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Many of us struggle a lot in life. In fact all of us struggle with something. It's something we all have in common! We all have struggles, frustrations, pain, suffering and it is hard for everyone to face. There are so many cliché things people say to others when they want to help them feel better, but sometimes it's our own words that mean the most. Affirmations! I use affirmations daily, well most days, to help me stay focused on my growth and to stop comparing myself with others. There are several ways affirmations can be done. I'll list a few. - Goggle a list and write the ones you need. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. (The Cleveland Clinic is a great resource!) - Write your own list of 3 - 5 affirmations. Read them daily to yourself in a mirror while looking at yourself. - Write a new list daily of 3 - 5 and read them aloud to a partner, friend, or in the mirror. - (I do this one) Write a new list of 3 - 5 daily. Write each affirmation 5 - 10 times each. Send proof to a friend on days you are struggling. - (I do this one) when feeling overwhelmed, anxious, uncomfortable, write preplanned affirmation 10 - 20 times to refocus attention. (I use "I am safe" "I am accepted" "I am likable" "I belong here" "I am lovable") I write one, then take a deep breath. - I taped a postive job review to my bathroom mirror and read the comments outloud as affirmations, too. This is a practice that has helped me get out of some dark places recently. I thought maybe we could share an affirmation that helped us below. Or maybe how you use affirmations to help you grow. Here's my favorite affirmations. "My past does NOT define me, it makes me stronger." "Being little is safe." "I am likable" "I am capable of...." (changes often) "Rest is healing. I am taking care of me."

@RoseyLittle @SarBear55 @Fox H @Baby.M @DaddysCosmicBunny @SquirtleSquad @MissNMTX @innerchildtml @Emberella Alright all I know this is alot of announcements but gotta get them in while the forum is up. The time has FLOWN by but you can officially read the last few chapters of the book! Now I know some folks are behind and such so I usually give two weeks at the end for yall to finish so you have until the 27th. Be on the lookout for the last few sets of questions and also an interest pole for NNCs next read. I know its been hard with the tech difficulties but if you have fun please join us for the next one. A questionaire will be going up in the next few weeks, it is important you answer it if yall want that shiny handmade badge I award for finishing bo0ks here. Thanks again yall its been fun!

A summer baby here through and though! I swear I don’t reduce my own body heat and my extremities are always cold…so give me sunshine, a good book and a rock to lay out on like a lizard and I’m in bliss. (Oh and sunscreen so my ghost like skin doesn’t turn tomato red 🤣)

I had a few affirmations tonight I wanted to share, but I need to share a little bit first. About a year ago, I was talking with my mother and she asked about what happened when I was young. She was finally able to hear some of it. She apologized and said someone had shared with her recently about him and she was so shocked! She was so busy raising us, she never thought anything could happen to me. She wanted to fix it. I listened, too. I told her I forgave her and she asked how she could forgive herself. I told her I wanted her in my life and that I loved her. I am thankful for the sacrifices she made to raise us. It's not easy single parenting 3 kids. We've talked several times over the past year and this issue always comes up in our conversation. So tonight one of my affirmations is about this issue. As I look at them, maybe all of my affirmations are about this issue. 1. Rest is healing. 2. It is healthy to work on me before I look for a partner. 3. Forgiveness is about my heart and moving on. It is not about letting bad people back into my life. My mother asked me what I would do if he would message me. I said, "he's blocked. I block a lot of people who are unsafe in my life. I need to do that to stay safe. I am unable to say no yet, so blocking them is the best choice I can make." There's no guilt or shame in that statement, only strength. Another affirmation... I will not talk to unsafe people. Affirmations are so powerful. They help change thoughts and feelings, which mold behavior and actions. Always remember how powerful your mind is and it can take you any where you want to go! Poppy 💕

you can also find some really great affirmations on pinterest! i put lots in my journal too :3 it's a great place to look when i'm feeling sad and struggling to say the words myself.

Hi @clamchowder, I'm happy to see you here! I hope this thread is helpful to you, and brings some joy into your life. I am greatful for the energy I have had today to get so much house work done. I am greatful for the amazing BFF I have and that we have been blessed with so much time to spend together. I am greatful for my Daddy/husband, for being patient with me as I figure out who I am and for accepting all of me.

With this badge we should be better informed about our oceans, how to help keep them clean and all the nifty critters we have in them! As usual, contact a leader to sign off when finished. Take photos. Due by the end of the month, June 30th. Complete at least 3 activities for this badge. Make sure to take photos when you are finished, of each. 💚 Choose your favourite marine animal and write a paragraph about it. *Why you is your favorite *Where it can normally be located * What are their babies called? 💚 If you could live by any ocean, which one would it be and why. 💚 (Littles) Color a picture of your favourite marine creature. 💚 Make a paper Jelly fish 🎐 💚 Make a bracelet or anklet in colors that would best represent the animal you like and the ocean waters it comes from. 💚 If you live near a beach, pick up seashells and make a craft. If you don't live by a beach and still wish to make something, Walmart, Dollar Tree, and I'm sure a few others should carry them in the craft section. 💚 If you've visited the ocean/ beach before, which one was it? Did you enjoy it? Show pictures of you want to of your visit. If not, just the short paragraph and the picture that you finished. Pinterest has many lovely craft ideas. You can also choose from there, just list the one you pick. Everyone have fun!!

This was a fun learning experience. I love all animals so learning about animals through this as well as the other random facts was great. @DaddyRaven I think I have completed everything.

Thanks @BabyPoppy, for you honest and heart felt post. What we tell ourselves is so important. Often times it's out own voice that is loudes and it's so easy to let that voice be critical or negative. Being Autistic and expirencing bipolar 2, I tend to have big emotions over seemingly small things or over nothing. Affirming to myself that I am capable of going through hard emotions is helpful as well as choosing to have a positive out look on the day a head. Here they are: ✨️Today is a good day to have a good day. ✨️ 🩷I can see the good in every situation. ✨️These are not my thoughts (for when i have dark scary thoughts).✨️ 🩷I don't have to feel good to do good. ✨️I am strong, courageous, and resilient!✨️ 🩷It's hard moment not a bad day. ✨️I've done this before and I can do it again! ✨️ Thank you again Poppy for you post. I'm so glad you and your mother were able to have such an honest and vulnerable conversation. Sounds like there has been alot of growth and healing to get you there. I am so happy for you. ~💛Pichu

Today, I have a lot to be thankful for: - Being one year older - Grown kids who love to help out and take care of me as much as I try to help them - AC as its like 90 today - the ability to see doctors when I need to.

@BabyPoppyThank you for sharing such a genuine and heartfelt message. Life Struggles It’s comforting to be reminded that none of us are alone in what we carry, even when life feels heavy. Your words encourage honesty, compassion, and strength, and that can mean so much to someone who’s struggling. In addition to reaching out to someone supportive, a simple affirmation that may help someone keep going is: "I am stronger than this moment, and I will get through one baby step at a time." Thank you again for posting something so real, thoughtful, and encouraging. Keep up the good work!

That looks really good glad you had fun doing it

Today I am greatful for modern medicine. I am also grateful for my puppies. They are super sweet and keep me company.

@SquirtleSquad @SarBear55 @Fox H @DaddysCosmicBunny @Baby.M @RoseyLittle @innerchildtml Hello all! Thanks for those that continue to check in as it is important in fairness for earning the badge at the end (which I am starting to work on!!!) For this final check in please tell me your favorite season of the year. Also we have several new posts up for final assignment and questions so go check that out.

i am grateful for the friends i still have and will make in the future

I'm so thankful for so much today! Today I went grocery shopping, and ran errands, made an appointment by calling the office, and scheduled a meeting for work (via email) to discuss my job for the fall. I rested and ate lunch, worked on laundry, have supper in the crockpot, responded to a dr message, and showered! I'm so grateful I'm starting to feel better after all the med changes the past few weeks. It was good to stay outta bed all day!

Make lunch This is a meal I made... I had to clear the table first... it was 2 bags of trash and several hours of work, plus a nap, but we have a table to eat at again! I made mini steaks in the oven, mashed red potatoes, asparagus, green beans and blackberries for dessert... I can't have beef, so I skipped the meat and added cheese to my potatoes for protein!

NO BUMMER SUMMER PATCH https://advantageemblem.com/stock-products/fun-patches-pins/no-bummer-summer-patch-2/ Welcome, Glow Worms—this month, we’re all June Bugs and there are no bummers allowed at this beach party! For this month’s badge, please pick THREE of these offered tasks. I have divided them up into three categories: LOW for easy to do, simple tasks that should take about an hour or so, MEDIUM tasks that might take a few hours to complete and HIGH for extensive projects that might be a little taxing (especially if you’re feeling smol). Each category has options from totally free to spending a little money, depending on your comfort level and how much available spending we all have. So break out your floppiest hats, lather on some sunscreen, pop that umbrella and kick on back! Now—let’s get this party started! LEADERS THIS MONTH ARE: @DaddyRaven @beanbean @Very Proud and Happy Daddy @Tendillo @shadowrideris a substitute in case we need one. LOW: Make a “trash” fish—Using containers, old scraps of fabric, straws, etc. make an art project to reflect the oceans and their lovely creatures. A bottle can make an absolutely fabulous jellyfish, but be careful with your scissors! Build a UV reactive bracelet/necklace—using UV beads or reactive paints, make a wearable piece of jewelry to demonstrate the power of the sun! Attend an outdoor concert or show—sometimes places won’t allow you take pics of the actors so a ticket stub is a great way to commemorate an outdoor event! Make summer popsicles—fruit juice, edible flowers and herbs, spicy add ons like Chamoy and Tajin, a chocolate dip, nuts, all make wonderful snacks all summer long! Visit a local park and take pictures of five (5) different flowers or plants that are around! MEDIUM: Make a signature ice cream flavor—Nutella, chocolate cookie dough chunk, super strawberry cheesecake surprise—this can be done with heavy cream, a blender, and your freezer, no fancy machines required! Have an indoor/outdoor campout—everybody pull out your sleeping bags and your stuffies, we’re camping out! Whether you create a tent with some blankets and your furniture or you go all out, wilderness survivor style, spend the night “roughing it” your style! Make an origami bouquet—using fancy paper or paint, fold up some flowers that will never die! Stems can be made with straws or pipe-cleaners! Glass painting—get some cheap glass jars, vases, or other glassware and paint them up! Some even are transparent and can look like stained glass windows! Shell candles—Using shells, old candles, and small bits of wick, carefully pour wax into sea shells and add wicks. You can even add decorations on top like sand, smaller candles, or other wax add-ins! HIGH: Visit your nearest beach—this is not feasible for many people, so if this is something that interests you but it’s too far to trek, look up your closest one and what makes it unique. Does it have a high number of crabs or a specific type of fish? Does it have sea turtle hatches every spring? Take a class—now is the time to learn something new! Scuba certifications, surfing, cooking classes, dancing, there’s a million opportunities to learn and join the community while doing so! Go stargazing—this is something that you can do with an app like SkyView (free!), a telescope, or even visiting your local planetarium! Make a summer outfit—for all my sewists out there, this is for you! Get out a project and either use or make a pattern for a cute summer outfit and/or a new stuffed summertime friend! Backyard BBQ—this can be done on the grill or in the oven! Make a spread to share or just for one! Summertime is for fun times! Stay cool, stay safe, and have fun!

I am grateful for life and the opportunity to be able to live it

I am greatful for this forum I am greatful today was an alright day at work I am greatful it is the weekend I am greatful last week I got to see Daddy

I'm available for those that need to have someone to sign off on their badges. I'm not on here very often, BUT Juju, who is the one that is the reason I am a Very Proud and Happy Daddy, will let me know if I need to sign on to get notifications and do what I need to do as a group leader. I do want to make it very clear, however, that I am Happy to do so. The only reason I'm not here very often is purely that I have many other things that I am already very busy with. Those things though are completely in my control and I can, and will, take a break from those whenever there is a need for me to sign in here. In fact, the truth is that I truly wish I could be here often and the only reason I'm not is because the things that I am very busy with are also things that I really want to do and have committed to myself to act on for several years prior to joining DDlg. I hasten to add to that the only two reasons I decided to join DDlg is that I have seen what Juju's experience here has been and about the absolutely great quality of the site and the superb job that @shadowrider and his team have done in assuring that it has become and remains of the quality it is. I've been doing online chatrooms since the late 90's, a lifetime member of a BDSM group when I lived in Southern California and most recently a member of FetLife since their second or third year of existence. I was pretty happy with them for about 5-10 years but finally left them years ago as they increasingly became a site I no longer wanted anything to do with. So it has been absolutely great to see what @shadowrider and his team have done with DDlg.

i love livin in the country n bein able to hv decent views of the stars n moon on clear nights ♡ i sit outside n take long exposure pics w my phone while holdin my breath haha but is so worth it . here’s a pic i got of the strawberry moon the other month . hope everyone likes it ^^

Just wanna share some pics of my pride and joy, my horses! The white one is Archie and the brown is Hacksaw. My horses are my world and I'm so grateful for them.

Hi everyone! Just wanting to know if our leaders are still with us this month? @beanbean @DaddyRaven I know my Daddy @Very Proud and Happy Daddy will and @shadowrideris a back up. We need more so if anyone knows of one or two that might help out, please let me know! Thanks guys! Y'all are great!

For sure

Ja I’ve been approving for badges

🐛 Donut Day fun patch 🐛 Fairy House Build patch 🐛 Spa Party 🐛 Movie Fun Patch 🐛 Gardening Fun 🐛 Fishing Fun 🐛 Waterpark Fun 🐛 Zoo Scavenger Hunt 🐛 Aquarium Scavenger Hunt 🐛 Smoothie Fun Patch 🐛 Milkshake Fun 🐛 Planetarium Patch 🐛 Geo- Caching 🐛 Luau Patch 🐛 Me and My Doll Patch 🐛 Karaoke many more to come!

if not the next the one after I plan on doing a zoo craft to finish the zoo badge

Poppy, everything looks so awesome!! the fairy bread has me wanting to go make sum but the food delivery didn’t have bread so I can’t 😭 well done on the activity book! I can’t wait to see the rest of your stuff!

Hi everyone, Just letting you know the Monthly Active Badge is now up, the new Summer Seasonal Challenge is up and there will be some new day badges coming up and posted today. * Also, you find a list of badges you can earn on your own, pick and choose any of them you'd like to do and earn a badge. I'll have those posted today also, with the guidelines to go with them. * The seasonal challenges will also have alternate ideas for the things that you might not be able to do. You'll also notice there are 2 Seasonal Challenge patches up. Summer and Winter. That is because we have some lovely little's/ middles from a different hemisphere and so their season is opposite of ours. US/ Europe and any in the Northern Hemisphere will do the summer one. Those in the Southern will do the Winter. *REMEMBER: monthly badges are required. If you can't get one finished by the end of the month, then you'll have to finish it the following month along with the next months badges. It's preferable you can get it finished when due but stuff happens. ( I know, I've struggled myself a little this month). No worries. Just relax and enjoy. * Finally, with the site still being worked on and down time. Just take your time with all badges this month. Just as long as they're turned in by the 30th. Seasonal Challenge is June 1st - August 31st. Okay, well I think that's all. Any questions just message me and I'll answer as long as i can get in. Juju🐛💚

Fairy Bread

That's completely understandable, I know it's been hit or miss most days. Will you be showing it on Hyperbeam still? I'd love to join and watch!

I've been having issues getting on the forum, so i don't have a movie tonight, but I was planning on screening some of the ongoing series we are watching

It sounds like you had a great day.

I am just chiming in to say I really enjoy this topic and appreciate it being covered. I have a few overlapping diagnosis that are relevant here and I always need reminding to attend to them fully. This type of thread helps a lot. Thank you!

Thank you @BabyPoppy So kind and thoughtful as ever, and such uplifting thoughts for us all, whenever we may struggle or doubt ourselves, This is a beautiful community, full of beautiful people, reminding each other that it's okay to be ourselves, that we're fine as we are, even when it doesn't always feel like it.

I don't keep any in the house, but have a bunch in my office at work. All succulents.

What a lovely idea and a great reminder for us all that, even when we are in a moment of weakness or a darker place, we can still acknowledge those sometimes simple pleasures that help to keep us afloat and see us through to the next day of sunshine. I'm grateful for my sweet babygirl who has changed my life forever and gives me such love and devotion each and every day. She's continues to be a light in the darkness❤️ I'm grateful, too, for finding a warm and friendly place such as this, where we are made to feel so welcome and at least a little bit understood, and all of the great people on here, especially all of you littles who may not feel that you are so great at times, but are stronger and better individuals because of how you face the world and face the pain that life sometimes gives us all. 🤗 Finally, today I am grateful for the food and shelter I can enjoy, and being able to look out of my window to see the sky, trees, birds and flowers. 🌳🐦🥀

Today i am grateful for time with my kiddo to make a fun arctic diorama! 🤭 I don't sharr my glue gun... so I did more work than i should have, but it was fun... 🤷‍♀️ plus she had to teach me about the topic so I could glue it together...

You’ve got your badge, great job 👏

I understand feeling scared. Us littles are a lot. We're happy and bubbly and silly and then dissolve into tears when we drop our snacks or spill on our clothes or accidentally color the wrong color on our picture.... 😳😱🫣 But we are people, just like you. We are all looking for acceptance of who we are and that is so frightening. It means sharing a small part of ourselves with someone else, then building a relationship. So pause a minute. Take a deep breath. It doesn't have to be no little or suddenly a full dynamic. Start with making one friend. Maybe post one thing you enjoy doing in your free time on your about me page. Start there with something simple like type of music or movies you like, gaming, what you like to read, do you like nature or indoors, or foods you enjoy. It could lead to a friendship and friends is where it all starts. Take time to feel safe here in our safe community. No one will attack you here, and if they do, the admin will take care of it.

My favorite season is fall! Absolutely love all the colors and of course Halloween! 🎃

Lol nothing wrong with enjoying winter from in front of a warm window

Thank you !! It really helped to think of the forum and the club when I was working on my finals. It was comforting and motivating 🫶

Your very welcome. 🤗 As for my favorite food, spaghetti squash and meat sauce or meat balls. I usually pair it with some veggies, today I did peas. Thank you for asking!🩷

-Today I am greatful that I could get a bunch of house work done. Laundry, dishes, cooking and more. -I'm greatful that my new med has not given me any side effects. -I'm greatful that Daddy and I are starting to find a balance between being Daddy and baby girl and our adult selves.

@innerchildtml, I happy to hear you have people around you to support you. Please keep taking care of yourself. 💛

Here is hoping everything goes we first

The last few days have been hard. I am so grateful for my circle. They took calls or text let me cry and then helped build me back. I also am grateful for the opportunity to spend time with loved ones. Its amazing to learn from my elders.

I’ve noticed ghosting usually comes from fear or discomfort, not malice, so I try not to take it personally. Clear boundaries and simple check-ins have helped me avoid it on my end.