable, write preplanned affirmation 10 - 20 times to refocus attention. (I use "I am safe" "I am accepted" "I am likable" "I belong here" "I am lovable") I write one, then take a deep breath. - I taped a postive job review to my bathroom mirror and read the comments outloud as affirmations, too. This is a practice that has helped me get out of some dark places recently. I thought maybe we could share an affirmation that helped us below. Or maybe how you use affirmations to help you grow. Here's my favorite affirmations. "My past does NOT define me, it makes me stronger." "Being little is safe." "I am likable" "I am capable of...." (changes often) "Rest is healing. I am taking care of me."

Thank you @babypichu5❤️ your words mean a lot to me! I appreciate you sharing your affirmations, too!

I’m in and excited for another round! 1. I love a series! But am happy either way 2. I prefer darker or emotional heavy hitter, but I still want that witty dialogue that gives a laugh 3. Longer the better! 4. Dark 5. Fantasy all the way!

🩷 I'm greatful that I chose to go to work today and it was a good day. 🩷 I'm greatful that my co-worker is so kind and accepting or me. 🩷 I'm great full that my tummy is feeling better and now I can eat. 💛 I'm greatful that my Dr. moved my appointment date to sooner so that I can get the support I need.

This is so great @BabyPoppy

Thank you for your kind words I really wanted make a space for people to take a moment and enjoy the good around them no matter what they are battling.

I am just chiming in to say I really enjoy this topic and appreciate it being covered. I have a few overlapping diagnosis that are relevant here and I always need reminding to attend to them fully. This type of thread helps a lot. Thank you!

Thank you @BabyPoppy So kind and thoughtful as ever, and such uplifting thoughts for us all, whenever we may struggle or doubt ourselves, This is a beautiful community, full of beautiful people, reminding each other that it's okay to be ourselves, that we're fine as we are, even when it doesn't always feel like it.

I don't keep any in the house, but have a bunch in my office at work. All succulents.

Thanks @BabyPoppy!!! You have definitely helped me before with affirmations. 💜

you can also find some really great affirmations on pinterest! i put lots in my journal too :3 it's a great place to look when i'm feeling sad and struggling to say the words myself.

I’ve noticed ghosting usually comes from fear or discomfort, not malice, so I try not to take it personally. Clear boundaries and simple check-ins have helped me avoid it on my end.

awwww love horsies!!!!