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Trauma hits everyone different. You are doing the right things. You will make it through this. I believe in you.

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Thanks for being patient friends! Sleep has been in short supply this week but the show must go on. Soooooo... feel free to read chapters 37-41. The book is for sure picking up momentum. Please remember to be checking in at least once a week so I dont have to guess if you are still participating. Have an amazing week! Pigtail

@RoseyLittle @MissNMTX @Zina @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny Questions and new assignments are up friends!!! Its also time for a check in again. To check in tell me wether or not you think what is happening to Devrycks prisoner is justified or not?

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Its that time!!! Chapters 47-51 are officially open! So read on! Also the reading chat for halfway has been scedualed for Sunday the 15th at 7pm PST!! It was hard as we are all over the place but that is when the most people have a chance to come. Also Wednesday chat is moved to Thursdays permanently. Have an amazing week yall.

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker It was a hard pick but we will be doing Sunday the 15th at 7pm PST!!! The link to the chat is below. It will run for 1 hour ish https://www.ddlgforum.com/chatbox/room/4-pigtails-playpen-reading-chat/

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker You know what time it is!!! Qithput further teasing feel free to read chapters 42-46! Also the pole for our midway meeting is up so please go vote! Have an amazing rest of the week friends.

Trying to break patterns is not easy! I think you're showing great bravery. Sending you warms thoughts 🌟

oh sweetie I'm so sorry you're feeling the stress!! Like you said just remember deep breath! And remember I think you are way stronger than you think you are!! You're incredibly brave to come here and reach out! But even better, your self-aware of what you're doing! Which means you are in control!! And I will sit here with you and metaphorically hold your hand anytime you need me to! 🫂❤️❤️ Big hugs my friend big hugs!!

I know what it feels like to not have many friends in real life. That quiet loneliness can ache in places you didn’t know existed. I have people online who care, who show up, who understand me in ways that matter, but in the physical world it feels so sparse right now, and that hurts in its own quiet way. The world itself feels overwhelming. You turn on the TV or scroll your phone and there is no shelter from it. The fear follows you from room to room, like a storm that doesn’t know how to pass. It’s exhausting, and it’s heartbreaking. I wish I had a magic wand. I wish I could smooth the sharp edges and make everything feel safe again. I can’t do that. But what I can do, what we can do, is be here. We are here to listen. We are here to sit beside you, even in the silence. You don’t have to explain yourself or be strong for us. The world may feel frightening right now, but you are not facing it alone. We will walk through this together, one breath, one moment, one small act of kindness at a time. My door is always open if you need someone to talk to

Lately, I’ve been feeling really sad. The kind of sad that drains motivation until even getting out of bed feels impossible. I tried to stay positive, to be uplifting, to push through it quietly. Then I got really sick, most likely from chemo, it hit me hard, so hard I was crawling just to get into bed. Thankfully my stomach has settled, my body no longer aches or feels like it’s vibrating, and little by little, the sadness has started to loosen its grip. I’m writing this because no one really knew how sad I was. I didn’t let anyone see it, I let the depression consume me until I didn’t even know where to begin anymore. I could barely keep a smile on my face, and I had no energy left for anything. It made me start thinking about others. How many of the people who are always cheering others on have laid in bed wondering how they were going to get up because of depression? How many of the “strong” or “happy” ones are quietly carrying more than anyone realizes? That thought broke my heart. There were moments when I wrote small pieces about my sadness, but I never went deep. I never wanted others to see my true broken pieces my true sadness, how heartbroken and emotionally exhausted I was and how I couldn’t see past my own hands. Looking back, that’s when I should have reached out. I should have let others in and allowed them to help ease the weight I was carrying. I’m not sharing this for pity, and I’m not asking for concern or attention. I feel much better now than I did then. I’m sharing this as a reminder. Please check on the ones who are always smiling. Let them know you care. Let them know you’re there to listen if they need a friend. Because sometimes the people who spend their lives making others feel happy are the ones who need it the most. Until next time, remember this: you matter, You are loved. And you are worthy of being loved. -Miss Anna-

@MissAnna Thank you for trusting us with something this tender. What you shared takes so much courage, especially after carrying it quietly for so long. I’m really sorry you went through that depth of sadness and the physical toll on top of it, no one deserves to feel that alone. Your words are such an important reminder that strength doesn’t always look like smiling or pushing through, and that even the most giving hearts can be hurting deeply. I hope you know how much your honesty matters and how many people it will help feel less unseen. I’m really glad to hear you’re feeling lighter now, even if it’s just little by little. You matter so much, and you deserve the same care and compassion you so freely give to others. Thank you for this reminder to check in, to listen, and to love more intentionally. Please continue to be strong and know that you too are special, matter and loved 💛

I was just wishing for a whole playroom the other day where I could decorate it and have all my little stuff in. Then lock it up and just tell people it’s a storage room or something hehe. I don’t have an actual room for that yet, though. Might get a little she shed in the future, but make it a little shed instead. im still very shy when it comes to being a little. I want toys to play with, but still feel weird asking for them or spending money on them. I have lots of stuffies that are all over the house, and I have coloring books and crafts, but I really want my little ponies and a baby doll. I really want a baby doll to take care of. I think, like you, I am thinking maybe keeping them in a closed tote in my closet for now so people don’t see when they come over. I don’t have any small children in my home to play it off as.

I’m so sorry this is overwhelming and hard right now. It’s beautiful that you recognize the trigger, the trauma response and old coping patterns even as they happen. That is the biggest part of the battle in slowly changing them. I can hear the way you are holding yourself with compassion in it too and I am all out Pom-pom cheerleading you doing that. I know sometimes a return of old coping mechanisms can feel like a game over button that starts us over. Womp womp. But this isn’t retro Mario style gaming, it’s 2026 rpg style! When we return to the coping mechanism we are not back at the beginning, we bring with us all our xp, and gear!! I swear this metaphor works. 🤣 Even in an old behaviour YOU are a different person than each time before, with a little more awareness, a little more practice. Like you write, you are not alone. One breath at a time, one moment at a time. You are human and beautifully imperfect. Also *climbs into the hard place with you and just sits* we don’t need to fix nothin. Happy to just sit with you in it. ♥️

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Please comment here friends to let me know you are still going forward with us!!! I know some of us have been a little busy but the once a week check in helps me keep it all organized.

Healing is not a straight line, it doesn’t come with a deadline or a finish flag. It takes time, it takes facing nightmares that don’t always make sense. It takes therapy, and often more therapy than you ever thought you’d need. And that doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means the wound was deep. One thing that helped me was journaling. When thoughts loop endlessly in my mind, writing them down gives them somewhere to go. It’s called docking. Taking the pain out of your head and placing it on paper so it doesn’t keep racing, so it doesn’t keep owning every quiet moment. You won’t forget what happened. That isn’t failure. Healing isn’t about erasing the past, it’s about time. Time to breathe without bracing. Time to look in the mirror and slowly stop seeing only the broken child who spent years just trying to survive. The way I coped was therapy. I know how hard it is to take that step. I know how vulnerable it feels. But it helped me understand something vital, what happened to me was not my fault. And what happened to you is not you fault either. Surviving does not define us as damaged. It defines us as resilient. Please remember this: You are not alone. You are not broken beyond repair. And you are worthy of being loved My door is always open if you need a friend

@Snowyy I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you’re describing makes so much sense, especially after going through something that hurt you deeply. Nothing about the way you’re reacting means you’re broken or “odd”, it means your mind and body learned how to survive when things weren’t safe. That on-edge feeling and those coping habits are signs of strength, even if they feel exhausting now. Healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened, and it doesn’t require you to relive or explain it in detail if you’re not ready. It’s okay to move forward slowly. The pain coming back doesn’t mean you’ve failed or gone backwards, it just means your system is still trying to protect you. There are ways to cope without talking much about the past. Some people find grounding things helpful when memories hit, focusing on your breathing, noticing what you can see or feel around you, or doing something physical like walking or stretching to remind your body that you’re safe now. Writing things out privately, creating routines that help you feel steady, or having one small thing that brings comfort can also help take the edge off. None of this fixes everything overnight, and that’s okay. Please be gentle with yourself. What happened was not your fault, and feeling disgust or pain about it doesn’t define who you are. You’re already doing something brave by wanting to heal. You don’t have to do this perfectly, and you don’t have to do it alone, support can look many different ways, at your pace, on your terms. I’m really glad you reached out. You deserve peace, and even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, it is possible to move forward while still honoring what you’ve been through.

@LittleAmbi Thank you for sharing this. I’m really glad you wrote, even if you’re not sure why you did. Feeling that lonely can be incredibly heavy, and it makes a lot of sense that being home so much has stirred things back up again. I want you to know your feelings are valid, and for sure you’re not weak or failing for feeling this way. It actually says a lot about you that you’re still trying: working out, doing chores, looking for ways to care for yourself even when it’s hard. That takes real strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it’s helping right now. Loneliness is a tough one, it’s not something you can “productivity” your way out of, and that’s not your fault. (And for what it’s worth, you spelled loneliness just fine. I’m really sorry you’re carrying so much, especially with everything going on in the world. When dark thoughts start to feel overwhelming, reaching out like this is a meaningful step. You’re not invisible here, and you’re not alone in this moment, even if it feels that way inside. I’m here to listen, truly. If you want to talk more about what’s been weighing on you, you don’t have to hold it all by yourself. 💛Feel free to follow and reach out to me anytime, even if you want to just say hello!

I'm right here with you if you need someone to talk to. I know how much you loved your kitty cat and I can't imagine the pain you're going through. It's heartbreaking and it absolutely just sucks. They aren't just an animal they become your kids they become your family they become your best friend. They love you unconditionally and when you lose them you feel like you lose a part of yourself. I might not be right beside you but I'm sending you the biggest most warmest hug. I'm right here if you need me

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Alright friends. For those of you that enjoy these here are questions for chapters 32-36 The mystery is really killing me at this point and stopping at the chapter marks is definitely hard. Per usual make sure to spoil your answers and post in the linked topic below. Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker So sorry friends last night was a giant mess lol. But I know we all have days like that. I havnt heard from a few of you. If you are struggling please resch out and communitlcate as I 100% understand. Without further ado feel free to read chapters 37-41

Thank you for being so kind to me and thank you for your kind offer

Thank you for your kindness

When chemo had you broken, sick and dizzy. When darker times and depression took hold. When you were brought down to your very lowest... one of your first thoughts was still for other people and if they might need help... 😭like it or not, you are a truly special person. ❤️ ... and yes you are right. Those who have felt or still feel deep pain, are often the quickest to offer support, because they are the ones who know how much a kind word or gesture can mean in a moment of darkness. If you ever want to vent to a random 3rd party about how much of a struggle life can be, and how much energy it seems to want to take from you, I am here for you and I think so are a great many people on this forum.

You are a very strong person. I have known other people who have had chemo. It's never easy. Thank you for being a person who cheers others on and thank you for the reminder to reach out to others who may secretly be having a bad time. You never know when someone needs a little extra light in their life.

@RoseyLittle @MissNMTX @Zina @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny Alright friends here are questions for chapters 26-31!!! Chapter 31 was sooooo amazing. I hope yall are enjoying this story as much as I am. Like usual remember to use spoilers and post in the area linked below. Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

Hello all! Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire again! So my sub club The NNC is bustling but the main club here has been a little dead. Soooo I am hoping to bring a little life to it. I am going to do some more posting and such but I would love any suggestions yall would like to see! Also please comment here if you are jyst in support or interested in general! Let's make this the year of reading because I know we all have reading goals we want to make!!! Pigtail

I’ve had people disappear on me too, and sometimes I wish I’d had a bit more context before getting invested. A Social Media Background Check can help spot mismatched vibes early on, like seeing someone’s interests or patterns before things get weird. It won’t stop ghosting, but it can save you from walking straight into another dead end. Sometimes a little upfront clarity makes the whole thing sting less.

Question 30: Question 31: Question 32: Question 33: Question 34:

This has really helped me today

Question 22: Question 23: Question 24: Question 25: Question 26: Question 27: Question 28: Question 29:

Hello all, I'm Lefty as most of you know. I'm an older little, almost in my 40s. Well in my late 30s as of right now. I'm into MDLB.

I am left handed with my writing and a few other things, but I use my right for a lot of other stuff…like playing guitar! I also can’t use left handed scissors, but the teachers would always give them to me because I was a lefty.

@MissNMTX @SquirtleSquad @RoseyLittle @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Hello all!!!! Congratulations on making it halfway through our book! At this point I usually scedual a group chat where we log into the book live chat here and discuss. The dates you will be voting for will be February 11-17th. Please vote for ALL dates and times that work for you. I have it set up so you can click all that work and then submit. Along those lines please comment here if you cannot/will not be attending so I scedual it for those that are coming. The discussion will be through chapter 41 and will run for an hour ish. The times are all PST, please let me know if you need help with what time it is in your time zone. Also feel free to ask questions or clarify by commentong here.

It's a site where you can ask for help from friends/ family/anyone and they can donate money to help fund something. I couldn't help with a ride but many people might help some with the cost of the trip or hiring someone to help if they couldn't directly help. https://www.gofundme.com/c/start?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=3Q_US_Brand_Plus&utm_content=general&utm_term=gofundme_e_m_&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20279257806&gbraid=0AAAAADj5gICNJUmhc2f6yDHxgmlh_yNus&gclid=Cj0KCQiA7rDMBhCjARIsAGDBuED_IIxQuvC_t-5H8lJqR__QxGsjROCrcMewn5Q7b7C0OSUxMH___QMaAgXAEALw_wcB

Here’s a fun little activity for grounding and self care! Creating your own little grounding kit. We always have fun running this in trauma group programming. The ‘why’ behind this activity is because when we are activated or triggered, it is hard for us to think and remember what things help us. So keeping a kit stocked by you in your room or a safe place means you just have to remember to open your box. And partners or loved ones can be told about it too. Plus it’s just fun and we can use glitter and sparkles! 💕 You can get creative and decorate a box, crate or chest of any kind. You could use a shoe box, or craft stores/dollar stores have all kinds of ones to choose from. You can decorate the outside and inside, with decoupage, paint, stickers, gems! Anything that speaks to you. Not feeling creative? That’s okay, there’s lots of pretty boxes out there to choose from that you can just pick up and fill. Then you put in things that are soothing to you like: - your favourite grounding tools (maybe a journal, a list of people you can reach out to, breathing visualization steps, grounding technique cards), - things for your senses (could be your favourite scent candle or essential oils, play doh or slime to squeeze or other sensory toys, a suckable candy or chocolate to put on your tongue, BUBBLES TO BLOW!) - comfort objects (could be grounding photos of loved ones or special memories/places, nostalgic items like shells from a trip, a soft stuffie, a letter you write yourself or someone else has written you) - things that focus your mind (could be a colouring or puzzle book, fidget toys, crochet or knitting, a favourite book to read) These are all just ideas, whatever works for you! This thread can be a space people can post their own kits if they already have them, or want to try making one!

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For the week Feb 11th - 17th, yes that is correct.

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @Zina @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Hello all!!! As promised here are questions for chapters 37-41!! The book is getting very TENSE 🤣😉🤭 I have a feeling we may finally see some spice soon. Be sure to post answers with spoilers in the link below. I will also be posting for our midway discussion today so take a look at that and vote! Questions: Post answers here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

Part 1 : I’m sorry Pigtail I’ve been playing catch up on a lot of things, and I only just got a chance to sit down with my thoughts on this read. I have finally had a chance to catch up my questions with my reading though! Hooray 🥳 I’ll post Part 2 later today, and I’ll mark on my calendar to ensure I check in weekly from now on.

hi everyone, i just wanted to say thank you for taking time out of your days to offer me such comforting and thoughtful words. it means so much to me. i’ve had some time to arrange my emotions since this post and i do realise the sentiment offered to me the most out of everything else does come from a place of sincerity and care. it was just too raw at the time and the bitter reality of being physically separated from my cat by the veil between life and death was just such a shock to my system. it doesn’t mean that that has to be the only reality though. of course i’d love for my cat to be running around in heaven right now - in full health, without illness! and i’m pretty sure my bond with my beloved cat (who is called puppy, lol) transcends the universe itself. i’m intent on being reunited with him one way or another. i’m just honestly a complete nutjob when death happens because i have so many intrusive thoughts that take over, i won’t get into all that because it’s seriously unhinged - but i’m a little better for now. one day at a time and all that! i guess the reason it hurts so much is because he truly was so special. he was so caring. this is a cat that would find all sorts of strays and bring them to our garden because he knew i’d feed them. so many strays either ended up living in our garden or frequenting it because they had safety and food. and if he found injured strays on his adventures outside, he would come to pester me nonstop until i’d follow him back out. he never ever meowed. he just grumbled lmao. so i knew whenever he whined and pawed at my legs, something was up. he’d take me to them and walk around in circles while i’d either help or arrange for help if it was an emergency — the first cat we rescued together was a pregnant stray with a cancerous tumour on her ear. i see that day so vividly in my mind. one time he dragged a small cat to my doorstep that had its hind legs ran over and hopped into the car with me when we took her for emergency treatment at the vets. when he bonded with a much older stray that never felt safe around people enough to come inside my house, he ended up moving out into the garden for the whole winter just so that the elder cat wouldn’t be alone. eventually that cat spent time in my house but stayed near the back door for a quick exit. i had to put two beds there but they ended up sharing one, hahaha. my puppy was just so so sweet and so loving. i felt so lucky that he chose me back. he was never a lap cat though! i think in all our years together, he slept in my lap a total of seven times. but i knew he loved me. our love language was nose boops, his feeding time (he loved to have me watch him eat lol) and him sleeping between my legs for hours and hours. so many days we lazed away together, my hand idly scraping through his fur for hours, or his small head resting in my palm until my arm went dead. he would stare at me until he fell asleep. sometimes he’d wake up just to stare at me all over again lmao. when i was much younger i wanted to make an attempt on my life after the first failed. he came into my room at the very last moment and immediately knocked his head into my body over and over and crawled all over my legs and gave me a thousand kisses then stayed by my side a whole week… which was huge, because his outside time was VERY important to him. it’s like he knew exactly what i was thinking/feeling and wouldn’t leave me alone as a result. what kind of love is that? is that a love that can be captured in any words at all? even if i were to write about him for the rest of my life, still it wouldn’t even slightly encapsulate just how precious he was. i have to learn to live without him and live with just the memory of him now. my heart shatters at every turn when i think about how his paws are no longer following behind me. that we once lived so inseparably is the part that crushes me the most. well, i’ve probably rambled enough for one night. i will still stand by the idea that the best place for him is with me. but i can find hope somewhere in my heart that we’ll be together again, in some way. thank you all once more — so much. goodnight. 🌸

I am feeling better thank you for your kind words and your poem is absolutely beautiful. And I agree we tend to curl into ourselves not allowing ourselves to be seen afraid others might see the cracks in our already crumbling house. ChatGPT is a beautiful tool and I'm glad it helped you, sometimes we have to take it one day at a time

I'm sorry you were feeling that way. What you were going through reminds me of one of my favorite poems that has often hit hard for me. Not Waving but Drownin By Stevie Smith Nobody heard him, the dead man, But still he lay moaning: I was much further out than you thought And not waving but drowning. Poor chap, he always loved larking And now he’s dead It must have been too cold for him his heart gave way, They said. Oh, no no no, it was too cold always (Still the dead one lay moaning) I was much too far out all my life And not waving but drowning. If any of you need someone to listen don't hesitate to message and if you find yourself feeling hopeless in the middle of the night call the crisis center. It's not just when you are afraid of hurting yourself but for when you are simply hurting and need someone. Also I downloaded chatGpT one night while deep in crisis after my first little and I broke up. I didn't want to be awake and I couldn't go to sleep and it talked me down, helped me ground and was a very hopeful spark in an incredibly dark night. I hope you are feeling better and doing well ❤️.

I know!!!!! Like the slowburn is so goood but also like I need more lol

@JunleMaster Thank you for sharing this. When someone has ghosted me, here’s what helps me find closure: I gently acknowledge the reality of what happened Being ghosted hurts, and I allow myself to admit that. I try to name the situation honestly, without blaming myself or making excuses for them. Accepting the reality — even when it’s painful — becomes a powerful first step toward healing and moving forward. I give myself the closure I deserve I remind myself that I don’t need their response to find peace. Writing out what I wish I could say helps me release the emotions I’ve been carrying — the confusion, the disappointment, the unmet hopes. This is my way of honoring my feelings and allowing myself to close the chapter with compassion. I turn the experience into self-affirmation I recognize that ghosting says far more about their ability to communicate than it does about my worth. I use the experience to reconnect with what I value in relationships — respect, clarity, and emotional presence. It strengthens my resolve to choose connections that truly meet me where I am. I remind myself that I’m allowed to move on without all the answers. Closure isn’t something someone else gives me — it’s something I build for myself, one kind and courageous step at a time. Please remember, people don’t ghost to protect you; they ghost because they can’t face their own discomfort. Ghosting is avoidance disguised as sensitivity. If they truly cared, they would have communicated—even awkwardly. So don’t overthink their silence. It doesn’t mean you weren’t enough; it means they weren’t capable.

Thank you for trusting us enough to share all of this. Truly. The amount of courage it takes to open up while you’re in the struggle, while everything feels heavy and dark, is enormous, even if it doesn’t feel that way to you right now. What you wrote is honest, brave, and incredibly human. I want you to know that you’re not alone in this pattern. So many people, far more than you’d ever guess, feel exactly what you’re describing: needing support the most right when it feels hardest to reach for it… worrying about being “too much”… fearing that showing the darker moments will push people away. That doesn’t make you broken; it makes you human and sensitive. And those qualities, even when they feel like burdens, are actually signs of how deeply you care. It also makes complete sense that past experiences have taught you to hide your pain. When you’ve been celebrated only for being the “happy, bubbly” version of yourself, it trains you to think that your darker moments are unwelcome. But the people who truly care about you, the ones who deserve a place in your support system, want all of you, not just the polished parts. You don’t have to present a guidebook or have the perfect words. Reaching out can be as simple as: “Hey, I’m having a rough day. Can you check in with me?” or “I don’t need solutions, I just don’t want to feel alone right now.” It’s okay if your voice shakes when you ask. It’s okay if you cry. It’s okay if you don’t know exactly what you need. Support doesn’t require perfection, it just requires connection. And you are not “too much.” You are someone who is trying their best while carrying something heavy. People who care about you don’t want the edited version of your life; they want the real one, even when it’s shadowed. Learning to stop pushing people away is a process, not a switch you flip. You can start very small: Send a single message to someone you trust. Practice saying one honest sentence about how you feel. Let yourself receive something without apologizing for it. Little steps count. They build the muscle. You deserve support. You deserve softness. You deserve people who stay, even in the dark. And the fact that you’re here, reaching out, tells me you’re already moving toward that. One day, you’ll look back at this version of you with so much compassion and pride for how hard you fought to show up for yourself. You’re not doing this alone, even right now. You’re doing better than you think. Keep going. 💛

this is one of my fav plushies!! her name is angel and she is all soft :3 i sometimes put nice perfum on her or glitter dust ✨she is an alíen *-*

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Solicitation of any form, including but not limited to selling pictures or videos is strictly prohibited Do not use pet names or nicknames with people without their consent. This includes but is not limited to nicknames such as “babygirl”, “princess”, “sir”, “daddy”, “sweetheart”, or “honey”. Refer to members by their Username if you don’t know them. Do not post contact details or social media details of other people on the site. Be mindful of other users and put a trigger warning ahead of any potentially triggering comments. Discussions about triggering subjects will be reviewed by the staff on a case by case basis. Jokes about suicide, assault, and self-harm will be removed and the member will be issued a warning point. No multiple accounts. If you want to make a new account, delete the current one. If you forget your password for an old account, please contact us at staff@ddlgforum.com Promotion or interest shown in minors (persons younger than 18) joining or being part of the DDLG lifestyle will result in harsh punishment that will be determined by staff on a case by case basis. This includes discussion of minors being allowed in the lifestyle, accepting or sending friend requests to members that state they are minors, replying to a personal ad in which the member states they are a minor, or stating that you are interested in minors on or off site, etc. This also includes stating you were involved in the lifestyle before the age of 18. Self promotion of your creative side and posting of your art is encouraged; however, public promotion of external sites whereby you personally gain profit is not allowed. This includes threads asking for ideas for a business in which you stand to gain monetarily. We do not allow the posting of any sites, links or otherwise that could allow for monetary gain. This includes but is not limited to, YouTube, Airbnb, craigslist, Facebook marketplace, onlyfans etc. (Monetary gains includes currency including crypto, goods for trade including pictures or videos or anything else one might acquire for services rendered or goods transferred between parties) Health issues We encourage body positivity in our community. That said we do not allow body shaming of any kind. We also do not allow discussion of pro-ana, bulimia or any other subjects that cater to rapid weight loss or unhealthy dietary habits. These topics may have an adverse effect on those that have or are currently battling such issues. Please be respectful of them and other people's beauty. CHAT You are free to express any opinions so long as they don't go against any other rules. Be considerate towards others. Chat is not a battleground for relationship disagreements or arguments. Do this in private. Try to avoid excessive PDA and role playing, it makes other members uncomfortable and can make it hard for others to join in. Be respectful and civil of all members in chat regardless of your personal feelings towards them. Keep your “hands” to yourself unless you have permission to sit on, hug, poke, or in any way touch another member. Tag links as SFW (Safe For Work) or NSFW (Not Safe For Work). If a staff member asks you to give more detail about the link, please give more detail. NSFW content includes violence, lingerie, sex toys, excessive swearing. No photos or media depicting minors in a sexual manner is permitted for any reason. Sharing content of this nature will result in an automatic ban If a member of the moderation team asks you to stop doing something, please stop. Feel free to message them privately for more information if you are confused. If a mod asks you to stop, but you continue, you will be kicked from the room. If a mod is not there and there is screen shot proof that you continue after members ask you to stop discussion of a topic that is highly offensive or triggering, you may risk receiving a warning point. Chat room kicks are based on behavior. If you are kicked twice within a short period of time, you risk your chat privileges being revoked for a period of suitable time or harsher consequences, depending on the severity of the act. No "mini-modding". This is defined as a normal member acting like a staff member while a staff member is present. Leave warnings and enforcing rules to the forum staff. It’s likely you will just escalate the situation otherwise. It is acceptable to direct new members to forum section or to our rules and guidelines if a staff member is not present. PHOTOS Do not upload photos or videos of anyone under the age of 18. Infractions of this nature will be handled on a case by case basis Do not upload or share pornographic or suggestive content. This includes sexual organs, nude buttocks, or nipples--regardless of sex or gender. PERSONALS Follow the personals format. Failure to do this will result in your personal ad being deleted and you having to start again. The format is provided to you when creating one, and is as follows: Age (Your Age Required): Little Age: Name: Role: Location: Sexual Orientation: Looking for: Relationship preference (Polyamory , Monogamous , or other): Number of partners I have: Personal responses addressed to anyone other than the original poster will be deleted. Multiple personal ads are not allowed; if changes are needed you can edit or bump your original ad. New ads will be considered duplicates and will be deleted. Personal ads should be in the personals section only. Personal ads are not permitted outside of the personals section for any reason. We do not allow the creation of personal ads for anyone other than yourself. FRIEND ZONE Follow the Friend Zone format. Failure to do this will result in your friend ad being deleted and you having to start again The format is provided to you when creating one, and is as follows: Age: Required Little Age: Name: Role: Location: Looking for: Multiple friend ads are not allowed; if changes are needed you can edit or bump your original ad. New ads will be considered duplicates and will be deleted. Friend ads should be in the Friend Zone section only. Friend ads are not permitted outside of the Friend Zone section for any reason. We do not allow the creation of friend ads for anyone other than yourself. SOCIAL MEDIA Groups must be 18+. Posting a group allowing members under 18 will result in a ban. Do not post groups or stores where monetary gain is the goal. Do not include anything that makes your group sound official. It could be confused for having an affiliation with this site. We do not allow posting an individual's social media that is not your own. Do not link to another forum. Do not post about your group in any section other than the Social Media section, this includes commenting to others about your group. Do no make multiple posts about your group or the same group. Multiple will be seen as spam and will be removed. For your safety we only allow members to post their social media on their profiles, in ads, or in the social media section. These sections are only visible by members. If we see social media contacts in status updates we will remove them. Let's all be safe out there. Staff reserve the right to: Terminate a user’s account at their discretion. If you violate a concern not explicitly outlined in the Community Rules & Guidelines, staff may terminate, suspend or post restrict your account provided a majority of the staff agree that action must be taken. Update and/or modify the rules. We cannot always foresee future problems. If a situation does arise that is not clearly written in the rules, we will alter the rules and act upon the situation. GUIDELINES The staff is here to help. Remember that you can contact us for any of the following reasons: (always screenshot suspicious behavior or rule breaking) If someone breaks the rules. If you have a question about a warning or message you’ve received. If someone shows predatory behavior. If you have evidence or hints that someone is underage. If you are not sure where to post something, or if it is allowed at all. Contact us for other questions you may have. Report minors found on the site. If you wish to have a thread or post deleted, contact a member of the Moderating Team. You are allowed to bump any of your threads once every 24 hours. No off-topic replies to threads. Try to put things in the appropriate sections. If you're not sure where to put something, ask forum staff. You can make as many topics, status updates, comments on others' pages, and threads as you please, as long as you aren’t spamming the forum. Check first to see if the topic has already been discussed (use the search feature). You can find the mods and admins on this page. https://www.ddlgforum.com/staff/