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Many of us struggle a lot in life. In fact all of us struggle with something. It's something we all have in common! We all have struggles, frustrations, pain, suffering and it is hard for everyone to face. There are so many cliché things people say to others when they want to help them feel better, but sometimes it's our own words that mean the most. Affirmations! I use affirmations daily, well most days, to help me stay focused on my growth and to stop comparing myself with others. There are several ways affirmations can be done. I'll list a few. - Goggle a list and write the ones you need. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. (The Cleveland Clinic is a great resource!) - Write your own list of 3 - 5 affirmations. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. - Write a new list daily of 3 - 5 and read them aloud to a partner, friend, or in the mirror. - (I do this one) Write a new list of 3 - 5 daily. Write each affirmation 5 - 10 times each. Send proof to a friend on days you are struggling. - (I do this one) when feeling overwhelmed, anxious, uncomfortable, write preplanned affirmation 10 - 20 times to refocus attention. (I use "I am safe" "I am accepted" "I am likable" "I belong here" "I am lovable") I write one, then take a deep breath. - I taped a postive job review to my bathroom mirror and read the comments outloud as affirmations, too. This is a practice that has helped me get out of some dark places recently. I thought maybe we could share an affirmation that helped us below. Or maybe how you use affirmations to help you grow. Here's my favorite affirmations. "My past does NOT define me, it makes me stronger." "Being little is safe." "I am likable" "I am capable of...." (changes often) "Rest is healing. I am taking care of me."

I had a few affirmations tonight I wanted to share, but I need to share a little bit first. About a year ago, I was talking with my mother and she asked about what happened when I was young. She was finally able to hear some of it. She apologized and said someone had shared with her recently about him and she was so shocked! She was so busy raising us, she never thought anything could happen to me. She wanted to fix it. I listened, too. I told her I forgave her and she asked how she could forgive herself. I told her I wanted her in my life and that I loved her. I am thankful for the sacrifices she made to raise us. It's not easy single parenting 3 kids. We've talked several times over the past year and this issue always comes up in our conversation. So tonight one of my affirmations is about this issue. As I look at them, maybe all of my affirmations are about this issue. 1. Rest is healing. 2. It is healthy to work on me before I look for a partner. 3. Forgiveness is about my heart and moving on. It is not about letting bad people back into my life. My mother asked me what I would do if he would message me. I said, "he's blocked. I block a lot of people who are unsafe in my life. I need to do that to stay safe. I am unable to say no yet, so blocking them is the best choice I can make." There's no guilt or shame in that statement, only strength. Another affirmation... I will not talk to unsafe people. Affirmations are so powerful. They help change thoughts and feelings, which mold behavior and actions. Always remember how powerful your mind is and it can take you any where you want to go! Poppy 💕

you can also find some really great affirmations on pinterest! i put lots in my journal too :3 it's a great place to look when i'm feeling sad and struggling to say the words myself.

For this one I am doing: Popsicles- I made Popsicles or Ice pops out of the extra peaches from my fruit tree. As you can see I have a bunch. I use them for smoothies as well as just to snack on. Glass painting - I got milk bottles to paint to hold my lego flowers. Beach day - this will be on my trip coming up.

Hello all Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire here! Yesss you heard me right! It is finally time to vote for our next read! Below is the official list of those involved. If you arnt on this list I am unaware that you want to read with us so please get in contact. If you are not on this list please do not vote as I only count votes from those joining us. If you are on the list and changed your mind please let me know. The list: @Daddy Bear 77 @Pink_MyMelody @RoseyLittle @Fox H @innerchildtml @SarBear55 @Baby.M So this time yall we are doing a fantasy read! It is one of my personal favorites. I try to switch it up so all can enjoy. Per usual there are 5 options. you only have one vote so choose carefully! I have given a good variety but if these arnt for you we will see you on the next one. Each book has a description below and a picture attached. if you are sensitive to triggers or material I encourage you to do a deeper dive looking into your choice but what I give should be enough for most folks to choose. I will save my vote till the end in case a tie breaker is needed. This pole will be up for one week so please make your vote ASAP so we can start immediately. After yall choose I will immedietly make the topics for the read available. These include: General Discussion/Chat, Important Posts - Questions and Announcments, Question Answers, Quotes, and several Activity topics. If you have questions or need help please reach out to me at any time. I will be making a quick How to Navigate topic for our group reads so see that as well for help. Alright here are your options: Option 1: Wild Reverance by Rebecca Ross Romantic Fantasy Slow Burn Triggers: Violence, Gore, War, Self Harm, Attempted Suicide, Loss, Grief, Abuse, Substance Use, and Opression Blurb: The story follows Matilda, a young messenger goddess of mixed divine heritage, and Vincent, a hardened mortal lord, as their dream-tethered destinies collide in a ruthless world Pages: 527 📖 📖 📖 📖 📖 Option 2: The Ever King by L.J. Andrew's Fantasy Romance - Enemues to Lovers Triggers: Violence, Gore, War, Grief, Loss, Captivity, and Abuse Blurb: The story centers on Erik, the scarred King of the Ever Kingdom, who has spent years plotting vengeance against the man who imprisoned him beneath the waves. When his enemy's daughter unwittingly breaks his chains, Erik seizes the opportunity to take his revenge by holding her captive as a pawn in his game. The story promises a tense conflict, with a vicious hero targeting an innocent girl, threatening to take what he lost, unless she steals his heart first. Pages: 480 📖📖📖📖📖 Option 3: Bride by Ali Hazelwood Fantasy/Paranormal Romance - Arranged Marriage/Forced Proximity Triggers: Violence, War, Blood, Loss, Family Trauma, and Kidnapping Blurb: A dangerous alliance between a Vampyre bride and an Alpha Werewolf becomes a love deep enough to sink your teeth into in this new paranormal romance. Pages: 416 📖📖📖📖📖 Option 4: Fairydale by Veronica Lancet Dark Gothic Fantasy/Paranormal Romance - Fated Mates Triggers: SA, War, Trauma, Murder, Infertility, Death, Blood/Gore, and SH. This is a heavier one so please check warnings if sensative. Blurb: A young woman travels to a mysterious town to claim her inheritance, only to find herself caught in a web of secrets, supernatural forces, and a dangerous love triangle with two enigmatic men. Pages: 736 📖📖📖📖📖 Option 5: The Poison Daughter by Sheila Masterson Dark Fantasy Romance -Enemies to Lovers Triggers: Child Abuse, Blood, Ritual, Death, Talk of SH, Voyeurism, and Violence Blurb: Every person Harlow Carrenwell kisses dies, and that's the way she likes it. The poison-lipped youngest daughter of Lunameade's magical founding family has used her power to annihilate their enemies. Her first husband is in the ground. Her new betrothed is next. Pages: 668

I get little/sub drops a lot after daddy leaves. Because right now I only reliably get to see him once a week. What helps me is... Before he leaves daddy picks a stuffie to look out for me for the next week We text and call when we can I try to think about when we'll see each other next. What I'll do. What I'll wear I practice self care because it helps me feel healthy and good and it makes daddy happy. I make sure I do something I enjoy every single day. Even if its just watching bluey before bed

This is sooo much! You are carrying so much! I here it in your words and it seems so overwhelming! I wish i could jump through this message and hug you tight, tell you all the beautiful words @Tendillo shared, and feed you some comfort foods. Since that's not how messaging works... I want to share with you a mindfulness activity I use sometimes. This is just a suggestion, so please take it as a gift, not as another thing you have to do. Healing light meditation. Sit somewhere warm and cozy. Close your eyes and breath deeply 3 - 5 times. Imagine a warm, golden light shining above you. The light is gently warming the air around you. As you feel the light on your head and skin, let yourself relax a bit. Imagine where the light is coming from, the source of this warm, gentle light. It's a bottomless pitcher of light energy, pouring out right onto you, the top of your head. As you feel this light enter your body, starting at your head, let the light heal your exhaustion, your emotional fatigue, your physical pain, your depression, your hurt feelings. Let the light soothe you and heal you of all these things. Let it renew your soul and bring balance to your body and mind. Slowly allow the light to spread through your body, healing every part of you as it spreads down your head, face and neck. Then to your shoulders, chest and back. Slowly out your arms, hands and fingers, relaxing you as it goes. It brings freedom to your body, rest, and restored health. Let the light keep going down your body, pausing at sore spots for extra time. Once it's through your feet, imagine how strong and healthy, yet at peace you feel with your energy returned to you. Take 3 slow deep breaths and slowly open your eyes. Notice your body and how good it feels. Sit peacefully for a few minutes if possible enjoying the feel of your renewed strength. (I sometimes use this to help me sleep at night and just allow myself to rest.) Again, this isn't a solution, only an idea... I only want to help. I am not offended if you hate the idea. I am here if you need to talk.

With this badge we should be better informed about our oceans, how to help keep them clean and all the nifty critters we have in them! As usual, contact a leader to sign off when finished. Take photos. Due by the end of the month, June 30th. Complete at least 3 activities for this badge. Make sure to take photos when you are finished, of each. 💚 Choose your favourite marine animal and write a paragraph about it. *Why you is your favorite *Where it can normally be located * What are their babies called? 💚 If you could live by any ocean, which one would it be and why. 💚 (Littles) Color a picture of your favourite marine creature. 💚 Make a paper Jelly fish 🎐 💚 Make a bracelet or anklet in colors that would best represent the animal you like and the ocean waters it comes from. 💚 If you live near a beach, pick up seashells and make a craft. If you don't live by a beach and still wish to make something, Walmart, Dollar Tree, and I'm sure a few others should carry them in the craft section. 💚 If you've visited the ocean/ beach before, which one was it? Did you enjoy it? Show pictures of you want to of your visit. If not, just the short paragraph and the picture that you finished. Pinterest has many lovely craft ideas. You can also choose from there, just list the one you pick. Everyone have fun!!

This was a fun learning experience. I love all animals so learning about animals through this as well as the other random facts was great. @DaddyRaven I think I have completed everything.

Thanks @BabyPoppy, for you honest and heart felt post. What we tell ourselves is so important. Often times it's out own voice that is loudes and it's so easy to let that voice be critical or negative. Being Autistic and expirencing bipolar 2, I tend to have big emotions over seemingly small things or over nothing. Affirming to myself that I am capable of going through hard emotions is helpful as well as choosing to have a positive out look on the day a head. Here they are: ✨️Today is a good day to have a good day. ✨️ 🩷I can see the good in every situation. ✨️These are not my thoughts (for when i have dark scary thoughts).✨️ 🩷I don't have to feel good to do good. ✨️I am strong, courageous, and resilient!✨️ 🩷It's hard moment not a bad day. ✨️I've done this before and I can do it again! ✨️ Thank you again Poppy for you post. I'm so glad you and your mother were able to have such an honest and vulnerable conversation. Sounds like there has been alot of growth and healing to get you there. I am so happy for you. ~💛Pichu

Today, I have a lot to be thankful for: - Being one year older - Grown kids who love to help out and take care of me as much as I try to help them - AC as its like 90 today - the ability to see doctors when I need to.

@BabyPoppyThank you for sharing such a genuine and heartfelt message. Life Struggles It’s comforting to be reminded that none of us are alone in what we carry, even when life feels heavy. Your words encourage honesty, compassion, and strength, and that can mean so much to someone who’s struggling. In addition to reaching out to someone supportive, a simple affirmation that may help someone keep going is: "I am stronger than this moment, and I will get through one baby step at a time." Thank you again for posting something so real, thoughtful, and encouraging. Keep up the good work!

That looks really good glad you had fun doing it

Today I am greatful for modern medicine. I am also grateful for my puppies. They are super sweet and keep me company.

@beanbean @Juju For this one I did the following: - Colored a sun - Colored Flowers -Lego Flowers as my craft -Took a pic of my favorite place to read outside in the summer - my egg chair

Looks awesome

Hi everyone! This badge will be about Summer Solstice, the longest day/ shortest night of the year and considered to be the first day of summer. Although temps before, may suggest otherwise! And yet, in the southern hemisphere them be having winter Solstice! Which is still one thing that just amazes me. Guidelines: * Contact your leader. They are: * @beanbean * @DaddyRaven * @Tendillo * @Very Proud and Happy Daddy And @shadowrider is our sub and badge lister. If you've ahead picked one for the monthly then you can have them sign off on your day badges also. * TAKE PICTURES THINGS TO DO: ( DO 3 +YOUR CRAFT) * COLOR A PICTURE OF A SUN * MAKE A SUN OUT OF PAPER PLATES * COLOR A PICTURE OF FLOWERS, TREES OR JUST NATURE IN GENERAL * COLOR A PICTURE OF YOUR AREA. * TAKE PICTURES OF ACTIVITIES YOU LIKE TO DO THIS TIME OF YEAR. * IF A CLEAR NIGHT, GO GAZE AT THE STARS AND SEE IF YOU CAN SEE THE MILKY WAY, THE BIG/SMALL DIPPERS * HAVE A GAME NIGHT WITH FAMILY. IF IT'S JUST YOU, TAKE A PICTURE OF THE GAME YOU'RE PLAYING * LOOK UP THE ANCIENT STRUCTURE OF STONEHENGE. WRITE A SHORT PARAGRAPH ABOUT IT. * EAT ICE CREAM * DECIDE AND CHOOSE A CRAFT FROM PINTEREST . * DRAW THE SUN AND MOON When finished, notify your leaderto sign off and tag me so I can record it. Have fun!

Can't wait to see what everyone does go get 'em Littles

I am grateful for life and the opportunity to be able to live it

I am greatful for this forum I am greatful today was an alright day at work I am greatful it is the weekend I am greatful last week I got to see Daddy

We are glad you and Juju joined us. And your high praise is truly appreciated. I agree with you on fet, I left there some time back as it no longer felt like my kind of place to hang out.

I am grateful for good appointments this week and time to rest when I got home! I am grateful I made phone calls and completed applications and took care of hard stuff yesterday and today. I am thankful for my little friends here on the forum. They help me have fun.

@RoseyLittle Looks like a great job to me! You are now officially signed off and have truly earned your Spring Challenge Badge.

I'm available for those that need to have someone to sign off on their badges. I'm not on here very often, BUT Juju, who is the one that is the reason I am a Very Proud and Happy Daddy, will let me know if I need to sign on to get notifications and do what I need to do as a group leader. I do want to make it very clear, however, that I am Happy to do so. The only reason I'm not here very often is purely that I have many other things that I am already very busy with. Those things though are completely in my control and I can, and will, take a break from those whenever there is a need for me to sign in here. In fact, the truth is that I truly wish I could be here often and the only reason I'm not is because the things that I am very busy with are also things that I really want to do and have committed to myself to act on for several years prior to joining DDlg. I hasten to add to that the only two reasons I decided to join DDlg is that I have seen what Juju's experience here has been and about the absolutely great quality of the site and the superb job that @shadowrider and his team have done in assuring that it has become and remains of the quality it is. I've been doing online chatrooms since the late 90's, a lifetime member of a BDSM group when I lived in Southern California and most recently a member of FetLife since their second or third year of existence. I was pretty happy with them for about 5-10 years but finally left them years ago as they increasingly became a site I no longer wanted anything to do with. So it has been absolutely great to see what @shadowrider and his team have done with DDlg.

i love livin in the country n bein able to hv decent views of the stars n moon on clear nights ♡ i sit outside n take long exposure pics w my phone while holdin my breath haha but is so worth it . here’s a pic i got of the strawberry moon the other month . hope everyone likes it ^^

Just wanna share some pics of my pride and joy, my horses! The white one is Archie and the brown is Hacksaw. My horses are my world and I'm so grateful for them.

Ja I’ve been approving for badges

Hi lofi. I'm sorry everything feels so hard for you right now and I do know how it feels to be stuck like a hamster on a wheel spinning endlessly round and round, unable to stop, every minute seemingly taken up even before it arrives, wondering where and when you just get to feel like yourself again. All I do know is that is does get better. I can't say when that is or will be but it can and does happen. As for what we learn from our pain and hardships? Sometimes we don't see that until we're a ways down the road and we look back to realise what we went through and how we coped. Often we start to see the valuable lesson it has taught us, how it made us somehow stronger, like steel that has been tempered in fire. Don't give up on people, just because some of them let you down. Don't shut yourself off from opportunity, just because you got burned the last time. Don't lose the ability to trust, to be open to possibility; just keep your guard up and let them prove themselves to you. Remember that you are your own best friend, so try not to let the negative actions of others drag you down. Life is always changing, even when we don't see it. People are always changing, even ourselves, even when we don't feel it. Nothing lasts for ever, that's the nature of this existence isn't it? The bad times come and go like the tide on a beach and hopefully we can recognise and enjoy the good times and the good people when they wash upon our shore, however briefly. So, please try not to feel lost in all of this right now. Life is testing you, challenging you, bringing out the best in you, even though it may not feel that way at the moment. These are opportunities for growth and finding out what you have inside. yourself

🐛 Donut Day fun patch 🐛 Fairy House Build patch 🐛 Spa Party 🐛 Movie Fun Patch 🐛 Gardening Fun 🐛 Fishing Fun 🐛 Waterpark Fun 🐛 Zoo Scavenger Hunt 🐛 Aquarium Scavenger Hunt 🐛 Smoothie Fun Patch 🐛 Milkshake Fun 🐛 Planetarium Patch 🐛 Geo- Caching 🐛 Luau Patch 🐛 Me and My Doll Patch 🐛 Karaoke many more to come!

@CoconuttyBuddy was our creator this month! I can't wait to begin!

Hi Everyone! Well we're into a new month and new badges! First, before all the fun stuff... I've not been able until now to get back in to the site. It actually went down while I was trying to finish stuff. With that said, I've checked into different places that we could go for meetings, badge info, questions, etc... and i would also be able to be notified when one of y'all need to contact me. It's pretty cool and I'm still working out the kinks(no pun), so as soon as I do, I'll send an invite. For privacy, security and all that stuff, it'll be invite only. So I won't be posting the invite here but to you individually. We will however still be doing the majority of our activities here, when the site is back to normal. The other place will be for when the site is down, if you need to contact me right away, etc... badges and info for them, will go here still. Onto the fun stuff!! Badges for June are up. For both monthly and both of the new Seasonal. Day badges will be up soon after I post this. Also, there will be a list of badges for y'all to do on your own, in your own time. No deadline. No pressure. 49 of them to be exact! You still need to have them signed off though. And you need to contact me too let me know when they are finished and signed off. You come up with your own activities. If you need help, let me know and I'll gladly see what i can do. Also, the personal badges can not crossover to other badges. There will be badges added occasionally so keep checking for new ones, especially as we get closer to the fall and winter months (spring and summer for our other members). I'll try and have them up by the end of today or in the next day or so. 1st of the month is a little busy for me in rl. But I'll get that list and the pictures for them up soon. I think that's all for now. I hope this all makes sense. If not, y'all know where I am. 💚 Juju🐛💚

if not the next the one after I plan on doing a zoo craft to finish the zoo badge

Poppy, everything looks so awesome!! the fairy bread has me wanting to go make sum but the food delivery didn’t have bread so I can’t 😭 well done on the activity book! I can’t wait to see the rest of your stuff!

Hi everyone, Just letting you know the Monthly Active Badge is now up, the new Summer Seasonal Challenge is up and there will be some new day badges coming up and posted today. * Also, you find a list of badges you can earn on your own, pick and choose any of them you'd like to do and earn a badge. I'll have those posted today also, with the guidelines to go with them. * The seasonal challenges will also have alternate ideas for the things that you might not be able to do. You'll also notice there are 2 Seasonal Challenge patches up. Summer and Winter. That is because we have some lovely little's/ middles from a different hemisphere and so their season is opposite of ours. US/ Europe and any in the Northern Hemisphere will do the summer one. Those in the Southern will do the Winter. *REMEMBER: monthly badges are required. If you can't get one finished by the end of the month, then you'll have to finish it the following month along with the next months badges. It's preferable you can get it finished when due but stuff happens. ( I know, I've struggled myself a little this month). No worries. Just relax and enjoy. * Finally, with the site still being worked on and down time. Just take your time with all badges this month. Just as long as they're turned in by the 30th. Seasonal Challenge is June 1st - August 31st. Okay, well I think that's all. Any questions just message me and I'll answer as long as i can get in. Juju🐛💚

Fairy Bread

Thank you @babypichu5❤️ your words mean a lot to me! I appreciate you sharing your affirmations, too!

I’m in and excited for another round! 1. I love a series! But am happy either way 2. I prefer darker or emotional heavy hitter, but I still want that witty dialogue that gives a laugh 3. Longer the better! 4. Dark 5. Fantasy all the way!

It sounds like you had a great day.

🩷 I'm greatful that I chose to go to work today and it was a good day. 🩷 I'm greatful that my co-worker is so kind and accepting or me. 🩷 I'm great full that my tummy is feeling better and now I can eat. 💛 I'm greatful that my Dr. moved my appointment date to sooner so that I can get the support I need.

Hi Everyone! Just a few days until June is upon us and you know what that means! Badges for May are winding down and our first Seasonal Challenge Badge (Summer for USA and Winter for our Aussie members and whomever else may need the opposite season. ), is due to be turned in the 31st. The new seasonal challenge will begin June 1st and end August 30th. So make sure all pictures, paragraphs, projects, etc... are turned in and plainly labeled for whichever badge is finished. I will get these requirements for the Summer/ Winter Challenge badges posted in the next day or so. Be sure to read it carefully. There are a few new requirements and for the things that might not be able to achieve, I have come up with Alternative activities for them. So there will be more to do. June monthly badge is ready and waiting! It will pop up on the 1st of June also! Thank you @CoconuttyBuddy for creating our June Badge for us! There will only be 1 day badge next month but if you want to do another, then feel free to do so. I will add a few ideas that do have a badge to go with them. To get credit for it, you will have to let me know which one you are wanting to do, activities you will do to earn it, make sure photos are taken and it's signed off by your leader. I hope y'all have a great summer! I will have fun stuff to do here also! Juju💚🐛

Next Saturday May 30 at 4pm est will be our monthly virtual meeting. hoping the site cooperates with us so I can post the link!

This is so great @BabyPoppy

Thank you for your kind words I really wanted make a space for people to take a moment and enjoy the good around them no matter what they are battling.

Today I am grateful that my knee is feeling better so I could get some chores done!

Thank you @BabyPoppy So kind and thoughtful as ever, and such uplifting thoughts for us all, whenever we may struggle or doubt ourselves, This is a beautiful community, full of beautiful people, reminding each other that it's okay to be ourselves, that we're fine as we are, even when it doesn't always feel like it.

I don't keep any in the house, but have a bunch in my office at work. All succulents.

That is so awesome I love seeing everything you did!! Snickers slice is another fav Aussie slice so not worries having to swap it. you did so good with the activity book to and your snake is awesome!! the bunyip is one of my FAVOURITE Aussie legends! The koala kickers would be a formidable team and be feared across the league I’m sure!

Today I am greatful for the break I took at work to help relax and get away from the heat. We have a big walk-in fridge and I just sat there for a good ten minutes (my boss was cool with it). Btw i work on a farm. 😁 🫧I am greatful that I had the time and energy to clean my house. This morning. 🫧 I am greatful that I am not alone in this journy to find myself and balancing little and big. 💛

Here's all the things I've done for this badge. I saw fireworks Friday Night, but the pictures didn't turn out very well... I was too excited. I helped a friend/neighbor with her kids after school when she was running late. I visited a different neighbor, who is a senior. We talked about our flower beds. I invited a new friend over to help me with weeding my flowers bed and planting flowers. She also came over for supper once, too. I wrote a note to DaddyRaven. My kiddo got heat exhaustion at the parades on the second day of the festival and I got to practice my first aid skills by caring for her the past 2 days. I did the Earth Day Badge and donated books, toys, kids clothes, teaching materials, and plastic grocery bags. Learned about Daisies - wrote a report for my spring badge. Learned how to wash a make-up stain out of a hand-wash only dress my kiddo wore for Halloween and left on her closet floor... @DaddyRaven could you check my badge for me please?

awwww love horsies!!!!