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Many of us struggle a lot in life. In fact all of us struggle with something. It's something we all have in common! We all have struggles, frustrations, pain, suffering and it is hard for everyone to face. There are so many cliché things people say to others when they want to help them feel better, but sometimes it's our own words that mean the most. Affirmations! I use affirmations daily, well most days, to help me stay focused on my growth and to stop comparing myself with others. There are several ways affirmations can be done. I'll list a few. - Goggle a list and write the ones you need. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. (The Cleveland Clinic is a great resource!) - Write your own list of 3 - 5 affirmations. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. - Write a new list daily of 3 - 5 and read them aloud to a partner, friend, or in the mirror. - (I do this one) Write a new list of 3 - 5 daily. Write each affirmation 5 - 10 times each. Send proof to a friend on days you are struggling. - (I do this one) when feeling overwhelmed, anxious, uncomfortable, write preplanned affirmation 10 - 20 times to refocus attention. (I use "I am safe" "I am accepted" "I am likable" "I belong here" "I am lovable") I write one, then take a deep breath. - I taped a postive job review to my bathroom mirror and read the comments outloud as affirmations, too. This is a practice that has helped me get out of some dark places recently. I thought maybe we could share an affirmation that helped us below. Or maybe how you use affirmations to help you grow. Here's my favorite affirmations. "My past does NOT define me, it makes me stronger." "Being little is safe." "I am likable" "I am capable of...." (changes often) "Rest is healing. I am taking care of me."

@RoseyLittle @SarBear55 @Fox H @Baby.M @DaddysCosmicBunny @SquirtleSquad @MissNMTX @innerchildtml @Emberella Alright all I know this is alot of announcements but gotta get them in while the forum is up. The time has FLOWN by but you can officially read the last few chapters of the book! Now I know some folks are behind and such so I usually give two weeks at the end for yall to finish so you have until the 27th. Be on the lookout for the last few sets of questions and also an interest pole for NNCs next read. I know its been hard with the tech difficulties but if you have fun please join us for the next one. A questionaire will be going up in the next few weeks, it is important you answer it if yall want that shiny handmade badge I award for finishing bo0ks here. Thanks again yall its been fun!

A summer baby here through and though! I swear I don’t reduce my own body heat and my extremities are always cold…so give me sunshine, a good book and a rock to lay out on like a lizard and I’m in bliss. (Oh and sunscreen so my ghost like skin doesn’t turn tomato red 🤣)

I had a few affirmations tonight I wanted to share, but I need to share a little bit first. About a year ago, I was talking with my mother and she asked about what happened when I was young. She was finally able to hear some of it. She apologized and said someone had shared with her recently about him and she was so shocked! She was so busy raising us, she never thought anything could happen to me. She wanted to fix it. I listened, too. I told her I forgave her and she asked how she could forgive herself. I told her I wanted her in my life and that I loved her. I am thankful for the sacrifices she made to raise us. It's not easy single parenting 3 kids. We've talked several times over the past year and this issue always comes up in our conversation. So tonight one of my affirmations is about this issue. As I look at them, maybe all of my affirmations are about this issue. 1. Rest is healing. 2. It is healthy to work on me before I look for a partner. 3. Forgiveness is about my heart and moving on. It is not about letting bad people back into my life. My mother asked me what I would do if he would message me. I said, "he's blocked. I block a lot of people who are unsafe in my life. I need to do that to stay safe. I am unable to say no yet, so blocking them is the best choice I can make." There's no guilt or shame in that statement, only strength. Another affirmation... I will not talk to unsafe people. Affirmations are so powerful. They help change thoughts and feelings, which mold behavior and actions. Always remember how powerful your mind is and it can take you any where you want to go! Poppy 💕

you can also find some really great affirmations on pinterest! i put lots in my journal too :3 it's a great place to look when i'm feeling sad and struggling to say the words myself.

Hi @clamchowder, I'm happy to see you here! I hope this thread is helpful to you, and brings some joy into your life. I am greatful for the energy I have had today to get so much house work done. I am greatful for the amazing BFF I have and that we have been blessed with so much time to spend together. I am greatful for my Daddy/husband, for being patient with me as I figure out who I am and for accepting all of me.

I love this idea. - Today I found new succulents and I bought an Orange Tree - It rained today. We always need the rain - My Kermit the dog has been super snuggly today and he is calm enough to pet. His anxiety has made that hard lately. - I ate two meals today, both healthy. Life has been hard so its good to remember to be grateful for the little things.

This was a fun learning experience. I love all animals so learning about animals through this as well as the other random facts was great. @DaddyRaven I think I have completed everything.

👋Hey everyone, I wanted to make a thread where we post regularly about things we are greatful for. All of us are apart of this club because we are going through something. I have learned in the midst of heal and working through tough stuff, it's easy to overly fixate on our pain to the extent that it consumes us. This thread is ment to be a reminder that even in your dark moments and pain there is always something to appreciate. In terms of posts you can post about anything that you are greatful for, something good that happen to you, or an accomplishment that you are proud of really anything that made you smile or was a win.🏆 A note on depression: For those that struggle with depression, like myself, if you did a good thing or a good thing happened to you, you don't have to feel good to acknowledge that you did good or experienced good. The gratitude might not always take the pain away but it's a helpful practice to intercept a drespression spiral. The goal of this thread is to be a resource to help anyone going through a hard time to feel better even if it's for one moment. Feel free to post as often as you want and if you find it helpful visit this thread when you feel down. I'll check at least twice a week to react and comment. Please be encouraged. You are strong, capable, and good things will happen to you. 😊 ~ 💛 Pichu My gratitudes and accomplishments: 🩷I am greatful that I got to talk to my best friend today, it was special bc I got to hear some encouraging words from her. It made me feel hope that I can change my life's course for the better. 🏆I am so proud of myself that I told my husband good things about my day instead of complaining like I use to do.

Thanks @BabyPoppy, for you honest and heart felt post. What we tell ourselves is so important. Often times it's out own voice that is loudes and it's so easy to let that voice be critical or negative. Being Autistic and expirencing bipolar 2, I tend to have big emotions over seemingly small things or over nothing. Affirming to myself that I am capable of going through hard emotions is helpful as well as choosing to have a positive out look on the day a head. Here they are: ✨️Today is a good day to have a good day. ✨️ 🩷I can see the good in every situation. ✨️These are not my thoughts (for when i have dark scary thoughts).✨️ 🩷I don't have to feel good to do good. ✨️I am strong, courageous, and resilient!✨️ 🩷It's hard moment not a bad day. ✨️I've done this before and I can do it again! ✨️ Thank you again Poppy for you post. I'm so glad you and your mother were able to have such an honest and vulnerable conversation. Sounds like there has been alot of growth and healing to get you there. I am so happy for you. ~💛Pichu

Today, I have a lot to be thankful for: - Being one year older - Grown kids who love to help out and take care of me as much as I try to help them - AC as its like 90 today - the ability to see doctors when I need to.

@BabyPoppyThank you for sharing such a genuine and heartfelt message. Life Struggles It’s comforting to be reminded that none of us are alone in what we carry, even when life feels heavy. Your words encourage honesty, compassion, and strength, and that can mean so much to someone who’s struggling. In addition to reaching out to someone supportive, a simple affirmation that may help someone keep going is: "I am stronger than this moment, and I will get through one baby step at a time." Thank you again for posting something so real, thoughtful, and encouraging. Keep up the good work!

That looks really good glad you had fun doing it

Today I am greatful for modern medicine. I am also grateful for my puppies. They are super sweet and keep me company.

@SquirtleSquad @SarBear55 @Fox H @DaddysCosmicBunny @Baby.M @RoseyLittle @innerchildtml Hello all! Thanks for those that continue to check in as it is important in fairness for earning the badge at the end (which I am starting to work on!!!) For this final check in please tell me your favorite season of the year. Also we have several new posts up for final assignment and questions so go check that out.

i am grateful for the friends i still have and will make in the future

I'm so thankful for so much today! Today I went grocery shopping, and ran errands, made an appointment by calling the office, and scheduled a meeting for work (via email) to discuss my job for the fall. I rested and ate lunch, worked on laundry, have supper in the crockpot, responded to a dr message, and showered! I'm so grateful I'm starting to feel better after all the med changes the past few weeks. It was good to stay outta bed all day!

@lillizzie24 I've never done one of these before. Here are the items for my Zoo Badge.

@RoseyLittle @SarBear55 @Fox H @Baby.M @DaddysCosmicBunny @SquirtleSquad @MissNMTX @innerchildtml @Emberella You know what time it is!!! The book is zipping right along. Thabk you to all who have checked in, I will be reaching put to those who havnt to make sure they are still with us. So without further delay feel free to read chapters 17-19. Enjoy!

Today I am grateful for the ability to garden. I was able to put a bunch of new plants into pots. Also for new friends. I have had the chance to chat with so many people and it helps keep me moving.

With this badge we should be better informed about our oceans, how to help keep them clean and all the nifty critters we have in them! As usual, contact a leader to sign off when finished. Take photos. Due by the end of the month, June 30th. Complete at least 3 activities for this badge. Make sure to take photos when you are finished, of each. 💚 Choose your favourite marine animal and write a paragraph about it. *Why you is your favorite *Where it can normally be located * What are their babies called? 💚 If you could live by any ocean, which one would it be and why. 💚 (Littles) Color a picture of your favourite marine creature. 💚 Make a paper Jelly fish 🎐 💚 Make a bracelet or anklet in colors that would best represent the animal you like and the ocean waters it comes from. 💚 If you live near a beach, pick up seashells and make a craft. If you don't live by a beach and still wish to make something, Walmart, Dollar Tree, and I'm sure a few others should carry them in the craft section. 💚 If you've visited the ocean/ beach before, which one was it? Did you enjoy it? Show pictures of you want to of your visit. If not, just the short paragraph and the picture that you finished. Pinterest has many lovely craft ideas. You can also choose from there, just list the one you pick. Everyone have fun!!

Best problem everrrr.... No for reals. I get it. I've been long distance with my Daddy for.... 54 days....who's counting tho. And it's a lot to manage. For me, I do a little bit similar to Daddy Bear. I take care of myself cuz it's what I need/want to do to be proud of myself. Also I know Daddy is proud and happy that I'm doing well (not that he would be mad if I struggle but making him happy makes me happy). And ALSO I take all my problems and feelings to Daddy. All the time. If I can and within reason (like I make sure I journal or pray or whatever to put myself in the responsible seat but I also let daddy know if I'm just sad or need a hug. And then another hug and another). I fully expect you to feel sad and kinda listless.....I would say you must allow yourself that. But slowly start to do the things that you know might make u feel better. You gotta enjoy your life for you ya know? Maybe one thing u need is a shirt, blankie or stuffy that smells like him? But only so thoughts of him make you smile. If u notice getting super sad then u must try it best to distract yourself. The thing that works for me is watching old movies and things that I know Daddy wouldnt like but I do (like British period romance dramas 😂) And one more thing: adulting sucks!!! And it sucks a lot especially when juxtaposed with Daddy times..... You're just straight up dealing with transition. So be gentle with yourself. Wear comfy soft things and pine your heart out if needed. Just don't eat too much bad candy and food about it 😆. And go take a walk and breathe fresh air and fill your lungs. All that energy is for you and your life. You get to live and decide how you handle what happens to you. So, how would you like it to look when you face this aspect of life?

Hi everyone, Just letting you know the Monthly Active Badge is now up, the new Summer Seasonal Challenge is up and there will be some new day badges coming up and posted today. * Also, you find a list of badges you can earn on your own, pick and choose any of them you'd like to do and earn a badge. I'll have those posted today also, with the guidelines to go with them. * The seasonal challenges will also have alternate ideas for the things that you might not be able to do. You'll also notice there are 2 Seasonal Challenge patches up. Summer and Winter. That is because we have some lovely little's/ middles from a different hemisphere and so their season is opposite of ours. US/ Europe and any in the Northern Hemisphere will do the summer one. Those in the Southern will do the Winter. *REMEMBER: monthly badges are required. If you can't get one finished by the end of the month, then you'll have to finish it the following month along with the next months badges. It's preferable you can get it finished when due but stuff happens. ( I know, I've struggled myself a little this month). No worries. Just relax and enjoy. * Finally, with the site still being worked on and down time. Just take your time with all badges this month. Just as long as they're turned in by the 30th. Seasonal Challenge is June 1st - August 31st. Okay, well I think that's all. Any questions just message me and I'll answer as long as i can get in. Juju🐛💚

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Thank you @babypichu5❤️ your words mean a lot to me! I appreciate you sharing your affirmations, too!

I’m in and excited for another round! 1. I love a series! But am happy either way 2. I prefer darker or emotional heavy hitter, but I still want that witty dialogue that gives a laugh 3. Longer the better! 4. Dark 5. Fantasy all the way!

🩷 I'm greatful that I chose to go to work today and it was a good day. 🩷 I'm greatful that my co-worker is so kind and accepting or me. 🩷 I'm great full that my tummy is feeling better and now I can eat. 💛 I'm greatful that my Dr. moved my appointment date to sooner so that I can get the support I need.

Hi Everyone! Just a few days until June is upon us and you know what that means! Badges for May are winding down and our first Seasonal Challenge Badge (Summer for USA and Winter for our Aussie members and whomever else may need the opposite season. ), is due to be turned in the 31st. The new seasonal challenge will begin June 1st and end August 30th. So make sure all pictures, paragraphs, projects, etc... are turned in and plainly labeled for whichever badge is finished. I will get these requirements for the Summer/ Winter Challenge badges posted in the next day or so. Be sure to read it carefully. There are a few new requirements and for the things that might not be able to achieve, I have come up with Alternative activities for them. So there will be more to do. June monthly badge is ready and waiting! It will pop up on the 1st of June also! Thank you @CoconuttyBuddy for creating our June Badge for us! There will only be 1 day badge next month but if you want to do another, then feel free to do so. I will add a few ideas that do have a badge to go with them. To get credit for it, you will have to let me know which one you are wanting to do, activities you will do to earn it, make sure photos are taken and it's signed off by your leader. I hope y'all have a great summer! I will have fun stuff to do here also! Juju💚🐛

Next Saturday May 30 at 4pm est will be our monthly virtual meeting. hoping the site cooperates with us so I can post the link!

I am just chiming in to say I really enjoy this topic and appreciate it being covered. I have a few overlapping diagnosis that are relevant here and I always need reminding to attend to them fully. This type of thread helps a lot. Thank you!

Today I am grateful that my knee is feeling better so I could get some chores done!

I am so greatful for my Daddy! This afternoon was rough, but I was able to make it through bc of him. He cuddled with me and played music to help me calm down. He doesn't judge me or make me feel ashamed. He is always there for me. I'm greatful that I got time to spend with my god-sister. She so funny and fun. Her bright personality made me feel happy. I am so blessed to be connected to her. I am greatful that I am getting better with my mental health. I'm not as depressed as use to be. I can honestly say that things are getting better and I believe that my future is full of laughter and joy. Thank you all for your sharing your gratitudes it made me happy to know that good things are happening not only to me but to people within the community I care about. 💛

Thanks @BabyPoppy!!! You have definitely helped me before with affirmations. 💜

That is so awesome I love seeing everything you did!! Snickers slice is another fav Aussie slice so not worries having to swap it. you did so good with the activity book to and your snake is awesome!! the bunyip is one of my FAVOURITE Aussie legends! The koala kickers would be a formidable team and be feared across the league I’m sure!

@DaddyRaven I completed flower crown photos and did some flowers in my hair. I then did a ton of planting. Did I do enough for this badge?

My favorite season is fall! Absolutely love all the colors and of course Halloween! 🎃

Thank you !! It really helped to think of the forum and the club when I was working on my finals. It was comforting and motivating 🫶

Thank you @babypichu5 that's very kind of you! I am grateful for this space, too! I am grateful for being brave today I made several important phone calls, emails, and a trip to Walmart...

Your very welcome. 🤗 As for my favorite food, spaghetti squash and meat sauce or meat balls. I usually pair it with some veggies, today I did peas. Thank you for asking!🩷

@babypichu5for giving us this space. Im so happy we have it to support each other. Can I ask what your favorite food is? Grateful for quiet time The ocean as it seems to wash my spirit clean. Puppy loves to make the sun shine.

Hi @BabyPoppy, it sounds like you had a productive day. I'm happy to hear you're feeling better and are able to do more things bc of that. Also thank you and @innerchildtml for consistently sharing your gratitudes and wins. I hope it sheds some light in your lives as much as it has mine. I'm thankful that I got to eat my favorite meal for lunch today. I take alot of comfort in have my favorite foods on repeat so that brought me joy. 😁 I'm so greatful for my boss. He's very understanding with me and let me take on a more accessible task when I was feeling worn out today. 😁 I'm really greatful my mental health has been improving. The obsessive/ intrusive thoughts have reduced and I am better at identifying my triggers. 😊

-Today I am greatful that I could get a bunch of house work done. Laundry, dishes, cooking and more. -I'm greatful that my new med has not given me any side effects. -I'm greatful that Daddy and I are starting to find a balance between being Daddy and baby girl and our adult selves.

@innerchildtml, I happy to hear you have people around you to support you. Please keep taking care of yourself. 💛

@andy332 Please don’t talk about yourself that way. You are not pathetic, and you are not a loser. I know things feel painfully heavy right now, especially when you’ve been trying so hard and it seems like nothing is working, but giving up on yourself isn’t the answer. Finding suitable little can take time, and sometimes the loneliness makes it feel impossible, but that does not mean you are unworthy of connection or kindness. The fact that you tried already shows strength, even if you can’t see it right now. Be gentle with yourself tonight. You don’t have to have everything figured out immediately. Take things one step at a time, keep going, and don’t let this moment convince you that your whole future is hopeless. There is special little out there who appreciates you, understands you, and want you in their life. Please stay strong. Even when you feel exhausted, your story is not over yet.

The last few days have been hard. I am so grateful for my circle. They took calls or text let me cry and then helped build me back. I also am grateful for the opportunity to spend time with loved ones. Its amazing to learn from my elders.

You're very welcome and I look forward to hearing from you.

Accessories count! 100% what's a school uniform without a tie, belt and socks? it's just a shirt and skirt!

Love this! Mine may sound simple, but they are really big for me! I am grateful I talked with both my kids today! I am grateful I rode my recumbent bike today for 5 minutes! I am grateful I stayed out of bed all day! I am grateful I was able to cook and eat 2 healthy meals today. I am grateful the forum was working and I was able to send a few friends gifs to encourage them today!

💬 What Is Ghosting? Ghosting means suddenly cutting off all communication with someone—no replies, no explanation, just silence. It often happens through DMs, dating apps, or social media. ⚪ Why People Ghost (3 Common Reasons) 1. Avoiding Conflict: They fear awkwardness or hurting someone’s feelings. 2. Loss of Interest: They no longer feel connected or engaged. 3. Feeling Overwhelmed: Stress or emotional burnout makes them withdraw. 💔 How Ghosting Affects the Person Ghosted Confusion and self-doubt 😕 Feelings of rejection 💭 No closure, lingering questions ❓ Anxiety about future relationships 💬 🌱 Coping with Being Ghosted Acknowledge your feelings — it’s okay to feel hurt. Don’t overanalyze — their silence reflects *them*, not your worth. Lean on friends or support — talk it out. Refocus on self-care — do what makes you feel grounded. Set healthy online boundaries — protect your emotional space. How to End Things Respectfully (Instead of Ghosting) ✨ Be kind, clear, and honest: “I’ve enjoyed chatting, but I don’t feel this is the right connection for me.” ✨ Use “I” statements: “I need some time for myself right now.” ✨ Keep it short, gentle, and respectful. ✨ Remember: clarity is kinder than silence. 💡Final Thought Ghosting may feel like the easy option—but honest communication builds empathy, trust, and maturity online. 💛

I’ve noticed ghosting usually comes from fear or discomfort, not malice, so I try not to take it personally. Clear boundaries and simple check-ins have helped me avoid it on my end.