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I’m really sorry you're feeling this way, but I’m so proud of you for being there for your friend even while you're going through all of this. It's a lot to carry on your own. It sounds like you’re juggling a lot of emotions—your own struggles with your period, the unresolved feelings from the past, and trying to support someone you care about who is hurting too. It’s okay to not have all the answers or be able to fix everything, especially when you're emotionally drained yourself. You don’t have to have it all figured out. The fact that you're so aware of your friend and trying to take care of them shows how much you care. But remember, you also need to take care of yourself. You deserve comfort and peace, too, just like anyone else. The past you’re holding onto hurts—it’s understandable that they’re hard to let go of. Healing isn’t linear, and sometimes the anger lingers longer than we expect, especially when we feel betrayed. You’re not weak for not forgiving yet. It takes time, and it's okay to be angry. But don't be too hard on yourself, because you’re already doing the work to move forward. As for the thought of self-isolating, I totally get it. But just know that you don’t have to carry everything alone. If it feels like too much right now, it's okay to reach out to someone or just give yourself permission to take a break and just breathe. About the fear of people leaving you—it’s such a tough feeling. But the truth is, the right people, the ones who truly care about you, won’t leave you when you need them most. You deserve support and care, too, and I hope you can allow yourself to ask for it when you need it. You're worthy of being cared for, just as much as anyone else. Please keep in mind, we're here when you need to talk about something.💖 Best wishes!

Baby Girl Miss Amanda, First, happy belated birthday! I wish you many more years of good health. It can be tough getting older when it feels like no one remembers or cares about your special day. I don’t really celebrate my birthday either, and most people forget it, but I believe we all deserve to be wished a happy birthday by by at least those who are close to us. It’s really hurtful that your mom and brothers didn’t remember your birthday. Your feelings are completely valid, and definitely not silly or selfish. I can see how much it hurts to feel forgotten, and I totally understand that. You deserve to be celebrated. I’m glad you got to enjoy some joyful moments with the kids and your daughter, as they brought some light to your day with their excitement and thoughtful gifts. It’s disappointing when the people who should notice don’t. But it’s also clear that you’re surrounded by love in unexpected ways—like your daughter’s sweet gift and the celebration with the people who truly care about you. You’re not alone in feeling overlooked, especially when it feels like everyone expects so much from you. I hope, over time, you can find a way to focus on yourself a bit more, whether by connecting with others who lift you up or allowing yourself to be celebrated. You truly deserve that. 💜 Taking care of yourself, eating well, and sleeping enough are always important. Please try your best to keep doing these things as much as you can.

Hey Baby Girl! Happy Birthday! So sorry to hear it’s not the day you were hoping for. And your people aren’t remembering your birthday ❤️ it kinda sucks when you get older and no one is thinking of you anymore. I don’t celebrate my birthday than a dinner anymore over the last few years. I think everyone wants and should be wished happy birthday by those closest to them! Sounds like you has a lovely time with your Daughter. Focus on that because time is short and those memories you and she make is a lot more important than a few friends wishing you happy birthday 🎂 Also it sucks that your Mum and Brothers haven’t remembered. My mother sucks at that type of thing! Your feelings are true and not silly or selfish. Be yourself have a great Birthday! 🎂🎂🥳🥳🥳🥳🥹🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Just getting words out.... It's my birthday and I had fun celebrating with my preschoolers and my daughter, but a lot of the other adults in my forgot about my birthday. My co-workers (outside my classroom), my oldest daughter, my brothers, my Mom's Group tonight, even my mentor forgot my birthday! I know it's not about me (thank you decades of every therapy you can name).... but it still kinda stinks that I was forgotten by the grown-ups! I mean I am little and I feel more like a 2 year old most of the time, but that doesn't make it ok to forget me! Maybe in a way it's a compliment? The kids thought it was "Wow!" When I told them I was 4 and 5 this year. They have been trying to guess my birthday treats for 2 weeks. (hehehe I told them I was bringing broccoli, but then brought cupcakes and cookies!) and they've been counting down the days til my birthday! My daughter used her allowance from her dad (my ex-husband) on my present and got me a sweet purple bunny (named Lilac), a weighted puppy (naned Sandy) and my first ever real Care Bear (the box says Good Vibes, but I think Rainbow Cuddles is a better name!) I also ate my favorite foods so supper (shredded chicken on a bun, watermelon, blackberries, Caesar salad) with my daughter and our favorite babysitter. She's the babysitter and my friend. So I guess I'm not really sad as much hurt that people are so thoughtless. I really appreciate just a kind happy birthday, before I hold up the box of sugar I brought to remind you.... life is too short to forget people. I also realize how alone I am in the world. If I didn't have a child to raise, would people even notice if I left? My family doesn't check in regularly. Work would miss a certified teacher (gotta meet licensing requirements)....haven't heard from my mommy in 10 days.... friends are not a thing I have time for.... church would miss me coz I need to volunteer in ministries (multiple) .... maybe I need to change my priorities.... I'm outta balance perhaps...but it's my birthday and I wanna cry coz I was forgotten, but it won't help.... I have my paci and my stuffies, so the next right thing is sleep. Maybe it's too much sugar, too much worries and nit enough sleep. Daniel Tiger " Rest is best, Rest is best."

OMG thanks so much everyone😭you guys are actually so sweet, I'm literally crying what. LOVE ALL OF YOU SO MUCH! I actually didn't see the replies till now cos uhrm I wasn't following my own topic oops🙈and I think I'm loads better though I was feeling upset again cos of something not that bad but like whaaaaat. I didn't expect replies, let alone these sweet ones😭❤️omg the people on this community are actually so sweet and you are all THE SWEETEST❤️❤️❤️love, love, LOVE you people❤️ You all better be taking care of yourselves too!😤❤️And I'll be here for you guys as well if you need me💕 But really, just thank you for taking the time to read my little vent and reply and try to cheer me up😭omg I'm crying again from the sweetness. I'll say it again, you all are the best!❤️🤗hugs for everyone!

Sounds like you have a huge load on your plate and a big heart. It’s okay to be sad and be empathetic to those around you. I think if your hurting from helping others to much it’s okay to take time for yourself and feel your feelings for a while. You can’t help yourself or anyone else if your having a breakdown❤️ Take some time for you! Get a blanket and snuggle and your favourite book or a colouring or a cuppa and relax for a while be warm and comfortable. Make a choice for yourself! 🥹🥹❤️❤️ lots of love 💕

Oooo! I love singing, too! Every morning in the shower I play music! Sometimes a I get a little carried away, so I had to set a few alarms so I make it to work on time! 🤭This morning it was Poppy from Trolls... Get Back Up Again! It really sets the tone for the day!

As said above it’s good that your helping your friends but you have to take care of yourself too this is very important

Hugs! My teeth are bad as well because of the meds I take for all my medical problems. I've heard the whole you have to take care of your teeth lectures too. But your right when it feels like there are more important appointments because of different health things how do you prioritize one over the other. I'm glad you have a caring DD that is there for you.

Hugs. You sound like a really good friend being there for others just remember that you cant pour from an empty cup. Take time to care for yourself as well. We are here for you to vent to and lean on. I know its not the same as having someone physically there but I hope you know you have people here who care about you.

Singing helps me sometimes too! I will blast out P!nk, Megan Trainor, Adele, Taylor Swift, Katy Perry or Broadway musicals. When I was hospitalized I remember singing a pink song over and over again quietly and it helped clear out all the bad thoughts.

I love your yesterday, tomorrow and today saying. I'm going to write that in my therapy journal!

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Dealing with your period, a friend's potential breakup, and your own emotional baggage from a past relationship is a lot to handle, especially when you're also feeling extra sensitive and tired. It's kind and caring of you to look out for your friend during this difficult time. It's great that you're there for him and making sure he takes care of himself. Hopefully, things will work out with his girlfriend, but even if they don't, it sounds like he has a good friend in you. It's also okay to acknowledge your own feelings and struggles. It's natural to feel bitter and angry after being hurt, and it takes time to process those emotions and let go of the past. Don't beat yourself up for not being able to forgive your ex just yet. Healing takes time, and it's okay to feel those feelings. And it's completely understandable that you want to self-isolate and find a safe space to curl up and hide. It's important to listen to your body and give yourself the rest and comfort you need. Your image of escaping to a fireplace in a snowy cabin sounds incredibly soothing. I hope you can find a way to create a similar sense of peace and comfort for yourself, even if it's just for a little while. It's also natural to feel the need to be cared for, especially when you're putting so much energy into caring for others. It's okay to ask for support and to let your friends know that you need them too. As for whether they'll leave you, true friends don't abandon each other when things get tough. It sounds like you're a wonderful friend, and I'm sure the people you care about appreciate you just as much. If you ever need someone to talk to, or just need a listening ear, I'm here for you. Sending you gentle hugs and hoping you find some comfort and peace amidst the chaos.

TW: period thoughts? Feeling overwhelmed and lonely probably. Spoke about a breakup as well So tired today. My period came and it feels like the world is crashing. My friend's girlfriend appears to be ignoring him and he's kind of having a breakdown and struggling to function so I'm looking out for him while checking to see if she posts or anything because she's been inactive on her socials and stopped replying to everyone. He's trying to reach out to her but it doesn't look good...there's not much I can really do other than make sure he doesn't self isolate either or do anything stupid and eats and sleeps and stuff. I might have triggered somebody and the emotional sensitivity from my period and the exhaustion from the insomnia just made me cry loads and now I'm super tired. I realize that I'm still bitter about the way a past partner treated me and I'm trying really hard to let go of the anger, but it's like a thick blanket of toxicity that won't leave me because I don't want to forgive them, because if their feelings about me were true then they wouldn't have said what they said or did what they did...and I feel betrayed and am mad at myself for giving them so many chances. It's probably the hormones talking... Kind of want to self isolate too or curl into a ball and hide somewhere safe. I slept loads but am still tired. Hmmm if I could escape somewhere it would be near a fireplace where it's snowy. I'd curl in front of the fire and watch the flames until all my thoughts leave me and I can just appreciate a moment of solitude. If I cry then adleast the fire will dry them and comfort me. It's starting to feel like I need to take care of all the people I care about and I suppose it's hurting because I want to be cared for too. People usually leave me once I'm done helping them feel happy and better. Do you think they'll leave me too?

Haha the squeezy hugs are the best kind! My symptom of sadness is definitely sleeping alot or even just laying in my bed if I can sleep.

I definitely relate to nighttime being harder when you're sad❤️and music and singing helps me a lot too! What is your favourite genre of music?❤️

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. It's so frustrating when it feels like life just keeps throwing obstacles your way, especially when you're already dealing with so much pain and fatigue. It sounds like you've been doing everything you can to keep things moving forward, and that's something to be proud of, even when it doesn't feel like enough. The fact that you're getting appointments so quickly is great, and I hope they bring the relief and answers you're looking for. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and tired, especially when your body and mind are not in sync with what you want to do. Your motto from Frozen 2 is so powerful, and I hope it continues to remind you to take things one step at a time, even when it feels like there’s too much to handle. I can understand why you're feeling worn out and questioning yourself, but remember, you’re doing your best with what you’ve been given, and that’s more than enough. I love that you have people to help you deal with your issues in real life. While being a preschool teacher gives you a definite advantage in dressing up, do your hair, and relating to the world in child-like ways, and your littleness being and escape, I can see your frustration for not finding people to share your littleness and being lost in little space in real life. While I love the idea of you working on accepting what can't be changed and hopefully seeking someone to share your thoughts and feelings with in real life. I'm sure continuing to share here on this forum will help you feel better. As for your birthday, I hope you can find a way to give yourself some love, kindness and joy, even if it’s in the smallest of moments. You deserve to feel celebrated, no matter what your body may be going through. Best of luck!

I try to hide from sadness with staying busy. I fill my time with activities outside the house so I don't have to think, then at home I'm exhausted and I zone out watching TV, coloring or trying to sleep. This creates secondary problems like a super messy house, and self-care routines, which leads to more withdrawing at home and the exhaustion gets worse, so I stop some activities. Then the shame and guilt build, which is when anger pops it's head in. At that point I realize something is "off" and usually start therapy again. It's an ongoing process. I'm working through grieving my life now... way too much trauma at a super young age continuing far too long without treatment... only thing to do is accept it, cope with the triggers, and enjoy today. Yesterday is history - I can't change it. Tomorrow is the future - I'm not there yet. Today is the present, a gift - I can be here and enjoy now. Lots of Mindfulness helps me, too! I'm working on noticing my feelings before it impacts my daily behavior.

Night times are the hardest for me. I can cope more in the day because there are people to distract me, but when I am alone with my thoughts, it's harder. I definitely isolate myself like other have said. I get really quiet and stop talking to people. My appetite tends to disappear. I usually allow myself to cry it out when I am feeling overly sad, but that is a dangerous things to balance because if I get too distraught it becomes a lot to handle on my own. I tend to blare music and sing my lungs out. That tends to help me a bit.

I isolate and do absolutely nothing but use my phone hoping someone will miraculously start caring and help me find my path.. I never developed healthy habits or coping mechanisms. Honestly I am lost. I know no one is coming and that no one will like me. But honestly how can I do any different when it's all that I've ever known?

I get very withdrawn. First signs is letting go of selfcare tasks; brushing my hair/teeth, showers, changing clothes. Then I stop talking, doing things I usually enjoy, sleeping more, disassociate a lot, and if it gets really bad I won't eat and have in the past self-harmed. I've been on meds for almost 5 years. I still have really bad spiraling sometimes but I am able to reach out to my therapist now and it helps.

Sending virtual hugs. I completely understand the feelings of just wanting to be Little when it feels like you are physically falling apart. I fell in 2018. That minor fall changed my life completely. It triggered a rare brain disorder that I was actually born with as well as broke my leg and foot so completely that its still not healed. I went from being an active person to being unable to even walk orstand for more than a few minutes. I hate that my body feels old when my mind is so young. You will get past this and you have a community here for you.

It does sound like you been going through so much hopefully it all works out for you I don’t think your old at all

It sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. A broken foot that won't heal, car troubles, and the constant pain and fatigue would be enough to make anyone feel discouraged. It's also tough when you don't have anyone in your "real life" to talk to about your littlespace. It's admirable that you're finding ways to cope, even when things are tough. Embracing your little side and finding peace in littlespace is a beautiful way to nurture yourself. And your motto from Frozen 2, "Do the next right thing," is a wonderful guiding principle. It's okay to feel trapped and frustrated, especially with your birthday coming up. It's natural to want to escape into littlespace and find a sense of peace and joy. And it's also okay to acknowledge that acceptance is a journey, and it takes time. Your Serenity Prayer adaptation is beautiful: Accept the things I cannot change Courage to change the things I can Wisdom to know the difference. It's a powerful reminder that we can't control everything, but we can control how we respond to challenges. Even though you have people in your real life for practical help, remember that you're not alone in this. This community is here to offer support and understanding, even if we can't physically be there to fix your car or heal your foot. We can offer a listening ear, encouragement, and a safe space to express your feelings. If you ever want to talk more about your experiences, or just need a place to vent or share your joys and struggles, please don't hesitate to reach out. Sending you gentle hugs and hoping for brighter days ahead. ✨